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If he is able to withstand the third degree my father gives him before we date, then yeah i guess we could. My dad is very intimidating and can get insulting, so if he can keep is cool then yeah i guess. But he also has to prove to me  he as changed. I mean really changed. I want to know what plans you have for your life. I want to know that you don't want to go back to where you were. I want to know that you i can be around you and have no fear or resistance. But if you committed murder or a rapist, hell naw you aint getting no chance.

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=153877.msg2556449#msg2556449 date=1216995757]beacause u dey study martial arts abi??[/quote]No because the only people i have fear for is, my parents, My God

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=153877.msg2556422#msg2556422 date=1216995499]im curious to know what they call those type of men.


fear and respect go hand in hand. a woman should have respect and the fear of her man in her heart[/quote]I have no fear of any man.

HCH3COO:
not really. culture and environment play a big role in determining how you turn out.  the culture shock i experienced when i moved here was just    .  you are a gross domestic product of america's privacy-obsessed individualized society.  whereas in nigeria religion, discipline, and commanded respect sets the tone for the rest of your upbringing. American bred kids usually lack that discipline and tenacity.  i'm suer if you grew up in that third-world slum called nigeria you will value the opportunities you are given here in America more.   Equality-seeking deranged women everywhere.  How do you even begin to arrive at that equality.  There's no way it can be evenly split.  Even the bible deems the man the head of the house.

What the hell are you talking about?? yes i grew up in the states and that just made me stronger. Seeing how parents sacrificed alot and struggled made me to value all the wonders america has to offer. And by the way are basically saying that american bred people are out of control and have no religion, discipline or respect. Who the heck have you been around?? Because i have alot of discipline, i was raised in the church, and dont even get me started around respect. You obviously been watching way too many movies to even talk about american people. I know the opportunities in america and i have taken full advantage of all them. From getting a scholarship to go to school, to being able to vote and know that the election aint faulty. Wow so you are bascially saying that im equality deranged? just because i dont want to be seen as inferior to a man im deranged? Abeg go and educate yourself because all you talk of is nonsense.

wouldnt matter if i was born in naija, america, mexico, or freakin china. i would still be the same person. i was born independent and head strong so dont put that on american culture. and most if not all naija born kids i know are pretty well disciplined compared to other cultures. so dont give me dat. and a relationship can be 50/50 if you are willing to work at it.

HCH3COO:
onyin! so you still dey? I don't think she's looking abroad to find so called "authentic" naija men as you put it. She is just in searc of a correct man that's ready to be with her for good. So far, by her accounts, she is yet to find one in America. The boneheads she's run into are weirdos, so I don't really fault her for looking outside the black jar.

Even if she does choose to look in Naija for the reasons you said, I don't blame her. I hate to generalize, but y'all american-bred naija chicks get too much sikon sikon for head.

please elaborate on the high lighted area.

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have you dated any american born nigerians?? to me they seem pretty cool but i guess you are one of those people looking for the "authentic" naija men. oh well. any ways, i would consider finding a new man. dont go looking at your ex. the only thing between yal is memories.

Hannibal, you are giving EM to much credit. he is a good rapper but he sure as hell aint the best lyricist. his lyrics are fantastic but not the best.

Orimili:
Oh, you have no idea. Seriously, though, years of fighting would condition one to easily avoid a situation that involves violence.

you be fighting Orimili?? hmmm i wouldn't have guessed.

Orimili:
Then that's not a good look at all. There should never be a reason for emotions overtaking logic. I'm not saying that it's not good to have emotions, but we are also blessed with the ability to reason. We shouldn't ignore that because we have a problem with someone else.

I always sense something coming my way. If I didn't see it, then I would certainly hear or feel a negative stimulus coming my way. I would have most likely dodged such an attack.

life aint like poker Orimili.

HCH3COO:
Sharrap! Thinking that it can't happen again means you're just not thinking.  Harhhh your emotions . . . just don't hit me o  
One hit is enough to kill some people.

