₦airaland Forum

There is a saying that when 2 Hyenas are trapped in a place for so long without a prey, they start eating each other.

My advice for Igbos is for them to just stay clear off presidency politics and leave it for the Hausa fulanis and Yorubas to battle it out with each other

madenigga:
What if secession is not possible are we going to continue spoiling our chances till the end of time?

No, Keep on sabotaging the politics between Hausa fulanis & Yorubas and watch them fight each other for power and destroy Nigeria with their own hands.

Hausa fulani and Yoruba love will keep on growing as long as they have an active opposition in Igbos, but if they have none, they eat up themselves, while you pick up from the spoils of war.

YorubaHero12:
You think the Yorubas care who the Igbos vote for?

Azikwe, Ekwueme, Christopher Ugoh, etc. have one time or another aligned with the Fulani north as VP to the detriment of the Yoruba nation. The Yorubas actually don’t depend on the Igbos and the SE do not dictate the life the Yorubas will live or not.

In 2023, A Yoruba man will contest for presidency, we don’t care if he win or loses coz right from the inception of Nigeria, the Yorubas have been in opposition politics and we’ve learnt how to survive. We only came to the mainstream in 1999.

If Igbo like they can give the slot to the fulanis or gambaris, it’s none of my concern. Since the Igbos are coward that dare not seek presidency position from PDP which they helped nurtured, the Yorubas won’t choose that path.

Are we clear?

I would have said 'Yes we are clear', if not that you made wrong assertions. e.g Hausa fulanis and the SS have nurtured PDP more than Igbos have. PDP was founded not by the Igbos.
Igbos are no cowards. History has proved it, they are only choosing what is in their interest just as Yorubas did in 2015.

So there should be no form of name calling, Yorubas do what they want and Igbos do what they want. Yorubas should stop calling Igbos names cos they decide to support the north same way Yorubas told Igbos to stop calling them names when they supported the north in the past. Everyone is clear.

TempleHouse:
I don't mind voting for Igbo President , but unfortunately the SE region have no leader !

This is just your own opinion. From what I see, majority of Nigerians including those from the SS, SW & Middlebelt are still wary of an Igbo candidate, so I think it is better we all continue under a Fulani leader, until all the other regions develop some senses to know who is really the problem of Nigeria.

YorubaHero12:
So what did the PDP replied the Yorubas with? Wike clearly told them they are inconsequential in PDP and he made sure no Yoruba man attain that position.

You all clapped for him, isn’t it gonna be good also if the Yorubas lay claim to APC and tell the Igbos to find their salvation in PDP since the SE region is also dominated by PDP

Exactly, and Igbos have said that in reaction to this anticipated move, they will vote for a Hausa fulani candidate in PDP, but many Yorubas seem not to go down well with this

SoNature:
Nwanne, I am Igbo too

madenigga has a point

Our polticians should have a strategy

I think the only strategy Igbo politicians need to have is one with the agitation of restructuring or seccession. The dirty Nigerian politics of backstabbing, betrayal and evil to get to the center will never be suitable for Igbos. These characters are natural traits of Yoruba & Hausa masses and as such Igbos can never compete in this.
Igbos from what I see mostly dominate in a merit-based competition. So the best thing Igbos can do is sabotage the Nigerian politics and leave it for Yorubas and Hausa fulanis to fight it out. Let's see who can play more dirty at the national level.

Princedapace:
Well, bro, my apology for quoting u. I am not interested. I guess u may think I'm one of those who drag parties with u. Nah, I don't have such energy. Just told u what went wrong and which caused many problems to PDP. I am not a fan of any politician. They have all failed nigerians. I am earn my money my self in $$. I don't have time to drag nigerian leaders with u. Whatever u believe is fine. I made a mistake to quote u. My apology. OBJ ruled for 8 years, did it make south west to be like ordinary cape town? Northerners have produced more leaders than southerners, has north become ordinary Durban? No, it is still the least educated area in sub saharan Africa. So, Buhari is completing five years, no difference yet. All these leaders are same. I am not interested where they come from. They have not added any value here. They don't pay me. They don't feed me. How some Nigerians drag presidency and political appointments as if these leaders will remember not to loot when they get there makes me laugh. U have turned my comment into "how you guys", pdp vs APC, etc. This shows how some nigerians can be. If pdp hates igbos, fine, no problem but how much have they done for the regions they love? Has pdp turned south west, or north they love (since u said pdp hates igbo), has pdp turned other regions into Dubai? Has pdp given other regions stable electricity? Water, housing, has it reduced unemployment, what about security?

