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cruzita:
nice one op but for Nigeria this one na story story

Maybe yes to some extent, but it does work for the 'matured-minds'

Therefore will I give thanks unto thee, O LORD, among the heathen, and sing praises unto thy name (Psalm 18:49).
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Always, it’s important that we learn to thank the Lord for all the wonderful things we experience, and also for those things we may not really consider to be very
nice. Some people are only joyful and thankful to the Lord when things seem to be going on fine,
but gripe in the face of adversity. It ought not to be so.
Irrespective and independent of the situation or your immediate circumstances, you should always give thanks to the Father. Worship and praise Him, no matter what! I’ll tell you a story.
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Some years ago, a Christian gentleman who worked with the Government had been praying and expecting promotions on his job. Then, there was a problem at his office; he was accused of certain things, for which he wasn’t really at fault. So, he prayed that God would vindicate him. Instead of being vindicated, he was pronounced guilty, and
as a result, he was demoted. Everything went wrong for him.
In that state, however, he kept attending Church services, serving and worshipping the Lord, confident that God would
vindicate him.
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Not long afterwards, there was a change of government, and all those who were ahead of him were fired, but he was retained!
And since he was then the most senior of all those that were retained, he became the new boss. If he had been promoted as he had been expecting, he’d have been amongst the senior cadre of staff that were laid off by the new government.
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Sometimes, we have no idea what the Lord is doing behind the scenes on our behalf, which is why the Bible says, "In
everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you" (1 Thessalonians 5:18). "In everything" means "in every situation"; give Him thanks no matter what!
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When you look at the year 2015 in retrospect, be joyful and excited in your spirit, thankful to the Lord for the triumphs and glories you expect
in the coming year.
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Prayer
Dear heavenly Father, I thank you for making 2015 a glorious year for me. You have filled my
heart with praise, worship and thanksgiving. Today, as I render heartfelt songs of worship, praise and thanksgiving to you, they are as a sweet smelling sacrifice, acceptable and well pleasing to you, in Jesus’ Name. Amen.
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Further Study:
Psalm 96:8; Psalm 18:46-49
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lalasticlala, Ishilove, Farano.

First and foremost, my utmost Gratitude goes to God Almighty (Oluwa, Chineke, Allah) for a successful 2015 so far.
Also, i say a 'Big Thank You' to our Nairaland Boss, Seun for Creating Nairaland platform for us all to Teach, Learn, Criticize, Correct and Express ourselves in simplicity.
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For me, i registered since 2013, and throughout 2013 - 2014 i was never active owing to the fact that i was still ignorant about what Nairaland entails and how important this platform is. For those who really don't know, Nairaland is like a school, a school with a difference, a school that is more than a Four-Walls building, a place where you will be thought what you will never get in a Classroom setting Free-off-Charge.
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Since i found out the 'Literal Purpose' of this Platform earlier this year, Gbam, i re-adjusted my sitbelt to fit-in. I will never forget the first Thread i read on Nairaland this year that changed my perspective about the platform totally, the comments/post that followed suit were outer this world too. To the extent i began to wonder and i asked myself a simple question "is this what Nairaland entails?".
And since then, ranging from Family, Romance, Phones, Politics, Computer Sections and the host of others, i would say it was a 'Pass Mark' for me because i have truly learned alot (Threads, Comments and Criticism) they all re-shaped, enlighten and pruned me and still counting.
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Lets stop talking about me. I push it to you Nairalanders, what did you learn on this platform this year 2015?. Share/Give your Testimony below if you have any.
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lalasticlala, Ishilove push this to front page please.

WiLdFLame:
let start giving this year a title,if it was supposed to be a movie. for me after so much up and down throughout the year my title will be: THE DECEITFUL TONGUE!

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My Year of Triumph!
Because i Triumphed in all endeavour... And 2016 will be even Greater!

