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How many guys have you treated like this? What was the outcome?

See let me tell you. You are too full of yourself. Your beauty is what is in your head. But again, you are 33 yet unmarried. Men love young girls.

If you start having kids now, how many will you have before you hit 40? Plus you are 33, only God knows your body count. Shm

jackals:
.I was just being careful of not making it look like I'm desperate to have him. I already showed him I like him. I think if he wanted things to escalate, he wouldn't back out that way

And that's another man's child.

Puskas:
She will end up loving and caring for her child more than you

It's crazy that nobody wants to share anything. No tips, no information to help others.

Such a wicked world. I want through the pages, nothing useful. I could remember the other tread about apps. People contributed.

But this is about making money, yet nobody wants to help out. This is same thing our politicians do. They don't want to tell us how they got the 100 million naira for presidential tickets. They did not tell us how much they make, they didn't tell us where all the money recovered from Abacha went.

We are all same people. No difference. So let's keep living in deception. Smh!!

You guys should stop this nonsense talk. Very uncivilized set of people.

Have you done some research about women inventors? Do you know how many companies are owned by women? We have a lot of women doctors, engineers, pilots. Etc. They make good money. Supporting thier families. Etc.

Shameful comments.!!

Kingpin1000:
Thunder fire that yeye wife.
Apart from pussy what can a woman offer?
The mother took good care of her son so the son is reciprocating. Let her take good care of her children
So they can buy her a car.

I really think you should not go home. Stay away from your dad. The fact that he is laying curses on your and insulting your late mom is just something acceptable.

You are old enough to get your own place. Since your mom is no longer there. I really think you should get a place. Your dad is so tired of you staying home doing nothing. If you have a job, he would not be disturb by the type phone you are using. BTW, you should be very uncomfortable staying at home doing nothing. Also why buy expensive phone when you don't have a job? Just for show.

But Op, move out. Go get a job. Your dad and your step mom are tired of the free food.

Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.

Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.

I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.

After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.

I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.

Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.

God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.

I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.

I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.

I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.

Some people told me to return it and never do that again.

when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.

I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.

I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.

The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.

He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.

After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.

I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.

I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.

He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.

Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.

From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.

He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.

So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.

I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.

I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.

Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.

At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.

I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.

On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )

But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.

My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.

After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.

He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.

He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.

So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.

The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.

I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.

I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.

I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.

She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.

I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.

Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .

Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?

We have enough schools already.

Imattertoo:
Ok. Good luck to him.

I need investors to start a school. If you are interested, please visit the thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/7035968/need-investor-start-up-school

You are absolutely right.

But with the situation of things. It looks like the independent woman are winning. So sad.

SeaTrade:
In light of all what's been happening and from experiences,I am beginning to think our predecessors were right in always picking women way lower than them in the food chain for marriage or the homely ,younger ones to be complete housewives for sanity reasons.
All these independent women come with one barrage of problems or the other(my experiences).
Some of them are;
Too much experience.
Barrage of exes.Their exes no dey finish,everyday new name.
Age .Before a woman or any person can achieve stability,time don go well well.
They can actually do without you and in the long run,this becomes a big problem like it or not.That feeling of having someone need you?forget it with these set of women.(they already have mechanics,artisans and all contacts throughout their long years of being independent).
Prone to cheating.They've got jobs so it's easy for them to cheat on you with colleagues and associates and trust me,you'll never find out if she's good or don't want you to.
Highly opinionated,trust me you'll have a lot of clash of interests with them and confrontations,especially with the rude ones.
Pride. I need not say much about this but its real,they feel way above their heads most times.
Etc...
These are my observations, I'd love guys who've experienced different or similar circumstances to throw more light from their experiences so we can discuss about this .
What Compromises did you make for peace to reign and enjoy your union?
PS;Please all those rude kids with penchants for disrespecting women and insulting them should stay off this thread please,I am not in the mood for your shenanigans.

Where did you go Op. Stop writing vague thoughts.

imagrg:
I recently visited a local club house and what I observed set my jaw ajar and I started to ask questions on where the society got it wrong. I saw young girls aged between 15 to 30 soliciting for men to trade their bodies to for money. To make matters worse, they wore dresses that revealed their sexuality to such extent that even a eunuch could have his libido revived!

From where have we gotten things wrong? These ladies are mothers to be or even girlfriends to decent young men.
Is love now for sale to the highest bidder? What then happens to broke guys who cannot afford to pay their bills?

You are absolutely right!!