Same with APC, the hunger hitting the country knows no region, it respects no party. Apc that love other regions, has it provided electricity to other regions, what about the killings across the entire country, kidnapping here and there? When u say a party hate a region, I will believe if only that same party has provided the basic amenities of life to other regions and refused to do so for igbos.
What u and others who think like u don't know is politicians hate Nigerians. I saw picture of pry school in south west, I almost wept. Same story across the entire country. May God help people like u.

Thank you very much. People like this Omenka and their likes I wonder if they are youths like us or they are the same failures old people taking us backwards.

Hausa fulanis control the politics of the richest country in Africa, yet they have the largest population of poor people and illiterates in Africa and arguably the world. What an irony!

I used to wonder why Igbos called Yoruba Brown roofers on nairaland until I traversed Yoruba land some weeks ago while travelling to a town in Kwara state. Gosh! I won't really castigate yorubas cos they are even more developed than my people in the middlebelt. However, compared to their rescources, strategic location and early access to education, I expected to see better towns in their homeland, but no, the towns were all filled with rusty old dilapidated houses. It was as if new houses with modern roofs were a taboo.

It's such a shame that our politicians have greatly reduced the minds of we the youths of today to their regressive style of politics and ethnic differences which has kept the nation unprogressive even before we were born.

omenka:
Kid. Sure doesnt even know the meaning of the word.

Ask PDP to reward your labour. It is not that hard. You guys deserve a compensation for your loyalty. Or not?

Where were you when Yorubas last year were demanding and threatening for the leadership of PDP like their birthright? Same people whose region was dominated by APC?

omenka:
Though the thread is dead, let me ask, what part of the South South or South East are you from?

I am from the middlebelt. Plateau state.

omenka:
What have you done in terms of binding bridges and lobbying for the APC to give you the ticket? Heckle them at home and abroad? Is that how you lobby a position from your end?

Can you show me a post of yours in support of APC even on the forum (dont go edit an old post) that shows you are worthy of such consideration? Are you saying one should reward you for viciously opposing them and punish those who have stood by them through thick and thin?

If you want the major political parties to give you the ticket, CAN YOU AT THE VERY LEAST START CREATING SUCH THREADS or POSTS STATING WHY PDP SHOULD GIVE YOU THE TICKET?

Being an APC supporter, I even seem to be doing a better job at lobbying the ticket for the SE than you guys who are known PDP supporters and from the SE.

Start lobbying the ticket from the party you've worked so hard for before extending your demands to the party youve contributed so little (in comparison) to.

Imagine this, even when Umahi asked asked that his employees never insult or attack the presidency your brothers went berserk insulting him!! Anyone who seem to try to form an alliance with APC from your end is seen as a saboteur. How then do you intend to go about this??

Una dey reason so?

APC has shown hatred, lopesidedness, favoritism and prejudice to Igbos and Christian minorities right from the inception. How do you expect people to gravitate to something that pushes them away?

delishpot:
My dear, you are very wrong. You will cry and cry and wish you had thought of making peace with him. Talking from experience. If you will listen to me, please take this advice... Be at peace with him. I am not saying forget about your emotions, I am saying thank God for life and look past the pain he caused you. While he is still alive and when you guys can talk without fighting or annoying each other , buy him something to make him happy, kneel in front of him and ask him to bless you. You will comeback to testify the goodness of God. That is the message I gat for you.

Lol, no you are misinterpreting what I said.

I and my father are not quarreling or having any kind of issue with one another. We are at great peace.
The point is that we are not just close to each other. We can stay 6 months without seeing each other or calling. I don't care and perhaps he doesn't as well, but if I am away for such a long time, I and my mother would call and video call almost on a daily basis. As I make my money, I show preference to my mother more and him less. That doesn't mean I ignore him or he doesn't pray for me. No. He and my mom are still together and while I hug my mom passionately and shower her with gifts as soon as I return home, I just say Hello dad, good day.

