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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm so much for marriage, love and lust.

Must we read all these before we get married?

@poster

Marriage is more than good look. Forget about if you are handsome or not. There are so many ingredients (finacially, emotionally, etc) you need to have to make your marriage a haven. From your post you dont possess any of them. You deserve a good life, your children deserve a good life, everyone deserve a good life. You are are relatively young.

Dont rush into things that will bring you perpetual regrets. Never dive into water you dont know the bottom. Do the right thing at the right time and you will be happy for it. Get that thought off your head and get focused. Be wise guy.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Orishirishi for Nairaland. A boy who admits that he is too young for marriage is talking about marriage. A boy who is been fed by an aunty is talknig about marriage. Na wa oooo


You berra commot here before I koboko you out. If you secure your future zillions of girls will be running after you. Do the right thing at the right time. Abeg leave chicks alone for now, you still have a long way to go.

Please rephrase the question to "Would You Vote For A Politician And His/Her Offspring" because there can never be an EX-politician in Naija. Our politicians are active to the grave, even in the grave they still run things for the living.

kissmylips:

MY NAME IS BRENDA N AM 4ROM EDO STATE IN NIGERIA,AM AN UNDERGRADUATE.BUT I RESIDE IN PH.

 I NEED A SERIOUS N GOD -FEARING  GUY FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP.HE SHOULD HAVE THESE QUALITIES,

 1, GOOD-LOOKING
 2,A GRADUATE
 3,SHOULD HAVE SOMETHING DOING.
 4,BETWEEN THE AGES OF LATE 20s AND EARLY 30s.
 5,SHOULD BE PRESENTABLE.
 6,GENERIOUS.
7,ROMANTIC.

  PLS,MAKE SURE U AR QUALIFIED BEFORE MAKING ANY ATTEMPT OF CONTACTING ME.

PLS CALL ON 08063547513,MAIL ozsweeyluv_2k4@yahoo.co.uk
THANKS N GOODLUCK.

You listed 7 qualities a man must possess before wasting his credit on you whereas you possess just one. Na so girls scarce reach like ? Wonders no go end ooooo. Keep fantasizing.

You better change that post to I WANT A HUSBAND

Invite her over to your place and let nature take it cause.

Come back and let us know what happened

Since both of you are believers the problem is almost solved. There is need for you to make more investigation about the matter to be sure of some facts. Whatever comes to your mind about the whole thing thereafter then do it. I believe the Holy Spirit will direct you. If you prayerfully talk to him, God will make him understand it and act right.

May God help you.

I wonder what these Street Urchins popularly called area boys are doing at the petrol stations across the metropolis. If you go round the city of Lagos you will see these boys hawking petrol with jerry cans (no sane person dare do that). Are these boys immune from death?

Most of these petrol stations around the metropolis have been hijacked by these boys. Before you can go in and buy fuel you must pay a toll fee of any amount based on your ability to negotiate with them. They are practically in charge of the pump, they determine the next car to be filled with fuel and this can only happen when their cans have been filled with fuel.

If the queues are allowed to go orderly wouldn’t we have the available fuel rationed reasonably? What is the government doing about the situation? Why do they have to abandon the sale and distribution of an essential commodity like fuel in the hands of these Area boys? I wonder for this Naija oo

I think you will need to pray about the situation before taking any step. I hope you go to church in Norway where you stay, talk to any of your leaders. Let them counsel you before you talk to the guy. Before you go ahead make sure you confirm the story so that you wound`t look stupid at the end of the day.

Me as a christain believe that charm exist but will never have any effect on me. Is the guy a believer?

Goodluck

Hey dude, marriage no be moimoi oooo. You will need to prayerfully take some step now that you are seeing some trcaes of unfaithfulness in the relationship. Especially now that Okafor`s law is in operation on your babes case.There is need for serious prayers before taking the next step.

Good luck

I didnt even see the babe you are trying to kill youself over after checking your profile. Guy you are handsome and still young. Move on with your previous life abeg. Look well you will see more beautiful,deserving and well mannerd girls around the corner of your street. I will advise you to get enough cash to be able to afford shoes, bags, etc so that you wouldn`t need to steal from anyone again to satisfy a lady.

Can you serve us with the story of how you guys got to this point?

Does "I`m sorry have male and female'? Trying to get it.

He wouldn`t see you as cheap if he is really matured. Since you have registered another user name because of him, you can as well register another yahoo Id for him. Using another yahoo ID is to relate with him with that and be sure of the kind person he is before blowing open your true identity to him.

Guys ask girls out and vice versa, i dont see anything wrong in it. Get his attention from the crowd by leaving your yahoo ID in  a post. i am sure he will definitely reply and you can start a chat thereafter.

I wish all the luck.

We need to get some facts from you as to know what to advise on. Read below:

1. What is his/their religion?
2. Why are their reason(s) for kicking against the proposed marriage?
3. How much does he love you?
4. How does his friends/siblings treat you in his absence

Please supply this and let see how we can help

Even BRT buses were made to run behind them

I think change of religion must be of personal conviction and not an obligation. If your hubby and his people loves you very much, they should be mondful of where you will  spend enternity.

I need to ask you this question. What is christianity to you? Do you think with Islam you will get to heaven. The ball is your court. If you dont mind getting married here on earth and miss eternity then go ahead. If you think Islam will take you to heaven make a change. If you are sticking to christianity call your fiancee and explain to him to understand that it about where you will spend your life after death.The choice is all yours.

This is very pathetic. Give yourself more time to know what to do. I would have said you should leave her but for the termination of the pregnancy. Let her know that you will need more time to trust her again.

What do you think this protest will achieve? Do you think our leaders will listen?

Yea, what happened to you is very normal. Emotional and not been emotional is all about the state of your mind. If you find another girl and you are not in the right state of mind, I can bet you will still have the same emotional problem.

