₦airaland Forum

motionarena:
thanks.

It's improved drastically now

What did you do differently please?

Lol
What an irony.
Trying to get House job in Abuja hospitals is like finding a needle in hay stack.
They don't even upload them on the Housemanship portal because you have to know "someone" to get in.
Abuja and Lagos hospitals are birds of a feather.

Messed up Country.

I can introduce you to it.
Happy day is the name of the company.

WhaaatsAp Zero nine one three seven three six one nine four zero

Fiscus105:
If wife started fighting this one now and latter reports him to authority,....... foolish people would be talking nonsense,.....that Naija women not cooperating wen they reach oyinbo land, ....Western laws too harsh for men, .....why did he carry wife to America?
They will never for once point to where their fellow man erred.

BEFORE THE BEAST CAUGHT, I IMAGINE NONSENSE HE MIGHT HAVE DONE WITH, FEMALES AROUND HIM, INCLUDING RELATIVE, NEIGHBOURS & FRIENDS OF WIFE.
WHICH HUMAN BEING THEY WOULD DO THAT FOR, WHICH WOULD NOT REACT?

If you notice you always surporting your, gender, religion, tribe, no matter the condition and situation, just know you are not different from animal.

Don't mind those f000ls.
They will blame the wife as if the men are entirely innocent. Many women face physical abuusse and worse from their partner in the name of submission and once the woman reacts and a court of law in a saner clime finds him guilty, Nigerian men will gather around like ants on sugar to run their weeeked mouths.

I cried hot tears anytime my twins woke up to breastfeed... The milk would be strawberry coloured when pumping due to the blood from the cracks all around my areola. I would scream sometimes when I can no longer be strong and my Mum would say "sorry dear, just bear it, don't allow tears fall on your baby, the same mouth peeling it would heal it"


But here, one Foul f*ool born in the gutter is referring to the mother as gen z for showing emotions all women go through so as to educate the ignorant.

My husband's WhatsApp group people.

You'll never know the violence some men are capable of until you get pregnant for them.

Sonyboom:
The airport he built n houses he built are nothing ba ?

Gerrout of here!!! Did he build house for your fore daddies?

Rubb*sh talk.

The only good thing this Son of a gun has done since becoming Governor.

Good evening

Please how I can get the compendium for my ward please?

Kogi state is the most unfortunate state in Nigeria. Infact, it's a mini Nigeria, plagued with too many ethnic groups, hence disunity and just like Nigeria, churning out failure after failure as Governors.

It's really sad.

Samesame247:
You wan cast this food. One paint rubber of rice is ..... abeg no cast this food

Well, it's far more expensive than Rice. A paint goes for 10-12k now.

EreluRoz:
Yes I know Acha very well, I enjoy taking it as pap with milk. I love it thick, then pour my milk to soften the thickness and consume. I love it well. It's common in the north.

Same here. It's so nice for breakfast.
Sometimes I would take as Pap with akara.

This is Acha or Fonio( aka Hungry Rice)...

I'll tell you a quick story about this grain.
I work in the Health sector and I must say from my experience that one of the most difficult thing to control is the diet of a Diabetic patient. No matter the Nutritional advice offered and the consequent crisis, they are mostly non compliant. Can you blame them though, Food is life.

I saw this grains for the first time with my Mother-in-Law, she's been diabetic for the past 18 years and apart from the very first few years of her diagnosis, she's never had a single crisis. She swears by Acha.

It can be boiled and eaten with stew like Rice, blended to powder and used as swallow, used as flour for Bread, Akara, Moimoi, Pan cakes... Name it
She's living the life honestly.


Has anyone else heard of this grain? Please share your thoughts.

okunwaye:
reason while most men suffer illness at old age is because they spent all their youthfull age slaving to cater for their wife and children

News flash: There are more women in the wards than men.

Kobojunkie:
It is indeed hard conversing with folks who worship at the altar of "marriage is the only meaning there is to life". Sigh!

The numbers reveal that the trend is moving away from marriage. SInglehood has nothing to do with lack of companionship. It instead has more to do with choosing not to be married to your companion(s). Some single people choose to have children outside of marriage while others choose not to have children at all. others choose to have pets instead. The point is marriage is not as attractive as it used to be and that is a fact of the world we now live in.

