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CHoccolaTE:
Men are the ones sleeping with the so called girls with questionable past, na them dey carry ashawo up and down but they always want to marry a clean fresh untainted virgin.
Very ironic abi hypocritical, I dont know which one is the right word to use

90% of the time, it's those little girls who wants to sleep with men.

Ariza:
All these gibberish because you failed to understand a single word "here" meaning on Nairaland. Lol and you expect me to take your rants seriously? . Just continue your talks about women it is evident that's the only thing your brain can comprehend.

I think you are the one who got it all wrong. You can ignore those threads. I don't see anyone who is more jobless other than one who stops at every thread to call the OP or people who comment in it jobless.

RisenPhoenix:
Give it like 8 or 9 years more until the last child is old enough to take it emotionally, before you divorce her. Otherwise, because you're in the US, she will get custody and you may not even get proper visitation rights. If you are sad because of her behaviour with them when you are there, imagine how much harder it will hit you when you are not there and she is using their misery to spite you. Apart from the kids, you have nothing to attach you to her; so learn to ignore her, live your life, and don't bother yourself with what she does.

Oh, and no more sex. First, you're not her sex slave for 'when she wants it', and second, you might catch something nasty to add to your woes.

Meanwhile, open a new secret bank account in Nigeria and start moving your funds down there. Very gradually sell off anything valuable that you have and put it in hidden investments in Nigeria (stocks, bonds, real estate). Whatever you do, don't keep any documentation at home, get a safe deposit box or keep them with a trusted family member. Also, if you are working at a job, get ready to be fired just before divorce. Leave just a very little bit of savings exposed in your long term bank account and apply for unemployment benefits (the US has them even for certain categories of non-citizens). Take out a first, second and third mortgage on the house if you can. That way, she gets almost nothing from you. You can then hang around the US for a few more years until your eldest ones graduate college and your youngest is above 18, then come back to Nigeria and live off your investments. By the time she realises that the kids hate her and everyone has abandoned her to be shitting her pants in her senile old age, she will understand how important manners are in life.

Word!

CAPSLOCKED:
DO YOU KNOW WHAT'S STUPID?
AFTER ALL THE CLAIMS OF BEING CHAMPIONS ONLINE, IN REAL LIFE MAJORITY OF THESE MEN ARE THE DUMBEST IN THE LAND.
NO OFFENCE. IT'S ANNOYING WHEN I SEE YOU PEOPLE POSING AS DEMI-GODS ONLINE WHEN OFFLINE, A GOOD NUMBER OF YOU ARE CLUELESS, SPINELESS, SEX-STARVED, WOMAN-WORSHIPPING SISSYS.

GO TO WOMEN'S DM'S ON INSTA AND FACEBOOK (AND EVEN NAIRALAND) AND SEE THE ENDLESS QUEUE OF YOUR TEAMMATES, BEGGING WOMEN FOR ONE NONSENSE OR THE OTHER.
IF YOU PRACTICED ALL YOU PREACH WE WON'T BE ANALYSING THESE THINGS AT THIS RATE.

Can I see your tits and per china?

Shugavee:
We need to talk about this,, u might be helping someone,, so when u veiw please drop a comment cause I know all of us has had our heart broken some couple of times,,,

question: how did u get over ur heartbreak ?

Well I read my bible while I cry ,, reading verses that says how God loves me no matter what , I can drop the verse for any one who asks , then I take some acohol , then eat heavy n sleep. The next day I do chores , go to work n get really busy ..continue with the same routine till I am over it , so what about you ?

Hope you are not fat. My advice, always be open to change, that way you will not be taken by surprise.

Ariza:
How these guys hold lengthy discussions on women amazes me. You see them dissecting and bisecting women's anatomy, exchanging epistles full of repetition on women they claim to hate. You all are bunch of jokers.

BTW are men so uninteresting that ladies do not discuss them like guys do women here? Just wondering....

If you don't discuss men which I know you are terrible at lying, then you are probably a lesbian.
Women discuss men often it's just not in the open. The moment they get boobs, they start talking about how a man looked at them of which usually to a much more experienced or older girl than them who in turn gives them advice on how to handle men. So don't come and be spilling shits you've got no idea of or you do know but for the sake of this post and your comment you do not want to admit it.
As for the dissecting and bisecting, if we don't do it on this forum and this way, how are we going to rescue those willing to be saved?
Do you know that most times when a woman withdraws sex, the man is pushed to cheat on her?
This post is and will educate men on how to deal with sexual urges and is liberating us from that which you have against us.