He should not lose both. If he starts to bang her, and her dad finds out. Then he get fired. He will get another job, but still bang the girl. The girl will eventually start giving her money because she's the reason why he got fired. Then if the dad eventually leave the company. Due will come back and continue his work. Win win.

omotoshodontee1:
Be banging her codedly and u guys will be keeping frown face while in office pending the time ur boss will accept his fate..Sha don't loose both the pussy and ur job

So you think she doesn't know? You are not serious. Being a coward? You lack sense.

Kobojunkiee:
Op, this and tell your mother the truth. She deserves to know what she has done wrong and why she can't be anywhere near your wife and your kids for that matter.

Stop being a coward about it!

How come she's not aware that your stepmother is around? Is she not aware that you have a stepmother?

Like what is really going on? Your mom doesn't know that the woman who is also a wife to her husband is in her son's house? Can you clear this out if you don't mind.

It's confusing. But please don't let her come. Devil can use anyone to hurt you. She might not come with charms, etc. But her evil mind can get your children sick. Bring back luck, your kids might start behaving so bad. In some case, it will take your new born many months to walk. Evil minds around kids are so bad.i have seen that.

pretydiva:
Simply tell her the truth that your step mom is around for the omugu and that her coming is not needed

I can't believe this. This is something you will on Nigerian movies.

I wonder what is really going on. How could your mom do this? Unbelievable!

Francis609:
Yes she is one in a million I appreciate her for everything she is doing for us.

You are right. If we all have guns, I really think the country will be better. More respect. No more armed robbery( which are done by our men in uniform). People will think twice before the ask you " do you know who I am"?

Don't worry we all have gun soon. BTW, do you know the percentage of Nigerians with illegal arms? You will be surprised to find out how many guys that are in circulation!!

Please they should pass the law. Let's get guns for ourselves legally and carry it openly. Look at Afghanistan, it's a terrorist country. Just like Nigeria is. They all have guns openly. That's what we need or at least that's where Nigeria is heading to. Just because of greed and wickedness.

MoneyGoDrop:
Now that Nigerians don't have gun,are people not dying on daily basis from gun inflicted injuries.

Such nonsense. What a wrong advice. Op knows those this already. She asking for a way to handle the situation.

Have you forgotten that life is not balanced? Look around you, you will see that who others get away with is what kills other people.

Are you saying she should challenge her husband? That's a wrong advice.

I don't know why her husband is careless with his chats. She caught him 3x already. Maybe he is making her jealous.

For the op, talk to him. Ask him if he's missing something with you. Tell him to stop the nonsense chat. I know some people who just do that to stop them from actually cheating. Ask him to properly give you his password to his social media if he's not trying to cheat. Looks like those girls wanted to share your husband with you. At least two of them knew he is married.

Don't just leave the man just like that. Husband is scarce nowadays. Days are gone when men wanted to get married. What we do now Is to impregnate here and there. Baby mamas everywhere.

Good luck ooo. I hope he's not already cheating on you. Some guys are just something else.

MrBrownJay1:
your husband is one string away from cheating....he just needs the right opportunity (which he is looking for by sending babes money etc).
here is something you should ask your husband:
- if i tell a male friend that:"if i catch you i will ride the Bejesus out of your dikc", will that be okay to you?
- if i now tell you that this was a joke, would that be okay to you?
- if there is "supposedly" something wrong with us, can i go and ask a stranger to do these things to me INSTEAD OF TALKING TO YOU DIRECTLY?!

sadly, it is obvious your husband has no respect for you and/or the marriage you guys have....and eventually some babe will fall for his antics (if it hasnt happened already). protect yourself and your affairs, then leave this man who obviously is NOT gonna change!

I don't think you know how to read in between words.

All relationships doesn't lead to marriage.

You are just trying to make the guy feel bad.

Get a life bro.

luwiizy:
Shut the Bleep up...
Senior man no wan chop leftover
You dey talk trash...
Baba point all the redflag still yet your blind eyes no be fit see for dark.

You are absolutely right. Someone is telling me to shut up.

Abeg go marry the girl.

Favfables1:
I doubt all those castigating the OP, read his story ...

He clearly stated that, he told her they had no future, she came back...

He clearly stated that, he broke up with her prior to this, she still came back...

He still had hope that he could change her ((which in my opinion was futile)), maybe that way, they could have a future together, but it didn't work out ...

He endured 3years of this, but still, no change, so he took off....

Rather than y'all to bless God that he dodged a bullet, you're cursing him and trying to emotionally blackmail him back into a relationship that is a disaster?!! Hmmm...

Yes! Everyone has their flaws and no one is perfect, even his new babe have her flaws, but my people, choose your flaws wisely! No go do pass yourself all in a bid to not hurt the person ...

I understand the place of accepting your partner for who they are and all, but if you can't handle it, you can't handle it, no need trying to force it ...

