miceroms:
The good thing is that you recognise that it is ideal and a desired state. As we continue to see the fusion of cultures through marriages, our inhibitions and prejudices are dismantled making us better persons. Like the bible will say, till we all come to unity of faith.

Yes. Thank you!
It's only an ideal. It's unrealistic and its against the uniqueness of cultures around the world.
We don't need to intermarry to see others better. We can interact! Intertribal marriage CAN NEVER STOP racism or ethnic chauvinism so its only IDEALISTIC.

Thank you

Amakavula:



Chinese and Koreans are nationalities and not tribes. The reason you don't notice is because they left prejudice long behind and have intermarried to the point of complete assimilation.

Let me explain: The Chinese is not a tribe but are of various tribes: Hakka, Cantonese, teochuwu, Hainan , Tibetan, and many more. Japan : the hanito, ainu and Okinawa. The Koreans too. They intermarried and formed a super more general culture.

As someone rightly mentioned, culture evolves. The English of today is a mixture of Anglo-Saxons-Norman (part french, part Vikings). And that's is why Africans have remain underdeveloped.

Tightly holding on to aloofness between tribes Hinders connection, and a single national identity. Even Israel which of 12 tribes had to let go, and intermarried. The Levi forgo their special previleges and culture; as priests and minsters

I know it's painful, but certain part of our culture has to give way and upgrade. killing of twins, and killing of servants with a dead king was parts of our culture, weren't they?

Intermarriage is the way forward. to grow and cultivate a national identity we have to mix.

What are you saying? Are you saying Chinese were colonized? There is nothing like Nigeria.
It is a British Utopia that is unrealistic. Even the founding fathers of the country reffered to Nigeria as merely a Geographical boundary.

Your point about Isreal intermarrying is flawed, were they allowed to marry non-isrealites?

Your reference to Chinese having different tribes still butresses my point, the YORUBA RACE is a NATION consisting of different 'ethinic groups', because they share the same values and culture so for you to use the fact that Chinese have different tribes is flawed.
You can't compare the Nigerian context with the Chinese. There is nothing like 'Nigeria' it is only a geographical location, I'm a YORUBA MAN.
Thats my root.
So what's your point?

Amakavula:



Chinese and Koreans are nationalities and not tribes. The reason you don't notice is because they left prejudice long behind and have intermarried to the point of complete assimilation.

Let me explain: The Chinese is not a tribe but are of various tribes: Hakka, Cantonese, teochuwu, Hainan , Tibetan, and many more. Japan : the hanito, ainu and Okinawa. The Koreans too. They intermarried and formed a super more general culture.

As someone rightly mentioned, culture evolves. The English of today is a mixture of Anglo-Saxons-Norman (part french, part Vikings). And that's is why Africans have remain underdeveloped.

Tightly holding on to aloofness between tribes Hinders connection, and a single national identity. Even Israel which of 12 tribes had to let go, and intermarried. The Levi forgo their special previleges and culture; as priests and minsters

I know it's painful, but certain part of our culture has to give way and upgrade. killing of twins, and killing of servants with a dead king was parts of our culture, weren't they?

Intermarriage is the way forward. to grow and cultivate a national identity we have to mix.

What are you saying? Are you saying Chinese were colonized? There is nothing like Nigeria.
It is a British Utopia that is unrealistic. Even the founding fathers of the country reffered to Nigeria as merely a Geographical boundary.

Your point about Isreal intermarrying is flawed, were they allowed to marry non-isrealites?

Your reference to Chinese having different tribes still butresses my point, the YORUBA RACE is a NATION consisting of different 'ethinic groups', because they share the same values and culture so for you to use the fact that Chinese have different tribes is flawed.
You can't compare the Nigerian context with the Chinese. There is nothing like 'Nigeria' it is only a geographical location, I'm a YORUBA MAN.
Thats my root.
So what's your point?

deedeedee1:

Don't mind them.
'One nigeria' has gotten into their head. Your ethnicity matter most not one British experiment called Nigeria.
We are naturally not united.
#fuckingdumbass

Gbam!! Infact i owe you a drink

deedeedee1:
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So you be omoluabi? You get brain.

Beeni o padi mi.

Omoluabi ni mi ta'kan ta'kan. E'nle oo


E'kaare o jare.

deedeedee1:

My child will never try that. They will be raised well.
His tribe matters most.