You cannot expect me to force a relationship with my father now all of a sudden after so many years of us not being close.

If I do not miss my father one inch after not seeing him for 6 months, tell me why I should cry or be pained when he is dead. I won't even feel it. But my mom? I pray I never witness her death until I am old and she is very old too.

omenka:
Tell that to your brothers arguing up there and not me. I no send you. I only carry about those interested in NIGERIAN politics. Take your objections to your brothers above. Maybe you might want to call them afonjas pretending to be igbos and tell them no sensible Igbo desires the presidency of Nigeria.

Housas will keep rolling he said, yet this is the same kid that wont hesitate to call someone a slave.

Goodbye.

I think Igbos want to keep on supporting Hausas to rule in order to spite Yorubas not really because they like it that way. It is their own strategy and I think it is a good idea. Igbos know that Yorubas will never support them, so why ever supporting a Yoruba person?

omenka:
Imagine someone now claiming PDP is a South South thing and not a SE!! Wonders shall never end.

South-South has voted PDP more than the SE has done both in the local, state and National levels and that is what the poster meant. Especially at the state level.

martowskin1:
all the smartness it doesnt take poverty away, it doesnt reduce unemployment, it doesnt reduce the cost of living, it doesnt increase the standard of education.

this are what we the citizens should be talking about, these should be our concerns and not discussing power that has done no one good except them and their families.

they are very good at distracting us from the main issue

Exactly what people like Charly68 may not be getting.

I wonder why it is only in Nigeria that the tribe who holds power more tends to be less progressive.

Hausa fulanis have controlled power the most but are still the least productive and progressive.

Yorubas have held power more than Igbos, yet Igbos on average are more middle class than Yorubas. So how exactly does this useless power benefit the holders of it?

immortalityk:
Guys let's discuss, I have some huge ideas and I want to share it with other Yoruba people
Please I'm begging ipob not to come here.
Yorubas only
I will be show casing Yoruba resources and many more to come
Every Yoruba person is invited to join

Yoruba people are a great and progressive African people, but you guys will never achieve your full potentials in a united Nigeria that allows all of us to forget about our states and fight for the central government with the dirty, backstabbing and unprogressive politics of APC/PDP.
The kind of politics that will never allow us to criticize a thief just because he is from our tribe or because through him we hope to get presidency and control the center.

Unless Yorubas have a regional government or a country of their own, you guys can never progress too far better than Hausa fulanis can.

thorpido:
Such an interesting post.I agree with everything you wrote.
A lot of African fathers have a wrong mentality.They think being emotionally involved with their children makes them less a man.
It's a good thing many of us in this generation are improving on that.

Exactly, some very terrible mentality. My father always said to my mom ''leave them let them suffer on their own and discover themselves, afterall they are men''. I could only imagine if my mother heeded to such nonsense. I would have been as good as an orphan and probably grown up to be very wayward.
If my father was an illiterate, I could have excused his mentality as I look back in retrospect, but the funny part is that even his own father (my grandfather) was a university graduate. Very exposed and well travelled, yet still same archaic mentality.

piroux:
No, I can't say that actually. It's not my place.

However, like I said earlier, the small things matter as much as the big things. The memories and bonds you make with your child is irreplaceable. Check your memory, you'll remember who taught you how to ride a bike, who was outside your school waiting for you at your first closing, who was at the gate with goody bags on visiting day, whose face you saw when you turned your head in your sick bed, who prayed with you for your first major exam and has your picture tucked in their bibles/religious books, who you know has got your back anytime and any day.

Those are my memories and except in rare occasions, it'sfilled with my mum. Those are the memories my children will have. I want them to see their mother and father in all those pictures.

You can choose to be whatever parent you want to be. I know what kind of mother I want to be and what kind of Father I want to offer a children. To each, his own.

My sister I wish I could relike this comment of yours.

African traditions and beliefs are actually the problems of African men. If you go to the western world and ask this same question, I bet you will get a 50/50 response or at least a small margin about people loving their moms or dads more. There are so many successful single dads in the western world but such is rare over here.