You act as if i took a bat and beat him. i didn't. I was just in a bad situation and i wanted to be left alone and didn't want to been as that emotional type person. i told him to leave he didn't so i was over tooken by my emotions and yes i hit and pushed him away. not proud of what i did but i did it. it was a one time thing and i know it wont happen again with anyone so you can just shut up.

Pataki:
If you have done it once, you can still repeat that feat whenever you feel led by your emotions to do it.

You don't know that. it was a one time thing. yes i did in that one occasion let my emotions take control. but it was just that one time and that one situation.

HCH3COO:
Onyin are you still trying to rationalize hitting your man

Go ahead and strike him I say. If he breaks your face in retaliation no vex o.

oh zip it person. he knows betta then to hit me. and i only hit him once, geez.

Pataki:
Yes.

Oh shush! you dont even know the circumstances. that was one of those exceptional cases when i hit my boyfriend.

Orimili:
That wouldn't happen. I would have grabbed her wrists before she had the chance to do so. I would then remind her that we are not in a fighting ring, and that she has become too emotional. There is no reason to have to hit someone else if you are not being attacked yourself.

well you have to understand that when you are in the heat of alot of emotions, trying to talk some sense into her wont really get through. i should know.

Pataki:
Any woman that lays her hands on a man is a beast!!!!! No matter the circumstances, it only goes to show what kind of an upbringing such a lady come from.

Any man who treats his woman anyhow is also a beast, to be fair on both parties. But if my woman ever tries such, well. . . . . I have my options.

so you are calling me a beast??

Orimili:
Let's raise the stakes a bit. What if a man's spouse goes on some emotional rage and picks up a blunt weapon or blade?. But seriously, I don't think it's about hitting back, it's about trying to defend yourself against an attack. There are cases when one cannot simply let himself be attacked, as in the Newark case (believe me, women in Newark, NJ, or the NY metro area in general, can get real crazy). Does it make sense for someone to get seriously injured because such a stigma attached to hitting a woman back? I am in no way condoning hitting a woman, but there are cases where, sadly, it might be necessary, as there are cases where it is necessary for a woman to hit a man in self defense.

Oka yes in that case, yeah you need to defend your self. but im talking about you and your lady, no weapons of death involved. She is being real emotional and has lost control and she strikes you with her hand, you would hit her back?

Chat2MeBac:

Anyman whips me, ah ginne whip them back. Even if I have to wait under he is fast asleep, I am not taking any beatings from any man. he can be 6ft 11inches, I don't care,
And when I say, I am whipping back, may NOT be physically. But I am a woman, I have a mind of his own, hmmmmmmmmmmm, let's see him pay back the credit card company when am done shopping nah

you got that right. the only man that would allow to hit me is my father. but if the guy im with even attempts to raise his hands towards me, May God Help Us All.

Chat2mebac

gurlie you is a freak!!!

well im talking about a mob of ladies, im talking about you and your girl in a relationship. so let's say she is real emotional one day and is in raging fury, till she works up a nerve with you. and she strikes you with her hand across your face, you would hit her back?

so Hannibal, you would advise your son to hit his woman if he feels she needs to be taught a lesson?? your post is so faulty i don't know where to start to derail it.

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first of all you shouldn't have brought your ex into your problems. having sex with him could have turned out you getting pregnant. Second of all i know you got caught up in emotions but getting back at your husband by cheating was pretty dumb decision. You and your husband are now victims of infidelity. so now you gonna have answer to a higher power on that one. Lastly i say you should just confess. might as well. your marriage is going down the drain already do you might as well just get it off your chest. because im curious why you are even still in the marriage. what are you hanging?

HCH3COO:
not really.  psychology says it can hurt just as bad if not more.

yeah sure.

mecussey:
Onyinye is still talking, she s just talking like one nasty girl I knew sometime; I like some nasty girls oh but I will always prepare a slap every day.

you are seriously calling me nasty? please come and justify why you have come with this assumption that is clearly wrong.

