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MMM3, any girl that gives everyone Womanliness couldn't posibly last in marriage unlessof course she marries another woman.

How on any planet, can any girl giving eVErYoNE Womanliness be the best? the best wetin sef?

Society can't do anything to us unless we allow it to.

Our parents believed in making it work. They took pride in keeping healthy relationships, we're so liberal we accept divorce even before we become man & wife.

Sadder than they are as we are, we still think they are 'old school' & that is supposed to be an offensive description.

They didn't read as many m&b's (if any) as we do, neither did they pay as much attention to Hollywood as we do.
Their ambitions were simple and tailored to be centered around family values & home. They understood better the concept of prioritizing & accepted better that there is a time for everything.

iice, U are right, we just might be saying the same thing.

Havesense1, I don't know about U o, but I believe in reward & punishment. I will not reward bad behavior with good gifts, neither good behaviour with punishment.
I have no intentions of being positively affectionate to anyone ALL the time. My relationships will not be left at the mercy of whims.
Being good to someone doesn't always mean being pleasant.
when our mums would force bitter pills down our throats when we were sick, & our dads refuse to buy us the jeep we wanted for our 10th birthday, they were being good to us but it definately didn't look that way, did it?

Balanced compensation.

The typical pretty (physically attractive) girl has been pretty for as long as she can remember. if she sounds dumb, it's not her fault entirely. She grew up with a less developed portion of the brain that is responsible for conversational prowess cos she didn't need to talk much so her mind didnt see the need to come up with interesting topics to share in discussions or positive social verbal interactions, and as such she just is more skilled at listening & giving brief replies.

She is capable of developing her convo skills if she desires todo so n works towards it, just like the fat girl can loose weight & the not so pretty girl can discover what makes her appear more visually appealing.

A liar is a liar and tells lies,

A player isn't necessary a liar, He's usually just the guy that isn't saying so much that he needs to lie. He leaves the played to assume and they become victims of their own assumptions. He didn't lie and he didn't tell the truth either.

Iice, at the end of the day, no one's real self is so irresistibly desirable. that's like telling marketers not to advertise, peacocks not to plume, male birds not to grow brightly coloured feathers in mating season & politicians not to campaign & then expect for all these to succeed in their ambitions.

Reality is boring or can be better appreciated by the more mature mind. A man should show all he can be & let the woman see she can have what she wants & what she needs with him.

By giving a woman the best of both worlds nested in love, affection & desire, a man helps her discover what she wants, what she needs & how to be content with a healthy dosage & balance in the relationship.
Most girls appreciate mystery cos it gives them something to do.

Even in marriage, being Urself can lead to a rot.
It is boring & tiring & should be reserved for when it can be tolerated or appreciated. Variety spices life. Best be everyone U can be with an understanding of seasons & your loved one will open up to show U which of U they best relate with in the ways that are healthy for the both of U.

Attraction is a powerful tool. A woman will be morecertain U are the one when she finds herself attracted to U, & more so when she feels other women find U attractive. Though it may just happen without ones effort sometimes, it takes effort to keep it happening from time to time the closer U get to each other.

I totally agree with U on having a sense of self, however I choose to differ on being urself. It is important that self is preserved amidst the drama so as not to loose oneself to any of the possible characters. be firm in character but flexible in personality when needed.

Bros, I go expose o. My future wife, sister, daughter or niece fit read these things go dey assume say na so life be.

Guys abeg make we dey try use our head give advice to these babes. Una think say dem no dey accept wetin we yarn as the way to live? Girls naturally listen even when they try not to & they regard what we have to say even when they would rather not.

U guys make it obvious that it's cos of men society has become largely immoral - giving all these crappy type advices in the name of humor.

Babes, hoard that sex pot as smartly as U can cos it's your most potent one-time-gambit. the conquest is once & afterwards it's just there.

Dangle it in front of us, make promises we'l have it someday, tease us with suggestions we can have it & if we are patient enough to prove ourselves in waiting till it's right, at which point we would have grown to really want more than just that. Once a man has been there, his eyes clear & if there was not more to U to him than just that, it's exit till I'm Hot enough & your available enough.

Every man wants the exceptional. We like being associated with the outstanding.Sex is common. If our gadgets & toys, that mirror what status we ascribe ourselves are associated with exclusivity why shouldn't our women be same?