African beliefs make men feel that care & affection to children is a woman's job and any man who behaves that way is a woman wrapper or is being controlled by his wife . Little by little, these archaic beliefs are fading away, but it will still take time.

thorpido:
Your bolded is not necessarily true except you are using your experience as a yardstick.
I changed my children's diapers,bottle-fed them,woke up in the night to feed them,bathe them,sit with them to do homework and carry them to bed when it's time to sleep.They even choose to sleep beside me.I'm the one they want to ask their questions.
Now tell me why mothers are 'automatically' number one in a child's life.


Piroux,sorry about your dad's experience.Yes,most fathers especially the 70s and 80s fathers were like your dad.Many fathers in this generation are quite different

I'm afraid you have to include the 90s too cos I and my siblings were born in the 90s and I had the same life experience with Piroux as you can see from my comment below.

Nowenuse:
Most African fathers are polygamous in nature and highly irresponsible. They hardly have time to form bonds and effectively communicate with their children unlike mothers.

I love my mother 10x than I love my father. Infact I can't tell if I love my father.

My father hardly had time for us when we were little. We never bonded, unlike my mom who we always laughed, played and joked together.
When I was in the university, my mother called me almost every day to check after my wellbeing but my father only called like once in a semester. Whenever I needed anything or I am sick or in trouble, the first person I go to or call is my mom cos she would always be there to answer me, guide me and help me with whatever little money she has as long as the matter is serious. She can go as far as borrowing. My dad will always promise you and fail, he doesn't mind if it will cost you your life. His number is always switched off and he puts it on whenever he likes, so you can never reach him even though you are dying. It's not as if he doesn't give me or my siblings anything or he maltreats us. No. He just does things at his own convenience and as such is very unreliable.

Someone may say my mother was spoiling me but funny enough, my mother even beats the hell out of us while we were children while my father pets us. My father only hit me and my siblings twice to thrice each in our entire lifetime while my mom, if you can escape her beating for a whole week/month, then you are an angel .
My mother beats/shouts at you and insults you more WHILE at the same time shows you more care/concern and affection. My father hardly shouts/beats you but shows you less care/concern and affection.
So it isn't just about spoiling a child. It is more of the time you spend with a child and how concerned/reliable you are to that child's welfare. This is what African mothers do better than African fathers on average.

I am from a middleclass background in an urban area in the 90s, heck even my father was from a middleclass background. His own father treated him the same way while his mother gave him great care, concern and support and I wonder why he had to toe his father's side.

I will be a father shortly and I'm sure I will never toe my father or grandfather's path when it comes to bonding with my children.
Make no mistake, both men (my father & grandfather) were good men and never had children outside wedlock. They loved their families and worked hard for them to meet up financially, but the love, care, concern and affection was never there! This is where the problem lies.

Men should stop giving the silly excuses of working hard to provide for the family hence not having time for their children. Both my mother and grandmother were working too, one was a registered Nurse while the other was a business woman yet they still had time to cater for each and every one of their children's need.

My grandfather showed me and my siblings care and affection when we were young cos he is older and weak and now repented but to me I say it is too late! ..... He should have given that to my Dad and uncles/Aunties cos the stories my Dad tell me about him when he was a young man was even worse than the life my own Dad lived himself when we were children.

Imagine my own Dad now forming very caring grandfather to my own children tomorrow.

I once told my brother's wife that if my father dies today, I may not really cry or feel serious pain. I will only cry when I see my mother's tears cos only her tears can break me.... My inlaw rebuked me as if I said something abominable
Life is a give and take my friend. African fathers should never expect to receive what they never gave.

genq:
As a child it is none of your business whether your dad is polygamous or not - this solely between him and your mother. Afterall, you were not there from the beginning. You have no clue what they promised/negotiated with each other. Any child who judges a parent based what the other parent told them is a fool! Yes, your mother may be sweet, but she certainly isn't an angel - both parties are prone to make mistakes over the course of a marriage.

A father deserves maximum respect for the mere fact that he provides the needs of his household. In most Nigerian homes, the man is mainly responsible for putting a roof over the heads of his wife and children, he pays the bills, school fees, feeding, outings and other upkeep with little to no assistance from the mother. It's not easy and the old man should be appreciated for that.

I love my mother - ever so gentle and wise. But my father, gets my ultimate reverence and honour irrespective of whatever mistakes he made in his personal life.

What you said here makes a whole lot of sense but look at my own situation below and tell me what you would have done if you were in my shoes.

