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acidrop:
she dosent run, n she dosent fight either, cos if the guy belongs to her there will be no need to fight. he will get his acts together. u know uu really need 2 experience this thing b4 u know exactly wat am talking about.
sounds like osmething u myt do?

Come on @aciddrop u understand wat am talking about. The need not to fight for ones husband or ones wife is a matter of fantasy. The reality is that relationships are not beds of roses. Hence both the men and the women need to commit, take a lot of shit from each other and still continue to love one another.

A woman that keeps running from relationships because she feels a man that does something wrong is not worth being fought over, is simply jeaopardising her own future. Simply because it takes two to tango. Hence it takes her and her loving actions to bring the man to his senses in a non-violent and non-insulting manner.

@aciddrop, as a guy who has been in relationships before I am going to advise you not to please make the mistake of thinking moving on when there is a problem is a solution to the question of whether or not he truly loves you. Love is not always black and white, hence the reason to stay fight and use other means to get to the bottom of the matter before deciding to call it quits with any relationship.

acidrop:
na u dont get it, u treating the issue of how she would have responded to the issue of her bf ryt? well am saying all these are still a way of fighting, wether u talk? sit him down oo, or dance, or even physically fight they all fighting one way or the other to keep the guy, now if the guy is ur, this aint necessary, if he makes a mistake he apologises n its over no fighting in any form, but that ofcourse is if [b]he belongs to you[/b]

1. Yes i do get it

if he makes a mistake he apologises n its over no fighting in any form, but that ofcourse is if [b]he belongs to you[/b]

2. It is possible he has not done anything or said anything to the girl that is trying to seduce him, hence how is he expected to apologise for something he still does not know is wrong. One way to make him realise that he is in the wrong is by seeking to do the things i have listed.
A woman cannot choose to always walk away or run away from a  relationship everytime the guy does something or says something she is not comfortable with. Hence the need for the woman to stand and fight for his man in a non-violent and non-insulting manner.

now if the guy is ur, this aint necessary

3. Yes it is necessary for the reasons i have listed earlier.

acidrop:
realy? and y is it that men are the only ones that are acting immature? i mean common i tot we were meant to be the fragile ones! now lemme ask u, do u fight for your Air that u breath, ur clothes, possesions, now cos they belong to you, the law of power dnt exist with the law of natural belongings.
if a guy truly love a gurl, no matter wat other girls would do they will stick together likewise the gurl. so NO U DO NOT FIGHT FOR WAT BELONGS TO YOU

@aciddrop

come on don't be like that;

Let me paraphrase and restate my statement.

1. Before the guy decided to call it quits with the girl, she should have done all that i have said and not after.

2. She made the mistake of acting on impulse by physically figthing the other lady, are best course of action would have been to do what i said before the situation got to the stage in which the two ladies fought and the guy sent them both out.

3. Most men don't like drama, hence even if the guy loves the lady, her drama and the way she handled the situation does not favour her. Instead it causes him to lose a little bit of respect for her.

4. Yes the guy might be a liar and a womaniser, am not disputing that.

5. What am saying however is that the lady took the wrong step in trying to separate the guy and the other lady.

6. She should have gone about doing it in a non-confrontational manner, that would help her reveal whether or not the guy really loved her. Instead what she ended up doing is giving the guy and excuse to make-up his mind about her. Some men would do anything to avoid drama, hence some men would gladly let go of a lady that they truly love once they notice that she tends to solve problems by creating unnecessary drama, instead of solving problems in a mild logical manner.

acidrop:
if he leave u because of that u should be glad, its a sign that he is not ur own, cos normally u not supposed to fight for wat belongs to you, so it u did, then he aint urs, let him go

Technically that is not true.

How u fight is what matters not if you fight.

1. If the lady is trying to seduce the guy and the guy is too immatured and timid not to realise that he needs to kick the girl as far away as possible. Then its the responsibility of the lady to fight for his guy by going to people close to him. Some guys might be friendly to a fault. Hence in sincerity, the guy might not really have  any bad intentions as concerns the girl, infact the guy might naively think that he's in control of the situation.

