₦airaland Forum

LordLicifer:
Nothing special about sleeping with married woman, i mean, are they not humans? Unu make it sounds as if married women don't deserve love, affection, sex and attention. I have had sex with plenty married women there is nothing wrong with it, it is not a crime. If their husbands are not capable of giving them affections, love and attention someone else is capable

so you are capable of giving them all those stuffs, hope you will not feel bad when it would be done to your wife if you fail to give those good stuffs to your wife?

IyfeNamikaze:
that 100k to the parents for safe keeping na voicemail account e dey enter o

I swear

ify2016:
Upper cut on agbaya.
Lesson learnt.: No do pass yourself.

NB: if you know your age bracket is from 40 and above, no go dey throw blow on angry youth because you self go shock about the outcome when your neighbour start gossiping how Daddy Buky or Chukwudi take dropped like pack of sardine.
Person never fight since 2005 and suddenly you wan use Gen Z boy shine.

Tradepunter2:
Very very true my guy.... Most men don't know this.... Those outgoing ones are the most difficult to change because their energy level is high.... Because they derive pleasure from it, so man dating them must have enough cash... Like me I never liked any churchy churchy woman.... Cuz my belief is that those types are mentally defective and void of rational thoughts... But when I met my wife the balance was there..... If we miss midweek service heaven won't fall and we engage scriptures randomly and can spend hrs discussing scriptures.... Outside devotional time.... She's the best thing in my life

The kind of woman one should desire, and that's what you have

NewDelhi:
They don't have levels again. Come to oshodi, you'll see them using bikes to hustle passengers from oshodi to iyana ipaja. They basically dey do okada work to keep body and soul together.

Really?
You mean they are riding bikes to hustle passengers?

Naija which way nau🤔

I have encountered plenty of Niger in Woji-Port Harcourt

Rubyjade:
Ozoro dey learn for where Oleh dey.

Abi nau. Oleh and selling of land na 5&6, land matter dey sabi sweet them

Earthstorms:
This shows one of the negative side of modern living.

Our forefathers married many wives and also families arranged marriage for their children. This largely ensured that majority of the women had husbands.

Today, polygamy is frowned at and arranged marriage is seen as a taboo by many.

The young ladies are now expected to source for husbands by themselves and some fail to get husbands.

Also many young men can not afford to marry because they financial requirements exceeds their capabilities unlike in the old days where the financial requirements to raise a family is very low.

Effect of Western Education

Drsnives:
Keep quiet
My madam earns over 250k, she's a director with Delta state government. Not married, na everyday she dea bill guys

she finds it interesting. Some do it out of hatred for men due to past experiences

essentialone:
OP don japa!

Matthew 7:7

Seek and you shall find.

Na wetyn OP seek for naim she don find.

Meanwhile, as today be 7-7.

Make una clear from road before dust enter your eyes.

If you no like water, no near River ooo. If you no go meet the water, the water go flow come meet you.

African man

Badadvisor:
Funny but most of them didn't even join during their undergraduate years, it was after school life.
Na freemasons dey rule us for Nigeria

Bitter truth

Badadvisor:
Even the exceptions still get alliances

Nor be lie. If you nor belong e go hard. If you go deeper you would be surprised when you found out some prominent calibres that are in the business. Worldly affairs goes with Confraternity except you want life of contentment.

Not just North sef, any part of the country that is dominated by Northerners too. there is a place in Port Harcourt called Slaughter, it is dominated by Northerners, they accept mutilated and weak notes, and there is a place too in Warri called Hausa quarter, they accept mutilated notes.

Badadvisor:
How you wan take be sug leader or president for school if you no bam lol

Nor be lie. In Nigeria, for you to attain a great heights and be famous, you must be a fraternity member, but there are exceptions though but few

Joy2dworldxyz:
Thank you baba.....

You are welcome Boss Man

Joy2dworldxyz:
Keep hearing people calling Wole Soyinka each time cult activity is played, pls someone should educate me, was Soyinka the one who brought cultism to Nigeria?

Pyrate confraternity was the first fraternity in Nigeria established in the UI with sole purpose of promoting learning and combating corruption in the school environment. It was founded by Seven students nicknamed "original seven" Wole Soyinka was the head of the seven.

Oizee:
hmmm! Quite deep

Very deep I swear. One has to play the role of a fool, peace would be scarce if both are claiming wise

RickyJesus:
Losing money can easily lead to losing your health and character.

