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BusinessRe: What To Do To Make Money Online? by Orchid45: 12:29am On Nov 03, 2020
When sending outbound emails, should I send via a company's "contact us" link or do I search for a separate email address?
BusinessRe: What To Do To Make Money Online? by Orchid45: 2:54pm On Oct 30, 2020
How does one get the email addresses of potential end-users?
BusinessPaypal Payment by Orchid45(op): 1:15pm On Mar 19, 2019
Paypal gurus in the house? I need help. I registered on a platform online and my Paypal E-mail address is needed to initiate payment.

I'm aware Nigerians can't withdraw Paypal funds, is there a way around this, asides the use of IP?
FamilyRe: Make Your Husband Suffer! by Orchid45: 11:39am On Nov 15, 2018
Acidosis:
Don't mind the ignoramus.






So what's your advice for the married men madam marriage counsellor?

Men should deprive their wives and children of money? By going to bed hungry a few times in a week, the family will appreciate the value of food and money?
FamilyRe: OMG My Junior Sister Just Beat Up My Mom. by Orchid45: 4:12pm On Oct 01, 2018
Peaceyw:
we have settled d matter and the pastor still wants to talk to her, maybe she will open up to him
That's good to know.
FamilyRe: OMG My Junior Sister Just Beat Up My Mom. by Orchid45: 12:09pm On Oct 01, 2018
I'm not excusing your sister's actions, I believe something is wrong with her. the fact that she wasn't a problematic child prior to the incident is a pointer to that.Fighting your mum might be her way of trying to get attention or help.

I think you should talk to her and find out what her problem is.
FamilyRe: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Orchid45: 12:52pm On Sep 21, 2018
Acidosis:
You want your child to be "mummy's boy", but you don't want same bonding between your husband and his mother? Isn't this satanic in.sanity?

It is the same reason many married men today find love and affection elsewhere (side chick). I think women like you are their own problem.

Marriage is between a man and a woman, simple! MOGs who are fond of imposing children on newly weds through their amebo prayer points have also contributed to these stupidity. That you're married doesn't mean you must raise children! It is not a must to "hear the cry of a baby" 9 months after your wedding. It's a man made and somewhat satanic principle; a tool used in leading many families to depression.
No be small depression. I don't think any stress can be compared to the stress of raising kids.
FamilyRe: Different Used Toys For Your Kids 08029753141 by Orchid45: 8:44am On Sep 21, 2018
Do you know the market prices of new versions of these toys? I doubt you do.
FoodRe: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by Orchid45: 5:58pm On Sep 20, 2018
Thegoodlife300:
Thanks ☺
You are welcome.
FoodRe: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by Orchid45: 11:35am On Sep 20, 2018
Thegoodlife300:
Bachelor ways .
You are one neat bachelor.
FamilyRe: Am I making a mistake? by Orchid45: 10:40am On Sep 20, 2018
I like that you are self aware. You introspected and realized your weaknesses before marriage, most persons don't do that. Don't marry for the sake of marrying, you will regret it. Do the work needed to improve your lot in life and go for the kind of woman you want.

Someone standing by you in trying times doesn't make them suitable for marriage.Will she be so willing to stand by you if she could attract better? I believe people should marry for reasons not feelings, as feelings are fickle. If your reasons for wanting to marry a woman is her beauty, education, intelligence, fashion sense or career by all means do so.Most will not cheat or leave if you lose your earning power. Don't settle because you feel a sense of indebtedness to your girlfriend. Love her enough to let her go and not make her a placeholder for the woman of your dreams.

It matters not the age you marry, but the quality of your marriage.Kids are very expensive to raise now, except you have no intention of giving them a decent life. I don't think you should have kids till your finances improve.
LiteratureRe: Why I Decided To Use My Right Hand- Akintayo Akinjide by Orchid45: 10:51am On Aug 21, 2018
Beautiful story! Most Nigerians are quick to shout OUR CULTURE! Without pausing to think if said culture adds any value to our lives or not. Any attempt to make them question such beliefs is seen as western influence or wanting to be like the white.