Opinion seconded. Ok maybe not half the time as opined by the dude in question, cos there's no accurate measure of ''half the time'' since 'full the time' cannot be calculated.

Anyway it's better to give a woman the full experience. Treat her good sometimes, treat her bad sometimes - good more than bad, but make sure she gets the full experience.

Truth is when a girl doesn't feel she has it all she'l go looking for what she doesnt have, whether it's the good, the bad or the ugly.

He treats her right & ''he's just too good;'' bad, and ''he's just evil.'' He cares too much & ''he's a whimp.'' He doesn't care at all & ''he's a brute.''
A man's scholng is too big & ''it's too big it hurts.'' It's too small & ''it's soo small, I don't feel a thing.'' He lasts long & ''it's too much,'' he cums quick & ''it's too soon.'' He's likes its tender & slow & ''he's too mushy,'' rough & hard & ''he's not sensitive to my needs.''

Gentlemen, there's a reason why they say ladies first,  Boring as it may be & limiting to their needs with disregard for Urs, it's best to look at it as a job. Forget how U feel, your own needs e.t.c, & give her the full experience, till she's older & more mature & convinced she has it made being with U, & if she has been disciplined enough to have kept herself attractive & tuned to your needs then, U will have rest & comfort at the arms of the one U worked on for years & she will have U. There's a time for everything, seed time and harvest time.

Don't be afraid to say no when U have to & don't be so frugal U can't say yes.
Here a little, there a little.  If she needs to be cuddled, cuddle with her, if scolded, scold her. Being predictable is boring.

Every girl wants that ''full woman experience.'' They like to believe that's it's cos of something about them U can't resist U are with the. They want to feel like they earned Ur love by some skill or talent that they have honed better than the other girl. Now as much as Ur with her cos U love her & want her, it's better to let her imagine sometimes & believe that it's cos of that superiority she has above the other girls that U 'can't do without her.'

Young girls/women usually idolize the thrills & excitement. Older women whose bodies have aged & eyes have opened cherish love.

If U love her selflessly, give her the full experience. Be her everyman & if she can't still appreciate your efforts, good riddance & don't look back. That's where looking at it as a job comes in handy,  U don't get attached as much as if U look at it as a pleasure ride in a fair world.

Tpia, God bless U with good husband. If na as naija babes be in real life as most dey on nairaland, e better make we go find foreign witches marry.

Loosing that feminine allure is not cool at all. Some sef dey talk like say na devil raise them.

I been don dey weigh options of tending towards Cote d'voire sirea Leone or Ghana.
I go still wait sha.

I think I'm the philosopher dreamer bf with elements of old man grumpus, joe sensitive & ace of hearts.

If i were Mr. Right, I wouldn't get married ever cos I'll reason along the lines of, "why commit to one when they all want U." Won't make me less choosy sha.
Have "tailor made designer kids" & a fine ass looking professional gf for every season with absolutely no strings attached.

Since it's limited to just five, mine are:
Friendship, trust, respect, understanding & Love.
in that order.

@Toyemz, A fat 190 wouldn't have to be on U, he could just lay back & let U ride the big daddy boat.

Besides a fat man is as easy to pleasure as a thin man since our main (not only) pleasure spot is our phallus & that doesn't take on fat.

We know how women's skins are more sensitive & pleasuring a woman requires lots of touch in different places. A fat woman is more difficult to please than a slim & fit one. A thin one could be too easy if her mind is not broken & locked to pleasure.

Dump her just cos she grew fat? Nah, , the change may have it's influences on our relationship & possibly maim the passions, but I probably would have more than a beautiful body that made me choose her out of the others.

Fat can be lost. Treasures when lost can also be hard to find.

Besides if the fat sediments in the right place > I might even reward her.

Looking healthy is good business.

Ask Ur man.
If he is indeed Ur man it'l be hard for him to lie to U and/or for U to not know when he is lying to U.

That's advice for the sane people in similar situations.

Now for U the self deluded babe asking this question, U can do that too, or U could just go see a doctor to treat U or a pastor to lay hands on U to expel those self-deceiving spirits.

Flirting is self seeking. U want to feel good about what effect U can see U are having on the other person while doing those things U are doing.

Lets not lie to ourselves, we all flirt sometime like animals do mating rituals; but even animals choose who they mate with & they have flirting/mating seasons.

