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Owoayo,

I can only tank God. I also hope it will be a pleasant experience. thank you.

Ehenh!!!

Uche2nna u r the one i've been looking for. I was reading one of your replies not too long ago.

Perhaps i can summarise it in one q. "why were u supporting the guy that cheated on the gurl by urging her to give him another chance?"

Should guys be forgiven for nipping out?

Madam is waiting.

Evil my darling dont hate.

These are my real sistas here showing me support.

Nuff luv gurls.

Snazzy,

might as well aint it, he's out of my life. Well no, he's alive and kicking, in a town near me, just with somebody else maybe.

Thanx anyways.

Hey lush,

Can a sister not introduce herself to those she feels welcome amongst.

Im happy to be here, and wanna express the "privilege" of meeting yall.

OK

No,

remember in Coming to America (Eddie murphy). Their Kingdom was Zamunda. A symbol of true african-ness.

thanx yall.

Cabali darling are we attached?  Coz you look , 

Anyways, thats not the point.

I miss my baby.  I think the thing i miss most is that feeling of home everytime i was with him.  I still can't shake it even after the break up.

Right now im sitting at Uni, by a computer its late, its cold, im hungry and im going to be here till about 7 or 8 am.   

And i get this over whelming urge to just  go and lie in his arms.  His voice made me feel home.  The silly way he slept with his head up.  He always said that people who slept on their backs will go to heaven.  And id ask how about me, i sleep on the side - he'd reply "you will also go to heaven - just sideways"!  He was so silly, so silly that boy.

And i miss him so bad, its like im missing a part of myself.   I missed calling him Daddy.

And in my phone, i'd put his name in dollar signs so it would come to the top of the list like so:  $Daddy$.

I miss his voice.  I miss the way he always joked and was always happy.  I miss kissing him for ever and he'd just lie there flat, in complete surrender.

Last Christmas we had like a little xmas thing with friends.  Later on me and him monopolised the sofa, and he lay on his back while i lay on top of him,  and were with them but in our own little world. The two of us drunk a whole bottle of port between us.  And we were talking senselessly but still making sense, i kissed him and kissed him and kissed him and kissed him, and yet he just lay there, like a little teddy bear, in complete surrender.  He felt so safe.

I miss him but i've done a lot of growing since.  I know now, that God is my first.  I need Him most.  And i went the best.  Ive done my mistakes, but i want to leave it to God now.

Father, please take care of my baby.  Tell him i love him.  And that i miss him badly.  Help him grow in the ways that you believe is best.  Do not surrender him to the power of the enemy.  Turn the bad to your glory and good. 

Let him become the best he can by your strength.  Help him succeed Lord.  God Speed to him.


ANY DAY I LIVE,  THIS MAN, THIS MAN - TO HIM I WILL TAKE MY HAT OFF FOR, because the strength he possessed, was out of this world.   God speed to you my baby.

All my love take care.

Take care honey.

thanx

No sweat matey.

I know how you feel. At least for me, im at a point were i feel that dull ache, and its the best place to come after working thru so much drama and trauma.

I m beginning to look up again, and feel more positive about living again. I will try and fly again - even though i fell before.

I just pray for my baby, that God must take care of him please.

Before if you asked me to hear the words "its over" i'd literally sweat. Now im like, its ok.

It happens. So keep up that hill, after getting to the top, it only gets easier as you go down.

Take care bruv.

White boy,

I'm curious to know, how did you make it to the land of Naira.

Are u white for sure?

Yea,

She still hasnt answered maybe she will answer when she changes the picture!!!!

Just joking baby jay, we've got nothing but luv 4 ya sista.

Akindayor,

If i had a boyfriend who was working in an oil rich company! Wats the deal-eo!

All im saying is that human beings are funny especially when it comes to love. I can understand that yes, she needs to find herself and stuff, but why cant she find herself if she is married to you?

I'd let you pay all the bills while i stayed home and carried out my business ventures - but still love and respect you.

All im saying is, YOU are the best person to decide. With the info you gave us, we can only give you so much advice. You gotta be honest with yourself. On a daily basis is she showing signs of affection etc etc.

I have a feeling that if the only problem in your relationship was that 1 yr marriage issue you wouldnt be on this forum.

Now listen to what i told you earlier, to me, you seem to be putting in far much effort than she is, thats just the impression i get.

You need to test her love for you, if you gonna spend 70 years together.

Its from love i talk. I dont like people wasting each others times in relationships when they could be much farther in life.

