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Guys believe so because of their Corrupt Mind. (Their Negatively programmed Mindset)

It's hard to let go though, but she should know that Material things are not all there is in Life. Joy and Happiness are far better than these things...
How i wish people live according to the Word of God.

Because Ladies are the ones that feel the Pain, Shame and the Burden after all. Women are realy tring though... I hope we all treat them right!

This was really helpful. You just changed a negative mindset.

@ prettydynamic well done. It was really a nice 'Parody' indeed.

I know some would not understant what OP is trying to say just because ''they only read to Judge and Comment''

All the Good Contributions above me were all making sense. But the one thing that i think is the cause of this disma-bisma in relationships/marriages these days is our MINDSET.

If we change our MINDSET about the way we do/see things, the things will CHANGE!

These are the negative things our Society Teaches us.

To the real thing now...
¤ Were these ''Don't Do For Her'' written in your Bible or Quran?

'Some' people don't really know what LOVE is all about, they think LOVE is learned in the Classroom... They do things out of Ignorance and leave the Small, Little things that really matter.

It is the Little, Little things that you do for her (a responsible girl) that will make Her love grow deeper and deeper for you, not until you take her to all the Tantalizers or Mr. Biggs of this world.

Everybody have the Ability to Love Real, but 'some' people do not Nurture theirs because of one reason or the other, while some it's just an Attitude not to Love-For-Real...

Like i always say, 'Little things matters in Love, if it's the Real Love that i know.
Hope you don't forget that LOVE is in Doing, Not Telling or Saying.
Those who have ears let them hear and DO!

Nice Post OP.
I do tell myself and people continually that; ''there is nothing like love at first sight but 'Like'... Because love is not a day thing, but a daily thing.


Love is like a seed that needs time to grow. The more you get to know the person as the days goes by, the more you get acquinted and develop much love towards the person.


Love needs time. The more you convers with the other party and kmow more about each other, the more Love grows its root deeper and deeper.


I wisdom will direct us to that Guy/Girl who will truly LOVE you wholeheartedly, not those who will LIKE us because Likes fade away like a shirt, but Real Love which is GREATER never do...

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Criticism makes me better because i always learn criticizers.

@sparkles2015,
Love is a seed, Love grows.
(A woman is in charge of any relationship/marriage) but apply wisdom and don't disrescpect your man.
Since he's your husband, i would advice you call him and you people should sit down face to face and discuss about your marriage, talk to him about how the joy of being married has faded away.
You two have to be best of friends and communicate often.

It's a good thing that you noticed this early, it shows your are wise. If this persist and you two don't find a solution to it (sorry to say) ''your position as his wife is at stak.'' Because if you ask any woman that divorced why she divorced their answer is aways ''Am not happy in the marriage.'' So you better avoid the danger in the future now that is DAY...

Both parties have to. If it's the True Love that i know, there is no secret in love.

PunkyVeer and Halimi24 It's Okay. You people should not Quarrel online. It hasn't gotten to that extent of insulting your beautiful selves. You two should just act maturedly. Because if you two get to meet yourselves physically you will just see that the Online insults doesn't worth it. Please it's okay!!!

@ Stahovski and those FOR this post,

Please can you tell me if Helen Paul is familiar with these Attributes that you mentioned above or if Short people women don't make money or if BIBLE says ''Behold don't marry a Short woman''? Or Have you ever seen a Short woman that is Lazy?


Why didn't you include that short people are too intelligent, are nevert Rich and are never Creative?

Don't be controlled by what the society says, don't be conformed to this World system.

What you said is CORRECT to you and thos FOR, but it is never RIGHT and will never be.

Am a guy though. The truth is Nigerians (Guys and Girls) are never inferior to their foreign counterparts in anyway whatsoever. Real love exist there, so it does in Nigeria.
Their guys are never better than us so does their girls.
Everybody is different in his/her own way individually and specifically.
Abi have you seen where a whity girl BEAT a Nigerian girl?

