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Ewuro1: Getting through to a partner who doesn't listen is frustrating, difficult, and likely to seem like an exercise in futility once you get exasperated enough. It's not necessarily that your partner doesn't want to listen to you; he or she may simply lack active listening skills. Sometimes, of course, there are deeper issues at fault. Every relationship is different, so you'll have to consider why your spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend isn't listening to you. Whatever the case, getting through to a partner who doesn't listen isn't impossible – it just requires some dedication and patience.

CONSIDER YOUR DELIVERY

How do you talk to your partner? Do you stage a frustrated ambush at the end of the day? Start complaining about something days after it happened, after it's had time to build up and blow up? If you want to start getting through to a partner who doesn't listen, you have to think about the way you approach the situation. Every person is different, and your partner may do better with a different delivery method. Think, too, about how you like to be spoken to, and try to approach your partner the same way.

THANKS....it an helpful tips.

InesQor: Haba. Why nobody answer her na?

After all, this is the Nairaland section and people always ask questions like "how do I insert a you-tube video? How do I insert an image, etc?" and I have seen tutorials where the OP was answered properly

I will put it in a quote, cos it seems the spambot doesn't like this kinda post

hoooooops ......thanks it helps....

GentleMimi: Then he should be ready to make his input. I'm not the type to talk too much or nag about home matters. I have a job and career. I believe in contributing towards family finances. If he thinks being a provider is an excuse to be lazy,then i'm allowed to be partially lazy.
I'm not gonna ever ask my hubby to cook or scrub the toilet. Infact,i find it difficult to be impressed by another person's meals. All i'll ask for his help in some heavy duty back-breaking work. If possible,he can help wash some clothes in the washer and iron,weed,arrange the sitting room,garage,store,wash the cars....i can handle the kitchen,room,toilet and bath,cook,market stuff...blablabla. Just an example. Is it too much to ask?
No reasonable and loving man will see his wife down on her knees,slaving away,and still sit his azz on the couch!

fact ni o..... all boils down to the level of understanding of both parties....i guess........

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GentleMimi: Fijiano my bros,prevention is better than cure. My bro,i've seen and heard. I've got married aunties,friends and family members. When it comes to men and libido,i cannot bet my life on it. E better make d man sef dey mess up outside,than get tempted with house help.
I lived for a few yrs with a family that i love to pieces. I got close to the ''help''. This girl decided to leave one day,but refused to disclose reasons. I begged her to the point of tears cos i really liked her. When she disclosed her reasons,i felt weak! Oga has been up to no good.
Even someone i trusted with my life disappointed me. Yet u want me to get female help? God forbid. I'd rather slave it through!

na wa life shaaaaaa------with different phase......

VenusBetty: House big pass house

tell them oooo.... if you grow for typical African (Nigeria precisely) home settings...where family join the league of couple and run things as if it be their yard...you go know so teeeee oooooooo..... that house chores fit quench life if not checked.........


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CharlesPhc: Got better for about two straight weeks in Port Harcourt but now its very very bad. No power for one straight week now in Woji axis Phc. The period it got better, the diesel vendor threatened we would soon come knocking again and true to their words, we are back knocking even harder this time...!!! What is most annoying is that Gov. Amaechi's commissioner for Power is busy arguing Argentina vs Germany final match in a popular joint in Phc.

Funnny oooooooo......wetin man love dey plenty for him talk says a proverb.....


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lilmax: Some lazy women go die on top this matter today just watch

eye opened oooooooooo

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MARKone: Hehehehe

And Na'ima mistakenly opened her legs wide

i wonder oooooo

Blackchampion: Mek i read through 1st

better....

teeo: So you're saying its the man that creates all the mess in the home. As for me I would try to assist But she should know it's her duty to do the chores.

ahhhh...while should i say that...Am a MAN....we no dey create wahala ooooo...... just checking to understand and help others better.


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kekakuz: if my sister comes over and cook vegetable soup. the whole house from the gate knows something is going on .I tried the same today .guyz nothing o. the thing no scent.as if am cooking stone.

that is strange......may be you are the one not perceiving it na uuuuhhhhhh.

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Taiwo20: Veg oil and grounded pepper like the hausas do or u pour some milk on it and drink,just like u taking oats

Chai...what are we to name this oooooo?

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Congratulations to him...hope he performs better than predecessors....

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RIP.......Life and its other side.

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Kanwulia: Name one chore wey pass chore!
Only a matter of choice.
Abi man dey carry belle?

Make man push pickin from im blokos na abi?

funnnnnnnnnnny pass oooooo

claireshan: story ,,that's only when you are a lazy azz

let's assume the husband lives in another state entirely so she will wait for him to come back abii?

hmmm...got you better this time.....but when he is not around..... I think the chores will reduce since all the woman cares for is the children (if any yet) and herself.....

RoyalRoy: "Health Is Wealth.... We conquered"

thanks....more....

claireshan: if he doesn't want to help me,,, I will do it myself

DIY method could be too stressful especially when the children are till young to help......I think

walad4yhu: Plz someone should help n suggest a caption/phrase to use on a graduation polo/tshirts... The department Health Education.

Wat I av in mind is:
"Proud Health Education Graduate"

please check out https://www.nairaland.com/1808036/nairalander-needs-suggest-caption-phrase for help...created it soley because of you...read contributions there for help....

walad4yhu: Plz someone should help n suggest a caption/phrase to use on a graduation polo/tshirts... The department Health Education.

