₦airaland Forum

Nn3muka:
If you are a brolosho, you will end up with an olosho.
If you patronize prostitutes, you will end up with kajad akuna aka retired hoe.
If you are a responsible man, a responsible woman will locate u
What you give is what you get.

Are you new to life? Because the exact opposite is what happens inside life

Ineedtoheal:
Hi Famlanders, Please I need your advice. I beg you all to save a sister. I have to bring this here coz I know it's where I will get wonderful contributions. Again, I am using this new account coz I have friends and customers here. I don't want to blow my cover. Please this is real and not fiction. This will be quite lengthy, please bear with me.

I met this guy in 2013 when I was in year one. It was not a steady relationship coz we barely call nor see so I didn't take him serious. And whenever we see, it was always at one friends house or another. I accused him of being married but he vehemently denied it. Later on I figured out he had accommodation issue after he lost his job. He later rented a house when he got another job with one of our prestigious federal universities here in Nigeria and that was when things became serious (kinda).

We became very serious around 2016 that is why I count it as 5 years instead of 7. But then during one of my visits, I was sleeping in the room when I overheard him talking to someone but the only thing that caught my attention was when he said "I don't even have a girlfriend". Though I didn't confront him, but I thought about it deeply.

Two nights ago, I had a dream where he was getting married to another lady. I was crying while he was still saying he loves me but can't marry me. I confronted him yesterday, he said I am pressurizing him to marry me that was after he first asked what will happen if we don't end up together. He hasn't told me where the relationship is leading to after 5 years. We have been living for the moment. Just for the moment!

Few info about the relationship


The love he proclaims for me is not enough for him to marry. I have wasted enough time already. Maybe hearing the raw truth here will help.

It’s not that you don’t have sense, it’s just that the D is sweet and you don’t have sense

1. Tinubu was not a governor or a civil servant when the event happened.

2. There is no witness who has said that the money inside the van was more than the max amount allowed by law, 10m before its money laundering. On the other hand, their is a witness to the amount lf fayoses own, 200m, which obviously is above the limit. For tinubu, there is yet no evidence that a crime has been committed. And the event didnt happen as far back as the one of fayose so they may still be investigating it.

3. Maybe some of Tinubu's friends are bullion drivers. Maybe the owner of Bankers Warehouse is Tinubu's friend.

4. Yes Tinubu has probabaly comiited some crimes but you need evidence. Yall can start investigating and whistleblow. Do something for your country.

5. We cannot convict people from our sitting rooms without evidence

6.EFCC is free to prosecuit whoever they have evidence against

7 People who defend criminals by pointing to other criminals that must be prosecuited first, those people who say that are stupid, ignorant, idiots and they are one of the biggest problems we have in this country.

8. I am happy for Tinubu to be convicted whenever there is evidence against him but all criminals are fair game. Even when the motive of the prosecution is political, getting a criminal off the street always benefits Nigerians.

Invisible123:
I thought about it but I will rather dwell on a solution than bug her with such issues. She is in so much emotional stress, she's pregnant and I don't want anything that will make the situation worse.

I will confront her when the time is right and I will rather not waste my time on what is done.

That is very mature bro. You're right, this is not the time for such talks. Trust would naturally increase over time anyways. You have the rests of youre lives to keep developing the trust.

There's no need to worry about genotype thingy either. She's AA.

You're under a lot of pressure. There's the usual cold feet, the annoying stress of planning a wedding, and the sense of responsibility for two vulnerable human beings at thesame time: compounded by genotype uncertainties manafactured by incompetent scientists.woops! You'll be fine. The only way out is through.

You are asking the wrong question. You don’t have a genotype problem.

The question you should be asking is why your wiife waited till after introduction to show you the “wrong” result and what that means in terms of trust levels, on both side

festacman:
- As an adult, Chioma willingly cohabited with Davido.
- Davido openly declares his love for Chioma in a song titled "Assurance", asking water to carry him away if he jilts her. Eventually, Chioma became pregnant for Chioma.
- Subsequently, both Davido and Chioma's families have formally met and are fully aware that their children intend to marry.
- Davido not only witnessed the birth of Ifeanyi but signed his birth certificate as his father.
- Davido, in the presence of members of both his and Chioma's families, named his son David Ifeanyi Adeleke at a public event.
- Ever since the birth of Ifeanyi, Davido has assumed and performed all necessary paternal duties.
- Currently, Chioma still lives with Davido and gives her body freely to him.

In view of foregoing and given that since the birth of Ifeanyi, no man has surfaced to make any paternity claim, I hereby insist and affirm that Ifeanyi Adeleke is biologically and legally Davido Adeleke's son.

As your Lordship pleases! Court!!