God is just telling all of us and the owrld at large that He alone is worthy of our TRUST, not man. Not even money, material or possessions all this things will fade, but only God will remain. Lets trust God, because the Ruler and the Ruled are mere flesh!

Don't sacrifice your future on the alter of temporary pleasure.

Jonaifame22, if your TRUE is true, what you've done is wrong.

''...And God said let there be light and there was light.''

'Jesus spoke to the Fig Tree and it weathered away'

God created the World with words
Your mouth is a door way to you Life.
Your words have power.

We should all be very careful what we say with our mouth because ''where the word of a King is there is power''

Every guy/girl you see on Campus, the street and in church these days will tell you he/she is in a relationship. But some are just into it not knowing the Basics of a relationship, so sad. A relationship has to bring out a the best in you and a better YOU (both parties).
To get the best from a relationship, we need to understand the rules surrounding it. It is one thing to get attracted to someone, and it is another thing to love the person. But the most important thing is sustaining it. Here are a few tips to help you keep your relationship working, fresh, perfect, happy, enduring and healthy:





1. Make your partner your best friend.
Love is important but when it comes to human, Love can fade away while friendship lasts forever. l have seen love fade away in relationships times without number and things never got back to being the same. l have also seen best friends disagree, fight, depart and come back to being friends again. Apply that friendship to your relationship and your relationship will last long and will be full of encitement.





2. Have Integrity.
When you are a Responsible and Decent person, your partner will find it easier to understand and trust you, and the relationship will stand a better chance of overcoming challenges.





3. Respect.
Respect is reciprocal, so always act in ways that respect your partner/yourself and he/she would always maintain respect for you too. The trust is that we all like to be respeected, no matter our status or personality. Respect plays a vital role in evry relationship, women love it and men love to be respected. Respect brings out the King in the man and the Queen out of the woman likewise.





4. Learn how to manage your differences.
Disagreements/conflicts shouldn’t end a relationship it's immature that quarrel ends a relationship, no matter how delicate it is, but strengthen it. Learn how to handle anger, jealousy, pride and other negative feelings that are unavoidable because of the differences between two people. The truth is you can control anything, if only you're determined to.





5. Spend time with each other and communicate.
Spend time with each other because that’s the only way you can know each other better. In its absence, people drift apart and all of a sudden become strangers to each other. If you don’t like or understand something your partner is doing, talk about it and find out why he/she is doing it. Don’t just assume because you could be wrong or maybe he/she may get angry or will like it. Try as much as possible to talk and deliberate on issues through. By doing this, you will get to know him/her better you may even know his/her fears, believes and plans through communication on issues generally.





6. Become a team.
This is when two unique individuals with different perspectives and strengths come together to become one. Be the best two one can ever see, one can chase a thousand, but two than chase tens of thousand only if they work as a team with dedication and dilignece.





7. Be clear about your needs.
A relationship is not a guessing game. Be clear about your needs and ensure you support/encourage your partner to meet them. Also make efforts to meet your partner’s emotional needs. We all have needs.





8. Be willing to apologize when wrong.
Anyone can make a mistake but the willingness to make up after an argument is important in every happy relationship. Drop the pride and negative ego you have because it can never make a relationship reach its promise land. Be the best person he/she has ever met, leave a print of excellence in his/her life. Forget the selfish gains and reach out to create a Bond. Let him/her always thak God the he/she met you. Impact his/her life in many positive ways because a relationship without Growth from both parties is a complete waist of time.





Hope this will create a new positive mindset in someones life out there.

Every guy/girl you see on Campus, the street and in church these days will tell you he/she is in a relationship. But some are just into it not know the Basics of a relationship so sad. A relationship has bring out a better YOU (both parties).
To get the best from a relationship, we need to understand the rules surrounding it. It is one thing to get attracted to someone, and it is another thing to love the person. But the most important thing is sustaining it. Here are a few tips to help you keep your relationship working, fresh, perfect, happy, enduring and healthy:





1. Make your partner your best friend.
Love is important but when it comes to human, Love can fade away while friendship lasts forever. l have seen love fade away in relationships times without number and things never got back to being the same. l have also seen best friends disagree, fight, depart and come back to being friends again. Apply that friendship to your relationship and your relationship will last long and will be full of encitement.





