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There is always a difference and there's really nothing to it unless of course they share all things in common and the one U marry is closer to her twin than she is to me or U are just a very immoral person looking for the opportunity to hav e them both and claim ignorance.

Sweetguy, you're very observant. The thing baffle me no be small.

There's a reason why it's called "loosing virginity." Once it's gone U can't get it back, and that's everyone's personal cup of tea. The trend of advertising sex and glamorizing it is what I don't understand. Babes and guys just dey run mouth here like say children no dey come read stuff from here. Abeg make we try keep our choices to ourselves.

That's not perfection. His behavior might be a clear sign he goes out of his way to hide something he's lacking. He might need to see a professional for help. Last last na by force say U go dey with him? U no count Urself lucky say him never marry U?

For most of them, seeing is believing. Na virtue dem go chop?

A woman who has has sex before is more easily and readily accessible than one who has not. A woman who has had sex is very readily accesible to the person she has had sex with before.

Everyday U hear guys shout ''me I can't date/marry a virgin'' and U don't realise it's because most guys don't have the patience to warm a girl up enough to make her want sex badly. They seem to think along the lines of ''she's my lover, she needs to put out anytime I'm in the mood.''
The girl that has known the feel of being filled would more easily be tempted to put out especially where she has put out before.

Anyway, sex has it's mysteries and bush rat no dey forget him former house.

Hmmm,
All these girls wey dey talk ''I'm not that kind of girl'' I for like know una ex's know which kain guys una been dey with.

Megacity, U holy pass? From Ur first lines sef I don see say Ur intentions were questionable.

U met a girl of easy virtue and instead of adding value to her life U plundered & now Ur trying to act righteous and condemn her.

Abegee,

As self-centered as most females are, thinking that if they want something the guy should want it immediately too is what get's them frustrated.

If U want something and U want the one U want it with to realise and show they want it too, U need to be convincing and persuasive, and I don't mean verbally demanding with threats and ultimatums. Actions speak louder than words.
If it doesn't happen as expected U need to think and act strategically, however, I'm asking; is anyone worth convincing to commit if they won't find conviction on their own? Shi* happens

E be like many 40year old men don wound some babes here before?

Truth is getting commitment from someone who values U & wants U is about the easiest thing anyone can do in a relationship. If U can't get it easy, maybe he/she isn't the one for U.

Trust plenty girls sha, na where dem go get stress dey sweet dem pass.

I can, and it'l be for our good if she doesn't lord it over me.
Superiority in good is always welcome where there is first strength of positive character.
It'l be better if I'm smart enough to know she's smarter than me and she's so in love with me she doesnt realise it.

Like Josite pointed out, Ur only making excuses to attempt justifying Ur chosen path.

Woman, U no try at all. U saw the handwriting on the wall & embraced it, shouldn't U embrace the consequences that follow Ur not heeding the warnings?

Obviously Ur coming here to seek counsel has something to do with the guilt welling up in Ur stomach like ruptured bile reaching the tongue. Why didn't U seek advice before U chossing a course of action to take?

I really don't know where they raise U silly girls of these days.

listen to ebila, fstranger6 Isale_gan2 and the other few that stil have some sense in their heads. Me I'm too disappointed in U to want to help. Sound advice isn't as common as it was.

Dude, pls I need a course on ''How to not get a woman's number at all.''

Reason is: getting numbers is easy, then U have to call. That's the annoying part. With All the babes which one person go come call, which one him no go call.

They said we shouldn't put our eggs in one basket so the hard work of the assignment has gone to the baskets to take care of the eggs.

U actually expect that accurate deductions can be made as to ''Brad's'' intentions towards Tiff? There's too little info & if U ask me, I'd say U & ''Tiff'' are being paranoid.

So what if he's a player? Is she not woman enough to tame a player :p

It's not like they had sex? Or did they? Cos if they did, he would have logged out already.
Anyway he's still sending flirty sms's so I doubt she let him shine the congo.

Listen, as long as she doesnt give in to him easy, she'll keep control of the dynamics.

So many years & U girls still haveN't figured that saying no to sex gives U control? Say no till his intentions and desire for U are tried, tested & purified to become more tangible & safer for U to indulge.

She still holds the aces. Now it's her turn to take the flirting game to a higher level. Shey Brad like flirting? Tell Tiff to show him he's a baby flirt. Tease & torment him at his game till she's all he want's then she can make him wait till she has broken him & consumed his passions, then & only then should she give in her emotions.

Weak people wish. Strong people make things happen.

I doubt very strongly that I will be kneeling down to propose marriage to any woman. Not like I can't kneel, I just don't see the essence.

Your guy is insecure or U've given him reason to not trust U to take care of yourself for U and him.

The good thing in this might be that you are important to him and he has over valued U thereby making the thought of loosing u unbearable to him, and that gives U the aces as long as U don't do anything "stupid."

