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morbeta:
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You are an I M B E C I LE Didn't read the part he said the police officer has many lands.....anuofia. the said area I have properties too. And has been sponsoring survey for communities. So calling me names will only lead to you have epilepsy of the tongue. Anu mpama.

See how this one is barking like a rabid dog. Did the pastor prove it that the Police officer has thousands of plots? Ode f00lish cow. Is that why the pastor should start scaming him? It's called breach of trust and the pastor can go to jail for that.

Why was the pastor scaming the Police officer now. Its called breach of trust under the law.

morbeta:
Did you declare the property while filling asset declaration form. The Pastor wants to expose him with style.

You are so dumb. How could he have declared an asset he just bought and still developing. What is there to expose, how much is N1.2million that an ACP cannot raise. You are just too poverty striken. The pastor is a scam and has been duping the Police officer and had to play such a dirty trick when he found out that his game is up.

There is a lot of difference between a Yoruba beauty Queen and an Igbo queen.


One is a registered nurse and a pilot while the Igbo girl is busy with cucumbers and lesbia.nism.

busomma:
There must be some poison u were taken and when u stopped, ur body started repairing itself. Kidney don't just repairing itself brother. Be very truthful. Naira landers are too experienced & educated to be fooled just like that.

It could be that the guy was always taking hard drugs and other band substances and he had to stop because doctors will advise you to stop all those crap before any surgery is performed. And the kidneys had an opportunity to repair themselves.

The guy never talk true. There is more to this story.

This Seun Egbegbe just fall him hands with 9 iPhones the same way wey Chidimma fall her hands with cucumber. I trust Nigerians. They will make his life hell for him same way they made Chidimma's life hell for her.

Silly, dumb caricature of a president don't know that you cannot achieve economic stability by raiding forex with force. Who even does that.

As for the CBN, they will always praise him, after all he's their pay master.

Smoke2015:
Questions to Ask Him:

1) Was this a one-time thing or an ongoing affair?
If he’s in a new, deep relationship, there may be no future worth pursuing for the two of you. If it was a One-time offense then you need to decide if you can forgive him.

2) Are you in love with the other person?
This is the most important question to ask and the hardest to get an honest answer to, partly because he may not be sure of the answer himself. But if his answer is “yes,” it’s time to move on.

3) Are you still seeing the other person?
If they work together it might be a little hard for him to avoid her all together. But, “If he chooses to see the other person when he’s not obliged to, you should not forgive him because he is continuing to betray you.

4) What actions will you take to assure me this won’t happen again?
Verbal apologies are nice, but is he willing to take any concrete steps toward changing? If he just brushes this suggestion off with pleas for you to just trust him -that it won’t happen again the it isn’t enough.

5) What do you feel is missing in our relationship?
Find out what he’s looking for in others and if it’s even something you want to provide. Regardless of how he answers this, I can tell you that what’s missing is you’re not making him feel man enough. Bad girls know how to make their men feel like the biggest boy on the planet. When a man feels emasculated, by your wearing the trousers in the relationship or having more status than he does, he often cheats to try to feel like a big man again.

6) What actions can I take to make our relationship stronger?
Finding out exactly what he needs from you could be the key to salvaging the relationship (if you’re so inclined). Also, asking what you can do will help him be less defensive and pave the way for a more open conversation.
He may not have the guts to tell you what he really wants. Maybe what he really wants is for you to turn him on the way you did at the beginning of the relationship, when you paid more attention to how you looked and dressed, and were more playful and excited to have sex with him…Maybe. Not getting what he “wants” is no excuse for cheating but asking this question can help you get to the source of the problem.

7) Do you still want to be in a relationship with me? Some guys cheat to get caught and get out. Find out if he’s got an exit plan or if he wants to right what’s wrong. If you ask him this, you need to be prepared for a sour answer. Letting you discover his cheating was [maybe] his way to get you to break up with, or divorce, him.

Did you use protection?
Cheating can cause more than just emotional hurt. Make sure that there’s nothing else you need to be worried about.

9) Did you/do you feel guilt/remorse?
He knows he needs to say that he feels guilty and remorseful in order to get you to forgive him but this is something you need to feel beyond his words.