2. Have Integrity.
When you are a Responsible and Decent person, your partner will find it easier to understand and trust you, and the relationship will stand a better chance of overcoming challenges.





3. Respect.
Respect is reciprocal, so always act in ways that respect your partner/yourself and he/she would always maintain respect for you too. The trust is that we all like to be respeected, no matter our status or personality. Respect plays a vital role in evry relationship, women love it and men love to be respected. Respect brings out the King in the man and the Queen out of the woman likewise.





4. Learn how to manage your differences.
Disagreements/conflicts shouldn’t end a relationship it's immature that quarrel ends a relationship, no matter how delicate it is, but strengthen it. Learn how to handle anger, jealousy, pride and other negative feelings that are unavoidable because of the differences between two people. The truth is you can control anything, if only you're determined to.





5. Spend time with each other and communicate.
Spend time with each other because that’s the only way you can know each other better. In its absence, people drift apart and all of a sudden become strangers to each other. If you don’t like or understand something your partner is doing, talk about it and find out why he/she is doing it. Don’t just assume because you could be wrong or maybe he/she may get angry or will like it. Try as much as possible to talk and deliberate on issues through. By doing this, you will get to know him/her better you may even know his/her fears, believes and plans through communication on issues generally.





6. Become a team.
This is when two unique individuals with different perspectives and strengths come together to become one. Be the best two one can ever see, one can chase a thousand, but two than chase tens of thousand only if they work as a team with dedication and dilignece.





7. Be clear about your needs.
A relationship is not a guessing game. Be clear about your needs and ensure you support/encourage your partner to meet them. Also make efforts to meet your partner’s emotional needs. We all have needs.





8. Be willing to apologize when wrong.
Anyone can make a mistake but the willingness to make up after an argument is important in every happy relationship. Drop the pride and negative ego you have because it can never make a relationship reach its promise land. Be the best person he/she has ever met, leave a print of excellence in his/her life. Forget the selfish gains and reach out to create a Bond. Let him/her always thak God the he/she met you. Impact his/her life in many positive ways because a relationship without Growth from both parties is a complete waist of time.





Hope this will create a new positive mindset in someones life out there.

If your truly like her, my advice for you is:
''A patient 'dog' eats the Fattest bone.''
It's better you allow a girl make up her mind towards you, don't force her to.
Furthermore, guys should always enter a relationship that you know the GIRL Like/loves you more than you love her, this also takes patience.

Patience and perseverance is key to 'OTUOKE' heart!

winzy:
Thanks, broo.... I appreciate

Yea.. Am a student, she ain't my main chick that's why I don't wanna spend more than 3k..... She has been a very good friend thoo

A nice DRESS will do because it's something she will use for a long time and whenever she puts it on and look at the mirror, she will always remember your kindness and niceness and she will always smile...

winzy:
Please I need a good suggestions for a gift I will purchase for a girl, thoo not my girlfriend but I guess she thinks we are dating... It has not to be more than 3k


Thank u

The best thing i think you should get for her is a Beautiful Dress. Before you buy the dress, make sure you know her Favourite colour(s), her size and the kind of dresses/shirts (her dress pattern (You know girls love colours) and if you can get her favourite colour without asking her, it will be s a plus.

I think 3K can get a Nice dress and maybe a nice medium shoe to add to it too (If you sabi price sha).

The dress and shoe must not be costly though, they must be what you can afford but i think it will go a long way expressing your likeness/love for her and she will definately appreciate it. Girls (sorry some girls) hardly forget kind gestures like this.

I hope this help!

Thank you henryobinna for this priceless hin4maycion!

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A guy met this girl and asked the girl for her phone number and the girl pulled out (1000) OneThousand Naira note from her purse, wrote the number on it and gave the guy. The guy collected it, he tore out the part that had the number and threw the other part away...

