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cant reform a man. absolutely true.

adeboo (f)

But i kind of agree with OgaMadam - if a guy knows you are too into him, he will take that for granted. But like the advice says, we should make ourselves less available, but tats so hard though.

but do you know that thats a game. if you finding your playing too many games with a man, there is a problem. Cause you dont need to work too hard to keep his interest.

having said that, if your always in his face, he gets SICK of you. absence creates mystery. mystery makes relationships last.

mekoyo,
THANKYOU!

Your the only one that has replied precisely.

anyways, i do have friends, who have dated nigerian guys, and they are african, i.e. Zambian, and they have succeeded (and still are going out).  but its just that they have doubts they would ever live up to the standards of a nigerian woman.

I have heard it said "SHE IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO BE IGBO".

So why can't i ask that question if as a non-nigerian person, im looking for advice about igbo customs etc.  i look to get serious with my boyfriend, and i have taken recipes so i can learn how to cook his food and all. 

at the end of the day his happiness is important to me, and i as lady, cause ladies usually adjust to a man, have to learn how to cook for him.

In my culture we have customs too. customs can help amongst other things to keep relationships going. one of our customs is when a child is born, it has to be taken to grandparents, and other influential people in the family. If its female, a band of beads has to be put around its little waist. i am not saying we all have to follow custom but i would like to know, what my husbands customs are. is that a sin?

I just came here so people could teach me different things.  And im not only saying online is the place to learn this, other places too, from friends etc, this is just for me another source of information.

Anyways Mekoyo, thanx for your answer.  i was needing that.

dakmanzero, word.

veira you said to jesqueen

It is not an insult if you are actually chinese but if you are nigerian then it is an insult.

I just find it perplexing that your phrasing of english sounds exactly like what I would expect of certain nigerians.

It is possible she is chinese you know. its not only nigerians that talk that way. maybe she been around the guy for long, now she picked up his habits - namely language.

Another angry bitter ranting little cow.

what do we do with your type hey?

Better "reco'nise".

Excellent stuff. keep up the good work

I DONT HAVE TO DEFEND WHAT TRUTH I HAVE.

pic your battles WISELY honey.

Quit being twitchy. SHADY LYSSA

Sartorious, or how do i spell your name sorry.

anyways, as long as your happy. but i hope you also understand that those pics are actually NOT me.

read the whole post carefully and you will see that its just 2 african people (probably Kenyan) chatting with each other.

I had a laugh myself when i saw this, so i had to share it wit yall.

Nuff Luv

Madam.

to males and females.

any time you dispaly too much for anybody.

they take advantage of you.

give love stingily. so it can last forever. when you give it all at one go, whats left for the future.

as you give, let her give a bit as well, if yous the only one giving, what sense is that.

slow down.

wonderful

Abi

No jokes,

he has made about 9 posts in the time he been here. and thats like 30 minutes.

money, why dont you condense your thoughts enh? i am begging you. please.

Love from

Sugar Nonoza.

Yous begginning to annoy me now money. quit making them posts separately.

Short men must marry tall women.

Tall men must marry short women.

this brings balance.

WHY ARE YOU CREATING SOOOO MANY POSTS LIKE THIS. WHY DONT YOU JUST SQUASH ALL YOUR THINGIES INTO ONE POSTS.

YOUR OVERCROWDING NAIRALAND.

Its tricky,

cause if you show you love a man too much he walks all over u.

Her husband is just waiting for her to do something wrong. maybe its an excuse he is using to make her "dump herself" if you get what i mean.

i think he wants out of the marriage and when she cheats, he is gonna say "aha! told you so".

if i am gonna leave somebody, i wont stoop to a low level to leave them. that is self disrespect. walk away like a queen.

thats all i gotta say about that.

SISMOSE

whats so about $Daddy$?

u gaan dit man?

wat gaan an?

later.

Vieira "poorly educated nigerian"  NICE.

anyways.
jesqueen you said Hell yea,i do have frnds like that as u said. Besides,don't tell me that people in your country never divorce
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Close your little eyes.  and breath deeply.  then read my post CAREFULLY.

EVEN people in china divorce honey.  what we are trying to say is that, nigerian dudes have a special track record.

i am african and i still gotta watch my back.  all im sayin is, if yous that interested, test and weigh him to make sure.

AND

I MUST SAY YOUR QUITE AGGRESSIVE FOR A CHINESE.  YOU HOLD YOUR GROUND QUITE WELL.  TOO WELL.

I think yall missing my point.

I came to this forum.  Yes, my boyfriend and i are both african.  I am proud of where i come from.  but also understand i have MANY nigerian friends ok?  I dont want anybody to just put one and two together and know that it is me.  

I need opinions ok.  If i was marrying from my own tribe, i would need no help cause i know my customs.  this questions is for the IGBO people out there aiight?  is that hard?

And now, the best thing

is i am being accused of being a fake.  

I love you people but yous all beginning to vex me.

Someone could also say they are igbo.  but that doesnt mean they are NOT nigerian.
They have just drawn a distinction.  

I could say.  "I am nigerian and my boyfriend is yoruba".  ok?

Its just because i dont want any of my friends to know am on this forum. what if my boyfriend finds out? i want to solve my problems, cause if i say were i come from it will be easy to pinpoint me?

how do i know what people come on here? they could be my next door neighbours.

how about i invite you to my wedding.
anyway, ill see yall tomorow.

nuff luv

duiker,

u gaan dit man?

ek is jammer tog. en ek prat t met die mense van ierie post.

wat maak jy nou.

ek sal met jou later prat ne? as ek moet now gaan.

dankie my scat.

But for how long have these marriages gone on jesqueen?

you need to test the track record before you can say anything.

if you have naija and chinese friends married for like 5 years, and have loads of kids, have settled down, and been to each other house, then you can talk.

thats it,

enjoy yourselves. letting this rip.

no hard feelings.

i have nothing but love for yall.

Lots of love

Madam.

like i go around making up problems that dont exist.

its ok, my beautiful brothers and sisters, your suspiciousness is OBVIOUSLY not getting you anywhere.

WHHHHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

would i waste time to prove something that is already proven?

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chill out.

i know this girl, and i have always liked her threads, but i just didnt notice that she was "missing"

Dirt that i even forgot about.

thank God i tell the truth.

I-man

thanx a million!


how can i thank you for digging up the dirt on me

WWWWWWWWWWWHHHHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

In the world would i go to such great lengths only to prove am nigerian?

yall, it doesnt make sense. i only am familiar with all this your nigerian culture because of all my friends.

i have dated nigerian guys, and compared to white guys i think they crack it for me. please.

i have gone nigerian now i cant go back.

etse jy!

moenie lig nie. jy gaan naija tu? hoe kom? en wat werk? ek is a bietjie bang vir jy. jy sal honger wees maar het jy nie a frau in kaap stadt?

n' kleurling.

now hoe kom sook jy a mense van hierie land.

I saw her. in Animal and Sontin

No i havent why?