@ G0ldcircle, Though trusting humans in general is a difficult task. As humans that we are, there is no one among us who has never broke trust, but as the saying goes ''Na who dem catch be Thief.''
You have to know that you can't build trust in one day and trust is one of the most powerful tools if you want to succeed in your relationship. You shouldn't allow your partner know that you are digging out ways to capture his unfaithfulness because in doing so, it will cause many dissaster such as: he becoming uncomfortable with you, loosing confidence and so on.
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But below are some few points that can help you build, develop and know how to trust 'some' in your relationship:
1. Better Communication:
Communication is one of the most important factors in building trust
between partners. Spend more time communicating about your problems instead of sitting on brooding. When it comes to communication, do it face to face. Don’t just do it over Whatsapp, Facebook or phone calls etc, but instead, make it more personal and direct. Do not hold back when faced with relationship issues. When you have something to tell your partner, make sure you do it. Open communication in relationships opens the pathways for trust to develop on.
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2. Have Some Empathy:
Empathy is different to sympathy. It is one of the most important aspects when
it comes to building trust in your
relationships. Have some empathy and try to understand where your partner is
coming from. Determine if the needs of
your partner are being met and try to put
yourself in their shoes. Building a
relationship is a leap of faith and it is therefore important to approach issues in
the relationship from the perspective of
understanding. When you can empathize
with your partner, it will be possible for
you to build the emotional connections
which will lead to increased trust in the relationship.
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3. Foster some Growth in the Relationship:
Growth is an important factor which
powers trust in the relationship. Stagnant
relationships often gravitate quickly into
situations of mistrust. By creating various
scenarios and situations in your relationship where you can do new things and create new memories together, it
will not only give you more to talk about
but it will be easier for you to predict the
behavior of your partner thus develop more trust. Try something new, go camping or simply embark on something that is outside your comfort zone. Don’t hold back on doing something that will inspire, encourage development or inflame your love and trust for each other, be it in public, outside or even inside the room.
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4. Don’t Stress when the Boundaries of the Relationship are Tested:
This is really crucial in building trust in the relationship. You cannot expect it to be smooth-sailing all the way. Without going through all those rocky terrains, it will be impossible to see how much strain the relationship can sustain before you reach your breaking point. That isn’t to say that you should go out of your way to create jealously just to see how your partner might react, just be aware that every relationship comes with its ups and
downs, and that its totally natural. In
many cases, a relationship will meander
through a rocky path at some point, due
to circumstances beyond your control. Life will create hard choices for you personally that will test your tolerance levels. These situations are great for gauging one another and will lead to a greater sense of understanding.
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5. Do Not Keep Secrets:
Trust needs openness. If you are planning
on building a trusting relationship, you
must plan not to keep secrets and be open from the get-go with your partner.
Secrets erode relationships extremely
fast, so it’s important to be honest and upfront about issues that arise together
or individually. The best way to internalize these qualities is by assuming
that all the “secrets” that you know will
eventually come out. Keeping a secret
also requires energy to keep it. When you keep secrets, you are simply overburdening yourself, which will become apparent to your partner very
quickly. Learn to Say No You don’t have to say yes to everything your partner proposes. If you do not like something, simply say no. When you refuse to be subjugated and create a relationship based on equality, it will be easier for both of you, going forward. Don’t pander to the whim of your partner just to keep him/her happy, as it will set a precedent that will be a nightmare to maintain.

Even the Public School opposite my Dad's compound benefited from the Mega Schools Project by the Governor. The buildings are fortified with Modern School needs. Seriously speaking, every administration in Ondo State don't joke with education, mostly from the Grassroots. Government in Ondo State always provide basic learning materials ranging from: Exercise books, Textbooks, Bags sometimes (Uniforms and Sandals) and Slashed fees to the bearest minimum for students in rural areas in the state.

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And finally, you need to see if he’s trying to make you jealous on purpose or that he is actually trying to cheat. If a man is trying to cheat, he WILL NEVER try to do it in front of you (at least no smart man will). That being said, if he’s talking to a woman in front of you, know that he’s probably just talking. Jealousy is an unnecessary emotion, an unnecessary strain that people put on their minds. At the end of the day, if one wants to cheat, he will cheat regardless of the fact that you’re jealous or not.
Acting jealous will only destroy your relationship, regardless of what the other person is doing. With that in mind, what’s the point of wasting your precious energy on something like jealousy when you could be doing a lot more productive things that time. You need to believe in yourself, you need to be sure that the person you’re with has absolutely no reason to cheat on you and if he does do it, then he’s the ONLY one losing out.
If any guy cheats on you, it’s a sign telling you that the relationship was headed down the wrong path from the start, anyway. It wasn’t meant to be. The first thing on your mind should be, "Thank
God this happened now" and not later.