Nowenuse:
Most African fathers are polygamous in nature and highly irresponsible. They hardly have time to form bonds and effectively communicate with their children unlike mothers.

I love my mother 10x than I love my father. Infact I can't tell if I love my father.

My father hardly had time for us when we were little. We never bonded, unlike my mom who we always laughed, played and joked together.
When I was in the university, my mother called me almost every day to check after my wellbeing but my father only called like once in a semester. Whenever I needed anything or I am sick or in trouble, the first person I go to or call is my mom cos she would always be there to answer me, guide me and help me with whatever little money she has as long as the matter is serious. She can go as far as borrowing. My dad will always promise you and fail, he doesn't mind if it will cost you your life. His number is always switched off and he puts it on whenever he likes, so you can never reach him even though you are dying. It's not as if he doesn't give me or my siblings anything or he maltreats us. No. He just does things at his own convenience and as such is very unreliable.

Someone may say my mother was spoiling me but funny enough, my mother even beats the hell out of us while we were children while my father pets us. My father only hit me and my siblings twice to thrice each in our entire lifetime while my mom, if you can escape her beating for a whole week/month, then you are an angel .
My mother beats/shouts at you and insults you more WHILE at the same time shows you more care/concern and affection. My father hardly shouts/beats you but shows you less care/concern and affection.
So it isn't just about spoiling a child. It is more of the time you spend with a child and how concerned/reliable you are to that child's welfare. This is what African mothers do better than African fathers on average.

obembet:
But at the end, why mother always get more love, care from thier children than Father?

Most African fathers are polygamous in nature and highly irresponsible. They hardly have time to form bonds and effectively communicate with their children unlike mothers.

I love my mother 10x than I love my father. Infact I can't tell if I love my father.

My father hardly had time for us when we were little. We never bonded, unlike my mom who we always laughed, played and joked together.
When I was in the university, my mother called me almost every day to check after my wellbeing but my father only called like once in a semester. Whenever I needed anything or I am sick or in trouble, the first person I go to or call is my mom cos she would always be there to answer me, guide me and help me with whatever little money she has as long as the matter is serious. She can go as far as borrowing. My dad will always promise you and fail, he doesn't mind if it will cost you your life. His number is always switched off and he puts it on whenever he likes, so you can never reach him even though you are dying. It's not as if he doesn't give me or my siblings anything or he maltreats us. No. He just does things at his own convenience and as such is very unreliable.

Someone may say my mother was spoiling me but funny enough, my mother even beats the hell out of us while we were children while my father pets us. My father only hit me and my siblings twice to thrice each in our entire lifetime while my mom, if you can escape her beating for a whole week/month, then you are an angel .
My mother beats/shouts at you and insults you more WHILE at the same time shows you more care/concern and affection. My father hardly shouts/beats you but shows you less care/concern and affection.
So it isn't just about spoiling a child. It is more of the time you spend with a child and how concerned/reliable you are to that child's welfare. This is what African mothers do better than African fathers on average.

condemn:
You all thought Peter has 60m kept somewhere that he is not using? Even if he does, he won't give it to Tacha. Deep in his heart, he is not fully in support of Tacha. He only supported her due to tribalism and attention.

Tribalism? Are Peter and Tacha from the same tribe? Tacha is a Kalabari (Ijaw) lady while Peter is Igbo. Peter is the same tribe with Mercy and not Tacha.

I'm sure you must be a Yoruba man who thinks that anyone from Edo and and beyond is an Igbo. Ignorant people.

gentlegenius:
Actually, she got up to 90% of the qualities/attributes I want in a woman. That is even the major reason why I am interested in her despite the number of guys flocking around her. She obviously isn't interested in them, but she subconsciously enjoy being chased by men.
I've already gone already gone a little bit over the edge for this girl by openly asking her out. It is not in my nature to do this to girls. None of my ex girlfriends ever waited for me to ask them out. They simply noticed the attraction between us and play along once I started acting as their boyfriend. There were occasions where hot girls chase me instead of waiting for me to chase them. I fear that if I go any step further for this particular girl, I might be playing the chasing game she so enjoyed, and which I hate to play. I have to leave her alone, but I know too well that one day, she will regret not dating a guy like me.