You've got to ignore some certain things, not for any other thing other than your sanity. If we chose to discuss women, how is that your business? Did Illekokonit mention your name in the write up?
You know this goes to prove how unstable you guys are emotionally.

okpalaAnambra:
Sadist..why not hang yourself since you're unhappy

I think the word you are looking for is "depressed fella" as sadist means entirely different thing from what you are trying to portray. No offense intended.

bnmbv:
I begin to fear your submissions. It appears you reside with us.You know even the things I skipped You are perfectly right, nothing I do ever pleases her. Nothing. I mean Nothing.

bro quietly and jejely listen to Belafonte. Do as he said without skipping any thing. Keep it at the back of your head and delete this page ask the mods to do it for you. So you don't leave traces. Do as Belafonte said!

CAPSLOCKED:

PERHAPS,
THERE IS NONE MORE MALICIOUS AND BITTER, LIKE THE ONE WHO WAS RAISED BY A MALICIOUS AND BITTER SINGLE MOTHER.

AT 48 YOU'RE ALREADY HAVING HIGH BP. FROM YOUR STORY I DOUBT YOU EVEN HAVE SIX MORE MONTHS TO LIVE BEFORE YOU DIE FROM A HEART ATTACK.

WITH THE WAY I LOVE SERENITY, I WOULD HAVE SENT HER PACKING.. ASSUMING I WAS FOOLISH ENOUGH TO EVEN MARRY AND STAY MARRIED TO SOMEONE LIKE THAT FOR OVER 13 YEARS.

MARTINEZ39.MARTINEZ39S.UBUNJA.MJBOLT.ASTROG.JOHNNYSPUTE.EMMAODET.OMAR09.

He saw the character of hers whilst dating.

Palehair:
Capisco

Nowadays, some men out perform the women in their own territory and the women do fall for it

That is just being simpish and sissy-ish.

Palehair:
You made so much sense but I stopped reading at "leave the emotional terrain for those it was built for". I hope that sentence isn't what I'm thinking, I may be wrong though. Can you please clarify on that so that I don't assume something else?

Emotional terrain is knowing what's right and instead doing what feels right. Logical terrain is knowing what's right and doing it.
Emotion is trying to avoid one's problems knowing fully well the only to make it go away is by facing it head on. Whilst logical terrain is facing your problems head on.

I'd give you an example. A lady who is in a relationship knows that sleeping with another guy who is not her boyfriend or husband is not right and will hurt the significant other if he finds out, but will go ahead to sleep with that guy who is not her significant other because it feels right and satisfies her emotions.

Now men move into the emotional terrain by recharging a girl's phone and calling to know if it was successful. That is being emotional and it doesn't fit men. You will see men who will provide money for their girl to abort a baby that isn't his own and still get yelled on by the girl for not providing enough or on time. Men move into that terrain by when their girl visits and goes home, they call to know if she has reached home safely whilst it's the duty of the person who came to call and let the host know he/she has reached their place of abode safely. You see all these things feels right, but they are not right. What is right?
Recharging your partner with top up and that partner calling to tell you they've received it.
A girl being able to take care of herself and bills when aborting a baby that she fully knows is not her boyfriend's.
A partner calling the other partner that he/she has reached her place of abode successfully.

Modified:
Emotional terrain is built for them women and not men. It's their weapon nature gave them.
Capiche?

Palehair:
Huh.... I'm a guy but I get your point and not all girls like the macho vibe they get from men. Some girls love their men to kick into their feminine side but at the same time still the man in the relationship. That's why communication is key at the early start so that they both know if they are right for one another

I rest my case.

BrainnewsRadio:
Clean for what?

Who told you that they are not CLEAN?

Re: Meet Himba Tribe Who Don’t Take Baths, Offer Free Sex To Guests

Would have been an ideal place if they were clean.

Blu03:
dont count on it.

Not counting either.

Blu03:
Reason why i dislike most females. Only to gossip, form 'pepper dem' gangs, or just be stupid.

Hmm. Just entertain me.

husbandsnatcha:
... what did u understand by erratic u illiterate troll?