You are right. I don't know why they are against the guy. People will say anything if they are not the one in that position. They both used each other for 3 years. He waited for her to change. Nothing happened. It's just a relationship. He never told her that he's going to marry her. Shm!

talk2hb1:
Dunno why everyone is castigating the guy, he doesn't want something. Now everybody is trying to blackmail the guy emotionally

Nobody is perfect. But there are things you will not tolerate

Why didn't you just tell her point blank since you noticed all these but you chose to lead her on. Don't worry you'll meet your match. Just pray the one you're about to marry isn't pretending to you. I hate users


Clearly you can't read. He waited for 3 years for her to change. Dating is not marriage. They are both using each other. It just did not lead marriage. Not all relationships leads to marriage. During the courtship, both gender will put efforts to it. Try it out to see if it will work. If it doesn't work, they will part ways. So simple!!

If you say so?

Winsolution:
saw what coming, they all won under pdp not the other way around.

[quote author=SarkinYarki post=111014302]I saw this clownery from APC coming.


Let it happen

What?

Is crazy people are talking about voting.

When does voting brings people into leadership? Are you saying voting is the only thing that works in Nigerian? Smh

Nigeria has been reduced to the dregs. We produce oil but lack fuel. We are over-taxed but no development to show for it. If you have a shop in Nigeria, you'll hate this country. You are heavily taxed from the state to the local government, to the “land owners.”

One time LASEPA were distributing their garbage buckets, they'd go to shops who already have trashcans but insist they re-buy theirs or be sanctioned.


The funniest realities on ground now is you'll see POS operators almost outside every banks! And sometimes, when you think of it twice, you'll withdraw from the POS to avoid insult or another misdemeanor.

We complain of racist treatment outside! Aren't we the ones who will employ Whites with BSc to boss over Nigerians with BSc and the Nigerian will be digging tarred roads in the sun while the White will be supervising?


Aren't we the ones ready to fight for Ukraine for free while Boko Haram is there killing the northerners on per seconds check?

Nigeria wey after NYSC, e come bi like say your own hell done start?

Nigeria wey just for common army to pass main road dem do begin flog who dey the road before dem come anyhow?

Country wey pastor get security entourage but dey tell you to ask God for protection?

Country wey dem no want fix steady electricity because they gain from the proceeds of their companies supplying epileptic power while they uses big generators from money stolen from your taxes?

And all you do is choose who to recycle between Tinubu, Atiku, Obi, and Osibanjo? Same people who have once ruled and still kept the country in damnation?

Dem do una?

Isn't Nigeria a bad dream never to happen again?

Little wonder these politicians beat their chest that you cannot do anything to stop their career! Of course, they can achieve the boast with N1000 bribe distributed to you and a promise to empower you with a bike when they come in. Same bike they will come and ban in the metropolis? Or the same bribe they stole from you...your money?

I was watching a video here how a lawyer was assaulted by, I think civil defense, for going to ask why his client's vehicle was seized. You need to see how he was dragged like a foot-mat without them telling him his wrong! A legal practitioner! The NBA are afraid to talk about it so they won't be penalized. Una don hear about am again? Dem don sanction broadcast agencies not to dare post it again. What do you expect when the judiciary is accountable to the executive and the legislatures puppets?


Little wonder boys dey do ritual here and there. Should I blame them? Never! Country don do am say if you no get money, you no dey exist na. So the boys dey find money, the girls dey find money. So they find it through ritual, fraud, prostitution, or other crimes because the one means of getting money, education, cannot give you money in Nigeria! And check am well, na only politicians get the biggest money because they all do political yahoo yahoo with your taxes. So why are political yahoo yahoo men arresting non-political yahoo yahoo boys?

Let me give you sth to think about:
1. The killer of Umoren Inibong, the job seeker, wetin don do am?
2. Why hasn't Abba Kyari been paraded by the NDLEA as they do to others on national broadcast?


Reason am o.

Make una reason this country o. You have the right to vote any idiot out!

That's the good use of multiparty systems to check the excesses of other parties. They can't rig any election! That's why they need your votes! Your vote counts! Other political parties make sure the election is free and fair! The only way to win is vote! The highest vote wins! E-gladiatorship of politics doesn't win!

Vote out any idiot ruining the country!
Don't vote for relation!
Think about your children!
Think about your welfare!
Even if you are rich, insurgency doesn't give a fvck!
Do not recycle failure; if they didn't do it before, they cannot do otherwise!

Vote sb who wouldn't make graduates look stupid!

Vote sb who'd boost the legal tender!

Stop voting for promises!


Vote the person who is doing well already!

I see many individuals prefer being nepotistic about who rules them than choosing the right person. Well, in anything you are doing in this life, never let Buhari or anything accepted by Buhari happen to you again.

