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healthserve:
Well said. Some men won't understand till they fall victims and we read their sob tales online

They feel it's romantic giving up their own happiness for someone else's.

healthserve:
No one has ever defined anything


The thread and comments simply says men should try to be alpha. Nothing more. I don't see anyone making anything a standard or anyone making men feel inadequate. You're seeing things that aren't there bro


Speka with men and get to know more about the pains of men in toxic unions. You'll understand what this speaks about better

They are threatened by this alpha male thingy because it is against their form of lively hood. Imagine a world where there are no men to control, manipulate and all what not. How will they get to look exotic when they are not. How will they get to make their hair.

@Palehair listen, this "alpha male" isn't only for relationships. You need to see men being rode on just to maintain a friendship that isn't yielding.

On the part of the relationship, don't you get irritated when you are talking with a man and you ask him his favorite color and he tells you blue and then he asks you yours and you tell him pink and next thing you hear is, I like pink too?

Or you don't eat fish, and you both goes to a restaurant to eat and you order a meat and you know he very much likes fish and he doesn't order his own fish instead he orders meat? I need your answers to these questions @Palehair.

Palehair:
No, men should define the men that they want to be and not pressurized into following a whole set of rules. A real man does whatever the Bleep he wants as long as no one gets hurt, that there is the first rule of being a man

That is what we have been teaching. Most men for the fear of losing their girlfriend does not do things that will better their life. Always wanna please someone and that is not the definition of a man you want to visualize in your head. Like what was written, it didn't say do these or do that to be an alpha, instead it said put yourself first and your happiness before emotion or anyone.. These teachings are to make us men to go back to our original terrain which is "logic" and leave the emotional terrain for those it was built for. You can't perform in an environment you have not acquainted with before. Anyway all these are written and no one is forced to live by it. The more people don't live by it, the more we are positioned to getting what we want out of life without having issues.

Louisboy22:
meaning because of that u are now real man hmm please can you tell me ur definition of real man

My definition of a real man is a man who knows the things in his control and those out of his control. He knows how to use those things in his control and made peace with those out of his control.

Cc Martinez39s

Martinez39s:
They are lost on their high horses and so absorbed in their self importance that they think they can tell any man what constitutes a real man and they think we care about their attention and validation to give a damn about their opinions.

I pity men that listen to women on issues like this. Men that are being called real men by women are the fools and tools of women eg. a man who spends heavily on a woman even without getting the pússy is called a real man; a man that makes him self a willing tool is called a real man; etc. Women are something else.

I was having a chat with my Kenyan friend a girl. And we were talking, somehow we went into the job aspect and she told me to get a job, I told her I didn't need one that I have a girl who is paying me to date her tho small. And that I'm on the look out for another lady who can pay higher in essence I'm into sugar momma thingy. And she said what happens to the other one if I get a new one. I told her I'd dump her. And she told me never to talk to her, I replied OK. 5min went by and she sent me a text and asked me why I didn't defend myself or beg. I laughed out loud. She said another thing that it takes a real man to beg a woman. I didn't even want to go into arguments with her.

Imagine that I should beg cause I want to be her definition of a REAL MAN. Why?

Toks2008:
Ladies are ruled by their feelings but unfortunately, many ladies have been sent to their early graves cos of this same feelings and many are down with mental illness and some are even locked up in psychiatry all in the name of feelings.

Now understand this; it is not every man who approaches you for romance really desires you and not every man who proposes marriage really wants you for the right reason so you need to really have a strong grip on your feelings and the first step to achieving this is to be self-sufficient in all ramifications to avoid hinging your feelings on materialism, what the guy can offer, good looks, good sex...cos you need more than all these to be happy in any union you find yourself.

Your feelings can destroy you if channeled towards the wrong person so no matter how attractive that guy may look, no matter how sweet and smooth he sounds and no matter how "romantic" he may be, always press the pause button on your feelings and observe him carefully for the right attributes.

One secret ladies don't know is that they can develop feelings for any guy who truly desires them and treats them like a queen even if that guy is totally opposite of what they want in terms of physical looks...it is a mystery so put your feelings on hold and observe keenly then give your feelings to a guy that is deserving of it.

I don't know if you were actually conscious when you posted this. I mean you are asking women to reprogram themselves, and to do things for themselves. You are asking women to pause their emotions the thing they live and strive on, their skill? C'mon man, it's not possible. They'd rather die than do that. You don't tell a specie to not act on how nature built it. If you had asked men not to be emotional then I'd say you asked them to leave a terrain that's not theirs unto one which is theirs "logic".

Martinez39s:
Ah! they are all like that. Female nature is universal. I understand that there are nairaland females that seem to sound intelligent and drop some rational post here and there but if you observe them closely, you will see cracks with time and you will realise that they are all like that.