Gbam!!

deedeedee1:

Marry from your tribe so your children will appreciate their culture. I have seen many children born from intertribal marriages that are either here or their. Most even tend to love their mother's side more.
If you are a man, my advise is for you to marry someone from your tribe.
Only fools marry people outside their tribe

At the bolded. Exactly!!@
The mother will now manipulate the children against their father's tribe. Those kids will now be lost or they will have a strong aversion for their father's people.
Let them keep deceiving themselves.

deedeedee1:
Op you are right. I do not support inter-tribal marraige. People who do this do not respect their culture. Marry your tribe to preserve your culture, history, and tradition. Children born from inter-tribal marriages always get confused when they grow up.
Only fools marry people outside their tribe.

End of discussion bro. They will call us racists now

Let them continue revelling in their idealism and utopia called "unity of the country".

Shakingdbumbum:
Inter tribal marriage is giving birth to a lost generation.

My brother.....tell them ooo
They will say we are racists now or tribalists or unintelligent.

Bibidear:
Inter tribal marriage aint easy
i have two sis that married igbo and they are not finding it easy cos of the culture
dont think i can marry from other tribes
i prefer my yoruba brothers

My dear God will bless you!
To all those shouting in the above comments don't comman read this one oo.
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I know they will say it is not restricted to intertribal marriages, that even same tribe marriages have issues but you and i know that CULTURAL DIFFERENCE is a really big factor in problems of intertribal marriages.
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O kaare omo iya

hammerT:
No it should not be encouraged.

Yoruabs should go and marry their inbreed children and stop trying to pass it off to others.


HausaFulani marry amongst themselves no complain, Igbo do same, y is it always Yoruba carrying intermarriage on their head?

Thank you!
You see the point. Then it will get to a stage the offspring of this marriages will not even care about their roots. They'll become lost.

PataAlhaja:
I think the OP has a point.

As a proud Yoruba nigger, if at all, I consider marriage sometimes in the future, she just has to be Yoruba. Kids are closer to their Moms and I would love to raise 100% Yoruba kids, with 100% Yoruba names and inclinations ... kids who would learn the Yoruba language, culture and ways from their Mom and I ...

Besides, I love speaking the Yoruba language so much. So getting married to a "Non-Yoruba" is definitely not an option.

No apologies ... My life, my choice.

Life's too short, you know. Igba o lo bi orere, Aiye o tan lo bi opa ibon!

Bless you my brother. You see it.

They are all avoiding reality. Not all cultures are compatible. We all don't share common values.
They are not been realistic, they are just trying to sound politically correct and like the West.

YelloweWest:
Honestly no. The complications are just too much.

Thank you ooo.

The truth is all these people know but they're just avoiding REALITY. I didn't even say it shouldn't be allowed i said it shouldn't be "encouraged "
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Let them keep living in an idealistic, politically correct imagination. As if all cultures share the same values, as if all cultures can mix.

babyfaceafrica:
na only you waka come..no support

As in eh see how they want chop off my head.

babyfaceafrica:
This OP sef..smh

And what did i do oo?
Must we all share the same perspective?

This is outrageous! !
All the men and women involved should be arrested for assault.
...

I totally agree with this!

Frankenstein:
Women rights and enlightenment are more important today where wife battering, forced marriages, career suppression and barring women from inheritance are rife.

Although, some women have focused on misplaced priorities but that doesn't negate the need to free African women from social subjugation.

And all these you mentioned doesn't happen to men?

IamEmem:


No I am not. What am saying is that women should be empowered and not relegated, neither should women empowerment erode their primary duties especially the home front.

The 2 bolded portions are contradictory actually.

Cc:pocohantas

supersystemsng:


I relate with older ladies...Bro, my female friends are older ladies...they're cool

Back to the discuss[b], most of our personalities thesedays are the aftermath of what we pick from the media, or society and are not values that have been tried and tested[/b]. Sadly, it produces ego, ego produces character, character pride, pride illusion, illusion false beliefs, false beliefs false indoctrination, false indoctrination, false existence, the end point is pain, sorrow,tears...We have issues coming...And if the upcoming generation doesn't prepare for the barrage, it would cause massive after-effect...It's glaring...it's coming...let's wach and see

The bolded right here. Are words on marble!!
So damn true.
Let's watch and see

pocohantas:



Don't worry,when you see me talking nonsense...just know I am in my trolling mode. I have my sane, non-bias days

Lol......same here too.
I can be very 'good' on the 'job' too
Great! Keep it up.

supersystemsng:


We spoke on divorce,relating to financial issues. By the way i belong to a fellowship, young guys and ladies meet pray to God, intercede for the generation etc...i'm informed that we should expect 7 out of ten marriages in our generation to crash. This is from a verifiable source...7 out of ten marriages will crash...create your thread..will like to see how different people see it..

I believe marriage is no longer one thing personally, love..I believe marriage is Love and Compromise...this is what will keep a marriage to me personally.

I totally agree with the bolded.