Graxie:
Those of you supporting him, continue until he is arrested by police in the name of raiding. This days they raid, take your phone and send you to a different dungeon. Sometimes they even place gun on your chest and tag you thief. A man is not working, can't he look for something to engage himself? Are there no menial jobs? All I see is a lazy man who doesn't want the kids to know that he is lazy. Madam, press ignore button, stop talking to him about late night. Make it a habit to ignore. With time he will come to his senses. Why wouldn't he be lazy? You are providing for the family, he feels he has nothing to worry about. Assuming he knows you are jobless and there is no hope, I bet you he will be very busy searching for how to feed you guys.

Have you used this ignore format on your husband and it worked?

Ouchbabe:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders,

I have been married for 8years now. My husband is nice and caring but I don't like the fact that he likes moving at night. He comes home as late as 12am.

He is currently looking for a job now and most times his reason for coming home late is because he is hanging out with friends. I have discussed this issue with him severally and expressed that I don't like his night movement. On such occasions he will promise not to come home late but the promise is never kept. I have told him the dangers of moving late in a city like Lagos.

The annoying part is that he is not coming home late from work rather because he i s with friends. Most times our young children will stay up late hoping to see him before going to bed but they will wait in vain as he will not be home before they will sleep off.

Note: Even though I'm working, I make sure the house is clean and food ready before he comes home. I don't nag and I'm good looking.

Pls I need suggestions on how to make him stop this night waka.

Please move to front page for wider view

If I was jobless, I wouldn't want to sit at home. It'll make me depressed.

Officialgarri:
The west has the best performing governors.

From Sanwo to Makinde to Akeredolu et cetera

Desist from making divisive comments.

Abidob:
Hello house,
My sister has a 2years visa that will expire 2021. But unfortunately she misplaced her passport few days ago. She’s already filling to get another passport but is it possible to get the visa? Anyone with solutions on what she needs to do to get the visa back. She also has a copy of the lost passport.. It is urgent. Thanks in anticipation

Getting the new Nigerian passport is much harder than getting a replacement visa.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/transferring-a-visa-to-a-new-passport-ecb17/transferring-a-visa-ecb17#ecb172-replacing-a-visa-or-leave-where-this-has-been-lost-or-stolen-excluding-30-day-short-validity-travel-vignettes

Next2Bezee:
Keep quiet!

LOL. You sha want to "leave" this life by force..

Next2Bezee:
Something is seriously wrong with you. If you know that her beauty was an issue for you, why did you lead her on for so long? You have already wasted her time and ruined her life, but it's better to leave her than cheat on her.

Don't be surprised if you don't find a girl more beautiful than her, and even if you do, she won't care for you as much as this jilted girl did.

Please, leave her; let her soulmate find her. We have one life to leave: stop wasting hers.

One life to "live"

Kobicove:
I knew his assassination had something to do with money

All assassinations have something to do with money

Ebenezar2020:
ode ni e

Ode ni baba e

Witchersunited:
how does giving police money end at Fulani killing people?

U're being tribal, look at the map again, how many people have they killed in the south west that ure raising false alarm?

If they are killing their own people more than you doesn't that explain alot to you? Must everything be tribal, na wa

You are mad. Does the North not have JTF and Sharia Police?

So we should wait until they kill hundreds of our people? You obviously don't value human lives. So 5 lives is nothing to you ba?

Idiots. We don't have dozens of children like you . We have few per family and we must protect them.


Talking about OPC, have you ever heard of militancy or terrorism pepetrated by the southwest? You have not and can never hear of such!

Ebenezar2020:
Femi Falana has outgrown his relevance.
He should shove his opinion down his ass.

Femi Falana is not your father's mate talk less of you. Especially when it comes to knowledge, experience and patriotism. Shut the Bleep up.

whytepawn1:
@the bolded...
Not an option. She is one in a million.

There are 180million people in Nigeria. So if she is 1 in a million, there are 180 people just like her. Most of them young and about half of them would be female.

franchasng:
Don't try what the op said he did, its not advisable, its only good for reading and entertainment not to be practiced.

They were lucky to have escaped poverty as a result of their irrational decision. Marriage is not a do or die affair, if you can't afford it, stay single

Keep working, praying and improving on your finance, don't be in a rush, focus on improving your current financial earnings pls, don't marry with that salary, it has landed so many Nigerians into generational poverty, and reason we have so many poor Nigerians today.

What if they didn't get a job??

...

What's the difference between an underemployed bf and gf, and an underemployed husband and wife? There financial situation is still thesame if they don't have kids.

They may even be better off married because now they pay only one rent instead of two separate rents, nepa bills, and other expenses that can then be combined. Its cheaper for two people to live together than separately, that's why we get flatmates or room mates.

The only exception is with house wives and house husbands who would depend on the other party exclusively. But two employed people that can each take care of their own personal needs, would definitely save money by living together.