Just saw her crack. Only when it suits them will they chose which to conform.

Martinez39s:
Michelle is very dishonest. She is a dishonest egalitarian. You can't blame her sha, female nature always come calling.

I got surprised tho. Thought she was different from the rest. And she proved me wrong.

Gina2019:
Why do some girls like exposing themselves to danger? Like I don't get it, even if he wants to have raw sex with u, make sure he didn't cum in you.
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Ejaculation can not be controlled and it very much spontaneous tho we do get the feeling. Sometimes he doesn't even need to feel the cum come out to get you pregnant, ejaculation can just slip out. It's best to use protection.

daisidavid:
wish u understand bro

What is there to understand, that you are feeling pity for a cheat? Why didn't she Bleep you raw and got pregnant and tried to remove it? You should ask yourself all these. And this is the reason women always feel entitled all the time. Cause she's your girlfriend you carry what you don't know bah?

Michellekabod2:
the op never stated she expects marriage from him,or she is burdening him with the responsibility of dealing with her alleged "mess"
for all I know a sexuality active guy is not the "good boy", he is a bad boy like herself. Fair
Hypocrisy and cowardice.

The op stated he wants to build a future with her and tie the not. You just didn't read it right.

I'm not sure you actually read my comment right. I never said anything about a sexually active guy as being a good boy. You should read that again.

This is the very thing I have been talking about. People making the wrong choice and putting other people at a tight spot to go against one's very ethics and norms. How could she make that decision to have sex without protection and now she aborted a baby. What if she contracted the STIs?
You make your choice in life and leave people out of taking decisions all in the name "love" that doesn't exist.
Modified
After fvcking around and catching fun, they want to retire on some good boys all in the name of LOML.
It's ok to bang around, just don't leave evidences
Michellekabod2
Martinez39s
Ubunja.

Still looking for something to make you relevant? @ePoster

proclinician:
Pls eeh just go back to sleep. I wonder how smart u can ever be.

Smart enough to know you are just being an a.s.s.h.o.l.e

proclinician:
Did he say he was sleeping with other guys or not? Give me a reason why he should be angry she's sleeping with other guys.

If you can't figure that reason out by yourself I am afraid you are not as smart as you think. And you don't expect me to tell you that.

proclinician:
She's treating u whichever way because u let her. It's inconsequential

I don't know how you will just open a thread and won't read to understand what the thread is saying. It's quite appalling the level of your understanding and how low your reasoning quotient is. Did he ever say it was her vagina that is the problem?
You know I'm not against her trying out other guys, but what I am against is her holding this one down to try out other guys at this dude expense. Why won't she hold him down when husbands are scarce. I mean the real man. Not some nut job y'all give your pussy for free.

To Martinelli35 you have to man up or you will be used as trash. Never ever give a cheat a second time, cause she will still do it again. Man up and leave the house and her to. Tell her to her face that this is over and mean it. Cause each time you want to leave and she fakes a tear and you stay back, she laughs behind your back and gossip with your name to her friends of how weak you are. They joke about it. That is why sometimes when her friends come around and sees you, thru let out a giggle and a smirk. Cause they know the fo.ol you are ( had to use fo.ol to make you get what I mean and I'm not deliberately calling you one). Man up and leave the house, go look for a place and stay. Process your travel and leave. BTW whichever country you are looking to travel, check here on nairaland to avoid agents scamming you.

Michellekabod2:
Back to your post,the bolded is indeed a queer analogy and can't hold water. You mean a lady in university is likely to be more sexually active than one not in university??

Yes. 90% of them girls in the university are sexually active when compared with those who are not and are in same age bracket.

Reason being they are mostly far from home and out of reach of their guardian. Hence they will want to enjoy what they call "freedom". This is a phase and many do grow out of it whilst others don't. Any girl who is in the university claiming she's a good girl and holy art thou, check her well she's born into the art of whoredom. I used to have a girl who always made me believe she is a good girl and she doesn't do all these sex stuff. But hey she was busy shagging men who are working. I believed her then till I caught her. So yes. They are sexually active in University than those who are not.

lavylilly:
Why is it that men of these days are so interested in knowing whether a gal is a student or graduate?
Men please, that she didn't go to school doesn't mean she has no career, future, can't make a good wife or make her an illiterate..
The last time I checked my dictionary, An illiterate is someone who can not read or write.. If she can read and write ,you have no problem with her provided she gives you peace.

Please stop making them feel like less human, graduates on the other hand should stop discriminating them because they are not opportune to attend college.

