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what's with d foul language when u no dey fight anybody....its just stupid when a Nigerian tries to be gangsta by force....no be so dem dey do am

bonnyhope:
I understand your point
But I am talking from societal perspective and you know this

Sorry my post wasn't addressed appropriately, I got you, was just trying to buttress your point

bonnyhope:
You will be recognised by the society that you re responsible

The society's definition of responsibility is faulty...the height of irresponsibility is getting married and not having the ability to put the required work to make the marriage work... u can be responsible being single, u can be very very useful to other people and the society at large being single

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that[b] after our first separation [/b]she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

Never go back ..... Be sure before you separate from your partner, dont be in a hurry to separate, BUT once u go ur separate ways, NEVER GO BACK

moimoi but take dat custard or whatever it is away

France did not vote mbappe who was their best player at d world cup

BigBlackPreek:
Nigeria should be number one

Nollywood marriages comes to mind 😂 😂

Divorce rate in Nigeria isn't high, that is not to say Nigerian marriages are doing well, na abusive union plenty pass...... and
people just move on with other partners...they dont remarry, they just start making babies or living with someone else.

Nollywood people no plenty na......na media just dey make am be like say na all of them

Nigerians are sleeping on Sierra Leone passport. E dey give US n Canada visa anyhow

this year's CAF Awards, Osimhen is competing against Osimhen....the only thing that will stop Osimhen from winning is Osimhen winning

some will get 80k, some will get 250k....shey na car loan be dis abi na bicycle loan.... they should just call it Means of Transportation loan, not car loan
even the ones that will get 1.5m......na 3rd hand dem go fit buy....na d car go dey drive them

Jollof is King
White rice - Bliss
Ofada rice - Overrated
Coconut Rice - Not necessary
Fried rice - Drama queen
Rice & Beans(cooked together) - Most Underrated

e no add up...body that ripped, face so soft

she get face...d rest na rubbish

Versal:
Yes!

He did not kill nobody. He should be rehabilitated. The Sentence shouldn't be unlimited

I know that an average monkey in Zoogeria does not value life.

Life imprisonment is technically not forever(except it is without parole, which is not the case here,).
@boldened I see.......meanwhile the essence of prison is also rehabilitation and correctional OR u want them to build a special facility for him where he can be rehabilitated, since he is an offender after your heart

1Sharon:
Give it a rest.

Give what exactly a rest.....he should rest on the death of his child?

Versal:
The penalty is too much for the offense.

Men! Control your compulsions.

God forbid, if na your daughter, will the penalty still be too much?

Christistruth00:
They should not probe it

They should recover it back

And use the Money to build a Concrete Road

From Port Harcourt to Lagos

yinmu....they are looking for NNPC to bribe them or give them juicy contracts

shortgun:
What has she gained by sending the man to jail for life?
How will it make her life better or that of her Niece?
Will it erase the event?
Often, what people pursue as "justice" in courts falls short of true justice, as offenders will face punishments but there are provisions for compensating victims.
it's a waste of time since nobody will gain from it unless you are a vindictive and cruel person.

You may think this will serve as a deterrent but as i am typing this someone somewhere is making out with an underaged girl or boy.....it has been like that and it won't change anytime soon.

I was defiled at 8 years by a woman I call Aunty.

Even if there's no compensation for the victim, the society has 1 less pedophile to deal with and you think that's a waste of time?
So because there's someone somewhere still doing it, whoever gets caught shouldn't be brought to book?
God forbid, if the niece happens to be your daughter, will you still hold this position?

Lanre1st:
This is where “Incent Porn” land the doctor !

But to look at it life imprisonment is much, he for go to Olosho, pay them and they will give him different style he want

nothing is too much for a grown man taking advantage of a child .... the victim being a child is where he becomes deserving of anything

the man is sick...that is all i can say, if true he deserves much more punishment............15 years old? haba

Sevilla should do the needful so the world can be a better place abeg

malcom1X:
The way you are chatting I'm thinking that you are a lady.
You have not answered my question. I'm going to act like you didn't use derogatory words on me.
Let me ask you again.
How does he detach himself emotionally? Is it by staying single? i wont say detach emotionally, I will say the man should ensure he has healed totally
Will a woman marry a man without visiting him to know the kind of person he is?
Did she not see the picture on the wall?
Note that the former was his wife that he married.