2. The lady needs to fight for what belongs to her in the sense that she needs to sit the guy down, talk to him, report him to his family but never lift a finger against the girl or him and never say a word of insult against the girl or him. By doing this, the lady ends up fighting for what belongs to her without doing it violently.

3. The unfortunate thing is that some men just need a little nudgging for them to grow up. Hence the need to test him and let him realise what he's about to lose. Once u test him by doing things listed above. It would become clear whether he loves you or not. Fighting for your man is not always about violence, hence you can fight for your love without physically being violent about it.

He was looking for an excuse to dump you, and you gave him a very good one.
No such relationship is worth saving. Consider yourself fortunate to be finally free.

You were wrong to fight over him, and he was wrong to lock both of you in the house.
That action indicates that he doesn't respect either of you (or he's been watching too much TV).

Seun i never knew u were a marriage counsellor, LMAO LOL. .

It looks like some of your moderators are starting to teach you nonsense , I would not name names o, make people no talk say na me kill Abacha.

Goodbye on ur way to contribute to the ever greedy pocket of the private US tax collector popularly known as the IRS.

Show me the scientific prove for evolution that has been observed independent of the original evolutionary speculator.

I have gotten tired of going round and round in circles trying to explain that evolution cannot be true based on its faulty foundation.

Once again i ask:

[b]How did life begin at the very very beginning.

How did the universe begin.

How did the planets begin.

How come comets have not disappeared assuming they were remnants of something that happened billion of years ago.

Where did the energy and matter of the big bang come from, did it come from nothing or was it always there before big bang.

How did life develop from non-living matter.

Where are the transitional forms between non-living things and living things.

Why was Lucy, Piltdown man etc heralded as missing links and then discarded after being found out to be frauds.

Where are the missing links.

Where is the physical evidence for the speculated oort cloud.

Has evolution ever being scientifically observed and replicated in the laboratory, just like physics, mathematics, biology and chemistry have been replicated in the lab.

How come an evolutionist discovered blood in a T-Rex bone that is supposed to be million of years old, considering that blood cannot last that long.

How come human artefacts and metal works where found in coal that is supposed to be millions of years old.

How come a supposedly accurate evolutionary dating method was scandalously wrong when used to date a volcanic rock who age was actually 100% known.

How come one can actually petrify a shoe or tree without needing to wait for millions of years. Yet evolution assumes all fossils (i.e. petrified bones) became petrified over a duration of million of years.
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Who on this thread is looney enough to even attempt to argue that heterosexuality is not the natural order? and homosexuality the deviation?    

@Jesoul

Thank you jare.

It seems some people have watched too much geography class thinking it was a biology class or some people have mixed up political correctness with sound logic.

Off-course Heterosexuality is the natural order of the day and Homosexuality is the abnormality and un-natural order, in that:

1. If u are a lady, then it means u have ur peculiar area/apparatus (called the vagina) that is naturally/normally supposed to start misbehaving when you see some peculiar kind of men.

2. if u are a guy, then it means u have ur peculiar area/apparatus (called the penis) that is naturally/normally supposed to also start misbehaving when you see some peculiar kind of women.

3. Reproduction is only naturally possible if a seed (sperm) which naturally transverses the male pubic apparatus is used to fertilise the egg which is naturally hiding behind the walls of the female pubic apparatus   .

4. I would be glad to know the last time a she impregnated a she or a he impregnated a[b] he[/b] all via natural processes.

5. The natural order is for a she to seriously barter/bambozool a he in bed and get impregnated doing so or for a[b] he[/b] to mercilessly barter/bamboozol a she in bed and impregnate[b] her[/b] in the process.


Enough of all this gay genes business nonsense.


Thank you and case dismissed.

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@Jesoul don't mind those sodomites (aka homosexuals) jare, you just keep fanning yourself when you lay your eyes on potential dudes.

[quote author=St☆rStruck link=topic=279551.msg3982626#msg3982626 date=1244218712]Oh, hey No2Atheism! I don't know what everyone's talking I'm only defending myself.[/quote]No wahala then, just try and enjoy NL try to ignore any insults either online or offline.