Wat I av in mind is:
"Proud Health Education Graduate"

Well to get better help and avoid distraction to the ongoing discussion....... I don waka create a post to solicit for help on your behalf for health section....If bad-bele people no make moderators them delete the thread ooo...you will surely get ideas usable in less than 24 hours...I trust Nairalanders..... check it out now at https://www.nairaland.com/1808036/nairalander-needs-suggest-caption-phrase

Plz someone should help n suggest a caption/phrase to use on a graduation polo/tshirts... The department Health Education.

Wat I av in mind is:
"Proud Health Education Graduate"

Please contribute it urgent.Thanks!

Burger01: Husband wey dey hustle and dey bring money for food to come dey sweep floors and wash dishes for house, abi? Women and their unending wahala. God! Why did You give us women

Btw, men should always try to give a hand or two in house chores. Not a compulsory obligation though. Better still men could employ the service of house helps when needed.. Women. Smh.

Your first paragraph dey make meeee laugh so teee... ...in our world today some women now hustle pass men even for secular world...am I right?

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Kanwulia: Please, stop making them to feel 'all important'!
I DO IT MYSELF!
A husband's role is for PROCREATION only.
The rest, I can do FOR/BY MYSELF!

I nor sen am o! Hiahnn!

well....not incase of every family...chores pass chores...you should know oooooooo

Kanwulia: It takes two abi?

abi nioooo (yes it is ooo)

Kanwulia: Nonsense woman!
Please, take control of your emotions and LIFE. . . AND STOP WHINING!
Nanzenze!

Na you be the first to carry belle for school?

chai.......hmmmmm

Kanwulia: I would like to read from the sister!

hmmm...that is tru oooo
and would be interesting though.....

It’s Saturday and despite a BUSY week, you’re up early again. You drag yourself out of bed and start facing chores. You make breakfast, your darling husband eats, leaves his dishes on the table and moves to the Living room to enjoy T.V (despite the fact that the living room needs some cleaning up). Your kids are very young and can’t help much with chores. You’re exhausted and tensed, yet all the clutter stares you in the face. But what riles you the most? Of course! It’s the sight of your sweetheart concentrated on the TV, totally unconcerned about your running here and there!
https://www.mamagidi.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/tired-woman.jpg

MARRIAGE TIPS NOBODY TELLS US…

Unfortunately, the scene described above is quite common in these parts. What to do? Consider these tips:

What-to-do-when-husband-won't-help-around-house-mamagidi

TALK to him about it. Try to communicate your feelings without sounding confrontational.
THE few occasions on which he offers to help, accept it (even if you don’t really need his help at the time).
WHEN he helps out, give him a treat. It doesn’t have to involve spending money. Just make sure it communicates your thoughtfulness and appreciation. Knowledge of your husband’s turn-ons should come in handy here.
4 IMPORTANT REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD GET HELP

ACCEPT the fact that he may NEVER be as concerned as you are about housekeeping.
DON’T be a boss-lady. It’s a complete turn-off for most men!
IF he doesn’t do something to your satisfaction, don’t adjust it immediately in his presence. You know how you used to feel back then when mum came into the kitchen and threw all the dishes you just washed back in the sink.
YOUR TEENAGER AND CHORES

KNOW when to ask for help. You definitely don’t want to ask him to help with the trash can while he’s boiling- or worse, hungry!
FINALLY, and very importantly, if you know where patience is sold, don’t hesitate to use up your bank accounts on it. BUY IN BULK!
Hope you find these tips helpful. If you know of any other tips that can get our husbands off their seats and helping around the house, please feel free to share!
http://www.mamagidi.com/husband-wont-help-house-chores/

Burger01: Eleribu. Mistakenly! My foot. And I believe the sister mistakenly got pregnant for you. Abeg, is this offence punishable by death?

Not sure oooo..

KANO—A 25 year old man, Shamsu Isa, yesterday told a magistrate court in Kano State that he impregnanted his elder sister in error.
Isa spoke shortly after appearing before the court, following a report made by the Ward Head of the Takalmawa Quarters, to the police that the accused person was having sexual intercourse with his elder sister, contrary to the law.
The First Information Report by the police stated that a case of incest was reported to the police following the discovery that Isa’s elder sister, identified as Na’ima was carrying her younger brother’s baby.
“On July 4, 2014, the Ward Head of Takalmawa Quarters reported to the police that, Shamsu Isa was having sexual intercourse with his elder sister.
However, when the charge was read to Isa, he said: ‘’The allegation levelled against me is true. All that had been read against me, is true, it was a mistake, I mistakenly inpregnated her, my elder sister.”
According to the charge, the accused person committed “incest contrary to section 390 of the Penal Code Law. Naima Isa, 27, is believed to have a weak mind is heavy.’’
The prosecutor, Corporal Ibrahim Abdulrazak applied for the matter to be adjourned to another date, to enable the police conclude investigations into the case.
The Senior Magistrate, Ummi Sani Kurawa, while delivering her ruling, ordered that, Isa be remanded in prison custody, and adjourned the matter to August 4, for mention.
http://www.vanguardngr.com/2014/07/mistakenly-impregnated-elder-sister-man-25-tells-court/

enm: I pray we will all listen and do what is right

AMEN!

MMotimo: Nothing I cannot eat for breakfast and can in fact eat anything at anytime of the day if I'm hungry enough.

abi oooooo