see ehn, when some young people lose their partners and say they don't want to remarry because of their kids, it's because of situations like these. the events that follow the loss of a partner is very very very complicated. it is a loss. the consequences are never easy. the living will need to sacrifice either some of the memories of the departed OR his/her need to build a connection with another person....If people want to remarry, then they should understand the sacrifices they have to make, death of a partner is a loss and losses are unfair and unfortunate. We need to stop pretending like somehow, everything is normal or going to be normal or smooth. Some don't remarry until their kids get old, its because they dont want their obligation to the new person to start affecting the attachment of the kids to their dead father or mother.
People in this situation should ensure they heal properly and also be sincere with themselves on the sacrifices they are willing to make. Well their new partners have a role to play too, they've got to be ready to shift grounds a bit too.

Miracle2020:
Woman!!!They are even jealous of the dead. What has an ordinary picture do for you? You don't even want her children to see their mother? And if you find out maybe she was a friend to dead wife.

the post did not mention the children being in the house. how u take know that one.
Man o, Woman o, God wont let us lose our partners but if it happens no one should let the society pressure them into getting married as soon as possible. Heal first. To lose someone you planned to spend the rest of your life with no be joke, it is a very big deal,,,,,people should take enough time to heal first......

LikeAking:
U don’t understand life.. very funny
Life functions on principles.. life functions on finding a workable balance between principle and flexibility
A good wife , will understand.. very correct but the truth is that a properly healed person(man/woman) will not create that awkward situation of bringing another partner into a home where it is still necessary for him/her to put the picture on the wall
The woman wants the picture to be removed cos of envy and hatred.. u may be right, u may be wrong, u are not in their space
If dem remove the picture will she buy fuel for 120, it’s irrelevant..
Her husband most rebuke her..
Person like me will just throw her like tissue out side my house.. now i understand

funny how people that wont let their partner keep compound last name are the ones that want to keep a lost partner's picture in the living room. I know you think you understand life and u will throw away any woman that tries that "nonsense" with you. well if that formula works for you, all the best.

Princedapace:
U guys are funny!
With all the US has done to Arab militants abi terrorits, has any terrorist group ever been destroyed till date? None!
U cant kill terrorism no matter how much power u have got! The US has spent trillions of dollars fighting wars in middle eat, yet these guys keep fighting!
The solution is peace negotiation else, u will fight an endless war. The US had to quit fighting in Afganistan. None of the wars fought over there have come out fruitful. No be today!

You are right, terrorism cannot be eradicated, that doesn't mean u fold ur hands and watch it flourish......its like weed, it grows, u cut it off, then u watch and restrategize. cutting it doesn't mean u are expecting it no to grow again and that's why u restrategize, plant sleeper cells, moles etc. it grows again u cut it again and it goes on like that forever, the most important thing is that u build a structure that will always keep terrorism in check, from time to time, terrorism will cause some havoc, but u go strong and keep fighting it, when u are out of power the new regime will keep fighting it, the structure to fight it is there....there is no final solution to terrorism but u do not negotiate with them...everything that looks like negotiation with a terrorist group is a strategy

LikeAking:
Must of u guys here are simps..

Spits!

keeping picture of a dead partner in the living room while married to another is either doing the right thing the wrong way(respecting the memory of the dead in a manner the person u are supposed to live with peacefully may find offensive) OR doing a good thing at the wrong time(re-marrying when you have not healed properly)
truth be told.....if a man loses his wife, he should heal properly before getting married or moving on with another woman, if he hasn't healed enough, it will be a problem. The problem is that, many widow/widower are put under societal pressure to remarry asap, when they should just be chilling, dating, trying to test their connection with someone else and just finding peace and calm with the reality of their loss......You don't have to disrespect another person with the memories of the dead. People should learn to do things appropriately.

People never understand weytin dey happen......this is really terrible. If you earn in naira, purchasing power is totally gone. Since nothing is getting produced in Nigeria, very soon you won't be able to buy anything anymore. Even the service u receive will reduce in quality, because ur service provider will need to adjust to avoid going under. This means whatever quality of education u get right now for ur kids will be diluted a bit. Whatever quality of healthcare u have right now will become diluted, standard will keep falling generally, the bar will now be under the ground.....

Sjs

his so cool ...... what's that

If ever had doubts, at least this should confirm to you that all along you have been donating to man, not God. If the money was meant for God, even if na 2k, it will be acceptable.

na so Tonto go do become senator or house of rep member o