Some years ago, I met a woman with the ability to use both hands efficiently and I was wowed. I don't care which hand anyone uses because it really doesn't matter.
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PoliticsRe: Oshiomhole, Obaseki Differ Over Primary Election For Candidates by Orchid45: 9:59am On Aug 21, 2018
chriskosherbal:
Some current Governors feel direct primaries is an embarrassment and insult to them...well we will see as events unfold ..


Politics hmmmm


Meanwhile I am recommending my signature for your consumption now in lagos
FamilyRe: My Heart Bleeds by Orchid45: 9:30am On Aug 20, 2018
When next they fight whip out your phone and make a video, show it them after their fight and ask them what they think.

Your parents are both adults, don't let their inability to express their feelings properly get in the way of your happiness. Learn emotional toughness, it's a must for survival.
FamilyRe: This Is It About The Salary Earning! It's Just Damn Crazy ! by Orchid45: 10:26pm On Aug 16, 2018
AmuDimpka:
That's short term....on long run they are richer
Even long-term most are not. I have been around business people my whole life.
FamilyRe: This Is It About The Salary Earning! It's Just Damn Crazy ! by Orchid45: 6:45pm On Aug 15, 2018
Most business owners are poorer than salary earners.
What most people need is money management skills not their own business.
FamilyRe: Is It My Mum's Responsibility by Orchid45: 12:06pm On Aug 13, 2018
CuTTiieAngeL:
Few years ago, i was eight when my mum and dad got seperated, their marriage was filled with ups and down, it couldn't work...2weeks after their seperation, my dad brought another woman in, she was fully married. court, church and traditional...since she came our family went into shreds...the love began to slack....she gave birth to a boy, it became worst. my mum on her own is trying to survive, truly she was wedded traditionally, but she has children for my dad, 3 girls and a male child, she works, pays her rent and assist us with food stuffs and somethings ....my younger sister(17) just wrote my her post utme and my step mum is threatening her to get a job, so she can train herself in school...yeah my dad is in support of it, he even told my mum to pay her school fees, that he is unable to pay our fees for the next semester...is it my mum responsibility to pay the school fees of the kids when my dad is alive?
Your mum and dad have a 50/50 responsibility stake towards you kids. In a situation one person is unable or unwilling to perform their duties, the other is expected to step up - till they sort out their differences.

If your mum can afford your sister's fees, she should pay it. Her(your sister) interest comes first. She is her child as much as she is your dad's.
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Orchid45: 10:26pm On Aug 11, 2018
smileing:
alright
thanks
You are welcome.
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by Orchid45: 4:58pm On Aug 11, 2018
smileing:
@vululadilolo

thank you so much. I have not reported to anyone yet
hurt, pains and disdain on myself have left me discouraged.

all these while, I have been offering him all I could (companionship, encouragement, emotional support, friendship, spiritual assistance ,inspiration ) except for my body. and he made me love him so much little did I know he would come for my body .

my worth is not based on the hymen but yet I value my chasity.
I'm broken cos I encouraged people to be chaste. who do I talk to. the therapist I tried talking to tried molesting me too

I'm deformed now as I am feeling suicidal
what I built in years just crashed within a twinkling of an eye
See a professional psychotherapist, not your pastor, youth president, a family friend or someone you think is religious. Rape can lead to mental disorder or even suicide if not given the attention it deserves.

Breakup with the guy and get him arrested.
FamilyRe: Unhappy by Orchid45: 9:29am On Jul 14, 2018
If it's possible, go stay with your parents or siblings for a while to clear your head, before you hurt yourself.

You will be fine
FamilyRe: .... Fixed Drugs Eruption.. .. (photos) by Orchid45: 4:04pm On Jul 01, 2018
It will clear with time, I don't think he should use any harsh cream or soap that could damage his skin.

Please resist the urge to patronize any bleaching cream seller in the name of mixologist, they always claim to use organic products but it's all lies.

