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Postee, now that U know hosw better U mum could have been treated, emulate her selflessness and make a better spouse than U feel hers was, and at least a good enough parent as she was to U and Ur siblings. Keep her flame alive and maybe if not U, if the 'tradition' is carried on, one of her descendants will have a more fairytale-like marriage in reality with more happy love filled times than sad ones,

ur mum is a womderful woman. As much as I don't know her I have uncommon respect for her. She, in love, sacrificed herself for the better of other people. She could have chosen to opt out of her suffereings but she did the better thing and now U and Ur siblings have a good life.
She has shown Christlikeness in her choices and that is very highly commendable.
She isn't only a good mother but a wonderful wife. Tell her a stranger said so.

Now the only reason I'm not married yet is cos I'm not as financially stable as I feel I would be comfortable being, considering the responsibilities of being a good husband and father. If U no fit provide the basics comfortably e dey hard make love survive well o.

Marriage is a bed of roses. The thorns give it character without which it would be boring.

The more important question would be ''What do I want from her,'' cos really, going after a girl is an art, not a science. U get a blank canvass to paint on with each one. Have U ever heard an artist asking his medium what it would want him to create with it?

I believe a good number of girls are more thriled asking themselves ''I wonder what he wants from me,'' cos it gives them a rich sense of value and desirability; than to think U are asking Urself what they want from U, cos that makes U appear unskilled and lost.

Unless she's already Ur woman, forget what she wants and go for what U want and in that she myt discover it's U she wants.

Meanwyl, Iice, easy lays would make some of us sad and feel used.

Don't try to fix it. Make them think U are trying to help them destroy it. Stubborn ppl listen better when they think U are on their side. the thing is they need a common enemy to help them rediscover their need to make it work. 7years no be joke o. There must be love or friendship somewhere there, all U need to is help them rediscover it.

Pot belly. No matter how beautiful and endowed a lady is, she cannot appeal to me if her tummy is protruding abnormally. No mater how ugly a lady is, a flat tummy will always make her attractive to me.

Not a fan of big breats or any other extremes either.

Now this is one girl that knows how to eat her cake and have it. See playa in female body. The babe had her ex, U, Ur friend and who else and made U swear to secrecy. Na edo girl?
Anyway, The story got too long and dwelled too much on trivial details so I lost interest and now I don't feel I can offer sound advice more than to say cut off from her.

This Ur story long sha. Anyway, e dey happen.

God is just.

If one woman had it all who would want the rest?
If every woman had it all which man would smirk thinking within himself that he found the best among the rest?

Preety girls are not as interesting as the not so attractive girls cos they have an underdeveloped conversational skill level thanks to psychological conditioning they were exposed to that stated they didn't need to be more than attractive.

Girls that are not so attractive have better developed minds cos as much as they myt not be spotted our visual radars, they will not go unoticed on our intellectual radars.

Is there a universal definition of a desperate woman?
Anyway, in my opinion, a desperate woman is one that will lay aside all her values and throw away her identity & dignity based on a clingy emotional drive that suggests to her that she can have what she wants if she gives all she has even before been asked.

Ur own us small sef, it's localised to Nigerian girls. Me I don't like seeing white guys with black women. I don't care if she's from Tchad, I just feel a black man would treat a black woman with more dignity than a white guy would and even if he won't I prefer knowing its a black man mal ptreating a blck woman than for a white man to do that.
My feelings on this are unfounded and probably should be disregarded cos they lack any sound logic. I guess it's just me being protective or possesive or either and jealous.
Funny thing is I don't have beef with a white woman being involved with a black guy even tho divorce no dey hard dem to issue our men.

When a man finds what he wants in a woman and stay focused on it, the importance he places on her exterior starts to give way to the joys of the treasure within.

Not everyone that finds what he wants inside gets all he wants on the outside but some people think that they can work with what is on the outside and find what they need on the inside.

Na leg I dey marry abi na woman I dey marry?

Just stay, cool, calm and collected and find something interesting (or distracting) enough to talk about that isn't U. The more fun it is for U, the better Ur chances.
It's a lot easier to get a girl interested in U when U aren't trying to do so. Girls get toasted like all the time and most of their toasters don't have game, that makes some of them hate feeling like U r coming on to them out of no where cos ''chances are U'l screw up like those before U.''
One of the best ways to sucessfully get what U want with a girl is to make her wish U would ask her for it first before telling her U want it. They are pretty self absorbed. Play with that.

Simple. But I prefer ''shouldn't'' to ''can't''

Carolece, U get issues. Where on earth did U grow up and how do U come up with Ur silly theories? How older U sef?

@Postee, no call na.

Now if Carolece is what that guy suggested she is, then area boy must be a something worse.

Guy, all U are doing is atempting to justify sin by taking on a moralists approach.

Wetin U talk sef no join.

