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@Ayomide, starting to love from eros is like starting the construction of a house from the roof. It is like living like backwards with no guarantee of getting to the beginning from the end.
Eros is sensual. The flesh desires it & souls respond to it in ways that are still a mystery to us. It is like a powerful glue that will hold together any two parts that have been put together with it.

If we do not believe in God's love for us we will continue to see his commandments as burdensome & live in reprobate existence to the damnation of our souls. God is not mocked. Should we all choose to continue in what is wrong, He will not be overwhelmed by our unity in sin to change His words.

Not necessarily, especially seeing how mankind has come to define love to suit his sensual desires.

Its more important for a man to love the wife he marries than it it for him to marry the man he love(s)(d).

U can love someone and be incompatible with that someone in the institution of marriage.

Love is not a feeling. There are feelings associated with love and the presence or absence of these is not a sign that there is or is no love. Virtually everything in live is seasonal except God & He is Love. We don't see God or feel Him there all the time but that doesn't mean he doesn't exist.

The love of a man for his wife was designed to be complete in a trinity, just as God is the trinity. Agape, Phileo & Eros, the three complete as one.
We learn to love first by coming to the knowledge of God's love for mankind by inspiration of the Holy Spirit, the same love that was ultimately expressed, even while we were in sin, in the free gift of salvation unto eternal life through Christ Jesus. This is Agape
We must then come to the expression in image and likeness of that holy in our relationships and interactions with our fellow humans & the world around us. That is Phileo.
It is when these two have been understood well and we learn that love is not self seeking but seeks the good of the loved, as is upholdable by heaven, that we can best express love in eros with our chosen partners in accordance with the instructions set for the expression of love in that manner.

God is Beginning & End; First & Last. Love that does not start and end in Him, or is not found in Him to the glory of His name, is at best an appearance of Love & is not whole.

Lets stop deceiving ourselves & desiring to be deceived just so we can feel good. There's no high like the Most High.

Depends on what here reason for putting it in there is for. If its a joke, I might laff about it, and make a joke in response to hers she might not find very funny.
If she's serious I would wonder what kinda of a lady she is showing she has no problem sharing me with other girls as long as I use a condom. That's just crap.
If I were a woman, no how on earth I'll encourage irresponsibilities, esp of the sexual kind, in my man, or tolerate it as a habit in any other man. That's just crap part II. It shows that either the girl doesn't think much of herself or lacks healthy moral/spiritual standings, and/or she can't be trusted.
Wetin people tolerate/encourage, na wetin dem sef fit do.

If she repeats this another time, I'll simply make sure the pack comes back to her empty accompanied by an almost empty tube of lubricant & one pair of female panties with lipstick stains on a pair of my white boxer shorts. All these can be arranged without getting down with any girl. when she starts making her case, I won't utter a single word, wetin she dey find before make she find am. Like say devil never do to tempt person she sef wan join.

Yep. Believe her for the liar he/she confesses to be.

Make I go find "a girl."

Haba! My Gf too much, even with her wahala I can't stand the though of another man finding her. The diamond she is is worth the sweat she gives.

Report him to his family and the police. That way if he decides to be foolish enough to take his life you won't be implicated, should he imagine he can put the blame on U.

Next step I suggest is to completely avoid him till he gets the msg that U can live without him so a dead him changes nothing in Ur world.

Erm, the princess that kissed the frog turned prince was not going around kissing frogs. She met a frog that became her friend, she loved him & one day kissed him & he became a prince.

Bell (Beauty) was not going around kissing beasts, she met a beast, befriended him, got to know him, loved him, fell in love & kissed him & he became transformed.

The moral in the childhood fairy tales was not to go around kissing frogs or beasts hoping to find a prince or princess. That's just being a reckless gambler or an immoral person; or like the step brother in the Nigerian 'winchy tale' &''The Drummer Boy&'' that went to the evil forest to get a drum that wasn't his because his brother had one that brought his mum wealth and, Bla bla bla,

U should know the story.

Have faith. The most effective way to counter fear is to have faith. Now, that will require some commitment on Ur part cos faith doesn't just happen.

Faith is not a feeling & if it were it would be a lot more than an empty positive feeling with no substance.