Have a certified dermatologist recommend a good exfoliating scrub and moisturizer for him, exfoliation is really effective in getting rid of dead skin cells. It might take time but he will be fine.
FamilyRe: Surest Ways To A Successful Marriage By Rev. Chris Oyakhilome by Orchid45: 7:33pm On Jun 23, 2018
jusRadical:
That may be one if the reasons his marriage failed.

This message will only end up wrecking homes.
You think so?
FamilyRe: Surest Ways To A Successful Marriage By Rev. Chris Oyakhilome by Orchid45: 7:10pm On Jun 22, 2018
This message is more than 7 years old. Why dig it up now?
FamilyRe: Why Are Most Woman Now A Terrible Mother by Orchid45: 1:05pm On Jun 21, 2018
Reasonabledoubt:
Take your own advise and read through my posts to the Op, then come back and rewrite.

This is a public platform. He has expressed his opinion of women, and I have expressed my own opinion of him.

One shouldn’t dish out heat that he can’t take.

Adviser Nowamagbe!
I asked the OP a question, you jumped to answer. The foreigners you idolize, has any of them blamed their mother for their inability to speak English?

Sorry @reasonabledoubt that wasn't meant for you.
FamilyRe: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by Orchid45: 2:48pm On Jun 18, 2018
icamello:
Thank you so much. An elderly man like a grandpa to us had called me to see him some days after that ugly event. Fortunately, I met my dad there, peddling all forms of lies and rumors as usual. He was shocked to see me. After the long talks, the man ordered me to apologise and I had no choice but to obey. Ever since, we haven’t talked nor have anything together.
That's good to know. Since you've apologised keep your mum, sister and yourself far away from him. He can talk all he wants it won't affect you.
FamilyRe: Before My Father Kills My Mother. Help Pls!!! by Orchid45: 9:08am On Jun 18, 2018
You said your dad is fetish, I think it's best you thread with caution. Your mom no longer lives with him, so I doubt he is still a danger to her life.Forget about him. Make sure she is not emotionally blackmailed into moving back in with him.

I know this will be hard for you to do but if can apologise to your dad. You are just starting life, the last thing you need is any hindrance to your success. Apologize and stay far away from him.
FamilyRe: Why Are Most Woman Now A Terrible Mother by Orchid45: 8:15pm On Jun 17, 2018
So your inability to write properly is your mother's fault?
FamilyRe: Serious Marriage Interference By In Law by Orchid45: 1:30pm On Jun 05, 2018
Acidosis:
These are your own words o, not mine.
I have read a few of your comments on issues pertaining to marital problems, especially when the OP is a woman.
FamilyRe: Serious Marriage Interference By In Law by Orchid45: 10:43am On Jun 05, 2018
Greenbullet:
how is she overreacting, this comment is insane.
He believes a wife is a slave to her husband and in-laws. To his way of thinking, the man's family suffered to make him whatever he is while the woman was picked from the gutter with no family whatsoever.
FamilyRe: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Orchid45:
silverr:
You're clearly a child & clearly scared of the concept of caring for your poor parents who are looking up to you and counting days till when you can step up.

By the time your kids are grown, we should be in the 22nd century, I pray things go the way you planned, I hope you get a job that you never loose, I hope you get employment in a company that guarantees your comfortable retirement because your children will be as shocked to see you expecting them to care for you if things go otherwise

Silly generation
LOL!
What happens when you outlive the children you are banking on for support in old age?

What happens when they can't support you because they can't support themselves?

I believe looking up to your kids for support in old age, is tantamount to setting yourself up for an old age of disappointment, bitterness, regrets and misery.Whatever your kids gives you should be a bonus not your only hope.

I know life happens, but I don't believe in living myself to fate.
FamilyRe: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Orchid45: 6:03pm On May 23, 2018
Reasonabledoubt:
Very good question. As if those parents that give their kids the best of education with proper planning in place for their retirement have 7 heads.

They will just be transferring poverty down their bloodlines in the name of procreation.

Then blackmail the same innocent children that they have allowed to taste undue suffering later on.
I was shocked when I saw her comment. I find it hard to believe people still think like that in this century.

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