Lmao

I'm not one of those who worship at that altar. Marriage is not all there is to life and you can choose to live however you want but my, does it add spices to life? Absolutely.

I'll say again, for me, a good marriage is better than being single.

As for trends, people are getting divorced and married everyday. It's been the trend since forever, social media is only just broadcasting it.

Kobojunkie:
Remember when I said stop bull sheet-ing, I meant it!

You bring up the issue of love here but what is love? Did you know that individuals, even those in marriage, define love differently? A husband's idea of love may contradict his wife's idea of what love is. We see that a lot. And this typically ends, in the African setting, with one partner suffering in marriage, while the other gets away with murder in the name of love.

2. Marriage is not defined by those few marriages you consider good. It is instead an agreement between a man and a woman. Each couple defines for themselves what marriage will be same as two business partners are meant to decide the details of their business partnership with each other. When one partner feels short-changed in the union, it leads to undue suffering, and that suffering is linked to the existence of the particular union. By, the way, there is no perfection of a relationship between in perfect beings. If perfection were possible, then a contract would not be needed in the first place between the two.

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In 1981, the divorce rate in the State of Plateau, Nigeria, was recorded to have been around 81% among newlyweds. in 2012, a report went out that the divorce rate in Northern Nigeria was among the highest in the world. Now, of course, these reports come from the North where divorce is respected and tracked. In much of Southern Nigeria where divorce is traditionally found, official divorce rates have notoriously been maintained at below 0.1%. This does not consider the rate of marriage abandonment, the acceptable form of divorce among southerners, and equally as high as at least 50%. You claim to have seen mostly good marriages than bad ones so my next question is where exactly did you see them?

I'm in one.
My parents are in one too.
My sister is in one.

Let's say I indulge you and I call marriage a business by your definition, Do you quit every business partnership because you have different ideas? Don't you make the best if what you agree and build on that?

Anyone capable of being friends with people for a long time is capable of this so called business venture.


And murder? Really? What's up with you?

Kobojunkie:
1. How can you not be aware of the list you quoted earlier when speaking on how having a partner to support one in old age when illness sets in was of benefit?

2. Bullsheet! There is nothing perfect in this world so saying marriage isn't perfect means absolutely nothing. Marriage, like every other business out there, is required to provide value that people can relate to—none of these meaningless pronouncements of no tangible essence. So long as it benefits individuals to remain single rather than be in a committed agreement that leaves them more depleted than if they had remained single, marriage will continue to decline in worth and value.

In what World would one pick an institution where I'm alone over an institution where I have companion?
Choosing to remain single is a life I won't fault anyone for but saying it's better, than having someone to come home to every night, someone who genuinely cares about you and calls you to check up on you? Discusses how the day went with you? Helps you to achieve plans , cheering you all the way?
You have kids and then you watch them grow, together!

Like I said, you seem to either be using a loveless marriage as a yardstick or you just have a hill you want to die on and nothing can change your mind.

Kobojunkie:
WOW.... Are you actually admitting to the fact that the suffering of the married tends to outweigh that of the unmarried in many Nigerian scenarios?

Now this isn't a direct mention so permit me to jump on it. When you say suffering of the married, it makes me think you're using a loveless marriage as a yardstick... Have you never seen a good marriage, of imperfect beings coming together, getting to understand themselves and becoming perfect for each other?
I've seen more good marriages than I have seen bad marriages and no I'm not going to count misunderstandings as a bad marriage.

Kobojunkie:
Look, the fact of life is this, people will almost always prefer to buy products that will be of more benefit to them than to others. Marriage needs to be of great benefit to both men and women before they choose to commit.

In the days of our ancestors, the benefits were outlined in the traditional marriage laws of the time. Those laws no longer hold weight in the society we live in today. People are less inclined to follow along with the old ways just because it is that. They now understand that the choices they make directly impact their particular quality of life and so many are less likely to make sacrifices for the good of others. This means the marriage laws or rules needed, including the guaranteed benefits list, ought to be updated to keep people interested.

2. Marriage can only be beautiful if what it offers is better than the competition.

Well, I'm not aware of this list you speak of. If there's a link or a book you can refer me to, I'll be glad to go take a look.