@starstruck come on now  u are just fanning the flame of the back and forth insults. Try not to respond nor attack. Its not classy to be dissing each other under the public glare.

on a more serious note,

@starstruck abeg take it easy. Nairaland is meant for fun not for quarels. Lets all forget about the bickering. Its better to sometimes ignore insults or back and forths comments so as to avoid escalating an already charged atmosphere.

@pataki, i take UK taxpayers beg you, abeg biko wayo wayo , take am easy. no more quarells again now. Lets all make love not war

@dae, efi pele pele tun kini yii to, kobaa file lojutu.

chineke how did i miss this.

Tope why did u not call me to come see drama for NL

One thing i notice about the Caucasian culture is that they would create any medical excuse for even the most simplest behavioural pattern. Despite that such problems can be sometimes treated and analsysed by non-medical methods.

If not for the Saving Grace obtained via the Messiah most of Europe would have been levelled with Fire and Brimestone according to old testament Sodom and Gomorah style.

Born Gay my ass,

1. If i say I like money, does that mean i should go about stealing it.
2. If i say i like sex, does that mean i should go about sleeping with anything moving with skirt.

3. Yes sin has caused humans to experience genetic degeneration since the time of Adam, however that still does not determine our choice at the end of the day. The truth is that being gay has become a fashion and societal statement in western countries mostly amongst caucasians (its still a taboo amongst black americans). As such even those that choose to be gay would always look up a stupid reason for their condition.

4. If they claim to be born gay as they want us to believe, how come some of them married a woman, experience penial erection, ejaculate into the woman and enjoy sex with her. Or are they trying to tell me that since they were born gay, they still do not have control over their penial erection and ejaculation in the presence of a nake woman. Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

All this gay business is just pure bullshit and symptoms of serious spiritual problems, in our society.

I believe there is an over-indulgence within the European culture (we have to remember that most of europe as we know it is a mixture of Ancient Barbarians that fought against the Romans and the enlightened cultures of Europe during those times) Hence i am not suprised that a lot of human degeneracy and madness and racism seems to be traceable to them all.

shezy:
sometimes i dont understand guys
i have this same problem in my relationship,having male friends does not mean she doesn't love you
in my own case,he told me to stop any friendship or relationship I'm having with guys especially the once i am close to.
i stopped this friendship with guys you wouldn't believe that this guy is still feeling unsecured
this is a serious issue in summary

@poster
for her to stop her friendship with those guys once wouldn't be easy but she can stop if she really meant it, at list for her sake you stopped talking to your ex so she too should try and understand
the most important thing is for you to trust your partner and tolerance is very important in a relationship.

@shezy unfortunately the basic truth is that guys are very territorial, and also guys know what other men can be capable of. Hence why they do not want to take chances.

@shezy I would be frank with you as a man. You are lucky that you have a kind of guy that bothers to be jealous that you have male friends. The moment a guy stops being jealous of your male friends is the moment you should start being afraid of whether or not he has lost interest in you. Yes some men are not openly jealous and some men are openly jealous. It is the maturity of a man that would let him determine whether to quietly tell you he does not like you around male company or whether he would constantly be nagging you about the male companies you keep. Nevertheless the jealousy is still there hence, you should be happy you have a guy that he's possessive of you.

@poster
for her to stop her friendship with those guys once wouldn't be easy but she can stop if she really meant it, at list for her sake you stopped talking to your ex so she too should try and understand
the most important thing is for you to trust your partner and tolerance is very important in a relationship.

