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@Kenny G    I understand what u are trying to say. But look at it from the point of marriage bliss. How will u be happy for an unfilled married life simply because you got involved with sombody you considered a lover but actually he or she doesn't want to learn how to be one!?

@ Ani Lee You made a good point there,no doubt about that. But read that question again. Some, may be few, really are dumb when it comes to how to floe nicely with the opposite sex.

I believe u got what I meant but if not.Consider this: some had complained that their lovers aren't active in bed or doesn't even know how to flow in the bedroom games,and always defend themselves that they are waiting till after wedding. My question is:somebody who doesn't know how to and doesn't wana learn.Is it when married he or she will learn? It is important because there are some ladies that believe that once they get past wedding they can relax.You can real,no doubt about that but it is important to note that attraction and re-attraction you lover should be a life time thing!

I get this question from worried lovers.Sometimes the other partner may not know that his or her lover is seeing him or her as a romantic novice[and as such thinking seriously of what happens to his love life in future]. Now lets look at it this way, what one thing do you want your lover to change for him or her to appear more romantic to you? Have you discussed it with your partner? Is he or she the type that wants to save ALL the sexy fire till after wedding? But do you think he or she is teachable? Be plain in your answers and go ahead to LOVE RIGHT.

It sounds here as if engagement ring or whatever symbol is more important that the two parties involved. The ring is just an ornament but what makes it unique is the feeling between the two persons who exchanged the ring. Now, if by any reason,those two persons seize to see themselves as love birds, why would they bother who takes the rings? Does it somehow mean they two may still be nursing some passion for each other? If you are in this situation now,I pray you sincerely answer the above questions!

I want this to be very simple and to the point but i had been asked same questions [though indirectly] by lots of person who can not reconcile why or how some women reason when it comes to love and relationship.
ONE. Why do some women spend so much time and energy building a relationship only to abandon it at a slight flash of greener position somewhere?

TWO. Who also do some women stay glued to some men who treat them real bad and will readily complain to everybody how devilish the guy is but goes at the back to still continually sleep with the same guy? Hey! don't get me wrong,I want our women folks here to help us with sincere answers.I am writing from experience.

I have more on this but i think we have to look at these two questions here first.Be frank, so that some people may be able to grab some points from your views,

LOVE RIGHT!

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@great22,
u got it RIGHT here:men are in sizes.I do not agree with those that says here they do not know what they may be doing initially when love struck.If you cant see at the initial stage,there is every tendency that by the time you open your eyes,you may have slept too much and as such made some senseless mistakes.There are still tonnes of REAL guys out there but take this from me:"LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE", So you young woman,who do you attract?

Lets watch out see the kind of ladies that will turn up there.I strongly believe that no lady worth her salt will subject herself to this kind husband-search show, PERIOD

I really do not know that direction we are going to in this Niaja.Is it a must that we will continue to "follow-follow" at all cost?Even if what we are following defies ALL moral enclave.

@190,
There is this Bible verse i am so fond of: "unless two agree,they will not walk together".We are never told how or on what terms to agree.My point here is,if the agreement you have is slapping each other and you guys are confortable with it.who am I to come in.Have fun and Love Right!

@190,
U mean u are being slapped and u are loving it!.this is interesting,maybe that is why you two are still together and still will for long time.Pray it does not go beyond 'mere' slapping,CHEERS

@poster,
go here now and get your eyes opened: http://ezinearticles.com/?Attraction,-Being-Romantic---Be-a-Better-Companion-and-Lover&id=2154869

@Sissy,
U are very right Honey.
Truth is good but not so many can admit,

@Euchena,
So your conclusion is that your 'dirty' husband juju life is because he is from Anambra.I have never involved myself in public word-lashing any poster but you really tempted me to.I am not saying this because i come from Anambra,but do you know that what you wrote here will be contested by even your 3 year old daughter[if you have one?]Did you go to school atall?Because i can see that your world is TOOOOOO small.You look at the world from a todlers angle.Please gro up,for the sake of your neighbors and your so-called church memembers.I would have sympatised with you for being unfortunate and marrying a YESTERDAY'S man,who does not know that its only God that being worshipped now but you spoilt your case by saying its because he came from Anambra.I wish you do not train your children with this kind of VERY LOW thinking you have.

For those saying that Imo girls are this and that,i think they are getting it ALL wrong.on the contrary,Imo girls are more loyay than Anambra girls,YES!I stand to be corrected but i know what i am talking of and will be going to IMo real soon, wait for your IVS

@Poster,
u were not specific on your request here.where are u intending to travel to, another Country?A different City in your Country?, U see there are two different situations here in the adventure travel.So please be specific, i may be of help to you, LIVE RIGHT!

Will you consider divorce if you catch him or her 'RED' handed with another person?
Will you also consider divorce if he or she consults a native doctor for what-ever reason?
Will you also think of divorce if she is just wasteful and doesnt care for you or the kids anymore?
For me, I can only think of divorce if she sees or even THINK of seeing a native doctor [for whatever reason].Any other ones can be amended,she can be changed and BROUGHT BACK HOME TO WHERE WE STARTED',

What about?There is no kind of situation in love and relationship that can not be revived, the solution may be very close to you that you will shed tears of joyed when you let someone into your hurt and discover how easy you can actually live and be happy again, LOVE RIGHT!

Gov Fashola For President!

@our friend in pugatory or something,
I started this thread with one reason in mind,JUST TO EDUCATE, u can not educate when u are harsh,, please do not scare our angels away, i really want them to see reasons why they should look trim and sexxy even 20, to 30 years after marriage.
I keep repeating that being on the fat side is unhealthy too,apart from physical 'enticement'

The health effect of having less fat is even more reason to try and be a little be on the shapy side[both men and women]

@lady bam,
i never say all the women, i said most and if you look around its just the truth.I actually raised this issue because most women doesnt know that the best time to be sexxy, in the real designated manner is when married and you will be that more appealling to your hubby if you take a little effort in keeping shape, am i right?, Tease himonce more with you figure, he will long to be there,

Welllllllll

Some may be unlucky to have 'troublesome' mothers BUt how troublesome?So troublesome that she gave birth to you,man and you the lady who marries his son?Anyway, i count myself blessed because ALL three women we have married to us are really in love with the great mum, doesnt have proble atall, Conside this, this kinda opinion most youg and unmarried girls have here will affect the way the relate thier MILs and at the end of the day they invite hatred and get same!SHOW HER SOME LOVE, SHE WILL RECIPROCATE!

@Poster,
how did you get to this thinking? IN CAPITAL LETTER, YOU GOT IT ALL WRONG!MOST LADIES I KNOW LOVE THIER MOTHER-IN-LAW.come to think of it,if you love your man so dearly,why dont you just extend that to everything and anyone that is his? and vthe other way round for guys too