Just saw a thread topic: ''Carolece is a di*khead.'' Looks like whoever started that topic knows what he was talking about,

Anyway, sex before marriage and/or outside marriage is wrong.

plus great sex outside marriage doesn't guarantee great sex in marriage for those of U with the theory of sampling as Ur excuse.

Try a new approach: date a guy that likes U first, rather than a guy U like for a change. Just take it as a learning experiment if nothing more.

I was seeing this girl sometime ago and she liked me alot enuf to get me to think of marriage. Everything was cool till she said and insisted: '', at least N10m will be spent on my wedding.'' That's when I realised, she definately not the mother of my unborn children, cos evidently she had more plans for her public image than their comfort. I explained to her that even if I had 10m to squander on a ceremony, I would rather take 8m out of that and put in a trust fund for the kids or invest in our future and while I was speaking it was evident all she was hearing was ''bla bla bla.'' Breaking up with her was easy after that cos she had given me a very logical reason.

Point is, I wouldn't even have an extravagant wedding if someone else was offering to pay for it. The less attention U draw to Ur 'building project' in the foundation stage, the more likely it is U will finish it well in and with ease. Marriage is the beginning of a new family and I would rather a humble beginning and a glorious end than the other way around.

Talk to her. She's either naieve or vain (not good qualities for a wife That's no more than a mere trophy). Don't be afraid to call it off. Chances is if the both of U cannot agree on such a simple thing, worse disagreements lie ahead. It's better for a home when the man is extravagant and the wife thrifty, cos already, statistics show that women manage family finances better in the long run (Not all sha)

I'm amused the way some of us have chosen to rain insults on this person. Admitted she has done something terrible (hopefully she's on break now) but it's not a new thing neither is it peculiar to the trio in question. It is wrong, no doubt, but we don't need to judge her like any of us is holier.

The most sound advice I've seen so far is her leaving her sisters house and not returning. That's just a step anyway.

Babe, what U have done cannot be justified or dignified. That U are seeking help is a good sign. Start with God, confess to Him and seek forgiveness with a repentant heart and contrite spirit.
Move out of that house and break communication with Ur partner in crime till Ur mind is renewed. Seek counselling with spiritual authorities or people with integrity that can offer U help.

May God forgive U and may U find grace to forgive Urself.

possibly there is aNothern reason she's calling it off; maybe it wouldn't sound as logical as his indulgence in consumption of harmful substances.
Anyway, they are not married yet so anything is still possible. If she's not down, she's not down.

Staying 3nyts with him in the hotel is not a good plan. U let him stay in the hotel and U can visit him there so U guys can go hang out.
Most times, when a guy has seen Ur made in China chances he'l stay interested drop a great deal. U want him? Make him wait.

erm. . . I think U should have said "without make-up, most white women more often seen in make-up, look different.

I know women that look smashing without make up. It's all about presentation.

Everyone forgets to wear an accessory or item of clothing sometime. I forgot my wrist watch at home today. I was sure I had it on until I checked the to see the time. Now unless U never take it off, it can happen sometime that U will forget to put it on.

Lets not make big deals of little things all the time.

bethangel:
GUY: i just want to tell you i really like you even though we just met a few weeks ago. I know we can work things out between us as we get to know each other. hope you will give me the chance to really get to know you.
GIRL: you seem ok but i'm already in a relationship and i really like my guy.
GUY: well, actually i was expecting you to say that. I'm also in a relationship but i believe there's still room to explore before making a decision on whom to settle down with.


Yeah right,
1. the guy in question is 37 years
2. It took him almost 20 minutes to finally say the words above after he was granted an audience.

So i wonder why guys go for the classic " i have someone but i prefer you " line when its obvious they are not in any relationship. Even if they are in a relationship, why can't they just stick to it? If they want to test new waters let them dock the ship before boarding a new one.

U made sense; However, abandoning ships on high seas and hopping onto any floating vessel is what we have come to learn from girls. No one does it better. Una pass us for that side no be small. I hail babes o.

Not all girls a dumb. There are just so many dumb one's it's better to believe they all are until the few show themselves smart.

vinmol:
for all the the chauvinist called guys that spoke all the evils against a modern day woman, remember u are equally describing your
mother, sister,aunty,cousin, niece, sister-inlaw and wife

YES! wen u point a finger the rest comes back to you! for same measure you use on others same will be measured back to you!

, and what makes U think any of the people U've listed are "modern women?"

Or a wetdream

Women are not typically known to let go of what they have unless they have what they feel is a better replacement.

A woman would break off easily or suggest one to go and try out the something better she has seen and has exposed herself to. She needs the break so as not to feel like a bad person.

A guy doesn't need a break. He can play with fire and get burned too not just as often as the woman.

U shouldn't be afraid of a woman falling out of love with U cos they will fall. The question is how far away will they fall and how deeper will their love be if they come back from no too far to fall in love with U again.

Beware the woman U keep in love with U. the ordinary one's don't go away easy so U should know the one U have "trapped" could end up a huge problem in Ur world.

They all say the same things and what's common cannot be counted as special enuf to cherish.