Questions to Ask Yourself:

1) Does he deserve my forgiveness?
Consider whether he came to you and confessed or if you had to learn about his indiscretion from a third party. Whether or not he was originally forthcoming says a lot about any moral guilt he felt about cheating. If you caught him (or he didn’t tell you), then it indicates that he’s not as ethical/moral of a person as you may have thought, and it can be a bit uncomfortable to stay with somebody like this. Who’s to say that he won’t do it again?”

2) Have I felt checked out of the relationship too or was I blindsided by this?
If you were both looking for an out, that’s one thing. But if you’re still into him, you have a lot to think about. You can beat yourself up forever over clues you might have missed, but the only thing you can do is figure out your role in the factors that led to your partner cheating. Note: this doesn’t mean you’re to blame!

3) Am I willing to start fresh with him or will I constantly be throwing this back up to him?
If “forgiving him” actually means “make his life with me a living hell,” neither of you will be happy. Not everybody has it in them to forgive, and that’s okay. You just need to be honest with yourself on this because if you can’t move on, then you’ll be torturing yourself and him for the rest of your days together.

4) Am I staying because I am afraid I won’t find someone else?
You need to make sure that you’re not settling simply because you’re afraid of your own company and of being self-reliant! Remembe, there are other fish in the sea.

5) Would I have cheated if given the opportunity?
If the answer is “yes,” your relationship was probably lacking the level of respect any relationship needs to survive. Time to move on. When people are committed, they can show restraint and regard for their partners, even if they were stuck in traffic on Lagos island in a car alone with Beyoncé.

6) Does it seem like he wants forgiveness or is looking for a way out of the relationship?
At this point you probably know him well enough to figure out where his head (and heart) is at.

7) In our relationship, does the good still outweigh the bad?
Making a pro and con list (to stay or to go) is a good idea when your relationship suffers this type of blow. Even if the good outweighs the bad, one bad thing (like cheating) can do a lot of damage. What you need to look at is whether the good make you happy or are you still going to be hurting and stressed over this for a while.

Has he done this (or other deceitful behaviors) before?
Think about whether this is a new behavior or a pattern that you’ve been trying your best to ignore. This can indicate just how much help he needs from a therapist or Jesus, and how much effort the two of you need to invest in making things right again.

9) Do we still have the same goals?
Are you both still on the same page or was the cheating just a symptom of a larger problem in the relationship? Affairs give people the chance to reevaluate unions, and it’s important to make sure that you still want the same things. The answers can really inform the investment you’re willing to make in sticking together.

10) Why do I still want to be with him?
When you’ve suffered the hurt and humiliation of being cheated on, you’d better have some solid reasons for staying. This is loaded and very individual. Many won’t agree with your reasons, which is why you need to be brutally honest in justifying them to yourself.

In some cases, like staying for the children, you may be doing more harm than good. In other cases, you may be needy, and that makes you vulnerable in moving forward. In still other cases, you may not want the major life changes that come with a split. Understanding what you want and why can help you focus on what matters the most which is you.

Cc: Lalasticlala seun

http://mojidelano.com/2016/11/questions-to-ask-before-you-forgive-someone-for-cheating/

This silly write up is one sided and reeks plane hatred for males. Because you used the masculine pronouns all through the write up. Are you saying that women are all saints and can never cheat?

Abeg park well joor.

WomanOfRace:
hmmmmm so you used me as an example somehow? So i shouldn't commend good thing when i see one?
do you know what my own mum is going through? pls i know how it feels to know better. First hand experience

Lol.. No vex. I just quoted indiscriminately.

I'm just trying to place the contradictions on this forum. I have read on so many threads where some young ladies have come to Nairaland to bash and curse their mothers in law, and I just can't help but wonder why.

You love your mom so much, but imagine your brother's wife coming to curse and paint your mother as the devil.

Mothers are wonderful even when they are mothers in law.

God bless all mothers including mothers in law.

zarakay:
God bless his mum and all mothers out there.

Captainbells:
Awww bless her golden self
Mothers are just the best.