6. Making the Relationship your Ultimate Source of Happiness:

Women need to understand that relationship is a part of their life and not their entire life. Nothing suffocates man more than a woman who relies on him for everything, has nothing going on for herself and is extremely needy. Some women cut off their friends and family as soon as they get into a relationship or meet them rarely, making their man the focus of their lives, thinking this will make your man happy, it won’t. Have a
hobby, some passion, hang out with your friends with no strings attached and
family, have a positive glow. Don’t be boring.
Some men do no like women that are boring. Don’t be one of those girls who forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a man, it never ends well and makes you look needy.
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7. Not Taking Care of Yourself or Letting Yourself go:

It's a shame to see how many women think it’s okay to stop working out and shaving their legs as soon as they’re in a relationship. If anything, you should feel more motivated to make the effort once things are more settled to keep the attraction alive and sexual energy buzzing. It is a common practice by some women, once they are in a long term relationship and they feel secure that the man is in it for the long run especially after marriage and kids, they let themselves go and feel there’s no need to shave your legs, arm pit, work out, wear nice outfits or look good just for your man, like you used to do in the beginning and during your courtship. Women defend this point by saying he should love me at my worst, for my natural look, hey!!! nobody’s asking you to look like Barbie or Iya Sikira 24/7 all that is being asked is to at least look clean, smell nice,
be healthy be presentable.

Remember,now that the relationship has been going on for quite some time it is more important to keep things feeling ‘sexy’ and refreshing.
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8. Being Aggressive and Passive:

Nothing drives men crazier than a woman being passive aggressive, when you clearly look upset but say ‘nothing’ when he asks what’s wrong. Don’t just say nothing and then continue being sad and
weird expecting him to force you into telling him, this will only annoy him because men are more straight forward by nature and it just pisses them off when women act all dramatic about things. If it’s something he did then don’t go for the silent treatment, tell him what’s bothering you, have a discussion about it and if it’s something outside the
relationship then let him help you by
being your support. We all have bad days,
it’s understandable. However, it’s in your
best interest to try and be happy and positive. No one wants to hang around with a Negative Nancy. In general, we’re
drawn to people who are happy and radiate a positive energy. Wake up with a
smile, express gratitude, see the good in
your life and in your relationship. This will not only help you in your relationships, but it will make your life better overall.
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9. Love him not in the way that makes him feel loved:

As true as this is for men, even women tend to take their man for granted.
Appreciate the things he is doing for you,
focus on his good more than his bad. For example you have date night planned and he gets thirty minutes late but gets you flowers to make up for it and is all apologetic, but all you do is fight him for
being late and ruin the date by being in a
bad mood for the rest of the night. If he
does something nice for you encourage
him by being thankful instead of acting all snobby about it like it was his duty to act this way.
Everyone feels love differently. Most women feel loved when their man brings
them a bouquet of flowers while this type of gesture would be meaningless to a guy. Guys have their own ways of feeling loved. It could be gifts, food, compliments, a cup of tea, or a massage at the end of a long day. Pay attention to how he responds to things to determine what makes him feel truly loved it should be obvious and try to do whatever it is as much as possible.
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10. Over Possessive and Jealous over Your Man:

Your over reaction when he talks to the opposite sex. It is in the nature of a man to look at attractive women. If you just act jealous and flip out when he does, it shows us that you’re insecure.
Being insecure is a very big turn off for guys. If you find that you’re constantly jealous when he’s around other women, you need to re-evaluate some issues in this relationship. First, you need to build up your self-esteem. No man will want to cheat on a woman who’s confident in herself and secure in the relationship.You also need to evaluate the trust issues found in this relationship. More so, do you trust him or not?