Faith is also not the hope that everything will be fine so U can sit down & wait for them to be fine.

Anyway all things work together for the good of those who love God so if U love God U should know even 'disaapointments' will turn out bearing good fruits to U.

All this deep talk sef, Just renew Ur mind.

When it's a game, can we ever really say who the player is & who the played is till it's over? Can we even speak for ourselves & the other person and establish whether it is a game or smthn real?

We can't read the other persons mind or tell how far the person wants to go with us till we get to the end which could be the end or a new beginning to smthn more meaningful.

We play, we get played. I guess that's just how it is

Making divorce preparations?

Anyway that settlement thing is crap & many women have used it to defraud many men.

Naija man no dey dull sha. I know of a guy who was living in the states. His bloody naija wife open eye wan do guy man strong thing. The guy sell him kaya escape come back naija. Oya make she come collect settlement make we see.

Join in? No no no no NO!
If I want a three.some so badly I'll go find two chics that long for a schlong more than they do for clams. That way, I'm the prize & not a contender.

Hmmm. . .
A woman never sounded more stupid as when she tries to sound logical about something that makes no logical sense.

It's one thing for a girl to be experimenting & another thing for a woman to be indulging.
The wife might not be a lesbia.n but her lover might be & that totally complicates things.

A cheat is a cheat. Giving what is rightfully Urs to another man, woman or cow is cheating.

If I caught my wife with another woman, I'll thank God she's just unstable upstairs & not heartlessly wicked; cos that's what she'l be if it were with another man.

Asking a guy out like on a date isn't a biggie. Anyone can ask anyone else they fancy out on dates.

Now toasting a guy is the tricky part cos most times, when girls do so, they go about it the way a guy would go about it & that kinda feels weird.

One of the most uncomfortable positions to put some of us is in the toasted side instead of being the toaster.

The role just doenst fit. Girls spend the most of their lives being indirect that when they try to be as direct as a guy would they just screw up.

Trick to it is to remain indirect & by all means do not get engaged with the guy in any sensual or sexual play otherwise na chop the guy go chop Ur free will offering, clean mouth.
Leading on has never been a girls problem, Unless she actually does become frustrated with an overdose of desire.

A lie is an indication of intent to conceal a greater vice already done or being done.

Why would U lie bout just talking to a woman? Who is the woman in question that U had to lie to ''Urself'' on account of?

U've been caught, best U settle the issue with the truth to avoid compounding the lies. Sure she'l be hurt now, but probably not as much as she & Ur relationship wit her will be later with compounded lies.

Neither of the two; but if I mus choose either, it has to be the ugly girl that does cook good meals, and that won't be cos of the meals she can cook, but cos she can cook, which is an indication she gave herself to learning useful things while she was younger.

The thought of coming home on one of those days hungry & maybe angry to a pleasant well kept environment and hot sweet food on the table appeals to me better than coming home like that to a pretty face & an empty pot.

If the way to a mans heart is through his stomach then it's either I'm not a man or my wife is a chef extraordinaire that knows how to listen to me better than she knows how to cook.

Die for woman? Tehehehehehe *giggling*
Twahahahahaha *bursts out laughing*

Dude, na name of film be that?

I think I'd rather die in place of another man or a child than in place of a woman.

High Definition wash-wash.
Abracadabra wey babes dey do theses days ehn.

There was a time when if U woke up next to a woman & couldn't recognise her it's cos U took too much alcohol the night before. Nowadays U can be completely sober & get the same effect with greater dissimilarities.

There is nothing wrong with having sex with Ur husband or wife. Abi After the traditional marriage rites aren't U both referred to as husband & wife?

The wedding at Cana that Jesus Christ attended, was it a church wedding or a traditional wedding?

Wedding na wedding. As long as men have agreed on earth, it will be recorded in heaven.

As long as U have the right definition of love ''as is,'' YES it can, otherwise U'll be in for a really messed up experience.

Marriage is what U make of it; and like every endeavour in life, going in with fear is a near guaranty U will do all but succeed at it.

Change Ur friends & make new friends with people that have better things to say amidst the ups & downs of marriage.