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Ishilove:
Thanks dear. My brothers are around his size (mum says I was playing truancy the day God was sharing height)

You welcome friend

Ishilove:
Thank you for your kind advice. Let me give you a brief background-

He is very tall and well built, almost 6'4, while I am plus sized and a 5'5. As a result of our height difference he is always chooking my head under his armpits. His armpit smells 'man man' and I have warned him severally not to be playing this kind of radarada play with me but everything is always a joke with him. I told him not to look at my small height o, I am strong o. You, he did not hear.

One day he didn't have his bath and he stuck my head under his stinky pits again. That did it. Something snapped in me.

I got a stool, climbed on it (my hand cannot reach his face) and smacked him across that loveable, very handsome and troublemaking face. You should have seen the shock on his face . Lol.

He sha slapped his own back. We fought long and hard that day but I won because all the fufu and banga I eat is not for fun.

Since then I use my fists to express my displeasure. He says is still with me because I am not moved by his looks when I am going turbo on him. Yeah, it's not healthy. The relationship is... toxic but there's a certain method to our madness. We fit each other.

Lol. Now I get.

Truth is, this is actually supposed to be a sort of play /fight...but I'm bothered that along the line, it might turn to something bloody. Let me explain.

Its a know fact that many cases if domestic abuse, (even in the particular fight that ended the life of one of the partners), didnt start all violent. Most started with a certain small push, or small slap. But at the end, it led to death. THATS ALSO WHY THE SURVIVING PARTNER IS MOSTLY IN SHOCK BECAUSE THEY SUDDENLY REALIZED, HOW DID WE GET HERE.


so, there is a strong chance (God forbid), yours could end there...especially when the man realizes that , I'm the man, I have to show extra strength....that extra strength is the issue. It might Introduce weapons, greater physical strength, etc (cause I'm having a strong feeling, your man is holding back not to hurt you)

Thank you for realizing its toxic. Therefore it needs to END. realize that even during normally play, a very healthy person can fall and just give up. How much more in small fist fights.

Now I realize that, (based on your illustration above), you are the initiator. Ishi, you really need to control you. I'm guessing you have lots of brothers or stayed around boys when growing up. Girls like that have being 'trained' to act like this. Lol.

But jokes apart, it has to stop. Try using the implantation plan in gave initially. Its something you both will do. Together. Cheers

Ekejoestar:
I met this lady since august last year, professed love to each other and started dating, though it kind of a long distance relationship cos she lives at orile while i live at agbado, but my problem is her money matter as in her needs never seems to end and i always gives to her whenever she asked...I once gave her 200k free oooo. but my concern is that she has not added any single value to my life whether in monetery or in advice or otherwise. Though she's a sales girl who earns salary on monthly basis. Am seriously worried about this trend cos i know that anything that you attach yourself to that doesn't add value to you is decreasing your value. Should i call off this relationship or tell her point blank that she does not add value to my life.

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Hello bro. Trust me as hard as it sounds, a lady who truly lives you won't act so. You might ve amazed to discover that although she displays this sort of behaviour with you, she might ve doing the very opposite with some other guy.

Let's try a simple experiment. Call her now and tell her you need xyz amount of money very urgently and immediately. Make it a l
Moderately big in figures.

This are the possible relations from her.
1. I dont have. Look else where.
2. I have but I want to use it
3. Where so I get that kind of money from na?
5. Me thats a sales girl ? Where do I get it from?

Replies like this above are red flags. But...

1. I have but I can give u half.
2. I don't have but what do WE do
3. Come and take.

The above are green flags. It shows what affects you, affect her too

I'm not saying that the above tests are complete litmus test. No. I'm just trying to prove a theory here...when a lady really loves you, you problems becomes hers and she tries to solve them with you.

Try it and let's see. If she gives a reply within the green flag, then its just a mindset or character in her that you need to talk about. Try the recommendation above.