Choose your future with your cards![/quote]

Absolutely nothing!

Lol quite unfortunate but wetin we go do na. [/quote]

I am not in any support crimes or entitled mentality.

What you are doing is blaming individuals who are trying to survive. You are not saying anything about the roles of government to its citizens.

You studied abroad, life is easier for you. I don't think you know how hard life. You never said anything about the state of the country. You sounded as if you don't know what a working society looks like. The fact the you studied overseas, I expect more from you.

If you are not from rich home, you won't have studied abroad. Hence why you don't care about the poor. You have posted how to make money online, do you how many people who have access to a computer or internet. Or even know anything about technology.

Bro, I don't like your stance on this issues. I love your posts and admire what you have been putting out. But please don't be heartless or lack sympathy. Nigeria is not a good place to be.

Peace be with you. The legend himself!



Take it easy, Chairman. With what you wrote, I know where you belong and you probably think I'm among the people stealing Nigeria dry or my uncles are politicians.

See, some of you think you're the only one from a poor family or the only one who has suffered or is suffering.

Everyone is going through their individual struggles, but the wise amongst us have decided to take the bold step and stop complaining too much, but start doing.

All you wrote above is just complaint and an indirect way of justifying crime and fraud. This is not good for the country.

Did you come out during the End SARS protest?

Do you have your voters' card? And if yes, who did you vote for?

How did you know I haven't created alternative posts on how to make money legitimately?

What is your dream? Are you working towards it or you're busy watching football and arguing about Messi vs Ronaldo?

With the way you sounded, I deduced two things

1. Entitlement mentality
2. Blame game

Yes, you're right with some of the blames, but you can't keep blaming and expect things to change. Take some individual actions and slowly expand it to a group action.

Talking about being shallow minded, I'm not. I'm only blunt with the truth and as you know, most people don't like the truth because it hurts.

I come in peace, but you're free to shatter me into pieces.[/quote]

Op, you are so lucky. You have a great wife. Not every guy out is that lucky.

Apologize to her. Treat her right. Good women is hard to get. From your writeup, I can see this woman is a great woman. You did not condemn her in anyway.

BTW, can you help us with the type of training she did and what type of job she is doing. Please. So many people will benefit from it. I am sure she is working for one of the jobs overseas. That's a good source of income. Four thousand dollars in this buhari government.

Good luck op.

Someone just told me about Togo today.

fancyhandsome:
My brother it's well, since I arrived from TOGO to Nigeria its like I left a huge comfort zone to be suffering here..

Togo is new African London and can't wait to be back

You are so shallow minded!

You forgot where the problems are coming from. There is no fucking job in the country. No good roads, no electricity, no hospitals, no working economy. Politics is a real business here.

Yet you are blaming guys who are trying to survive. What do you want them to do? Fold their arms and die of hunger?

You are just condemning them without providing alternative to the solution. You are not talking about how our political leaders are pushing our money back to overseas.

You studied outside the country that is why you have the mouth to condemn others who are trapped in this shit hole.

I am not supporting evil or anything. But look at the cause of the crimes.

Get yourself educated bro.

Don't mind the Op. He is probably a teen boy. You can tell he is angry his mom wanted to leave her lecturing job. Probably his mom is providing for him.

He also condemn Africa and how low mentality is killing us. He will never understand what a culture is. Even in Universities in U.S the have some cultural classes offered in their curriculum.

His mom could not secure a visa, so she couldn't not go and visit. Mother's love their grandkids.

Op is a teen. She doesn't know how hard it's to have a new born in the house. He is not married yet. He doesn't understand why we still practice that culture. Even white people do it. Someone who has never been to Ghana is condemning our culture. Get sense!

For the guy who is having issues with his family. Bro be careful. Our actions and words can never be forgotten. Mind what you say or do around your mother inlaw. Please don't defend your mom simply because she is your mom. You didn't tell us what happened. Your wife will not just pick a fight with your mom just like that. Be reasonable, stand on the truth.

Your wife is passing through a lot. Emotional stress, sleepless nights, pains etc. Just leave the woman alone. Having a baby is not a joke. Depression might be kicking in.

Good luck.

Kobojunkie:
I don't understand understand the tradition at all but I do realize that some women need help of other women especially after her first birth or maybe in situation where depression or some other illness keeps her from being able to properly care for herself and her husband is unable to take time off to care for her..

Feminists12:
Hey I'm new here. Need to meet a guy, no long story. If you have a big dick send me on my whatsapp number on

08166649443

Size really don't count for me. Send it, I just need a sex buddy.

She's not on whatsapp. Lol