Exactly if the guy can do it, then common sense requires that the lady should also make the same sacrifises. Otherwise there are bound to be problems.

alfchye:
I will not follow  No2atheism,i did rather follow  whitelexi .If she loves you , you will see the jealous and she will always confront you with accusation.
   This  whitelexi  knows hw to really play a lady.This is the exact stuff I did use for my girlfriend and she has long warn all her male pals not to call her at night and also not to send her romantic text.
  So I did implore you to use that tactics and if she loves you, you will see her giving them space,according to you, you've spoken to her and she doesn't heed.
If theory no work, My friend use Pratical.Chikena

@Original-poster

At the end of the day the decision is still yours, however please note that:

- Love does not always show up in the form of jealousy, some women and men can love their partners and show their love in the form of tolerance, quietness, saying nothing, perseverance or openness. While at the same time some others might love their partner and show that love in form of emotional reaction to perceived wrong doing. Hence it is obvious that Whitelexi's advice is assuming that all women react with jealousy to perceived wrong doing, yet the reality is that some do and some do not

Hence that she reacts to your staged flirting and assumed cheating does not mean she loves you. Instead it can actually mean 2 things:

- She really does love you and got back to her senses

or

- She really does not love you at all, but she does not want to let you go for one reason or another that is not love e.g. financial reasons or pride(considering that all human beings are pridefully possessive to a certain extent, hence her reaction might just be a primeval reaction of not wanting to lose her catch).


Once again, @original-poster, the decision is still yours to make as you see fit.

prodigy123:
Hi,

Me n your sis could hook up. Holla - abegunde.tosin@gmail.com

egire:
please i no mind if u can connect me to your sister,am complete african man

u guys shuld get a life and stop lookin for a source of green card.

tudor kindly answer pilgrim.1's questions.

@toneyb

Back to sender  

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=16333.msg3980124#msg3980124 date=1244185622]lmao clap for urself. I see i'm on ur mind 24/7. I dunno if that's a good thing or a bad thing. most certainly bad for ur mental health though. lol[/quote]me having u on my mind 24/7 , pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee.


You better no let Toyosi/FL Gators/Starstruck/Stillwater hear you, they would smack you seriously even in my dream/mind for trying to steal there husband.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=16333.msg3980110#msg3980110 date=1244185153]lol kanyinsola is dat ur name for me? u sure u not schizophrenic? I am beginning to doubt your legit-ness gan sef.[/quote]Okay u got me, i am not 100% sure if that is ur name. But i noticed Ogidiboy or CH2H5OH refered to someone as Kanyinsola wen u guys were posting on a particular thread alongside FL Gators.

So i might be wrong and i might be right we can never know unless u admit or reject.

how am i not legit.

nope am not, i monitor who's on to see who is stalking who.

So Kanyinsola why call urself oyinda then.

come on u think i did not see u chking out Jesoul's account.

@oyinda.

How the heck are u able to log in through two diff accounts at the same time.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=16333.msg3980067#msg3980067 date=1244184225]bff = best friends forever. take notes I don't think she wants ur type for a husband.[/quote]

you'll be suprised wat we do wen we are alone. i don't want to de-flower your eyes and ears.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=16333.msg3980057#msg3980057 date=1244183946]I hear u o gator's bff. lol[/quote]me Gators boyfriend tofiakwa, i be gators husband, two children and counting.

You now know why she can't do without me.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=16333.msg3980039#msg3980039 date=1244183366]just trying to confirm or disconfirm what was read on another thread
why am i telling u gan sef? wat's ur own? are you her husband?  [/quote]FL Gators is a friend to me, and by the way I would advise u not to believe most things u read on NL. its better to try and confirm from the source herself.

don't let me smack u where u won't like it oh, 

oyinda wat r u doing on gators profile page.

SeanT21:
Of all the men in the universe U want to settle for a freaking Nigerian man.

U are delusional.

maybe nigerian men have what she is looking for.

Remember that at least 20% of african american actually descended from slaves taken from Nigeria.

FL Gators:
No2Atheism,

watch urself o. My husband might be viewing NL. You dnt want him to divorce me do you?



@Mr ur-head-is-not-correct.

Ur head is made of pako

Tell ur husband that am doing what he has failed to do i.e. make u beg for more.

@oyinda no mind am, she's just saying yes and no at the same time so much so i no even know which language she speaking sef.

  i would not tell the world that u used cuffs on me 

Moreover sef if u are not pupa then it means Dayo is Father Theresa.

@oyinda no mind am jare she just too embarrased to admit in public that she had to run at one time, cus she could not take it anymore.

Flgators yellow like vanilla, sweet like chocolate,