Marriage I know isn't perfect, but it's mostly beautiful if the members complement each other and If the competition is "Money"... I don't see a competition to begin with.

Kobojunkie:
First of all, let's stop lying abeg! Hospice is not the last place anymore as more and more people make plans ahead of time so that they can get the best care in their last days in many of these places.

Second, most people are more than aware these days that chances are slim to none that another human being would go out of their way to show them that level of kindness even in marriage. Go ask the many who were abandoned by the so-called love-of-their-life in marriage after falling ill. So, again, it makes better sense to argue for improving the healthcare system if these are the reasons you have to give for marriage than to pretend that people are bound to find this level of marriage support.

I don't know what you perceived as "lies"... The fact that any of the spouses can fall sick? What plan are people making at the end of life? What plans could be more than being surrounded by your family and slipping away peacefully in their arms. Nothing beats that for me.


You are right when you say marriage is not bound to give you these but that is when you're in a bad marriage. There are good marriages out there, not one without it's challenges but there are good marriages nonetheless. It's a beautiful thing.

Kobojunkie:
1. You can get the necessary treatment for that these days. Ask why Cataracts is no longer as big of a deal in developed countries.

Abeg, stop offering silly reasons for crying out loud. These are all reasons why the Health system should be improved upon and not why a person should choose marriage abeg! Stop letting your ego do the talking for you without engaging your brain first. What woman would want to sign up for marriage given all of the reasons above? Na to run for her life she go wan do first.

Well, it goes both ways. There's nothing silly about those reasons and my brain is fully engaged. If you run because of these, what if you end up needing them yourself.
Good healthcare or none, no one wants to experience what it means to be alone in old age.

Even in developed worlds, hospice is the last place anyone wants to be.

nairalee:
What exactly is the attraction for marriage now?

Loneliness? Life is no longer as boring as in the 60's (u can now create your own fun in your own bedroom)

Procreation? With the advent of baby mamas we've realized it's cheaper and easier to get children without marriage

Sex? U can simply get sex now with small change without even stressing yourself.

Cooking? . With technology u can order any food of your dreams in 30mins or less.

Domestic chores? U can simply get a maid or machines to do basic chores.

Many of the past incentives for marriage are now outdated plus all the TERRIBLE news we hear/read daily.


Marriage is no longer as marketable as before

When you lose 70% of your sight to Cataract by 62, you'd know what it means to be alone.

When you're sick and the doctors tender investigations for your family to go and do, drugs to go and get, you'd know Money can't buy you everything.

No matter what you see in marriages now, Money and all these plans can never replace a wife. She'll change your diaper, spoon feed you and tend to your wounds when that times comes. She'll grieve with you, rejoice with you, hold your hands on your dying bed.

Don't let ego blind you.

Debbieeeeeee:
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Thank you very much, I appreciate your response.

The Issue now is the site blocked me... Both of us. I don't remember doing anything wrong, what can be done please.

Good day House, please I'm making enquiries for my spouse, he has filled is DS-160 form online and paid the MRV fee of which he has a receipt. Issue is we don't know how to schedule for an interview at the embassy. I will be glad if someone can put me through. Thank you very much.

A very useless apology of a woman. She should have all her kids taken from her and take to safe abode because Heaven knows what they've been through on the hands of this dolt, deficient brained creature.

No be only Hurt.
Na mumu wey love something dey hurt.
Let the Husbands keep doing all their nonsense now, the wives know their turn will soon come.

jeromestarks:
I can NEVER marry a woman who is wealthier than me.
And I will never allow my wife to be richer than me. Never!

Women misuse power. They tend to insult men at the slightest opportunity they get.

Your marriage can not last if your wife has as much money as you.

That's why you will continue to wallow in abject poverty with no headway.
Onye nzuzu!

References:
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Hunger + Disease= Tulumbu Government.

oilyngbati:
God rest the dead, but please dear super eagles, make sure you win the nation’s cup to put ipob/obidients to shame!

Wetin you dey smoke no good Bros.
Drop it make you no enter Aro.

I'm having the same issue with my babies... Please how did you sort yours out?

After I just converted to dollars...

damola1:
women are brutal, and stupid..

Your mother is stupid.