For those who say, ''I'm not flirting. I'm only being nice/polite,'' when it's clear to others that they are flirting, you're in denial.

Addictions are of different forms. No be only alcohol dey high person.

Flirting is suggestive. Being nice is being nice with no undertones.

Flirting seeks indulgence. Being nice at worst seeks appreciation.

Flirting craves excitement. U don't have to be excited about being nice.

Flirting is complusive, impulsive & excessive. It could also become obsessive. Being nice is none of this.
E.t.c

Captivating.

Haven't come across a single girl anywhere else who could keep my attention as easily as she does; and she's in no way forceful in going about that.

Distracting, interesting, animated, gentle, tender, mature, delightful, funny, charming, stable, intelligent, witty, ehchanting, calm, cool, adorable, tempting, alluring, , I could go on & one with the one words,

The two girls are exactly alike?
The way & manner I will marry that virgin ehn, e no get part two.
Unfortunately that exactly alike no dey work for reality. If U desire two girls equally it means U desire neither of them enuf & it would be in Ur best interest nog to get into anything serious with either.

I have girl friends & if it all boiled down to choosing one to settle with, I know what heirarchy of affections & compatibility I have & could develop with them. The virgins won't be on the bottom cos it's a big deal to find a girl that can say no & stick to her guns in a righteous thing.

sagamite, U holy pass anybody? Why don't U focus on the politicians U elected & let God deal with the clergy He called. Abi U sef don turn judge? U no go stand before God give account of Ur life?

I see.

Matthew 25:41. "Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:"

Emphasis on prepared for the devil and his angels.

Romans 6:16 "Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?"

Revelatios 20:15 "And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire."

John 3:17 "For God sent not his son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved."
(For clearity read John 3:16-18)

John 1:12 "But to as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name"

In summary, hell was prepared not for the souls of men but for the devil and his angels (messangers). Man can escape from death and hell to life & eternity through Christ Jesus.
God is Love and in Jesus Christ is that Love ultimately expressed. We were all on course to eternal life before sin derailed us and God in his mercies gave up Christ that the gap caused by sin be bridged. The price was paid once for all & there is no other way through which men might be saved.

The choice is to each man where he will spend eternity.

Won't we all stand alone before God to give acount of the life we lived on earth & answer each man for his choices & decisions?

It is more blessed to give than to receive. What I give is between me & God; to what use the receiver puts it is between that person and God. My responsibilty is lighter being the giver if U ask me. all I have to do is let go of that ''little'' in the right place. The pastor gets to see lots of littles & then let go in the right direction.
We will all give account of ourselves to God so looking to another man and what he does and/or doesn't do to decide what I will or won't do when the world is laid open to each and everyone of us to hear & know, is not applicable.
Let God be judge.

Naija Romance: Win the girl over with trendy gifts then stuff her with all the delicasies the glutton in her will not resist - Sharwama, Meat pie, Burger, Yogurt, chocolate fudge/cake, Ice-cream, Nkwobi, Isi-ewu, bokotor, gulder, sangria, coke e.t.c till she's fat and shapeless, then switch to the next romatic victim till u find the one that is disciplined & can say no.

I see.

Character is something we discover with time. Personality is what hints us to what character could be. Beauty is what attracts us.

In choosing a wife with whom I intend to build a good home, I'll consider personality first, of course if I don't notice the beauty, I probably wouldn't single her out for further considerations.

character is who we are are when no one else is there.

Ogugua88, So lying can be justified with reasons sometimes. Is that what U are saying?

Some girls eyes too dey chook.
Dude, first of all, age and virginity are not correlated. Just cos a guy is 27 doesn't make it odd for him to not have had sex.

Anyway, from what U have said, I think your girl was trying to play a fast one. typical eat your cake and have it scenario. Seems she gave herself to new guy and new guy, having seen her made in China don log out of that server but never off the computer. Guilt dey make new guy try patch things up between U and this your girl on her own dey try make titanic wey don already pieces float ontop high sea.

She's keeping U on ice working desperately to make new guy commit to her. Anyhow wey U carry see this thing, that girl way no pure. No dey dull Urself.

If a guy tells me he has had sex with my girl, I'll go find out the truth from my girl. Nothing concern me with the guy.