In summary,

If you avoid big weddings, postpone child bearing to focus on your goals, and temporarily avoid family demands, then getting married makes more financial sense than staying in a long term relationship, provided both parties have sense.

whytepawn1:
My fiancee doesn't want to reason along that line with me....I must get married before the year runs out , God willing.

If you can't change the date you want to marry, maybe you can change the person you want to marry, if she is not ready

elantraceey:
Personally I don't like flamboyant weddings but you see my sweet mama? She'll have none of it, lol and I'll do whatever will make her happy. Wedding is a one day stuff but with a memory that'll last a lifetime, Whichever way you do it now that seems to be trendy will be so obsolete when you're discussing to your grandchildren tomorrow so just do what makes you and those around you happy and also within your means.

Stop lying to yourself. It's not just your mum. You like flamboyant weddings too.

MissSlimbody:
I wish I could like your comment a thousand times.
You are the real deal. ���

Thanks a lot..

shogsman:
Only kids keep hairs, if you is a grown ass man you gotta shave every bit of that shit.

You're obviously more grown than Wole Soyinka.

lefulefu:
lol i cut my hair monthly but i dont shave it to bald headed level(stone cold steve austin type abolo)..i just trim it down a little to make it look neat then i use hair cream.but for using hair relaxers..hmmm ...if i may ask are u a christ embassy member?

LOL @ the christ embassy thing. I have been doing those things practically all my life and I have attended almost every church including christ embassy. I don't have Jerry curl or anything like that. The only thing you'd see in my hair is that it's always full and well combed. You'll probably just thing I'm one of those lucky ones that have manageable hair.


Back to the topic....


Well, if you like your hair low, cut it low.

But if you prefer an afro or a longer hair, don't cut just because it's hard to comb. There are things you can do. And those things are not that hard, just do it for 30 days and it becomes an habit.

I guess that's my whole point

Yxxx:
Blushing...I'm so inlove with this comment and its owner.

Thanks dear

Olulinks:
Thanks for this. As a mna that cares about his hair...



It's the number 3 that I do a lot. I have comb in my car, and office. I comb anytime I observe scattered or rough hair. Meanwhile, am not so fashion conscious like that.

Thanks man. You don't have to do all three. But maybe buy a conditioner. It'll make combing easier. These products are created to make our lives easier.

1Sharon:


Why don't you cut your hair instead of applying unhealthy relaxer?

I like to have a full hair. Do you have a research finding that says relaxers are unhealthy?

I have noticed that most of us men don't care about personal grooming. If your hair is l stubborn, most men would simply cut it low instead of looking for a way to make it soft and style it in a way that looks better.


I am not one of those men. I love my hair. So I do the following:

1. Relaxer: This only softens it. I comb my hair while the relaxer is in it. It trains the hair to allow me comb in that direction. Please note that my hair is so tough that you wouldn't even know after I applied relaxer, once it's dried. The main effect is that is much easier to comb for the next 1 week or 2. I use ebony relaxer, it's cheap and it helps darken my Grey hair.

2. Conditioner: I recommend leave-in conditioner. Be very generous with it. But buy one that you like the smell. So that'll encourage you to use it. Apply generously to your hair then use a big enough comb.

3.Comb at midday: if your hair is as stubborn as mine. Combing once a day may not cut it. Put a comb in your car, laptop bag or pocket so you can quickly use it during the day. You simply entre a rest room and comb your hair, it's allowed.

For those of you that would say I am less of a man for doing all that. Don't worry, I agree with you. Ya'll are the real men. I am just the man that likes my hair and how I look.

crackhaus:
This is me trying to respond as civilly as I can:

1. What gives you the impression that I am bothered by your assumptions about me enough to want to deny, confirm, or explain anything?

2. Why do you even care in the first place?

Did you just insult all women and ask why a woman cares about your comment?

ZombieTERROR:
Money laundering is a serious crime
Desist from supporting Evil this 2020

What is money laundering? Check the definition in the dictionary. And tell me what your evidence is.

SLAP44:
You are not making sense, what do you mean?

You are the one not making sense.

Very stupid remark!

You are effectively saying unless we can arrest everybody at once, we should not start from somewhere.

So we should leave the politicians that steal billions and pursue the police man that collects 50 naira on the road?

That's the most stupid submission I have heard this year!! We should leave the people that are embezzling the police man's or other peoples salary and arrest the police man. Ode!

ZombieTERROR:
Tinubu the bullion van master is roaming around freely...... Sai barber is fighting corruption

Which section of the constitution says bullion vans should not entre my house?

healthserve:
From today. I hear the Lord telling me to warn you to stop telling people about how proudof your wife you are and how good she is.. You're advised to tone it down. Online, offline. I'm sure you understand what I mean

Ode. Fear Monger and Fake Pastor