Without mincing words, love is the brick that holds our life together, no wonder the word of God declare that God is Love.There is no more justification for undying love than this. But often prove problematic because the two individual who profess love for each other do not understand each other. It is best however if the woman know what often offend the man, so that she might take precaution and thereby avoid unnecessary confrontation with the man she loves.
Men on their part need to enlighten the women folk on things they often do that make them to Jilt the ladies. a wise lady would definitely want to read this article and put her relationships with her man in good order to avoid the mistakes that can spell doom for her dream Man or her “Mr. Right”.
So this article is a scanning of heart of man and major reasons they often change
one lady after another and how you can avoid such ugly experience by avoiding the mistakes that their victims made.
Nobody’s perfect, but it seems there are some mistakes that have more dire consequences on your love relationship than others. Have you made any of these blunders?:
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1. The mistake of Changing the him:

In real life, it is very difficult to change a young growing child, how much more an adult! It is very difficult to change a man
in relationship, especially these that are
in love. Many young ladies who had crush
on a guy they have feelings for and were able to get to such guys’front and win
their heart often fails when it comes to winning the battle within the guy of
which they knew nothing of before hand,
and when it happens this way, the world
of such ladies seems to go into accelerated confusion.
Now not willing to quit, they would say “l
will change him” i am going to make him
a different person entirely. Watch out that is a costly mistake There’s nothing that turns off a man like meeting a woman he’s trying to impress and then having her immediately try to turn him into her latest “project” that she’s going to fix. Maybe it’s criticizing the way he dresses, insulting his table manners, or ridiculing his appearance or grooming habits. Women have a way of doing that because they tend to be caretakers by nature but frankly, it usually doesn’t end well for either party, and it just feels bad all the way around. People want to be seen, heard and appreciated for who they are. Never allow a man to pick wrong
impression about you in the name that
you want to change him. Some women
have the habit of calling a friend’s attention or a third party to the attitude
of their husband that they do not like.
THIS IS TOTALLY WRONG
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2. Feeling Like You’re A Failure In Relationships:

When some people see that things aren’t
working they become depressed. They
start to feel as though they’re not loveable, that destiny is against them or that they will always be a failure in love. The truth is that you’re not a failure. You simple have not yet been taught important truths about relationships.
Once you learn and practice new ideas
and methods, you’ll be able to handle your life in a way you may have never thought possible.
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3. Hacking into phone(s):

It's good to share phones and to be jealous over the one you love. But becoming over jealous is a no go area, becuase it makes you insecure in the relationship and 'some' men can use that as an advantage against you. Looking for suspicious messages and then yelling at him for the coded text he sent to his female 'co-worker' or females generally.
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4. Assumption:

Believing Your Partner Should Read Your
Mind, And Know What You Want Without
You “Communicating” Clearly. “If he really loved me, he knows what I need and he should give it to me.” Many believe that if their partners really loved them, they would read their minds. It wouldn’t be necessary to have to actually ask for what they wanted. This is one of the most
serious mistakes some females make in
relationships. Without truthful, open,
communication no relationship can flourish. Effective communication, however, can be a skill. And though you
may feel that you have repeated yourself
a thousand times.. There are available
communication techniques which, in and
of themselves, can save your relationship. Not only is it necessary to know what you
want, and to ask for it clearly without
assumption that you man should have
known.
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5. Not Respecting His Personal Space:

If he’s in a bad mood or doesn’t feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be.
Most guys don’t like to talk about their
issues the way women do. Instead, they
prefer to pull back and work things out
internally. “No matter what I do I can’t get him to talk, and I do not believe he is sharing all of his honest feelings with me.” Many women claim they can’t get
men to talk. When time comes for intimate conversation guys clam up.
Women feel shut out and men feel misunderstood. However, there is something women don’t realize. Men
want to talk. Under the right conditions,
they’ll talk all night long. However, something else many don’t realize this,
men are more fragile than women. In order for them to talk, things have to be
right. All that’s needed here is to learn
how to create the right conditions, what
is necessary for a man to feel safe enough
with you to talk.
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lalasticlala, Ishilove, Seun...