HCH3COO:
so what? i don't see that as an excuse for a woman to hit a man. if you're looking for an excuse to hit a man when your emotions get the best of you, i don't see a good reason why you should expect him to take it all in stride. women who hit men are assholes just like the men who hit women.

oka now that you laid down your cards let me lay down mine. oka i admit it, yes i hit my bf before. do i regret, yes of course i do. i let my emotions get the best of me and i lost control. did he forgive, 100%. so im not saying it is right for either one of the genders to hit eachother. but for woman to hit a man is well not as bad as a man hitting a woman. are the both wrong, yes. but still you have to face the facts.

HCH3COO:
your point is still not clicking. so because guys play football and tackle each other it's okay for women to hit them? lol.

I guess since a woman can bear the pains of childbirth she's strong enough to take that kind of punishment. .
just giving you a taste of your own medicine.

oka let me break it down for ya. Im just saying that the kind of "punishment" a man does to a woman is different when you flip the script. You see i could come and bitch slap you across the face. of course you gonna feel some pain, especially coming from me, but it is different when you flip the script. If a guy slapped a woman like that then that is whole different story. What a man can handle is different from what a woman can handle.

HCH3COO:
wrong! he ain't a beat box.
if you insist that's how it should be, then the woman can handle it too.

oh whatever. these be the same guys who go out and play football and tackle each other. so i dont wanna hear it.

syren:
Yeh, if she's dangerous but not for anyother reason.  

the man can handle it.

yeah you are truly impossible. seriously you are.

HCH3COO:
This is like the umpteenth time you've told me, so what's new? DAMN! A slap and a shove. Ori baba mi o .
I guess he must have been a cool tempered gentleman like me not to retaliate.

you a gentlemen?? truly questionable.

HCH3COO:
see ya nose, what's the full story? it was your own testimony so don't b tryin to hold it in.

HCH3COO:
Is it okay for Ladies to beat hit Guys?

oh just drop it. jeez you are seriously impossible. i didnt really even hurt him. it was like a slap and a shove. that was it.

HCH3COO:
onyinye are you forgetting you once hit that man who tried to comfort you.  

oka just shut up already. you don't even know the full story so just zip it.

i actually have more guy friends then girl friends. i dont know but i just rather hang with the boys. i guess something about how blunt they are is why i hang out with them.

Missy B:
Why would any GENTLEMAN lay his hands
on a lady?!Naija men specialises in this aspect
There re over a million ways to xpress anger
nd make d person pay for his/her deed
rather dan BEATING.

yes there are many ways to express anger. because what kind of man are you when you beat your women? how do you look yourself in the mirror and say"Yeah i the man. Yeah i bet my wife." i mean how do you feel content when you see the bruises you left on her? How would you explain that to your children if they see you hitting her? Why are is the pride, the control, the manliness in this? a real man knows that he never lays a violent hand on a women no matter how emotional she is at the time. i mean all it takes is one hit to really hurt her. and once you hit that woman, your relationship will never be the same. no matter how much you say your sorry, promise not to do it again, buy her things,etc. it will never be the same.

Duduknight:
Thats just talk; are you assuming that you are stronger than all men? Please be sensible with your utterances.

i sure as hell aint weak if that is what you are asking. i know all the bodies pressure points so dont even try me.

mecussey:
Onyinye, You see you re already yabbing, If I slap you now your head go correct; how did you think that you can beat a guy. If you are my wife and you talk like this, I must slap you and say sorry later.

Please come and slap me. ewu. of course you would be saying sorry later after you done emptied the fridge of ice when im through with you.

I must admit im one of those people who are quick in the mouth. if im offended or feel disrespected in some way yeah ima get loud and start yelling. But you still have no right to hit me. you dont even have the right to lay a violent hand on me. But i sware if a guy even dared to hit me, first i would beat the living devil out of him then deliver him to my father.