Hmm, 90% is high. Asking a girl out my brother is not going over the edge if you ask me. It's a normal thing. Even in the western world with all the exposure, men still ask women out at a higher percentage than women ask men out.

Going over the edge should be more like trying to get into her personal space and understanding her better, getting to talk to her and knowing her as a friend. Try friendzoning her and if she still acts tough and dodgy to your effort, you just ignore her forever. Confused people are not worth the effort no matter how much they fit into what we want.

Another thing I think is that u may be mistaking her whole body language. She may not really be into you but you are misinterpreting her actions.

If she was into you, she would have at least shown more than she has shown. Another thing is how old is this girl? I bet she is young. I highly doubt a graduate or even final year lady will behave like this. If this girl is still a teenager or early 20s undergraduate, then she has a lot of growing up to do.

Deadlytruth my Oshuku ethnic friend .
How far now, long time oo. It's been almost a month.
Na so you just run dem nor see your shadow?
I bet you were so shocked and your blood pressure increased when I knocked you out with the cold fact that you were originally a northerner and not a southerner? I guess the amalgamation saved you.

Ochuku chuku ethnic group I missed hearing that word (bell) from you.

Bamz:
Wow take a bow girl!

But let's stay grounded here, breaking barriers and conquering the world has a limit, lol, and I've spent ample time trying to prove to one of your species that I was right for her not till the last moment when she used one 'minor' sin to discredit me.

I totally agree that a man who runs at the first sight of obstacles leaves much to be desired, but then again who gave the female gender the authority to do these things?

I'm all for spontaneity, understanding, chemistry and attraction. I don't subscribe to any sort of manipulation or anything close. I feel sorry for girls I've not gone on to like the way they wanted me to like them but I respect them, and I dare say I can still gather the courage to call them up to say hi.

@bolded. Wow, I can't believe you fell for this lady Guest007 and her pre-historic theories. Here was my reply to her comment and this is the truth.

Nowenuse:
One wonders why this silly mindset is prevalent among only Nigerian ladies. Women in the western world do not even wait to be wooed most times let alone setting obstacles for their potential 'wooers' to overcome before getting to them. They see what they like and they go for it.

Y'all are still stuck in the era of cavemen and cavewomen where cavemen have to fight each other for the right to mate (just like animals do). You need to evolve into life of the 21st century.

Don't let Nigerian women localize your mind with this pre-historic behaviour of theirs. It is not a global trait for women. Other women in the modern world have evolved. The character she is talking of had it's global dominance centuries and millenia ago not in this modern age of ours.

Do you know that in the western world when a woman tells you NO the first time and you still go ahead disturbing her, she can sue you for sexual harassment? No wonder many Nigerian men get locked up abroad for things like this because we have allowed our women to program our minds stucked to a pre-historic lifestyle whereas other people in the world have evolved. This rubbish has to stop.
Thanks to Toks2008 for a thread like this.

Most Nigerian mothers advice their daughters to this effect. They tell them to always play hard to get no matter how much they admire a man cos the man will take them for granted if he gets them easily. I am not entirely discarding this saying, but too much of it is a no no.
I wonder how far this advice has taken Nigerian women when the majority of them still end up praying and seeking the face of God as their husbands cheat on them and treat them badly.

Nigerian ladies need to get it into their heads that no mature and reasonable man will take you for granted even if you say yes on the first approach or you approached him yourself, unless of course he is an immature fùckboy who is yet to know what he wants in life. Your good character, intelligence, confidence and good hygiene/grooming skills will always make him hold you in high esteem.

Guest007:
You can't truly understand people but women are wired differently when it comes to the romance if you don't like it then take it up with God.

These kinda threads threaten our connections as humans because we are all different.

Some girls love the romance and they expect their dream man to break barriers and conquer the world and we're here talking about dating techniques. It's a damper on our dreams...

I and many others test the weather in the relationship and use that data to figure out what the future of this relationship.

If a man runs at the first sight of an obstacle to what he wants then which kinda man is that one?

These threads promote the market of chop and clean mouth crew...

One wonders why this silly mindset is prevalent among only Nigerian ladies. Women in the western world do not even wait to be wooed most times let alone setting obstacles for their potential 'wooers' to overcome before getting to them. They see what they like and they go for it.