6. Affection and Passion:
Everyone wants to feel loved, and sustaining physical connection is a big part of that. Whether together two months or 20 years, the little things like holding hands, shoulder touches, and sitting together make a very big difference. A healthy sex life is the extension of that affection, helping you and your partner maintain a connection level that is simultaneously physical, mental, and emotional.
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7. Humor:
Laughter makes everyone smile, feels great, and works like magic to build, maintain, or restore balance (and attraction) in your relationship. Whether it's simply telling a joke, playfully teasing your partner, or enjoying a ridiculous conversation, humor builds a happy connection that transcends any individual or joint stress, and keeps you enjoying each other's company.
8. Effective Disagreements.
Arguments in a relationship are normal. It's how you handle them and repair communication that makes your relationship last. Talking through issues with active listening (meaning: not just waiting to explain your own views, but rather, really listening to their side/experience and then offering empathy - regardless if you agree or not), being patient, and not judging allows both of you to maintain your opinion/views on the matter and still connect with one another. People in long-term relationships often have a choice: Being happy... or being right. Hint: Happy is better!
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9. Privacy:
Today, there is an epidemic of over-sharing, and in relationships, this is often a death sentence. Bottom line: What happens in your relationship isn't for public consumption. It's none of anyone's business. Keeping things between you and your partner and excluding others from your inner-workings — to include kids, parents, friends, and strangers - is of paramount importance.
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10. Maintaining your individuality:
A successful relationship is made up of two individuals. Your partner still has interest in things they like, whether you're interested in them or not. Having your own lives outside the relationship not only contributes to each of you maintaining a sense of self-worth and self-esteem, but also gives you things, accomplishments, and interests to bring back to your relationship and share with your partner.
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11. Support and Sharing:
Paying attention to your partner's activities - as well as sharing your own - keeps couples connected on a day-to-day basis. Lending opinion and insight, or just a compassionate ear when things get tough makes all the difference. When you care about and respect your partner, you want to know what they're doing and how you can help them achieve their goals - even if that meansyou see them less. Being invested in their lives is what contributes to you both people feeling valued.

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12. Consideration and Gratitude
The moment you're no longer grateful for your partner is the moment you start disconnecting, becoming complacent, and/or building resentment. Show consideration to and appreciation for your partner - just for being who they are. They, in turn, will feel grateful as well... and that's a great cycle to be in.

In reviewing these 12 tenets of great and lasting love, one thing becomes crystal clear: It’s the little things that count most. Trips and gifts are great, but it’s the everyday behaviors that count more. Additionally, couples need to realize that a family is not the same as a marriage. Families need time to grow and stay connected, and a marriage is no different … but the marriage is between the
couple, not everyone in the family. A couple that takes time to do the things that made them fall in love in the first place will find themselves connected and happy long after the newness of the relationship has passed. A couple that
thinks marriage is automatic and takes things for granted will likely find
themselves in divorce court.
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Thanks for reading!

It's alarming the way Relationships and Marriages brake today among people not only in Nigeria, but the world at large.
Loving couples understand what it takes to endure. When it comes to creating successful relationships, you need certain critical traits in place. Traits not just merely "present," but existing in a real and genuine way that emanates from each partner through their own want (not because someone is complaining). The moment "give and take" becomes forced, resentment and disconnection surface
and your relationship suffers. To create a successful relationship that truly lasts, after the prayers and fastings etc, here's what i think every couple truly needs because God Himself says in His word ''...My people are destroyed/perish for the lack of knowledge. And they say knowledge is Light/Power
They are:
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1. Acceptance:
Too many people talk about tolerance, but great couples don't "tolerate" each other's quirks and differences — they accept them. They celebrate their similarities AND their unique differences. They recognize that if you can find someone who addresses 60 percent of your wants and needs, you're truly lucky/ blessed. Acceptance makes you and your partner both feel safe to share your true selves. You don't fear judgment, because you aren't being judged. advertisement
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2. Honesty and Trust:
Being honest is mostly an individual decision, based on self-worth, self-confidence, and knowing you/your actions are accepted - even with flaws and mistakes. Trust follows when each person has undeniable faith that they can believe the other person - unequivocally.
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3. Respect:
Many people confuse attention with respect. Attention is great, and it shows love, desire, connection, and passion. Respect is a deeper level of connection, where you value the person at an innate level, without the promise of reciprocation.
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4. Loyalty:
In today's temporary relationship-driven society, loyaltyhas largely turned situational - meaning that many people have only become as loyal as their current wants, needs, desires, and opportunities. With acceptance, honesty, trust and respect in place, loyalty is largely automatic. If your partner feels attracted to someone else, experiences a level of disconnection, or has a change of heart - it is discussed—openly and honestly.
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5. Staying Present:
Technology is ever- present in our world - and it transfers to our relationships. Mobile devices, social media, and technology overall makes it easy to mentally check out from where you are and who you're with physically. Successful couples recognize that technology is a tool for their individual and joint use, but it doesn't disconnect them from their relationship.

MhizTessy:
Awwwwn
So touching!!!

So did you get her any christmas gift?

