₦airaland Forum

Ofido: PDP all the way.... Cross River State, Rivers, Enugu, Gombe, Plautue name them all wonderful pdp states. For the acn, apart from lagos and edo wat else?

mike404: ask omiOBO

ztar: how are on earth can u call them lazy...mr privileged one.....its easy to make comment but try to be reasonable...those people are just trying to survive....

Ogbonaikenna: Very true. I'm a corper and i know everything he's saying is correct. We don't have teaching background and you expect us to impact what we don't have. Its impossible. I'm a civil engineer wasting my precious time teaching JSS classes. Only in nija

freecocoa: -For her unconditional love.
-Her great sense of humor, you must find hilarity in whatever she does\say, I know how hard we fought not to laugh while she was scolding us, she was just too funny.
-Her exceptional culinary skill.
And not forgetting her legendary left back hand slap, I'm sure my two older siblings will never forget this even if their memories get formatted .

jmoore: Yes, your reasoning faculty is fishy. Actresses are ladies

mikeapollo: I dont know how old or how matured you are, so I would not blame you.
A nation can only develop when its citizensa are empowered through education, not by planting flowers and embarking on inflated contracts. Ekiti, Osun Edo states etc are not the richest states in Nigeria, but they still strive to make higher education accessible for their citizens. Ekiti state govt has just announced a comprehensive scholarship scheme for its citizens. Osun State is trying to subsidise education for its people too.

What is your corrupt, greedy and arrogant Fashola doing in Lagos? Taking higher education awat from the reach of the ordinary Lagosians.

If you are fortunate to have parents who are paying your bills, remember those who may be very very brilliant but with unfortunate circumstances who are finding things difficult. The essence of govt is to make life easier for the majority, who incidentally are the poor. It s the poor people that queue up in the sun to vote. The rich dont stand in the sun to vote.

The 2 things that the masses enjoy directly from govt are good health care and education. Fashola has virtually messed up those sectors....it is now cash and carry for the rich only!

Awolowo, Jakande and even Tinubu made provisions for the less privileged, but not this useless and mean governor called Fashola.

Kobojunkie: The problem with box-thinkers is that you try to subject everything you encounter to the limits obtained in that box of yours. You claim to be married to a man who happens to be the first born and pretend the reason why your husband bears the financial burden is simply because he is the first born. What then do you tell a woman who is married to the third son in the family who happens to bear the financial burden for his family? Do you tell her that she lies and that her husband is really the first born as a result? Is that how you will explain that away?

No one family is same with others. Some first-borns out there do not even bear the burden, whether female or male. There are numerous cases of even the 4th borns bearing all the burden because those before her refuse to take on the extra responsibilities as they see no reason to. While there are cases where each sibling is only responsible for self, and no one else. Essentially, there is no cut-and-paste logic obtainable for these things but clearly we have lots of inside-the-box thinkers, mostly males(I pity the women who end up with this ones) who feel there is way they can maneuver around the problems of life while skirting common sense.

Kobojunkie: There is something that is typical with a lot of Nigerians, not just you. Rather than look for ways to release yourselves from those mentalities that have to date yielded not much in the way of progress, you look for others like you to feed you the same old BS so you can maintain the four-walls of that box that has caged you and those before you for generations.

You conveniently label it wisdom and understanding yet NOTHING in the bible suggest any of what you and your concocted in this makes sense. In fact pattern after pattern in the books shows that those who considered this sort of thinking wisdom ended up paying for it, dearly too. But, like I said, I know this is Nigerian way of reasoning and you are welcome to continue in that box of stu_pid ideas, and pretending they have to do with wisdom when even common sense continues to fly past you on a daily basis.

I am sorry you feel insulted but I have in no way insulted your person, only told you the truth about your thinking, your friend's and the fact that you are no different from the typical Nigerian out there, always looking for ways to AVOID applying common sense solutions, which consists is WISDOM itself, when trying to resolve even daily life's issues. Again, the Bible says Wisdom confounds the foolish . . . I see it daily in many Nigerians.

enigmagu1: ds kind longgggg write up not even a single psn click d like botton..u no y e no make sense..no vex say i talk am o!!!

maclatunji: I understand what you mean perfectly. There something called Role Set. This means I as an individual may have many roles- a son, husband, father, brother, boss, subordinate, teacher etc. The same thing applies to you and your spouse.

What your wife is experiencing is Role Strain. Performing the role of elder sister is putting a strain on her role as a wife thereby creating problems in her marriage.

If you the husband decide to put pressure on her over this matter, Role Conflict may occur. This means her role as elder sister has become antithetical to her role as your wife and she has to choose one.

I suggest that you don't allow this to happen. Support her and help relieve her burden not add to it.

You are right we singles should recognise these and other issues and figure out how to manage them before getting married.

Kobojunkie: Did you even read the post, and then my response to even get a good clue what my response was about?

Kobojunkie: Did you even read the post, and then my response to even get a good clue what my response was about?

jhydebaba: If you have severe headache, will u cut ur head and did I hear u call ur wife the wrong woman