Saying that, I don't think I can be a mum with my selfish ways.

Larrey:
GOD bless all the good and wonderful mothers out there. Iya ni wura iyebiye

mizzpweety:
God bless my mum.

repogirl:
Good mothers are priceless!
I love my mom, she's part of my inspiration...I pray my kids say the same of me when they are older.

WomanOfRace:
God bless you and mum. A day will come when the driver will be driving her around in her latest car gift from you.

queenfav:
Shoutout to my mother too..I got my hustling spirit from her!Wetin she no sell back in the days?Lace,clothes,shoes,electronics, wrappers, gold,furniture etc. just to ensure I am a lawyer today...Thank God she is alive to enjoy my small change from my hustle.God bless every strong hardworking woman out there!

See all the girls saying God bless mothers. Some girls want their mothers in law dead before they marry the son those women bore and raised.

The lady that will marry this guy can one day come to Nairaland and paint this same woman evil. Most Nigerian girls are really confused

Agbani Darego became world beauty Queen 15 years ago in 2001. That's a long time ago. Somebody should tell this woman to go and marry abeg.


Forget all these make-up and pancakes she's rubbing on her face, her puna go don dey old.

SimpleBea:
Yeah. I have someone in SURULERE. He can fixed it for you.

I live and work in Ikeja. Surulere is a bit far from me.

patriotic9jaboy:
I don't feel anything for slained nigerian police officers. Their atrocities alone is enough for them to be visited by karma in hundred folds. They have sent hundreds to early graves so what's the fuss about the death of a probable dirty cop

Stop being such a fool. The way of a few bad eggs is not enough for you to conclude that everyone is bad. You can't conclude that every Nigerian is a ritualist, same way you can't conclude that every student is a cultist.

SimpleBea:
An IC might have bridged inside. Once serviced, it will return to it normal position.
You don't need to pay for the service before the service is rendered successfully.

OK.. Thanks. I will take it computer village. Do you know anyone you can direct me to who is good in such repairs as those computer village guys can be very funny sometimes.

SimpleBea:
Just take it to an ENGINEER to fix.

Do you have any idea as to what could be wrong. Cos some so called engr may not be so good. They are only interested in collecting your money only to be giving you stories later.

MzLarem:
Weed was added to the wedding rice

You may not be far from the truth

Anyway, I think they are just having fun and enjoying their lives. They look happy though.

Congrats to them and HML

You might not be the one that impregnated her and she knows it. Which is why she had to remove the pregnancy.

Even if you are the one responsible for the pregnancy, why would she remove it because her friends told her to without informing you. You are in a very unhealthy relationship.

SimpleBea:
The phone needs a service.

OK.. What do I need to do.

SimpleBea:
Do u bought a new phone or second hand phone?

I bought it brand new. I'm the first and only user.

Thanks for the anticipated help.

Hello phone engineers,

My phone Infinix X551 (Infinix Hot Note 2) always gets hot and the battery drains fast.
I bought it brand new about a year ago and the phone has been rooted since then.

whirlwind7:
I must ask you...what is wrong with policemen picking up onions that fell off a truck on the highway? I mean, recession or not, is there anything wrong with this act?
The onions will get crushed and wasted by passing vehicles. So, if policemen stationed nearby decide to pick them off the road and take them home for consumption, is there anything wrong with this?

Perhaps they should put up advert for lost onions instead, will that make you happy?

Thank you so much for this statement. Don't mind the silly idiots. What were they expecting the policemen to do before.


Policemen all over the world have been known to remove any obstruction that can block the free flow of traffic. The f00lish OP is only suffering from inferiority complex.

WomanOfRace:
A guy has been asking me out for 6good years. He started before i entered school till i graduated and even tried to shower me with gift. Traced my house but i never accepted. My mum was even pleading on his behalf. I may have grown feelings for him if he had stopped ,but the more he press ,the more i feel he was suffocating me and a threat to my health.

I still don't regret

You are a very confused person. Your refusal to accecpt his proposal was becasue he persisted. Shouldn't your acceptance or refusal be based on how much you liked or didnt like him instead?