Whatever happens, take it in good faith. Cheers buddy

Vyzz:
When she is angry she asks me to leave the house



I really don't k ow what to do

This is a serious issue.
And it needs to be address immediately. This is because if you guys plan on getting married, every little argument will end in separation (God forbid)

Solution.
Locate the moment she is at her happiest mood, and talk to her.

Start with how much you appreciate her and love her etc. BE ATTENTIVE AT HER REACTIONS AT THIS POINT. YOU WILL KNOW WHY BELOW. Then when the blushing starts , branch into how she hurts you with this action. And how she needs to stop it.

Now note that part that you are telling her how much you love her and appreciate her. IF SHE ACTS UNMOVED OR UNINTERESTED, THEN YOU HAVE A BIGGER ISSUE.

This is because , once a woman doesn't have respect for a man, its totally a waste of time still being in that relationship or appealing to her sense of emotions.
If the above is true, we both know what to do.

ITS NO USE INCREASING YOUR SPEED IN A WRONG DIRECTION.

I wish you all the best bro. Cheers

Ishilove:
I beat him up when he gets me annoyed. I am too strong for my own good so I have turned him to s punching bag. What do I do?

As hard as this sounds, its a serious issue if this is true.
You will end up up turning the mental health of the entire family, if you guys marry, especially the children.

A solution is this. Everyone has trigger points that shows their various levels of anger. For instance, someone might be 'normally angry' in an argument, but when he starts coming closer to his partner or raising his voice, or saying "what did you just say now?' , its a sign that the aggression or anger is entering 'red zone'

Discuss this with your partner. Discover yours. When you do, set it as a boundary. Once you get to this stage, try to walk away. This might be difficult at first, because you aren't used to backing down in a face off, so plead with your partner to help you by also walking away too if you havent done so by this moment.

Another point is to discuss in the Olen where the public are. There are certain people who no matter how angry the get, their self consciousness of crowds or people around them don't let them get angry beyond a certain point, of bring violent. If you Fall into this category, then try it.

Apart from the physical steps above, you need to add prayers to it.
You need to address the issue on all fronts, both physical and spiritual. Dont settle for only one side, it won't stop.

Lastly this issue can't just clear away immediately. You need to be patient but determined. People with worse behaviours overcame, ishi, I'm sure you can too.

Update me on your progress.

ForestHill:
She prefers handfan to AC. any advice on this?

First of all, find out why she does this. You might think its weird, but look deeper, you might see a logical reason to this.
Has it caused her a life threatening cold in the past? Dig deeper sir

How old is your sister

CrazyCrane:
Humans are complicated they do things dogs can't understand like leave .
I anticipate her returns whenever she leaves,I feel joyful seeing her come home,I could smell the day on her and I had this same routine daily.
Yeah! I got my collar today it looks nice on me but I hate the leash,I hate when I'm restrained.
I never knew she was preparing me for the vet tomorrow, humans are full of deception.
It was morning again and I was full of life,I'm yet to start my new job because no one has rang the doorbell.
Mom told me we should go for a walk and I was happy.
We entered a moving object again, I could remember my first journey all over again, the car honk, the smell of people, the fresh air.
I felt mom was going to hand me over to someone else just like they did previously.
We got to a place and I saw other dogs feeling reluctant to move with their owners then I looked up and it was a vet sign, Mom tricked me
I got my third vaccine,now I don't feel well,I feel nauseous.
She gave me water and we went home. I'm glad I wasn't handed over to someone else. I felt weak when I got home, I could feel mom's worries and she told me not to worry that everything will be okay and I believed her,I told her I'm fine deep inside me but she couldn't hear me.

Chai. I don laugh tire. Iol @ humans are full of deception.
I so love this line of writing. At a time I had to convince myself that it wasnt really your pet that was writing this. You really are a good writer.

Thanks for this.

DSoj:
Do u have to quote the whole long post? Bush boy. Cant u just comment and save us scrolling thru the long post again... mchewww

Lol...I'm sorry sir. Wont happen again sir.

oghale23:
Yes sir!