See how new cool and quiet blu03 sprang to action to insult me like whom it knew for 5yrs,

Isn't about learning about creating thread but the manner u did it ,
After a min of registering u created a perfect thread ,u can deceive children like omar09 martinez39z ,yes they are my daughter's agemate in year one deceive them I HATE TROLL SO MUCH... Aneemal KHIA..........


Is a pity nairaland has bcom an abode of kids from waec centre ,woh a shame

Imma sit this one out and watch how it goes.

powerkey:
This is not about man and woman.

It's about husband and wife.

Can you apply this your theory to your own marriage?

Then you'll either make your house conducive for the man not to contemplate cheating or you run back to your mum

Whether married or not, you should not condone cheating regardless of gender.

jawalis:
What exactly is your point. Blah blah blah. Are you comparing yourself with a MAN? don’t be a fool. Stay where you are supposed to be and quietly. •We are humans too,we have feelings too,we feel bad when you cheat on us as well. The fact that we are women and you are men shouldn't give you the privilege to think it's your entitlement to cheat. What you wouldn't like to be done to you, don't do to another• what’s this shit? You just realized you all are humans but forgot when you talk rudely to the men in your life, when you behave as if the world rotate around you. Just get the bleep off.

You know what vexes me most, they'd meet the guys who will make them their world and what do they do, they don't even give him a chance and they will pick the scum of all men and later will generalize.

lavylilly:
Moment Of Truth.

A cheat is a cheat irrespective of who is caught in the act. Me personally I don't condone cheating. I detest it so much. Now whether or not a person wants to still put up with a cheat is entirely up to them. I know women who will walk out when they suspect you of cheating. Now those who put up with cheats are suffering from low self esteem and it doesn't mean they are strong regardless of gender. Between they two gender, none cheat less than each other. And what really is the major cause of cheating is "people not being ready for relationship and jumping into it without defining what they want". One thing is to define what you want, and another is finding out if your partner wants such. Cause you can't be looking for a sex mate and come in disguise of relationship. And you can't be looking for companion whilst your partner is after fling thing.

Women are humans I agree to that. Men also are humans too. Meet any girl on the street and she will tell you she has a boyfriend, look deep and you will see she has different men for different purposes in her life ranging from her secret admirer (whom she's very much aware of) to her bestie, from her material provider down to her sexual fantasy. Even the dude that will propose and she will say yes. Yet she has a boyfriend. When asked why all these you'd get the usual response "you can't put your egg in one basket", "what if he fails and dumps me?" meanwhile the same girl has made sure she's the only one in the guys life to the point where previous friends and even childhood female friends are being scared away by the boyfriend under the guise "do you love me?".

@op you point out the fact that y'all ladies are being emotionally traumatized by cheats yet you have the opportunity to leave but still chose to stay, it's your cross to carry and not to blamed on men.

You make your choice, you live with the consequences. No one forced anyone to remain in a toxic relationship. Don't come and blame men for your misdeeds!

Arthur21:
But on a serious note,no matter how she fukc up some times she still better pass the typical naija gal for this forum.

I would pick her over Funmisticqueen. Sometimes her head go enter other times she go tell you say na woman she be.

farady:
So what is difficult in severing ties with your childhood friend eh, madam? You even delete the chats - meaning the chats are not what the eyes can see, bah? Madam, please respect your husband, biko. Your closest friend should be your husband and that your childhood closest friend should be his wife period.

If you truly meant well, if both you and your childhood friend reside in the same city or town, you can invite him and his family for lunch to foster mutual friendship, so that your husband and him get along, with the ladies doing their thing. If both of you live in different towns and you want to connect, you simply call in the presence of your husband, talking with his wife, give the phone to your husband to say 'hi' I am very sure that if you did this, there is no way your husband will harbour things in his mind concerning your relationship with that guy.

For now, "it has spoil" Na damage control you go dey do now. You need to grow up, be responsible and act responsibly like a married woman of 11years. Stop being stubborn or else na you go still loose. Your husband seems to me like someone that has plan B, C, D..... up his sleeves. Be kiafu and take caution.

Do you know that she could ask the husband to speak with her said childhood friend and still be banging him behind her husband. Why will one who is married be friends with another of her past? She should ask herself why she didn't marry him. Men this thing called marriage hmm mum y has to accept my kids from baby mama or she's on her own.

virgoquin:
People like you that give women bad names. If the spark in your marriage is gone which one is more easier, running into the arms of your ex boyfriend or working it out with your husband.

