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Wife na wife, girlfriend na girlfriend. Forget the choice of words ''my brothers'' used, but U should know the difference without being told.

Only stupid men would equate their wives to just another girl.

It's not compulsory; but sometimes it myt be the best decision U make in the interest of the home U will have.

If it's not Ur's don't stick it.

Mrs. Chima, by wife & gf, I take it U mean a man that has both treating the wife good and the gf like poo? If that's what U mean then what do U expect? She's not his wife so why should he treat her like his wife? She has shown herself poo-ish indulging a married man so why treat her any better than poo?

As for the guys not spending time with their women and that raising suspicion, that suspicion is justified. People spend time with what/who they love & sometimes the time just doens't feel enough. If he's not spending time with her, or vice versa, something could be wrong.

If a guy keeps pressuring a girl for a realtionship it means he thinks his chances of success are high & that in turn usually means the girl is giving him ''NO'S'' that are more of ''MAYBE'S.''

There's no polite way of saying No when U mean it and the person your saying it to seems to lack the capacity to understand.

If your gf has a toaster that won't go away, even for a while, it's very possible she has done or is doing something that makes him feel he can have her.

There was a time where I would have considered beating the crap out of the guy, but that was when I was naieve.

Make we guys no dey dull ourselves. It's typical for most girls to want to eat their cake and have it. All man suppose know say when babe say no she dey show the no.

Ignore the guy as a threat. The worse that can happen is U loose Ur girl to him, but then the truth will come out. She expects U to handle Ur biz for her in the interest of Ur relationship & she can't handle hers for U then she no make sense.

Another manipulative thread. *SMH*

Yeah, it also sounds like U are obsessing about her & that comes with appearing needy and being clingy.

If U are already dating her & she's giving U the come back on so and so day for my reply line, dude, there are more chances she's breaking up but doesn't know how to go about it & is either waiting for U to give her strong enuf reason or to choose another nest to lay her eggs in before she kicks U off.

How exactly did she break Ur heart?
Ur entire post is sha giving off the scents of insecurity.

Yeah Semira is right, marriage was not made for sex. Sex was made for marriage.

Now for the girls that think size matters more than skill, are U imagining that every woman has the same size of va.ginal cavity? Just cos Ur's can contain the titanic doesn't mean there aren't women that can take no more than a canoe.

Dude, sexual inexperience isn't what is ''killing'' your marriage. That probably is just one evidence of deeper problems one of which is malnurished intimacy. I'm not talking bout sex.

How well do U & your wife communicate? Did U build on the other necessary forms of intimacy that should preceed sexual intimacy? Are U friends? Do U share any interests in common? What things do U enjoy doing together?

Good sex that leaves either or both parties feeling deeply satisfied even after the show is over doesn't just happen. It starts with a process & leads to a series of processes that come about naturally if each preceeding one is properly carried out.

your small pen.is isn't the problem & your wife's frigidity can be turned around if U both want to develop healthy & satisfying intimate relations sensually & sexually.

your p.e.n.is is small? Compared to what? Small for who? Who told U it is small or if it is small it automatically becomes useless? Are U a Joystick or do U have a Joystick? Is your ability to satisfy your wife sexually limited to your pe.nis?

your wife is like a beautiful flower & U are like night & day. U need to set the mood for her petals to open up when it's day & when it's night it's ok for her to keep them open or closed.
Trust me if U both play your cards right U have better chances of enjoying a great sexual history for the rest of your life than most other couples do. The beauty of sex sometimes lies more in the explorations & discoveries with that lover who is willing to go with U & is on the same naieve level with U.

Don't use por.n o. Let her be your por.n & be her por.n when U get to that level. For now, U have got to learn to talk to your wife bout little things & with time & developing comfort levels U can learn to toast her, then learn to turn her on till she wants U bad. U have to learn to control your libido also, keeping your desires steps behind hers & that requires a lot of temperance, self control & maturity.

It myt take a while depending on how both of U go about it but having a blissful sexual relationship built on more than just sexual desire is possible.

Good luck

Yes! That's the simple answer to Ur question. Women would consider success & wealth before looks more often than not. Na looks dem wan chop? And as for preferences between money and suceess, more women would go for money cos success can be defined without money sometimes.

domwas2:
I'm Sick & Tired; She Keeps Telling Me About People Who Woo Her

I'm getting sick and tired, my girlfriend keeps telling me numbers of men who woo her on the way & describing them to me everytime we meet, wats the reason, or most she tells me. Ladies is it necessary or whats in her mind?

A had a girl who had the habit of doing that too. At first it annoyed me cos the names kept changing and that made me feel she was indulging too many guys too often. I told her to stop it and I didn't want to hear about any boys toasting her, then I studied the pattern and realized she brought the topic up anytime she thought I had had fun doing stuff that had nothing to do with her. Alas it was all her insecurity and a need to assert herself as "desirable" that inspired her actions, so whenever she started I'd just ignore her or tell her more about other things I did that were fun and had nothing to do with her till she would stop and pout and sulk and just leave it off. Ended up in temporarily pulling us apart a bit but things got sorted out after a while.
The way I saw it, she needed to grow up and realize it's ok for me to have fun doing other things that have nothing to do with her. I think she did. I hope she did sha, cos some other guy might,

Anyway U get the point.

If the relationship was found and built on sex in the first place (like most relationships are these days), talking bout dissatisfactions of any kind in any department won't be so easy.

There are stages of intimacy, starting from the middle or end leaves a void beneath that won't easily be filled when there's a celling above.

Relationships should be progressive, one step at a time. If u feel u are going to fast (and it's not cos some other dude/guy has caught Ur attention) it's ok to slow down till head and heart are at equilibrium.

It's not everything a woman suggests a man should consent to. If we were turning our heads where ever our necks wanted we'd be in big trouble someday.

It's ok for a woman to suggest anything her curious mind thinks up, not ok for her man to indulge ALL her thoughts/meditations.

At least she confessed and didn't deny. That's a good sign. There are thieves and liars U would catch in the act that would deny even when they'e been found out.

I can forgive the one that confesses and forsakes, the one that denies, Ha! RED FLAG flying high.

African_queen:
It can last for me if he has d right attitude cos I'm the kind of girl that appreciates attitude

In any case there needs to be money o. If it isn't there now it had better come soon otherwise e go die or just fizzle away.

mama-gee:
[color=deeppink]What does it really translate to when a man finishes speaking and then stares at you?[/color]

Try ask psychics dem or give us multiple choice and be specific bout who the man is and who the people are.