Also add prayer in addition to it.
God will do it. Amen

naptu2:
The hip hop scene in Nigeria began in the late 1970s and early 1980s. The song “Rapper’s Delight” was a huge hit in Nigeria and a lot of people wanted to imitate the Sugar Hill Gang. However, hip hop was not always accepted in Nigeria. Rappers had to overcome the feeling by older Nigerians that “hip hop is not music” and that “it didn’t make sense for people to be talking all through a record”.

There was also the feeling that the early rappers were trying to copy Americans and yet they were not Americans.

Ron Ekundayo was a presenter on Radio Nigeria 2 in Lagos and he launched the hip hop scene with this effort.

Ronnie – The Way I Feel (1981)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ekqyMBCPkG4



Dizzy K was better known as a pop star and he had a hit with “Baby Kilode”, but did you know that he also rapped? This was his rap song.

Dizzy K – Saturday Night Raps (1982)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JA8fNfM2Xak

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This was probably the first rap song by a Nigerian that was accepted by Nigerians. It might be because the Nigerian members of the group were based abroad and it might also be because the group comprised of both Nigerians and Americans.

The group was made up of Nigerians Mr. Kool, Ebony Laoye and Monica Omorodion, and Americans Jedi and Scratch. Scratch had previously worked with the Sugarhill Gang.

Unlike previous Nigerian rap songs, this song had heavy airplay on NTA2 Channel 5 and Radio Nigeria 2.

Sound On Sound – I’m African (1988)


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZcW9S88aplU

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Then came the 1990s and 3 songs that permanently changed the face of Nigerian hip hop.

This particular song was the first Nigerian rap song to become an international hit. It got to number 1 in Austria, number 2 in Germany, Greece and Portugal, number 3 in Switzerland, number 7 in Spain and Sweden and a massive hit right across Africa, Europe and in fact, around the world. It was on heavy rotation on MTV Europe throughout the early 1990s. It was covered by the South African group Dr Victor and the Rasta Rebels and by many other groups.

Dr Alban moved to Sweden to study dentistry. He became a DJ in order to finance his studies and he used the income from his work as a DJ to set up his dentistry practice when he graduated. However, he had become quite a popular DJ and he used that popularity to break into the music scene. Dr Alban had several worldwide hits in the 1990s and this was the first of them.

(This video was shot in Lagos and Sweden)


Dr Alban – Hello Afrika (1990).


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3I8BISQfWc


Bonus track.


This song got to number 2 on the UK charts, it was number 1 in Austria, Belgium, Germany, Italy, the Netherlands and Sweden. It got to number 3 on the Billboard Hot Dance Music chart in the US and it was a hit all over the world. The song was used in tampon adverts in the UK, stout advert in Nigeria and in several Bollywood movies.

Dr Alban – It’s My Life (1992)


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4zHm_6AQ7CY


This song was probably the first rap song by Nigerians in Nigeria that was accepted by Nigerians. It is also my favourite on this list. I think that one of the reasons that it was accepted was that it was in Pidgin English, so nobody could accuse them of trying to sound like Americans. It was also accepted because the storyline was very funny and my God it was a great song! It would be a hit if it was released today.


Emphasis – Which One You Dey (1991)


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ulv4yaA8UDg





This song was the first rap song by Nigerians in Nigeria to become a mainstream hit. The song would have been in the top 5 of the Nigerian charts if there were Nigerian charts at that time. I remember that it won an award at the Nigerian Music Awards (NMA). The song was in Pidgin English, so you can’t accuse them of trying to sound American and everybody, both young and old, loved the song because of the funny story line. In fact, it was a form of musicomedy.

Junior and Pretty made it acceptable to be a Nigerian rapper and the idea no longer seemed strange to Nigerians. Lots of rappers and rap groups sprang up after the success of Junior and Pretty.

Unfortunately I can’t find a video of the song, but you can hear the audio if you click on this link.

Junior & Pretty – Monika (1991)

https://www.360nobs.com/2010/09/41-50-360-listening-ear-independence-day-special-nigerias-top-50-songs1960-2010/junior-pretty-monika/



Bonus track

Junior & Pretty – Bolanle (1994)


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z87kHA5sD44

Chai naptu2, you really brought back old memories. Nostalgia feelings. Junior and preety was a standard music then at parties.
The gold old days...