Running into the arms of your ex boyfriend is easier.

Skepticus:
You are the real man.

How women shit test you. I read that ubunja topic. It helped me to realize when I was being shit tested.

Skepticus:
Classic female shit-testing on men. She tested you by going mute at first. At that point, nice, foolish beta guys would start messaging back typing "Hi" "Baby, I'm sorry" etc. You did the right thing by ignoring her.

To further test your resolve and assess your frame of masculinity, she poked at your ego, by asking you to be a "real man" by apologizing. At this point, a lot of males would apologize to be a real man there by giving themselves off as " weak" to the woman's subconscious. Standing your ground would earn you respect from her and project you as a "strong" male to her subconscious

I stood my ground and told her I can't defend myself since it's your choice and I can only prolong the inevitable but I can't stop it and I have gone past that stage where one can threaten me with breakup. And she was like "I know deep down you can be threatened" I replied her deep down I feel something and I just know which fight I chose. Long story short, she apologized.

uncastableodd:
Good morning everyone.

In the middle of the night today, I tried to look for duvet to cover up my son on bed. I decided to check my wife wardrobe.

I saw a pack of mycoten in the wardrobe. She already slept this time. So I had to chill till this morning to ask her questions.

So, this morning when I asked her, she said it was her mum that gave her bla bla bla..
I saw a piece of paper prescribing that cream for her in that same bag I found the cream.

I googled the uses of mycoten and I found out it was nothing serious because it is use for yeast infection and vagina odour. My wife dont have vagina odour and I understand yeast infection can be gotten from toilet or could be infection of body skin that spread or so.

I actually know she lied about her mummy giving her. But what baffles me is that I got a whatsapp message from her when she was coming from my son school..

She wrote that I nag a lot. That I should give her space. That u think she can't cope without me. She said she will look for work to take care of our son.She said we have been together for six years and I don't even trust her a bit. She said I think she can't leave without her. She didn't even address the issue of allegation of infidelity I threw against her(i deliberately did that #.I replied her I can't give her space in my own house and if she is fed up, she can pack her bags and go to her parent house. I told her if my son is infected or if I am infected , I am going to kill her and hand over myself to police. Immediately she blocked me on whatsapp and I did same. After an hour, she unblocked me.

Could she have been sleeping around her? Or are there any other uses of mycoten I don't know?

In my mind though, the cream I find is not really something to worry about but the message I got and her reaction is what I don't understand.

Bro you went too far with the way you addressed this issue. How could you threaten her with death. Now she won't trust you to confide in you. And this your reaction is the reason she didn't tell you anything in the first place.

That mycotic infection is not an STDs. Now you have made the mistake by handling it with a lot of insecurity. All you have to do is try to make amend with your wife. That's all. Don't be quick to anger.

healthserve:
Whatever energy starts a relationship is what sustians it 90 per cent of times. You'll hardly be given the opportunity to change it once the game starts. So self mastery is best before entering. A relationship like you said. Once I have a clumsy start I walk away. No time. Cause ladies have a bank where they store everything they capture during a relationship and would use as a reference point when least expected


For me o, I exited a few relationships and friendships last year cause the start was faulty. How it's started is key. It's the energy that sustains the relationship

I was shocked to the bone marrow when my ex caught me in a lie and showed me the reference on WhatsApp. You needed to see my face, I just walkers out on her. Jesu

healthserve:
Gbam. We haven't still finished mourning our last beta brother Samson that died thousands of years ago. [b]Let's hope and pray men learn and master the act of self emotional management and control before they enter relationships[/b]otherwise their eyes go see pepper if they fall into the hands of the wrong/manipulative woman. The psychopath

@ the bolded is why I have decided to put a pause to relationship, just so I can get a grip on myself.

TonyeBarcanista:

It is okay if he likes meat as well... But very gross if he didn't like meat but ordered it just to patronise his woman.

Whether or not he likes meat, so long as fish is his favorite, he should have had the fish instead of the meat. But yeah you are right.

TonyeBarcanista:
He was a weak man that was easily manipulated by his girlfriend, and serially betrayed himself just to please his girlfriend. He was a fool

“Tell me about it!” is a an expression that doesn't literally mean you should tell the implied person about whatever topic. It's is used when someone is concurring to your opinion. And the answer to such should either be a silent or a “yeah”.
No offense.