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Oga. I wish you two well o.

Just one thing for the husband: Be the man!

seanet02:
Mods, can this thread be moved to the rightful section?

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-718826.0.html

Genius100:
Please move this thread to the sectarian politics forum because that is exactly what it is about,

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-718826.0.html

Thanks.

[quote author=Yoru_Igbo link=topic=718300.msg8767056#msg8767056 date=1311334071]In Nigeria it might be a biggy but[b] in Western world, Men get used on daily basis In fact some of us now are even 'useless' because no woman wan use us again after all the area chicks don use us finish in numerous one night stand[/b]![/quote]ROTFLMAO

Sagamite:
Women using are dumping happens more frequently but subtly every time than we note.

When a girl is feeling not to great or even insecure and then dresses very nice to go out, a guy sees her, likes what he sees and approaches. She gives her digits, he calls, they chat one or twice and she seems keen, all of a sudden she refuses to pick his calls again. She has used and dumb him (to boost her ego). A lot of young girls and even older women do that.

Reminds me when I was back in uni, went to a BBQ a uni mate was organising. Started chatting with a nice looking (and frankly, easy looking) oyinbo chic. She was salacious looking. I had brought out me flipping pulling mojo and she was kind of feeling me as we flirt, as she was doing a lot of body contact stuff without me even yet responding.

As I was flirting and joking with this white girl, I just looked away to another area for a second and caught one other nice looking and girlfriendy-looking black chic looking at me. She quickly looked away but I was sure she was from what I saw and her embarrassment when she looked away that she was checking me out and was a bit like "what is he doing with her? why is he attracted to her?".

I continued with salacious girl but left for a while and started mixing with other people as part of the mojo moves. Again, I caught girlfriendy-looking chic looking at me and she quickly looked away. A few minutes later, it happened again.

Then one Naija guy I had chatted with on friendly terms while mixing came up to me and whispered in my ear: "Homeboy, I need to tell you this as you might not be aware. Yo use that girl wearing blah, blah, blah (he was referring to girlfriendy-looking chic) has been looking at you all day, I have no doubt she likes you. Make sure you make your move". I was like: "Yes, I know, I know. I don catch am a few times".

I decided, as a good boy back then, to focus on the decent looking girl and leave the hit-me-baby-one-more-time girl. The decent looking girl was always surrounded with some friends, guys and girls and was in a corner. It was obvious the guys were just friends. I had to strategically start chatting with one of the guys and then gradually move into the click and she was quick to start chatting with me. She was friendly and excited looking and we gelled.

I ended up chatting with her the rest of the night and dancing with her. When it was time to leave, I asked for her number, she told me 'No, she is sorry but she has a boyfriend'. And she left with her friends.

The chic just used me to fcking boost her ego and win over the other girl she saw as a rival and made me lose opportunity to gbensh a girl that was ready and calling on me. Oloshi!

Now that I am older, Fck it! Ma gba a number awon mejeji, e wo lo kan mi (Fck it, I will collect both girls number, who gives a toss). Then the one that shows the most interest will get the reward. That way, I will never lose and be used and dumb.

lool

I will say you got paid in your own coin. You also used the oyinbo chic for the same thing the black chic used you for.

Militia!

Lord have mercy!

[quote author=gorky_park link=topic=717381.msg8767942#msg8767942 date=1311342803]I have but a few things to say; as I'm not one to air dirty laundry like OP has done here. Most of the posts here were utter lies. The rest is barely misunderstanding. Response regardless, I'm never posting on this thread again. But my brothers & sisters who've cared so much to respond also deserv. To know the truth.

1. I never asked for Unclad pics nor cald girls @ night

2. Never cheated (may've made some mistakes earlier in the marriage which I deemed causuall jokes to female friends, but know better now). I stood corrected since then.

3. I returned @ 11:58pm on our anniverssary becos I was working (before God & man, I must've 'flown' 3rd mainland bridge in 4mins) and drove like a maniac because I didn't want trouble). But trouuble it was as usual. Curses, screaming, vioelence etc

4. I'm not sure it's being muslim, but NLers, is it only christians who believe in power of the tongue and what proceeds from our mouths? In my home, statements like the fff are commonspeak.
- "I pray by God's grace, armed robbers will kill you"
- "I am the unluckiest woman in the world, to've married you"
- "You will never see anything good"
- "you are a miserable life, and you'll continue to be"

5. "Marriage brought him luck". If how I live on a daily in my home is definition of LUCK. I'd rather not be lucky

6. Empathy is why I cdnt tell my 8th month pregnant wife I got laid off. Many friends and
colleagues advised I do so as well. Thank God she found the letter (I never hid) on my dressing table; and took it calmly.