Character is what gave me my present job.

Before I got this present job, I had depression, and it affected my health but it didn't affect my Character.

Character is everything. With character, second chance could come.


There are some people watching you without you knowing.

Pansophist, I love the level you are operating on. A level of enlightenment.

Character is everything.


When you lose money, you lose nothing
When you lose your health, you lose something
When you lose your character, you lose everything.

EbenezerTriumph:
Seun I coughed out 200k from my savings to buy a phone to my girlfriend. Currently she says we should stop speaking at night when once it's 10pm only to find out she has been engaging on late night calls with her new crush.
The house she's currently staying I paid for it, sent her monthly upkeep and regular surprises but when it's a up to a week that I last gave her gifts she'll start acting cold against me

Damn🤦‍♂️

This hurt

Animegirl:
Is not about helping a woman, you men still want something more under her legs. You always feel entitled to her body, marriage, even her time, is only few good men that don't ask anything in return.

As a lady I always go back to appreciate, is not even a gender thing. But anytime I go back to appreciate is when can we see

When can we see might not mean the way you pictured it

adeoyekay:
I am not weakling I prefer to send money to a guy in need than a girl because they will take you as a fool

I did it out of love I cannot resist her request
Anytime I am chatting with her my penis always rise I don't use to get move with any girl. At times I wonder if she is using jazx on me

This guy sef

codedgalaxy:
Another group of women'sphere i forgot to include are, women with "low smv", damn ! Very annoying group.
Epecially when you happen to be young, vibrant and promising damn,
No go play o!
They can murder any other girl that comes to your way carelessly lol.
Those ones cling like leeches damn! "low-Smv bitcchies"

The rationale Male

Life in Port Harcourt is very expensive oh, especially in GRA axis

Michaelspresh:
no man is that busy for a woman he loves

There are some jobs that men do, and they have not seen their loved one for almost a year. How about that?

Michaelspresh:
You're right tho

When a man starts forming busy...I'll just know something's up

what if, he was not forming? What if, he was really busy?

Dexy4yah:
If i don't see the right woman dt reach 100% of everything i need in a woman then am not getting married.
I no fit manage any department for marriage... everything has to be 100%.

Senior man, nobody is perfect even you is not perfect. You can't be expecting 100% nau, is she a God?

All Women are actress, only few get paid

UyaiIncomparabl:
No woman is hard to get. You either aren’t her type, she doesn’t like you or she has her eyes on other men (that makes you her last choice).

I think you made a point

CaveAdullam:
1. If you say they are "horsebands", I get the point. But to say "they lack empathy is a twist of facts and reality".

Ok. Let's go.


2. Genuine love means the tendency to go beyond your boundary and make sacrifices for the person you desire. This can cause you pain and loss, however, you don't care because you are obsessed with this person - your lover.

3. Firstly, is there anything like genuine love?

"Genuine" becomes attached to "love" when the sacrifice of one lover supersedes the other. Or, when both are working together and reciprocating the benefits they gain from each other, albeit, unequal.

There's nothing like "genuine love".

Though, we may want to cancel the aforementioned by introducing religion: God and his worshippers, and nature: a mother and her child.

It seems genuine because both God and the mother are stronger and wiser. They cater for the ones beneath them because they are weak. However, if this relationship between them can tarry amid sin and old age, it would have been "pure genuine love". But this is not the case. In the end, God wants stainless worship and the mother wants to be taken care of in old age. Their present sacrifice is speculation of reciprocity in the future.

4. Empathy and kindness are easy byproducts of "genuine" love, even outside the sexual relationship.

Take note: there is nothing like Nigerian men or Nigerian women. Men are men. Women are women. There will always be tinctures that tend to differentiate them in their behaviors, but these are just social behaviors, that sprout from their culture, tradition, background, etc. To get the full scope of "men are men" and "women are women", you must begin to microscopically examine them from their evolutionary behavior, biochemical makeup, and physical and psychological makeup. Now you don't judge from one demography, you conclude by judging men and women from different demographics.

5. Constant weddings keep churning weekly. Men in their hordes still complain about being manipulated and losing their money.

Young women still see young men without luxury as useless (of course, they are useless to women in the grand scheme of the reproductive game).

Weak men who plead for love aka "simps" still abound.

This evidence questions your take on their level of empathy, kindness, and genuine love. If they were absent, it wouldn't have been the case.

