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ibkaye:
i know what you mean

rampant:
sweethheart don't worry,u will soon understand,u wont even know when u say it during . . . . .  

Gurlies, yal some freaks!!

it is so nice to see folk in touch with their inner child.

rampant:
i only say i love u when i mean it,or during but outside that no way

whoa, i understand afterwards but during??

to guys that im involved with, well i don't say "i love you" untill i know i really meant it. like i know what im feeling is love not just infatuation.

Man i would clean you out if i was old enough. cause you don't sound like no real man just a credit card.

I think dude needs to hold up wait a minute, take a sec and get back in it. Tell dude that it is over oka. No need holding on to old memories. There are plenty of other women more deserving of his time and love. Oka when you said "deal with her" i hope he never thinks of getting physical or goes into stalking mode. But on the real, he needs to let her go and move on because i understand that he is hurt but everyone gets hurt one time or another. But as grown people you gotta pick yourself up and dust yourself off.

gabrywyl:
Heheh! You don't know yet ohhhh. . . . .  

When I first met my boyfriend friends, I was shivering and in my head, all I can think of are 2 birds flying around making chirping sounds. His friends said Hello and I did not answer looking at them like some kind of alien. . . . . I froze and almost peed in my pants!    

But after awhile, am all good.  

Geez and i thought i was a nervous reck. i remember i met this one fella and i was so nervous. I got tongue twisted and i couldn't think straight. My hands were all sweaty and my heart rate tripled in rate. I just sat there nodding my head cause i couldn't say anything senseable. but i finally loosened up and i took a step back and got right back into the game.

My definition of an incredible man is

One who is able to love all of me. From me being quick at the mouth to my romantic side

One who is able to get to know the real me. That alter ego that stays at bay.

One who understands im his equal not inferior to him, but still holds it down

One who makes is out of his way to make me happy. no matter what mood im in.

One who understands when i need to talk i'll come to you not the other way around.

there is more but i aint gonna say it or write it.

HCH3COO:
Too bad you think I'm joking.  You should never date outside of your comfort zone then.  If you travel to the other side of the country you just might fall in love with it.   It's perfectly fine to leave your comfort zone once in a while. 

Well when i do travel i don't be look for love but as we all know we are in no control on who we fall in love with. Oka lets say if i go traveling in Nigeria and meet this incredible man. Well there is no way im about to leave my South to go and live in Naija. I'm saying i don't like Naija i just rather live here. But i could bring him back with me.

HCH3COO:
I can't do me without you. What if the guy lives in America but is in a city different from yours, is that worse?

Oka that is truly questionable. Any ways if the guy lives in a different city then one of us is going to have to sacrifice our comfort zone and move to the other one's city. i highly doubt it would be me.

HCH3COO:
I'm a strong guy what can I say. Not emphasizing physical strength.

well you just do you. me on the other hand will give a man the maximum of a year to get what ever he needs to get together.

HCH3COO:
If waiting 3 more years is enough to secure me a partner for the rest of my life, sure.   Hey he can always go visit her in Naija.  he could be lying though  

yeah but three years is a long time. a lot can happen in three years time. i could have met someone more wonderfuller . . . yes i said wonderfuller. . . then the guy im waiting for.

manmustwac:
So if u had a guy who loved u and promised he'll bring u over to the states in 3 years time if u just waited for him in nija.

Your telling me you wouldn't wait for him?

Whoa three years is alot.

I personally i think the most romantic way would be,

Scenario 1

The two of us at the house eating the meal you made over a candle lighted table.
Lights dim but not to dim that we can't see eachother.
The music in the background playing Lloyd, "Feels So Right"
Us gazing in to each others eyes and smile like school kids
Then you out of no where just say " I love you"

Scenario 2

We just walking through the downtown park. Watching the beautiful sky.
Holding hands as we sit for a little picnic.
Afterwards just sit and watch the sunset. not saying a word to each other.
Then you just say "I love you" and we just enjoy the rest of the night.

dreeldee:
i don't waste my time with kids

that is funny cause i dont have tyme for grandpas either.

dreeldee:
wharever girl, let me know if i make you feel nervous too, i'll readjust

you don't intimidate me one bit. so don't flatter yourself. come back when you look like Lloyd.

@poster

i would wait for him. personally im sensing some distrust and insecurities in your post. If he says he will be back,  trust him that he will. I'm not saying you shouldn't check up on him every now and again. you shouldn't let him run loose because temptation is a witch and she knows no boundaries.

sistawoman:
you just like the physical warfare with women right?

don't mind this woman beater.

dreeldee:
Reversed case,  I make them feel nervous instead

conceited to the max!!!

@post

i guess some guys get nervous i mean yal are human too. girls get nervous around guys too. but it is something you are going to have to get over and work on.

michelin89:
Sweetheart then whom you like aren't Nigerian men but muddled Nigerian men made to fit your model of the ideal man. If you can do this with a Nigerian man, you can do it with whomever you want. Why stick stubbornly to these local heads?

If you tell me you like Nigeria men I automatically look at you as a "self-lesionist". A sadomasochist!

I am starting to think that you don't like them for who they are but for what you'll make them become!

Of course i like them for who they are. Everybody has their faults. no one is perfect. so when i see a naija man who has potential then well im going to bring the best out of them. behind that need to be the leader is a person who understands i truly am their equal not their inferior. I have to admit i did catch a laugh at that sadomasochist comment.

michelin89:
I am even surprised that she sticks to Nigerian men since she is HotChick's number one supporter. This says everything about her. She is tigress here but out there she doesn't even dare to breathe!

I mean why badmouth these poor men elsewhere and later come here to act as their faithful lover? So touching but yet so pathetic!