My advise, if you love and wish to stay with her, You will need to retune your mind to be in the right state and the relationship will flow.

Peace

@ Disney

Hmmmmmmmmm. Wonders will never end.What if the Asian lady was arranged by your friend(s) or this guy (could be a yahoo yahoo guy)? You can go ahead and give him the chance maybe it could turn out to be what you have been praying for.

Honestly speaking You sound like someone from a bad home (sorry to announce this). You sound more like an opportunist and a gold digger. How could you be considering first what you will gain from someone you hardly know and not what you will give in return? You have already laid a bad foundation for the relationship even if the guy is genuine. Most girls like you will start to misbehave when they fianlly gets into a guy`s home they never thought they can ever meet in their life. You are thinking of dumping your guy for a stranger you rarely know. that is how it start.

You lack what it takes to marry a genuine successful man. You lack dignity. You lack womanhood. And you lack love.

RED DEVILS:
@mags thanks. Guy what wrong with all you i asked for advice the least you can do is help not insult me. Thanks

With this attitude I dont see you hooking up with a gal.If I were you I would have ignored posts i considered shit and go after the ones that give satisfactory answers to my quest. If you come here for advice be ready to take shit too. So goes for women hunting, if you arent ready to take shit from them then there is no point going after them becoz they they have loads of shit to offer.

My advice, be patient till you are matured enough to handle relationship. From the above test; you failed woefully.

She is from a rich home incase you find someone who is interested. I will do the linking for free.

I met a girl online lately, we have been calling and texting each other. My girl has been misbehaving like someone who took kaikai and otapiapia (local gin and local insectiside). I and the new girl agreed to meet some weeks back but she never showed up. When I comfronted her about this ,she was like "I dont know if you will like what you will see". I tried to encourage her to come atleast for me to see her and moreso that I al ready like her person.

On May day she called to tell me that she is in a nearby eatery that I should come over. I met an ugly lady sitting alone in the eatery and I said to myself that it cant be her. I called her number again to know where she was. Lo and behold she was the babe that I have been fantasizing about.I managed to sit near her to talk with her. Whenever I crack a joke and she smiles, It looks like she is crying.I couldn`t bear it because she was not what I expected. . That was when I said to myself, no wonder she has always decline my request of sending her pictures to my mail box. In the eatery I was looking for an open space to make a quick exit but couldnt find any

I managed to stay with her till she was done with her pie and coke. I saw her off to the b/stop and raised my hands to the sky in appreciation to God for saving me out of the babes hand. I was asking myself many questions like "what if she has asked to know where I stay", "what if she has decided to stay back" What if and if,
I have never tried dating online but with this I almost got my finger burnt. This is my experience. Will never blind date again. The babe wowo no be small and she come fat join

If you are the girl (A), my advice is this, Give him space to rediscover his being or fight to get your man back. The later could be complicated if not well handled. If you will be patient, let him alone for a while. Remember whatever will be will be. Goodluck

I was lucky to go home yesterday in one of the commercial buses in Lagos. Incidentally, a LASTMA official wanted to enter same bus. The conductor practically pushed him out of the bus while the driver applaud him for a job well done. Curiously I asked him why. He said Police better pass them because LASTMAN no dey collect small bribe,then bribe start from 5k while Police men fit manage =N=100.00 or =N=200.00.

Now my question is between LASTMA and Police; who collects the heaviest bribe?

Contrary to the view of many, Prof. Maurice Iwu is a "saint" and genius. He was very faithful to his employer (PDP government). And he did his work delligently to the best of his ability. He has been called by so many people to bury his head in shame and do the honourable thing (resign)

I disagree.Now let put the record straight. He has broken records and set new one (I doubt if any man can beat that as far as elections is concern). Many people easily make reference to the US election. US election`s result was anounced immediately after the election, they couldn`t match Iwu`s all time record of announcing election results before they were conducted. Ghana`s election was nothing near prof. Iwu`s achievement.

However, the professor faithfully delivered all the states to his employer ( i wonder why so many people are calling for his head). The recent judgement by a court in Ilorin, annulling the election in Ekiti state`s governor tells us all that we need to know about Iwu`s service to the nation. His loyalty goes to his employer (PDP government and Baba Iyabo) instead to the nation.

The question now is ; are there no many Iwus in our businesses today serving (agains their kinsmen for fat pay) in the Chinese firms, oil company, Banks and so on? Before you cast a stone at Iwu Please check up if your service is against or for the interest of Nigeria (your kinsmen)

I followed my best friend to his parent`s house last weekend. His papa called him to his inner chamber to have a word with him. Few minutes later he came out of the old man`s room with tears. I managed to drive him home and we talked over a cup of coffee.

Ournaija, he called my dad said I should quit my angel because the man of God revealed to them that if I go on with the proposed wedding that there is great disaster that awaits us.he said that they have been praying for the success of our marriage before the revelation came.This he manage to say with tears and the rest was history.

We have been friends since we were little children and I have followed his love life to this point. he has dated many girls and none could meet his taste. he met his fiance while he was in his finals in the university. I know for sure that he truly loves this girl. I don`t even know the kind of advise to offer him at this point of his life. I don`t know if to tell him to proceed with the marriage or drop the idea as men of God sees than we do. I am afraid, I dont know what to offer my dear friend.The girl in question loves my friend with her whole being, this I have confirmed many times. if she hears this, it could take her breath. They will be getting married few weeks down the line as proposed.

Pease NAIRALADERS advise, should he proceed on the wedding or should he gather enough courage to call it quit and explain things to her why they are not meant to be.what message should I take home to my friend. I can`t just sit and look at my friend getting dried up each day like a vegetable.Matured advise please.