Some of these girls are very intelligent, wise and hardworking, but unfortunately for them, they couldn't get sponsor.
Men if you see a good, but not educated, please marry her and enroll her in school provide she is intelligent and willing to go to school.
Most of these girl are wife materials..

The reason men always asks for educational level in women is because, school being an organization for which learning takes place has a lot of role it plays in one's life. The way a person who attended a university will see and reason life will be totally different from the way a person who just stopped at SS2 will reason and see life. It is expected that a lady in the university is going through a Ho phase, and once she's done life get to hit her and she realizes that there's more to life than hoeing around. Very few can dictate what the want right in the university.

Kennedyiheme:
i laugh when i see men posting about wives when its nots even a hard thing to get for men... simps are just destroying the world

They really are.

larryking540:
And when a good government comes in they are give a pardon ,this lady jam the wrong family

No mind them and the lady. She fit don deh beat boys for secondary school deh think say na her right.

Lovelypet28:
Life imprisonment would have been fair but death by hanging?
Yes the constitution says whoever kills must be killed but have they considered her little child.
Her husband's family are very vindictive, they cant remember when they all loved her and were happy during her nikkai, now they want her dead and make her child an orphan ,do they know the importance of a mother in a child's life? No body can love you like ur parents, nobody!
Wherever bilyaminu is, he wouldn't want his wife to die leaving their young child.
Most Nigerians are vindictive, so they might disagree with my opinion.
Lastly death penalty should be abolished, anybody can be rehabilitated.

When she was poking her hubby to death with a knife, she didn't remember the importance of a mother to a child abi? You did the crime you do the time.

If the law abolishes death sentences, I think people will commit murder more because they'd only be imprisoned and rehabilitated.

Michellekabod2:
and what is wrong if she wants him to notice her?
What was the thread created for?if not we have airheads like you that sham and mock ladies that will openly declare their interest and use it to troll them later on,ladies will have quoted him with no shame...

Wriggle out of the slum you reside in and improve your cognitive abilities.

Simping men everywhere. They make things difficult for us. It's very much appalling. What is wrong in applying?

But tbh this is not the best way to look for a wife. Unless of course they wouldn't get married right away.

Michellekabod2:
don't let her go. Love and accept yourself. Don't let anyone broke-sham you. You will make it some day and treat her like the Queen she is.

Don't be ashamed to get her little things like comb,earrings,a lovely T-shirt,or even take her out once a while to eat a moderate lunch. You can send her #200 recharge card

I'm indeed of a hug. Come hug me.

CAPSLOCKED:
ALL MAN DON WISE UP

Definitely!

CAPSLOCKED:
SOMETIMES YOU JUST "FEEL" LOVE FOR ONE OR TWO THINGS ABOUT YOUR PARTNER, AND DECIDE TO GIVE THEM ANOTHER CHANCE.

WE CAN'T ALWAYS HAVE EVERYTHING 100%.

I know. I personally don't. You can't cheat n I will give a second chance. I don't feel "love". Not even for anything.

CAPSLOCKED:
I'VE TRIED THAT BEFORE. SEVERALLY.
SOMETIMES IT GOES WELL, OTHER TIMES, IT LEAVES YOU REGRETTING EVERYTHING.

Then try being weak for a change and don't accept them.

ubunja:
a woman who cheats must never be accepted back. But a man can be accepted any day.

Did you spot the sarcasm?

freedomest:
Forgiving and accepting back a partner who cheated, is it weakness or strength?

That is a sign of strength. I give it to those who can accept a cheating partner.
I can not accept a cheating partner.
I am weak in that aspect.

Strong people accept cheating partners.
And it's OK to be a weak person.
I am a weak person when it comes to that.

NwaAmaikpe.
Martinez39
Ubunja

RisenPhoenix:
In case you are insane or on weed, let me repeat, I have the right to marry who I want to. As for the women I've slept with, they will likely find some half man like you to marry them while still coming to my house for old times' sake.

You know, I really pity men like you. Maybe you think your NL crush will now fall in love with you because you are 'defending women'? Lol. Deceive yourself. I now know who's the one with small dick here. It shows why you are so fixated so much on that.

And I thought I was savage.

BadRadio:
pls ladies dont forget to do this. There are many broke church rat guys out there. some will borrow shirts and blings to look like the real deal when they approach u the first time. watch out!!!

Guys are Jobless nowadays but have time and energy to fvck the hell outta someones daughter. they have no money yet their libido is over the roof.

His statement of account or no show. at least 25million naira should be lodged evidently or no show.


I don talk my own.

for those of u that ll like to troll, be informed that Thunder is Jobless for now

Hi Chenzen. You came back.

razible5384:
why are ur articles not always on the front page?

It's because of Gynocentrism. His articles will liberate men and women will go broke. That's why.