This guy ehn, if I insult U now e go be like say I be bad person. Get a life abeg.

U think those girls want U? Wait till Ur gf finds out. She'l leave U and then U won't look so attractive to her friends.

No I won't. if she was here before we hooked up, then no qualms, but I refuse to influence her coming on here.

almost sounds like U've resigned Urself to growing ugly with time & loosing control of Ur libido in an unattractive way.
Yes, with child birth comes a down turn but it doesn't remain down forever. U've got to keep that in mind & prepare Urself to be attractive to Ur man when Ur libido returns to its full & peaks above that to new highs, cos whether U like it or not, love or no love, it will.

Ur right about sex and the mysteries of it & why we have been commanded, adviced, counselled, encouraged, entreated to abstain from the wrong use of it.

Anyway, ageing doesnt mean U are getting ugly.

I bet U felt more beautiful when U finally developed breasts than U did when Ur chest was flat as a lil girl. Similarly U can feel more beautiful when Ur breasts age gracefully but then that now depends on Ur habits.

Beauty has different levels. At some point U are responsiBle for how beautiful U are & how good U feel about that.

Yes naija men care about size. Some of us like big, some of us like small & some just like the average.
U should have asked what Ur man cares about. Chances is it's not far from whatever it was when he met U & started his pursuit.

Exericise & eat healthy & what ever Ur size, pls dress appropriately to it so U look smart & attractive.

Postee, One more thing is, Ur problem with Ur naija man is not peculiar to naija men. Men & women from all over the world irrespective of origin, would be moved in such ways on seeing people they were once intimately involved with & if there's ever a time U need to be more mature than they or U are, it's at such a time.

The past is easily idealised. Emotions come flooding and voices start making cases. The ex knows she doesn't love the guy anymore but voices tell her he belongs to her and vice versa.
U should count Urself lucky he even spoke to his friend about it and didn't deny it & tell U in no kind words that U are letting paranoia get ahead of U.

Lastly, pls when U do get fat, ugly, have a baby that makes U feel like not having sex, U need to slim down And look healthy & attractive, beautify Ur ugliness & give him sex whether U 'feel' like it or not.and stop thinking like the little girls that assume men are ruled by your feelings.

Oyinbo girl asking this question; U first need to define who a Naija man is.

1. Just cos a man was born to naija parents doesn't make him a naija man.

2. If he has not lived for a cummulative period of at least a year within a 10 year period, he is no more of a naija man than an oyinbo who has lived 10 years in Naija is an oyinbo.

3. If he escaped from Naija permanently to become a resident citizen of another country cos he couldn't 'take the heat' & wasn't sensible enough to 'turn on the airconditioner', he is not a naija man.

4. If he os speaking wanna gonna to U there &refers to himself as anything but a naija man, he is not a naija man. Black, Afro-Anything, Coloured are not ways Naija men describe ourselves. I'm a Nigerian, I be Naija man/boy are how we describe ourselves.

5. If he's scrubing on U leaving U to finance his existence & surrendering the priviledge to provide for U & him to U, He is no longer a naija man & myt not even be pure African anymore.

The list goes on. The world is becoming a smaller place. Identities have become adoptable and there are now some white men & women who are more of naija men and women than those who were by birth.
If U want to experience a real naija man, come to naija,

Tell her Ur not interested in the marriage anymore and mean it cos her response (if she is loosing "focus") might necessitate Ur carrying out Ur threat.

Some people cannot be woken up to reality by external forces as effectively as they can waking up themselves to reality.

Admitted some girls are dry no matter who they are around but that's rare.

Dude, if U don't find her interesting, chances are Ur not stimulating her mind enough. Girls respond and react more easily than they initiate.

Maybe U two just don't have the chemistry yet?

dutchmillionaire:
A girl told the husband yesterday that the time they get married by February.he shall be taking his clothes to the dry cleaner.Girls,guys, what do u think?

I guess they understand themselves better.

Meanwyl, Dry cleaner dey and drycleaner dey. What one woman refuses to do for u another woman is begging to do for U. The justification behind that outlook on the whole "dry cleaning business" is that the ladies don't even expect us to be faithful so why bother if she's not expecting it?

Anyway, I do my laundry myself. Na me know where the dotty touch.

Mrs, Eve:
Happy New Year!

Do you think your relationship with your mother or father reflects on how you treat your mate or spouse?  Do you agree how a man treats his mother is a sole reflection on how he will treat his wife or girlfriend? 

Are there a certain image or situation that causes you to reflect back in your past?  For example, a man with ashy foot causes you to reflect back on how you used to play in flour.  Have you ever reflected while dating your current boyfriend about your ex boyfriend?

Do you believe that daydreaming is a subconscious reflection of where you want to be or what life you wanted?  Do you find self reflection to be difficult than reflecting of others?

It is as u say it is.

Iice, no be U na the Mrs. Eve