Who won?

Like i said BigRay, be wise, people here are just posting their feelings...

I noticed that MTN Zone Plan has changed. No more 4, 8, 16 and 24kobo like before. And now, the only two rates available now is 12kobo per seconds from 12am to around 5pm and 28kobo per seconds from 5:3pm to 11pm. This is wierd! Is this a deliberate attempt from MTN?

If anybody has a better option on the best tarrif plan or ways to reduce the rates please let him/her drop it.

Love is one thing people don't really know about.
Love is a DEFINATE decision, Likeness is a temporer thing. That's why you cannot say for instance you Love a particular Phone and later on you change it. That's not Love, it is called LIKE.
To the subject matter, the best thing is that point 1.

"It is better to marry who who you love. Mostly when the Love is Natural without any string attached (unconditional).

Love is a Seed, it grows when it's well nurtured.

So, my point is that it is good to love the person before you marry him/her because in marriage, as time goes on, you will begin to see some certain Character/Attitude from your spouse that you don't like and the question is will you still continue with that person? Of course YES because Love is in charge of the relationship. That's what people see when they say "Love is blind." No, love is not blind but it makes people reason, think and act blind when the love is unconditional.

Unfortunately, in this present age that we are, people are ruled by Emotions and they will say is Love. Love and Emotions are on different roads, if you mistake them, it creates a big problem in the future.
For instance, some guys will see a girl and just like her because she is Fair in complexion, has a curved shape, well dressed, attractive breast size and a wonderful backside as they call it and they guy will just go straight and approach her and the girl fall for his lies and tricks. 6months later, you will see the guy is getting bored because he has tasted/gotten enough of what attracted him and he is tired of her. That is a demonstration of like, infact Lust. But if it's love, he will never get tired of the lady.

So love is the process our Parents/grand parents experienced during their time and things went well with them then but now, gosh... The story has changed. Love still exist though but the people who genuinely manifest Love in this age are very few. That's why God is the first example of Love. Despite our deadliest wrongdoings, he still Loves us all. Love is HIS nature. So, love is a Decision, a Permanent way of life and a Nature.

BigRay, i would advice you to take things easy, be wise and apply wisdom to this issue at hand.

Firstly, i would say You are the one at fault now because you've not caught you wife in the act, you are just merely SUSPECTING her.
Thank God you're a soldier and you know the Law which says "No matter the Crime committed, no one is found guilty unless convicted by the law to be guilty."

YOUR FAULTS
I know you're a Soldier as you said, who goes away to serve his fatherland.
1. It doesn't matter your nature of work, your wife need you around not only for the Sex, but as a husband who lover his wife.

2. Once in a while your wife would have urge for Sex/your companionship which is very important.

3. Calling her on phone is not enough, you didn't marry her to be calling her, but to be with her.

4. Would you say since you've been away you didn't have an affair with any lady? Answer it to yourself.

TIPS
As you are around now, shower your wife with love and affection, do things you've never been doing for her. Make her feel like a woman that she is. By doing these things even your wife might wonder and may even CONFESS to you in a way that is favouring her side of the story.

For me, 3months without seeing your wife for a married man is too long. She might be tempted you know, just as the way you're been tempted wherever you go.
Becareful because this kind of issue has destroyed many marriages. It has caused divorce between couples. And the problem that is setting in your marriage now is that you are lossing you TRUST.

Don't act strange to your wife, just in a matter of time, the truth will be known. If i may ask, have you ever prayed for your marriage, your wife and your family in general?

Begin to play the role of the 'HEAD' of the family. Never treating your wife, let her feel safe with you even when she is guilty in anyway.
Protect your marriage, guide it diligently and don't destroy your union. Ask you wife questions, not questions of guilt, but question about you. Ask her to tell you what you've been doing that she doesn't like and don't be surprise with her answers. And this question must come in a time that you know is happy and excited...
I pray that God will protect your marriage. Remember, don't judge your wife or the Pastor. They are not guilty yet, even if they are.
I hope this help.