Even the whites were protesting in large numbers, that shows how serious its become.
Its well

abiodunbright:
Fat 60k
Slim 80k

Your number pls

abiodunbright:
Fat 60k
Slim 80k

Can I have ur whatsap no.

abiodunbright:
First the guy telling you to buy from jumai or konga is even a novice because he doesn't know that most games they are selling on jumia and Konga are not new, they were repackaged here in Alaba international. I know many guys who are doing this business but a god name is better than gold and silver. If you want me to open your eyes then just ring me on 08142297046. You can as well go through my page for testimony of people I have done business with and the once I have help in terms of advise.

How much does your brand new PS 3 go for

Godstime234:
kill this lizard na

Lol

Brukx:
Nice hypothesis

But we are not even close to this technology. What's the possibility of the reassembled mater having the same consciousness as the original one. Identical twins are copies of each other but yet they have different self consciousness

1. Thanks for the complement

2. Yes, I already said we dont even have a fraction of this tech

3. Point of correction, identical twins aren't copies of each other.
A. Their finger print, iris, voice pattern, heart beat sequence are totally different. No one possess the same of the above elements.
Identical twins also have various memories too, which scientist have confirmed resides in the cell of an organism.

However in the above hypothesis postulated by me, the cells will be identical copies with the transfered one, so all memories or genetic code will remain the same before and after.

Kraik:
Yeah, you had that right, you wanna travel leagues in microseconds, I've don't this in other dimensions after mastering my powers, but now I'm thinking on how this could be achieved by conventional science.

Imagine moving between two planets in less than a minute, or shuffling between Lagos and New York in 0.4seconds, it's all possible.

Have similar thoughts? Share it, I need insights.

For now, that tech doesn't yet exist.
In the future, maybe.

To do it in the future will be to first of all
1. Map out existing structures of an object or living thing atoms. They way it is arranged in molecular level. Keep it stored.

2. Dissemble the atoms of the organism or object and send each via various paths to the desired location. Becos the atoms have been disassembled, they are lighter and can move faster or as fast as the speed of light.

3. Get the initial arrangement of the total atoms in number 1 above and rearrange the organism or object to perfectly fit as it was before. Failure to achieve this even by 0.00001 fraction will result to immediate collapse of integrity of molecular structure and immediate death/collapse/destruction of object or organism.

All this done in less than 2 secs.

Scientific apparatus for this doesn't exist.
Might or might not.
But thats a first step

Acmepreneur:
Thanks for this, that's just the truth. My best friend is my peace of mind,my plans, aspirations, things I plan doing when I retire. Even though I know life can't be predicted so many times, it pleasurizes me to know where I am going and what are my exact focus and working towards achieving them.
I don't believe in tomorrow will fix itself at all, I'm a person of ''action and response'', even though things might not work, I still like to do the right things and strive so much even if I won't achieve anything at the end. I will show my boyfriend your response, I want him to understand me and change. Truth is,he's very loving, kind,nice,hardworking and intelligent. Leaving him is not an option, I can't have feelings for anyone else, my mind is very stiff to fall/have feelings, I couldn't have feelings for anyone until I met him. I just hope he changes for the best

You are welcome friend.
For both you're sakes, I also hope he changes for the best. You sha have to be patient also, so it won't look like you wanna control or change him from his personality.

I wish you both the very best.
Cheers friend

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Pm me.

tosyne2much:
It all started when I got a new phone three days ago. I made sure I backed up my files on Google Drive before formatting and disposing my old phone

Now, I tried logging into the new device and I was told my password was incorrect. Yeah it's possible I missed some letters in my password, so I tried to recover my account using my recovery mail and recovery phone number but the response I got each I input the code sent to both my recovery mail or recovery phone number is that Google cannot verify me as the owner of the account

Guys, I have tried attempted all the recovery options yet I can't access my account. It seems my account has been locked out for some hours for suspicious activity and I have written to Google support but they seem to be replying with their normal traditional FAQ links

Please I need the gurus in the house to help me

Do you use chrome browser.