7. DSTV increment to N4,800 had me leave change of N200, when the teller didn't have any. On giving account of monies spent @ home, I said it was 5k. I recalled and told her myself later "oh, it's actually N4,800 not 5k. Dude had no change". I haven't gotten over this for 5months, as she rants every minute boout how I lied on DSTV bills *smh*

8. I spent a 350k gift for baby shower? Lie from pits of hell! If I knew or cd access that figure now, I'll find a way to improve status quo, business and otherwise ASAP

9. Lastly, she confessed to me a year before our wedding that she dated (or almost did) this colleague of hers, who's now rumored to be HIV positive. Now I should be held accountable for giving her HPV/warts?, *if only it could be diagnosed on men*

All , I cannot respond to as I type from my phone. The violence has increased through the years, she slaps the hell outta me very often (without retaliation of course). Wwhen the rave and rants begin, I've learned to stay silent and not say a word. This further aggravates her to smashing things and slamming doors. Screaming till all neighbours wake up. She often locks me out and refuses to open despite pings, texts, calls and thunderous door knocks? And now Nairalanders shd believe "sometimes he doesn't sleep at home and leave me and my child home alone". Fellaz, help me advise her to throw in a wrapper next time, maybe I'll consider sleeping on the staircase.

I've barely operated a bank account since I got married, cause I bring all I earn home, (In cash) to my family for bills, welfare and sustainance. Now all I hear is "Ibought u this shirt, I paaid for this, please leave my PC alone" *laughs*

However not proud, but yes I drink. I never came home to cause or react to violence. I find peace in hanging out and watching soccer with pals and colleagues. Besides, if this green bottle brings me more joy than sitting @ home all weekend, I'll raise my glass.

I'll not return to this thread nor respond to anything. If you have any advice for us, the poster lurks around the thread for a pity party. Kindly do so in good faith, as God will infinitely bless you. BTW I need him right now and more everyday

GP[/quote]While I wait for the OP to respond to this. It looks to me like you are not interested in finding solution to this or what efforts have you made toward resolving your problems?

Well Babe! the truth is that the quality of my love for you is beyond all existing adjectives.

And why the angry emoticon? If i have offended you in any way pls forgive me.

jmaine:
So Mukina is synonymous with wielding that unfriendly banning stick    . . .  Time to arrange someone  . . . anyway nairaland is an hybridized forum where every thing goes, from the most despicable insults and abuses to the utterly hilarious replies . . .Such a mix bag    . . . with the chance of hooking up physically with pretty ladies very slim 

Abeg free Mukina she is a nice lady doing her job well. Go to Romance/ Meet-up/Dating section, there are lots of hook-ups and break-ups stories there everyday. Goodluck!

^Thank you! It's been moved. It comes under sectarian Politics.

I love you soooooo much my dear, still havent found the right adjective to qualify my love for you

EzeUche:
Moderators -

You need to do something about alj harem. He continues to create threads dealing with the Igbo in the hope that it will cause an E-tribal warfare.

Please give me the links to the threads. Thanks.

Now you are my good and obedient wife

[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=451442.msg8763620#msg8763620 date=1311279573]I did? Please remind me. [/quote]

OAM4J:
Ok get her a good food cos of me, I trust you to know what food she will like, then we will have a special all nite peaceful discussion this night

[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=451442.msg8763560#msg8763560 date=1311278928]What is my offense? [/quote]Don't pretend you don't know. You ignored my request in d last post.

Please continue here: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-716766.0.html

maclatunji:
You just described yourself as a super wife, I do not think there is much more you can do since you are already a good wife (at least by your description). You have to ask yourself: Can I cope with his cheating? If you cannot and I think you shouldn't, let him know that he risks loosing you and the children as a family unit. Watch his reaction, if he does not change, initiate divorce, if after initiating divorce he does not change, then it is good riddance to bad rubbish as we say here.

I know I make it seem so simple when it's not but if you do not simplify life like this, you are liable to die of a heart-attack! Think with your head and not your heart!

+1

This is one of the things that should have been agreed upon before marriage.

All you can do now is plead and try to convince your husband that you can manage without their help and how uncomfortable you are with the idea.

So sad. Too bad you didn't know the man you married till you got into it. Big lessons for those yet to marry.

I honestly don't know how you can survive with a man like this, it will take a miracle for him to change.

I think you are better alone than with him in the meantime. After all he is not responsible for anything.

[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=451442.msg8748854#msg8748854 date=1311105342]Why is the kitchen so quiet?[/quote]

toba:
Shaking my mudafucking head once again but this time really hard.