6. To date, (Nigerian) men are still proving their love for (Nigerian) women. Empathy, genuine love, and kindness are famous in men's corridors. They may be suppressed, but for the women they love, it manifests.

7. Meanwhile, men don't marry women they hate. But a woman can deceive a man into marrying her even if she doesn't love him. It is a psychological and evolutionary game.



8. I agree.

But as stated above, relationship is a transaction, love is the currency. It is less mechanical because both love themselves and fight to stay above the odds or see each other not as tools but rather, as an unequal useful pair.

9. Let me tell you, it is women and children that benefit not the man. The man holds a greater power because he's able to provide and protect for his family. What's his benefit there?

10. Women cook and clean, a role that can easily be reversed and given to a maid for lesser amount and problems. But can the woman wake up one morning and pick any man that will commit? No.

You may think that this is the reason women should become independent and have their money. Yet if she gets married, she desires the man to meet up with his primal duties. In egalitarian societies, there are still sexual differences.

11. The benefits men derived are evolutionary. The benefits women derived are evolutionary, physical, material, and emotional.


12. You are correct.

What you must understand is that the average human is under the control of their primal instincts. Despite our evolved environment, that hunter-gatherer instinct wired in us for thousands of years still got a loud mouth and a loudspeaker.

It takes self-awareness to understand another person, only then will you be able to reach reasonable conclusions about people and not fall into feuds daily.

13. Based on their nature and environment, cooking and cleaning were the appropriate ways to get their number 1 priority, which was to get married to a man that will fulfill their needs. In the same way, "horsebands" work hard to provide for their wives.

These were the thought of 99.9% of women even to date. The reason you are objecting is because of the rapid change in our environment, level of exposure, and information consumed.

14. However, there is a need for women to understand themselves before even choosing a man. Here the importance of a father and mother becomes imminent, to guard, lead and counsel her in the way of men and the operations of the world.



15. Financial resources are not all they need, however, come first on the list of what they should possess before getting married.

Finance is important for his personal growth and development.

Without finance, he will be ridiculed.

Without finance, no one will respect him.

Women want commitment, finance signals that. This is what women consider before marriage.

16. Intelligence, personality, wisdom, kindness, empathy, confidence, and braveness comes second. If women chase this second bag in men, many wouldn't have been baby mamas/single mothers who complain about deadbeat dads; finance may not be obvious for this reason, but there was the mystery of it. They made the mistake of choosing wrongly.



17. These personalities may be suppressed due to circumstances at a particular time, but for the average man, these personalities are quotidian in their domain. You just need to observe the way they treat their loved ones and the people around them.



18. Women or not, men must provide, either for their family or themselves. It is because of this eternal burden to provide that makes them dwell less in the emotional domain. That emotional plane is for women because nobody expects much from them.

Men must either provide or create or else, be considered a nuisance. A bigger nuisance if he opts out of the game because he will first be disrespected and later die of hunger.



19. To be sincere, all men desire in a woman is teachableness, smartness, boldness and being able to fulfill her common role: nurturing, cleaning, and cooking.

Woke and independent women going off the scale find a problem with men since in the long run, men aren't willing to comply.

Many men are sheep though.



20. For the record, men don't marry women they hate. The cost of a wedding ceremony and running a family is too risky a task to treat a woman wrongly. Disagreements will always arise but they wouldn't get to the point it will erase his love for her except otherwise.

21. It is left for the woman to do a thorough job on the man she decides to submit to. Women make mistakes in selecting the wrong men and cry cats and dogs when these men aren't what they bargained for.

Thanks.

Cc. Emmaodet, Hedgefunds, Reminderz

My Man

TheMaterialist:
Imagine having a relationship with someone who
can literally read your mind, your darkest secrets
are revealed to them, they know if you are just
playing them or you want a serious relationship.

Sometimes when they communicate to you, you
can hear their voice loud and clear in your head,
like you are wearing invisible headphones.

When you hurt them emotionally, they can send
those negative feelings back to you, so that you
will know how badly you've hurt them.

Since they can read other people's mind, they tell
you the kind of people to associate with and the type to avoid.

They also know your thought patterns very well,
and they can predict your future behaviour.

They really love you, but you can't break up with
them because you feel like they could use their
Powers to hurt you if they really wanted to.

These kind of people are very rare to find, they are calm and temperamental in nature. They are the best people to associate with if your heart is pure

This post is bullshit. Food is normal, after that comes the bills. Only irresponsible men think about sex all the time