I was telling someone the other day the same thing. That this generation will have serious marriage issues.
You don't even need to be 'spiritual' to know. Its visible to the blind.
All these ego young men and ladies carry about cannot survive the institution of marriage.
Bro i believe in prayer and all. But forget it, folks in this generation will have marriage issues. Its a certainty.
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The divorce rates speak for themselves. It's only those who have values, depth and principles that'd stand.
I relate with older women alot, infact i prefer older women. If you hear what i hear. You'll weep for this generation.
Marriage is not beans.

NigerianScholar:

With all the bouquet of intertwined problems with nigeria. Is this what we should be worried about

Yes

OrdercityWeb:

You are sounding confrontational. When you do that, you end up not passing your message across.
Take a cue from pocohantas.
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Now, from all you've said now if men were really against women do you think linda ikeji will get to where she is today?
Is Linda Ikeji the only successful woman?
@the bolded where did you get that from? Did you carry out any research?
You sound like you're talking from experience.
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One last question, how do you practice feminism personally in your life, what are the things you do that shows you're a feminist?
Cc:pocohantas you know this sis right?

YelloweWest??

supersystemsng:
Jesus, the impending marriage issues are coming...this thread is a real reflection of the society...May God help us

Hmmmm..you see it too.
Have you wondered why divorce is rampant nowadays?
I'll even make a thread on that soon

Yonce:



Your entire post reeks of immaturity, I'm sorry to say. This isn't a woman vs man situation but you're making it so.

We should be encouraging our women to show interest in jobs like this and even supporting them. . . .not trying to be sarcastic at their expense. If my daughter shows interest in joining the army tomorrow, it's left for me to encourage her to be the best in her field and not dumb her down to a role acceptable to society.

Gbam!

XKZ:


Gaddafi had all-female bodyguards
Women are drafted into the Israeli army
There are female fire fighters in most western countries

Gbam!

pocohantas:


He doesn't have a point. He as a man, would he employ a male nanny, despite feeling men are better in all spheres?

Men are victims sometimes.

There are men that are good with roles that have been classified feminine, people don't patronise them well. I remember when male hairdressers came out, no one wanted to use them...with time they showed they were good at it, now they own the biggest beauty shops.

This brings us to another point, women shouldn't expect to be handed every just because they have a vagina, that itself is sexist. Create the enabling environment for everyone, then they must work hard for it and whenever they prove themselves capable for the role...they should be given their due honour and not belittle their efforts because they are women.

Jeez!
You're good. You're sound!
You know what you're doing.
Is there anyone else left to counter this lady?

Odunharry:

That's just the truth. I have seen few people who claim to be feminist yet never liked the idea of going Dutch during outtin not to talk more of the idea of a lady spending on them, they want guys to take care of their needs, they will be quick to even label guys who doesn't spend on them easily as stingy.

When it comes to spending, A man must be a man to them. Lol.

Those ones are scam. They claim feminism when its convinient for them

Odunharry:

For me I like the real sense. I like when a lady can stand for herself without depending on a guy fully, I like when a lady is aware she's responsible for her happiness. I like ladies who know their worth and also know what they want and how to get it. I like ladies whose Yes is Yes and No is No.

Yes i call them "strong women"

They turn me on.

pocohantas:


I don't do hate tags! Especially when it is misunderstood by people. I believe in fairness and mutual respect.

It's only on NL they call me 'feminist'...their definition of feminist, just because my views don't always agree with theirs. I hate subjugation of humans, I guess that makes me a feminist in the eyes of NL males

Exactly!

This is why i believe any one who is humane will be a feminist. You can't blame them, its a defensive position.
Its due to misinterpretations by so called "feminists" or most of them are just insecure.

YelloweWest:

Feminism is EQUAL RIGHTS FOR MEN AND WOMEN! EQUAL PAY EQUAL OPPORTUNITIES ETC!
But broke little dick heads are intimidated that women can do what men can do.

Take Linda Ikeji for example. A lot of u boys rain all manner of abuses on her. For what reason??
Her success in a predominantly male sphere is so intimidating to u boys.

The average Nigerian man wants a working class chic who is rich still in her twenties and will tolerate all his crap.. where dose that happen??

You are sounding confrontational. When you do that, you end up not passing your message across.
Take a cue from pocohantas.
....
Now, from all you've said now if men were really against women do you think linda ikeji will get to where she is today?
Is Linda Ikeji the only successful woman?
@the bolded where did you get that from? Did you carry out any research?
You sound like you're talking from experience.
...
One last question, how do you practice feminism personally in your life, what are the things you do that shows you're a feminist?
Cc:pocohantas you know this sis right?