Nearly all Nigerian girls would have played hard to get only to regret it later on but most will never accept they have ever made a regrettable mistake.

Allahu Akbar.

May Allah continue to guide and bless them, ameen.

GurlFriend:
For her, the tariff of the bouquet is too expensive compared to what other subscribers in Kenya, Zimbabwe and Botswana pay. According to her, asking Nigerians viewers to pay more for few channels and asking their counterparts in those countries to pay less for more is absurd and a way of saying Nigerians are gullible.


http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/11/dstv-slashes-cost-of-subscription.html

I always wonder why we have to pay so much for such services when we have the so large a population.

Onegai:
That people prefer to trust their feelings, their religion and their anger over any facts, knowledge, experience and preparedness. And it's okay to do whatever the hell you want to do, as long as you can tap into the popular feeling going around, you will win people over. And then screw them later. Very Nigerian behaviour. Which is what I have constantly said about Americans.

So most likely Ayo Fayose is our next President. You heard it here first!

Strangely, I keep seeing pictures and videos of white teens in schools chanting "go home niggurs", "cotton pickers", "white power", "build the wall" and a uni in San Diego has had an attack on a Muslim girl . Wonder what's causing all this? I mean, Trump is great for America, he's a Christian, we Nigerians (whom are Black) love himmm!!!

So the only reason you love Trump is that he is a Christan that incites Americans to attack Muslim girls on the street. Shame on you.

This should serve as a lesson to Nigerians to always vote massively for our own. The tiny country called Tanzania voted wholly for their own not minding if he was good or not.

The way the Tanzanians came out on social media to attack WizKid was borne more out of patriotic feeling for their own. Nigerians should learn a lesson from that.

Lagos voters alone are enough to demolish any country that votes. Imagine adding the rest of the country to the votes. We will overrun any country in Africa if only we learn to always vote and vote for our own.

Halix75:
Hello guys, I don't know the sources of this lies but to put the record straight, Fatima was married to a very respectful and gentle man whom I know very well even before she met her husband, am one of those who took her marriage box's from kaduna to Daura when she was still in ABU Zaria, attended all the wedding activities, visit their house at wish in sabon kawo kaduna. Her husband never beat women in his life but they have been having family issues which is normal and the woman was so difficult and arrogant and commanding more especially when her father became the president. After all effort to settle the issue by a state Governor and family members proveed abortive She got her divorce just before last Ramadan fasting and not all the kids are sickle cells patient. The husband did very well in keeping her despite all the difficulties. Think of it guys the husband is a serving commissioner of Finance in one of the states, the same party with her father and didn't divorce his wife until when her father became the president of the country? Please we should always do just by writing what is real.

This trait is common among hausa/fulani women. They become so arrogant once they feel their father is very influential.
Maybe she never really loved her husband.

Those people easily get provoked and can do anything when provoked.

Nope.. Why should we blame them. We should throw them a party and give them awards. Nonsense OP advocating for cheats.

There is no excuse under the sun for cheating. If for any reason you are not happy in any relationship, the only solution is to walk. Cheating is for people who are morally bankrupt and with low self esteem.

Stop disgracing the good people of Ibibio land.

Jenny1010:
Igbo women remains the most beautiful and hardworking .

no wonder yoruba men troop down to east in search wife

proudly Igbo and no hairy chest

Pix or adonbilivit

Billyonaire:
USA is the leadership of planet earth, if you are on earth and you are not interested in the leadership of the earth, then you are ignorant of the real history of the planet and the direction of the dynamics. The cosmos influence that determines the direction of the planet is a geared towards global leadership. And not some third world ignorant Presidents. I dont even remember tuning to Nigeria TV station in the last many years. Everyone I know tune to CNN and Sky News. I no get liver to tune to Nigerian TV, their English even annoys me big time. They wear funny caps inside house and the women wear hijab. What a confused country. Who wears cap indoors if not bunch of morons.

We are not sovereign yet, so dont blame people who need hope.

You talk like an ignorant negro with very very low self esteem. Please tell me who made USA the leadership of the earth? You may also tell us where and when such leadership were made.