I will be your scape goat baby

Gbefila! you no dey hear word? abeg comot and face front jor!

Do u need transportation fare and the address of my 3rd wife? Since 2 of them don damm you already, may be the 3rd will gree for you.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=702229.msg8755664#msg8755664 date=1311186558]I''ll be forced to release the dogs. [/quote]Dont mind him Babe! he thinks am a player and he can come in between us.

Have I told you how much I love you today? Am still searching for the right words to describe it.

I will tell BABE to release them

Yeah! I know, It is because I like Seun, I dont wanna crash Nairaland. My picture is so hooooottttt, if I upload the whole face, it will crash Nairaland server.

Leave your Yahoo, hotmail, facebook, skype and twitter ids, and ! will ask BABE! to send you some of our pictures.

Am her angel, am watching over her while she sleeps. She was watching over me earlier while I was sleeping

Hi Yinka,

Good morning. Sorry I just put my BABE! to bed. She is alright though, doing very great and making me happy as usual.

How are you and how are you getting ready for today's work. The strike has been called off, right?

Thread totally hijacked!

I see many of the fanatics that ought to be getting the messages giving out messages themselves.

N101:
This is sad, to think that someone isn't seeing their parents because of money.  Are his parents so self-absorbed and interested in his money that he has to behave like this, or is this just how he thinks?  Is that what relationships and family have come to in Nigeria?

Well I wish them good luck but the fall out won't be nice. Me, money or no money I have to see my parents - to do otherwise is simply selfish.

+1


Well OP, I still think it is not in your place to tell. It is easier to clear yourself if/when the parent eventually find out. The guilty one is the son and not his friends.

lol @ "shez got a bigg Bottom thats where the problem lies."

Anyway, just advice her to be more careful.

Very sad story.

I have few questions:

1. Why will any partner wait till the eve of his/her wedding before disclosing his/her health issue with his/her partner?

2. Does this situation worth suicide?

3. Will u still encourage abortion for unwanted pregnancies?

[size=13pt]Jilted female ex-banker commits suicide[/size]

https://www.punchng.com/images/July/Wednesday/pix201107201294187.jpg

An ex-banker, Miss Motunrayo Ogbara, on Monday committed suicide after being jilted by her lover.


The corpse of Ogbara, 26, from the famous Ogbara family, Ikorodu, Lagos, was discovered hanging from the ceiling of her sister’s residence on Allen Avenue.


According to a source, who craved anonymity, the deceased was a former employee of the Access Bank but resigned recently.


“Motunrayo (Ogbara) was an employee of Access Bank but she recently resigned. She told us she had received a job offer at the MTN and we were happy for her,” she said.


Another friend of the deceased told one of our correspondents that the deceased became depressed after receiving the sad news.


“She had a medical problem but nobody was sure of the exact problem. It seems her fiancé later found out about the health issue and he called off the wedding and dumped her. This left her depressed,” she said.


Although the deceased was described as a sociable person, PUNCH METRO’s finding showed that she was neither on Facebook nor Twitter.


Another source, a former classmate of the deceased said she did not expect Motunrayo(Ogbara) to indulge in such an act.


The source, who craved anonymity, said “She was my classmate at Queen’s College, Yaba. We both graduated in 2001.


“Although we were not very close, I knew her very well because she was one of the most popular girls in the school. She had many friends because she was pretty and many girls liked following her around.”


Our correspondent learnt that after graduating from Queen’s College in 2001, Ogbara gained admission into the University of Lagos through Diploma two programme to study Economics.


PUNCH METRO investigations showed that no autopsy was carried out and she was buried on Tuesday at Vaults and Garden Cemetery, Ikoyi.


A close family member of the deceased, who craved anonymity, said Ogbara was jilted and had attempted suicide in December, 2010, before she was stopped.


She said, “Ogbara was engaged to a guy and plans were already on for their wedding. But she had a health issue resulting in the removal of her womb. When the guy knew about this, he dumped her and married another girl. She became depressed and attempted to commit suicide in December 2010.


“But before she could carry out the act, people came to her rescue and since then she was being closely monitored by family members. As a result, the family employed a driver for her. She was very brilliant and made a Second Class (Upper Division) in Economics at UNILAG. She did not lack anything and had a bright future.


“Her father paid for her Master’s programme in the UK. But after four months, she returned home, saying she was not concentrating on her studies. She was always complaining. At a point, she called home to say she was not having money. So, her family sent some money to her and even got her a new car. Yet, she insisted on coming home.


“When she returned home, her father got her a job at MTN and she was to resume on Monday but that was the same day she committed suicide.”

http://www.punchng.com/Articl.aspx?theartic=Art201107201294950