Onyinye have you decided to abbandon your fight for equal rights and settle with a Nigerian man as the submissive wife?

Very nice point you made. You see, the naija men i date start out as that, "i am the Man" type. you know the ones who feel they need to leader of the whole relationship. But as i like to say men are like clay, they just need the right potter to come and mold them. After a time period with me, you see they start see that there is no need to think of me as inferior but as their equal.  They see that there is no need for me to walk two steps behind them but beside them.

michelin89:
So out of date! I used to use that expression with my ex, and that was 3 years ago! Let me upgrade you girl!  

Whatever! Scream if you want!

i don't scream. i rawr. lol.

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=154313.msg2557759#msg2557759 date=1217006363]@Oyinye
Maybe not on this thread, but hon, you do have problems with being contradicted.
You blow up like an agitated pepsi can.
You can deny it now, but do I care? not really.
Just letting you know.[/quote]truly questionable but i must say, i don't believe that i have yet to how you older people say "blow up like an agitated pepsi can". yal the ones over here acting like that not me.

michelin89:
Your previous posts prove what I have written. it seems you aren't used to being contradicted and u always take it personal whenever someone doesn't think the same way you do. You know onyinye, as I have said there is little you can do to make Ruby change her mind and neither can you stop her from considering Nigerian men very ordinary.

Trying to attack my choice of men might put a smile on some people's face but will do very little to your arrogant person. Take a chill pill, OK?

what are you talking about?? i don't believe i tried to force Ruby to like naija men. you may proceed in looking at my recent post. I never take it personal when someone doesn't agree with me. i don't control what people think same as no one controls what i want or think. I wasn't attacking your choice of men. Argentina guys are hot so i don't know what you talking about. any ways it seems like you are the one you needs the chill pill cause im calm and collected over here. you are dismissed.

michelin89:
@ Onyinye

Why do you always eat your heart out whenever someone disagrees with you? Nor be by force say we must like Nigerian men. Haba, even if you kill yourself e nor go change anything.

Hmmm, dont believe that i am killing myself over this. you the one getting all emotional here. so dont even come at me this way. it aint even necessary. No one is forcing you to like anything. you don't like naija men, oh well. just do you and well hopefully you will like some guy from Argentina or where ever your heart leads you. because i sure know where my heart leads me.

@post

if you mean "spending" as in taking me shopping and buying whatever i want, then no. I dont expect a guy to buy me anything before we are truly in a relationship. it would be nice if he did but it wouldn't be expected of him. but once we enter the relationship, well that is a whole different topic.

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=154313.msg2557460#msg2557460 date=1217003221]Physically and internet(ly), there is still nothing special about you people.
Recognize it, understand it, choke on it. simple![/quote]i beg to differ. you obviously haven't been around a diverse set of people.

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=154313.msg2557160#msg2557160 date=1217000802]thesame set of people who will not associate with nigerian men, especially outside nigeria (except he has money or you want him to do assignment for you)

thesame set of people who will be chasing anything and everythin in white skin (even latina, aborigenies and dark skinned indians) relentlessly

thesame set of people who deride, detest and look down nigerian men

are the same people coming to pass a vote of confidence on nigerian men here

na wa o! this is the height of hypocrisy. nigerian women, change. the end of the world is at hand. hypocrites will go to hell[/quote]oka watever. surely ridiculous and pointless.

michelin89:
As I have said, nationality doesn't matter.

well that is your choice to make. me i really rather be with a naija guy. black american guys are crazysexycool too but something about that naija man is just i don't know how to put it in words is so distinct and extraordinary that i mean how can you not like them.

michelin89:
They are like any other man around. Your nationality doesn't make you special!

i beg to differ.

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=154313.msg2557041#msg2557041 date=1217000016]this is beginin to go too far, henceforth, ill fuckin keep me peace[/quote]you are dismissed.

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=154313.msg2557005#msg2557005 date=1216999676]onyinye, i go beat you oh!

why r u talkin to me like this, u no know sey i be man

u sound like you are heartless, i dnt think.[/quote]You aint going to touch me. who gives a flipping lion that you are a man, i can talk however i want to talk to anyone. you over here acting as if you is special like you some god. abeg go and do something with yourself. you give naija men a real bad name. but they all can't be good i guess.

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=154313.msg2556639#msg2556639 date=1216997316]so you can sound like this??

[/quote]quiet you. what you think im some heartless person?

I dont know but there is something special about naija men. That thing that you just can't resist. I guess behind there tough exterior is this strong man who just goes out of his way to make you happy. And most are so sweet and romantic in their own way. And the way they just care and are kind i dont but it just melts me. Physically, i love the lips. i don't know something about them are so yearning.

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=153877.msg2556502#msg2556502 date=1216996254]@ RUBY_PEARL
call it what u want to call it, i just feel a stubborn woman needs a little discipline at times and a little beating goes a long way in instilling discipline in a woman.
afterall, we beat kids so that they'll behave themselves and respect us dnt we?[/quote]What the hell is that is suppose to mean?? does are children who know no discipline that need to be taught it. I'm a grown ass woman and i have my own parents to discipline me. so you are a woman beater is see. so you would advise your son to beat his wife? you would allow a man to "discipline" your daughter? you would allow a man to "discipline" your sister?

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=153877.msg2556542#msg2556542 date=1216996459]na u know oh, onyinye!

u always come here acting tough and independent but i knw deep down in you, you are soft as hell. u just need someone strong and authoritarian. i used to have a gfriend that acted like. needless to say, after standing my round and laying down the law, she became a different person.[/quote]I dont need no one to have authority over me. I have my parents for that. I am tough and independent you just can't stand that. You feel that women should walk two steps behind her man, well i walk behind no one. I walk beside. Laying down what law? law of you should beat me? i would wear you behind out.