Y'all are still stuck in the era of cavemen and cavewomen where cavemen have to fight each other for the right to mate (just like animals do). You need to evolve into life of the 21st century.

meobizy:
The funny thing is if she removes all the enhancements she punishes herself to use in confusing men her suitor base will go from fifty men to one. Males are the more attractive gender: for every one female a man has interest in there are over fifty women he looks better than even with all their accessories. Many times men look better than the female they fall into infatuation over.

Nor be small thing abeg we men are very good looking. Most Nigerian women still struggle to look good even with all the makeup, yet you see so many guys looking handsome without any beauty accessories.

So many men just lack confidence, the reason women take us for granted.

gentlegenius:
I understand...
Calling her once in a while to know how she's doing isn't the problem, but it hurts my ego when she doesn't reciprocate such gestures.
The last time I sent her a HAPPY NEW MONTH message, she didn't even reply. If I keep on with such friendly gestures without her reciprocating, I will be stupidly playing the chasing game she wanted.
I really don't know what her problem is, but her body language up till now still shows that she is interested in me.

If this lady has 80- 90% of the qualities/attributes you want in a lady, then I'll say you could go a little bit over the edge (a little bit I said) for her, like visiting her physically and trying to know more about her and why she behaves the way she does, getting her to open up.
If she is in a scale of 60% or less in your preference, then I don't think she is worth the trouble.

Women who naturally derive great pleasure from breaking men's ego in the process of wooing them are sick and need to grow up. They are not worth the time. However if a lady acts in such manner because of terrible past experiences and fear of the uncertainty, they could be considered.

As for this lady in question, she clearly falls into the former category, since u said she is always happy when the other jobless guys chase her around.

woky:
very sure bro!!
I'm not an indigenous Hausa Christian. I once based in kano, at least I've spent more than 20 years in kano.

Ok, nice. So apart from Sumaila LG, where else do Hausa christians form a majority or have a substantial population?

woky:
The indigenes of sumaila are 90% Christians, that's why the state government has been neglecting them for ages.. If not for the aid that comes from the missionaries, especially Catholic and Anglican, the condition of sumaila would've been worst .. Those people are really suffering just because they are Christians.

Hmm, are u sure of this? Are you an indigenous Hausa christian? I'd like to ask u some questions.

Eldie111:
Good news
The height of nepotism is becoming unbecoming.
Every angle of Nigeria is control by single tribe, so Biafra is the only hope.
I wish middle belt can follow suit

Very soon we would follow suit. What the middlebelt needs now is a vociferous leader to bring us together. I have a group and we will see to that in the nearest future.

meobizy:
...and their children are 29 years old?

Omotola's first daughter is around 25.

IGBOSON1:
You've said it all!

Aba is to Igbos as to what Lagos/Ogun is to the Yoruba and Kano is to the Hausa-Fulani! Abians should take at least 40% of the blame for the state of Aba today, but the federal gov't (from the late 60s to date when Nigeria became a unitary governed country in all but name) should take the lion share as it has not given Aba even 10% of the attention and benefits it has given to similar cities in Lagos, Ogun, Kano and Kaduna!

This is another reson why i feel Ndigbo had better wake up and smell the coffee!

Bro I disagree with you to an extent.

See, I am from Jos-Plateau, but I was born and bred in Warri, Delta state.
When I travelled to Jos and the core-north earlier this year, I marvelled at the nature of good roads there compared to the south. Not just the federal roads now, but the state roads and intra-city roads. Warri, the oil city with so much money from Delta state govt, Benin e.t.c cannot just compare the quality of roads built by the northern governors. It is such a shame. I think northernerns hold their governors more accountable for their roads far better than Southernerns do.

Southern governors (especially SS/SE) seem to be taking the citizens for granted and heavily taking advantage of the fact that their citizens have been witch-hunting and blaming the FG for every of their problems, thus excusing themselves from blame when they smile and loot the state allocations and IGR. This nonsense has got to stop!
How can Jos, Bauchi, Gombe cities with lower allocations and IGR have better and cleaner roads than Warri & Benin (the largest cities in the SS after PH)?

I am not saying you guys are wrong in demanding your rights from the FG, but please also hold your governors by the neck too!
Had it been all the cities in the SS/SE have excellent intra-city and state roads while the Federal roads are all bad, then it would have been understandable.