Of course!
But it was a small and powerful gift though, but the Smiles on her face was something else and i was overwhelmed by her Appreciative nature that day.

naijaboiy:
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The Nominees are.....


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STFUAREYOUGOD
MISSPICY
CUTEHECTOR
NAIJABOIY
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We also have a tie here....


And the winners are......
























CUTEHECTOR!!!! & MISSPICY!!!!

I bet guess they were actually meant to be


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Hehehe... Husband and Wife win thesame award. 'Love' is at work!

emusmith:
Don't wish that please...my ladies must marry in 2016

I can't even wish my enemy that, not even the ones that refused to give me Christmas Rice, Chicken and Owambe.

I do it sometimes with no strings attached. Seriously, in August 20 2015 to be precised, i met a girl on Facebook (a total stranger). On the Fifth day after we became friends, we were chatting and suddenly, she said she was stranded and she requested for airtime. I did send it to her 20minutes later (200 MTN). At the end of August, she later opted to know me more and that she would like to see me in person during Christmas break. On the fixed date, i later found out that her Dad is a Senior Lecturer in my School, but she school in a different state.
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To cut the long story short, as am talking to you now, the 'Tear Ruber' Blackberry Q10 am using to post this was given to me as a Surprised Christmas Gift by this same girl. And we are not in any relationship, just friends!
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My opinion is that sometimes, it's not fake and it all depends on the individual. Some may truly be stranded while some just want to extort from you.

johnsonpolice:
my good people of nairaland there is some thing that has been bothering me for some thing now,that i will like to share with you guys. i am married with one child but people in my neighbour hool has been disturbing me with some trash that doesnt make sense at all.i find fun in making love to my wife in the day time due to the nature of my job.but people in my area they are making gest of me as in how on earth should i make love to my wife in the time? one worse thing even i make love to her in the night they will still talk . i am confuses, i dont know the right time to make love to my wife.i find it funy,despite the fact that we are staying in save containt not face me i face you kind of apartment.so i want you guys to help me out with some advice weather making love in the day time is a crime.please you guys should bear with me cos,iam nt good in english.

Oga Titus, how did they get to know that you always made love to you wife during the day time?

For an INTROVERT like me, i always stood in front of the girl's house every Sunday night, not knowing what to say and how to say what i want to say to the extent that her mum thought i was one of the new Security Guard of the Church Opposite their house.
Ko funny rara...

After their thunderous AMEN here, you will still see them with Bottle of SWAN water in 2016 Shiloh praying for the RIGHT man when they, themselves are not RIGHT.

This means that our Prisons need 'Prison Enlargement' from 2016 to accomodate new intakes and those who scored the required Prisons cut-off mark...

Rapist are in trouble as Aminat and Aisha are planning to use this belt to blow them faraway...

Commit Your Work To Him
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Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established (Proverbs 16:3).
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A lot of times, people set goals and make different decisions in their lives, it could be about their finances, their family, their job or business; but as important as it is to set goals, don’t set goals out of emotions. Set goals through the Spirit. This is where many miss it.
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The importance of fasting and prayer, in this regard, can’t be overemphasized. Fasting means that you separate yourself from everything else, especially food, while you spend time in fellowship with the Lord, talking to Him and praying in the Spirit concerning your goals and desires. If you were working on a particular project, and you want to determine the next step to take, pray in the Spirit. The Holy Ghost will grant you utterance and unveil the mind of God to you, and you’ll know exactly the next step to take.
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Always commit your goals and desires to the Lord in prayer. Yes, there may be limitations; the projects or goals can be such that you don’t even know how to begin praying about it. Trust the Holy Spirit. He’ll help you pray correctly. Romans 8:26 says, "Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered." That clause, "the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities," is better rendered, "The spirit bears us up in our weakness!"
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Don’t take any major decision in your life, without going in the way of the Spirit. It’ll save you a lot of troubles, and put you on the path of perpetual victory. As you prepare for the New Year, commit your plans and goals to the Lord, and He’ll establish your path. What are your goals? What visions do you have? Commit them to Him and trust Him for guidance.
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Prayer:
Dear Father, I thank you for the direction and leading of your Spirit for me in the coming year. I commit to your able hands my desires and goals for my family, my finances, job, business, and ministry, knowing that you’re able to do exceeding abundantly above all that I can ask, think or imagine, in Jesus’ Name. Amen.

aramadaokunrin:
Have you ever walk in on your PARENTS having sex?
How did you feel?
What did you do?
How to prevent it happening?