Divine89:
Thank you very much for the prayer I receive and believe in Jesus name . I am hard working , i work 2 jobs cleaning, one in the morning and the other in the afternoon. As I am typing I am at my second job I will finish at 7pm

Hi
Pm me up asap.


Trust me, its going to be fine.
Just pm me ok

Acmepreneur:
Thanks to all commentors.
Edit: i want to use this moment to Thank the ladies, this thread of mine has made me to realize the future of Africa is in the hands of ladies, men are total disgrace, while some are quite inspiring and very helpful, the percentage of men spewing rubbish is quite very high, about 90% while that of female is just 2%. Thank you God for not making me a man.

But please, i want to know the mod that took this to front page?
Una don turn Nairaland to a joke wallahi

Thanks to all commentors, you really made my day and I laughed so hard, especially those that think I have low self esteem and I'm not near intelligence.

It seems that some males on NL are already pained and frustrated about their broke assess and was already ready to any bash girl.

For those that took their time to read all the stories, I wanna say thank you, it means we are bored together as if not lockdown, you no fit see me for NL they ask yeye questions and be reading comedians comments.

For the unbelievers, the story is true,though with some little tweaks, because I don't know if my boyfriend siblings&friends are on NL, so I gave it some tweaks, though I can't vouche for other stories here on NL if they are true or false.

For those that sent me mails, sorry, I don't reply Nairaland emails.
For those that wants to date,lol, I can't date people with account on NL, thats one reason I love my BF, he doesn't fancy NL at all, he thinks its for jobless people or people with so much money that they now have time at their disposal to waste or people severely bored. Yes, I know some people are making money with the help of NL, especially in the business section, bitcoin, cryptocurrency,PayPal, forex trade threads.
And the GRE,IELTS section is also very good, but I still can't date a NL active member especially those active on Romance section.

Final Conclusion, I can never leave my boyfriend, I don't even know why I asked such question

I so wish I could send you a voice note, becos wat I wanna say is much and heavy packed. I'll make do with this though.

Before I say wat I wanna say, I have to ask you to remove sentiments and be very neutral. Then youll see the truth in what I'm about to say. Also screen shot my reply, in less than a year, you'll see prophecies I'm saying here coning to pass at least 50%.


1. Trust me, I know 100% you love your bf. And I know he is a good person. Trust me, I feel it deep inside. But trust me again, this relationship won't exceed 2020.

2.you belong to that tiny percent of people that love planning ahead, like projecting for the future and strategically planning for what its. Unfortunately, your bf, as good as he is, is the opposite. He lives just for the present. He believes tomorrow will take care of itself. This is seriously against your mindset.

3. Becos of no 2 above, its clear you two are on different mindset. Different wave length. Can two people walk/plan together except they agree?

4. Becos of no 3 above, you two will always be on logger heads. Issues are normally in relationships, but this isnt a normal issue. This are destiny/life time matters. You both decision will even affect your kids.

5. Funny enough, you both are actual correct in your own way. But his mindset was a mindset that worked in Nigeria years ago. Not now.



Based on your topic for this thread, I smiled after reading . because I discovered you're an introvert, a special one that forecasts ahead to get results. You are the type of woman every man needs.

Youre the true definition of a help mate. Logical, analytic and careful observation are your strong points. I rarely praise ladies on this platform, but one with a mindset like yours, needs to be celebrated.

That means you already know the answer to your thread.

You already know what to do.

But, I'll just leave you with a clue.

Ask yourself this question.
When I look back at his general view in this aspect, do I feel at peace and assured it will be all right? Your answer will determine what you should do.

Don't forget, the best friend of an introvert is their peace of mind, every time.
I wish you the best in life friend.

When I read that part that you said you even scolded your mother for talking to her like that...I just changed my mind about advising you and decided to add your name to my prayer list.

Its well with you bro. While you still have legs, run.