If anything, think about yourself, and find somebody who can reciprocate at least 50% of that love.

Do this:

1. Go to bed alone
2. Switch off the lights
3. You are now safe to think properly without any body "over hearing you"
4. Calm yourself down
5. Ask yourself (Be crudely honest)

1. Do I love her (I bet u do anyways)
2. Has she always returned my gestures of love even halfway (be it a smile, flowers, money)
3. Does she seek extra time in her schedule to spend it with me.
4. Would she give me the last of her anything, i.e. calling credit, time,
5. Does she talk about our future.

Ask yourself, dont hate.

Mukina you feel me!!!

For some reason once the know you love them thats it. And candy lips i think it happens more with men.

You give me the creeps.


Do you intend to provide them with text messages too, and a future and a home? And a Black mercedes, convertible? And black diamonds?

My geuss is youve lost interest and found someone new, and want our permission to help you get over your guilty conscience of having to let her go now.

For starters mate, we are not an authority.

Its your responsibility, your conscience and you will pay for this.

2.5 years and your realise all this now? Like its come to you in some dazy wave.

Short? excuses excuses excuses.

Ok then, if thats what you want.

DONT WASTE YOUR TIME.

1 YR is too early to try and marry somebody anyways.  But having said that she should still display positive signs she is moving in your direction.

you can't force anybody to love you, its an act of the will to which they have a right.

So if i were you id give her a deadline, if she don't meet it - say bye bye.

The way she acts now, has loads of future implications,  the love between you is leaning too much on one side - ur side. 

Spend time apart.  1 week or whatever, or month.  then see if it will work.

Dont waste time ok, if she is slow now, she will be slow in your whole marriage, then you will always be the one to do the work. 

Use these experiences as useful pointers.

Thanx yall. Yes eddie welcome too. thanx Muki.

Have you seen "the wedding singer" with adam sandler. Similar thing.

That i love him.

When men find out you love them they take the mick out of you.

How did you manage to stay so patient!!!!!!!!!! 6 years!!!

1 - 2 years tops is enuff for me. if he wont deliver then, please take a hike.

And ya, dont take him back. I once heard men have so much power in them that when they want something they really go and get it. If he didnt come to get you, he just wasnt that into you.

Fold up and move on properly.

cool. might consider it is an option then!

Jay baby if you are married to a short guy whose that striking tall one on your post? Its not your ex is it, coz then you may have moving on issues - hehe

nice, i may actually try a visit one of these fine days. I wouldnt give a biased opinion on the UK, thats why i would urge you to talk to different people. Its just that personally - its ok if you wanna like travel and visit and even stay for a year or so. But more than that is out of order unless you have an excellent social and financial network.

People hit me wit your opinions.

I just broke up with my naija bobo.  (I'm not nigerian).  But our relationship had so many insecurities because everybody kept telling me "is he nigerian! leave him".   They said that these men always married their own from their village - in the end.

Needless to say i kept up with my baby.  And wow!  It was great until we broke up.


Ok but seriously if i date a naija bobo is there reason that i fear that he will revert to his IGBO route.

The midlands. Would you say life is ok there abouts? I mean how are the people and prospects for future success and all. Uk is ok, but it tends to be iffy for people of colour when it comes to climbing up that golden ladder.

oh cool. i live in the uk. happy new year. do you like it in toronto?

jus fine thanx. are u male/female. asking tho ur name implies female.

Hey all,

Been checkin out ya forum, found it really insightful, funny, frustrating and the lot.

Just wanted to introduce myself. African female in UK.

My dream is to see my black african race unite and help each other up a higher ladder, instead of competing with one another.

For all in the UK, to go back to the one true God of israel. He doesnt hurt, and so you don't have to be perfect to know Him. Just be yourself.

Love you all.

The ideal place to open your legs is in marriage, apart from that you become "cheap" in his site (even when he doesnt want to think it).

Find someone you havent slept with, and make a fresh new start by wiping your relationship slate clean.

No hard feelings.

Time heals everything.

Coco y u r speechless? if i had to choose between a shortish man (2 inches less) who is good to me and a tall guy who is bad to me - id obviously go for a good guy despite the height thing ok?!!

I dont know why you strike me as someone who is trying to praise themselves in a weird sort of twisted way

IF you are genuinly trying to attract a femme and she mistakens your seriousness for a quick fix --- then maybe you ARE giving off some sort of air?

Go and check yourself out.

Dont hate.