OP, Create another thread and ask Nairalanders if they, themselves have been caught in the act.
As long as this thread is asking them if they've caught their 'Parents' in the act, you won't get comments rolling in because it looks like a Taboo (abomination or a tufiakwa) type of thing.
Just my own opinion though.

My experience today was that in the area i relocated to since October, i never knew this woman kept tab and keep noticing my easy going and one-way-traffic nature always.
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Today, i was so shocked when she confronted me and said in her shouting nature that: Why is it that i don't greet people, why is it that i don't reply her and others when they greet and that i don't even come to her house, not even during Christmas... As she was speaking, i almost told the ground to open so that i enter...
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Shyness took over me as ladies and other passers-bye were looking at us, but i allow her finished and i apologized by bowing to her not to be offended and i told her that i can't walk pass an elder and won't greet him/her and that i don't ignore greetings too. And i said i was sorry that i will make amend even though am not guilty of all her allegations.
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After everything, she said i should be a good boy, and she opted that i should shake her hands and i was like ''Ahhh, this woman is so confident and courageous and purely an Extrovert. I envy are confidence and nature though, but i just Love who i am and my own nature.

Ginaz:
I dont like it, and my husband will have a black eye if he brings this rubbish one day for me to watch

Aunty, the thing never reach that one na

@Damalex4luv, for any decision you may decide to take, still remember that she is a human being and even if you decide to quit, don't hurt her psychologically because at this point in time, the girl doesn't need any Emotional HURT anymore because her greatest fear now is that you've known her 'Most Shameful Secret'' which will make her feel insecure. Just be nice to her and if you must quit, do it in a loving, responsible and in a matured way because girls are emotional beings.

@crazysaint, my question is who snapped these Aunties?

donshady:
17??
If she's to be your family, she should be the 4th to fifth born.. and you want to do marriage with her?
You're a fool.

Uncle, i know you're angry with the Age Gap but i thought you read the end of his post, he specifically pleaded to you that please o, ''No insult.''.
Just bear with him biko, he only needed advice as to way forward.
According to him, ''He has not done it yet''

@ porchster,
Yes, you're very correct. To add to your above points, a survey conducted shows that Yoruba guys are very Smart/Brilliant (Illiterate or Educated), academically or knowledgewise.

@ Glo4issy,
'Cheating' or not to be Trusted is a Dangerous part in any relationship. I can see people blaming you for the step you've taken, but who cares. (What is bad is bad) whether it is generally accepted or not. Don't let anybody make you feel you don't know/deserve what you want; i guess you know what you really want in your relationship and maybe that was what prompted you to make your findings.
But don't just draw conclusion yet.
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I won't advice you to quit or stay in the relationship but just ask yourself
these questions and definatelly, you will know the next step to take:

¤ Do you really love him not emotions?
¤ Does he love you?
¤ Can this guy change?
¤ Have you studied the kind of person he is?
¤ Can you endure rather than enjoy
enjoy your relationship with him?
¤ Is this guy adding value to your life?
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Remember that someone who loves you cannot deny you (negatively or positively), and you really cannot change a person, except God intervene.

In as much as the ladies dress to look more beautiful, i think there should be some traces of Respect, Dignity and Decency to it.
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How i wish she could see, accept and endorse the 'Helpful' advice(s) some of us have for her and adhere to them.

It's not all girls, girls are different. Just as some guys enter relationships for the Wrong reasons, so does girls.
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There are many girls out there who are not after your pocket, they just want the 'expression' of your love and care.
Most matured girls that are independent do lavish on their guys their hard earned money.
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But i think most girls/guys do these things because they really don't know what Relationship entails. They think it's just the "Boy-Friend/Girl-Friend" thing, but relationship is more than that.
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Relationship at the on-set should be for the right reasons. When it's for the right reasons, it takes no or less stress for it to work. That's why i do tell guys "It's better a girl love you more from her heart" if this happens, you will be the one begging her to leave you because when a Girl develop love towards a Man, (gbam) that's all the man needs because the girl will go extra miles and do everything possible to make her man happy and comfortable.
It's that simple. Black or White!