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Bryankentwood11:
Okay guys, I will make it short and simple, I have done everything possible for her, like I spoilt her with food and possibly money too, now she just feels comfortable at home , sleeping all day, then wakes up and demand money, I have been paying for one thing or the other every week of this relationship, I give her money for food and all, and she has parent, I feel like I’m suffocating, I can’t even save anymore, and she has a handwork but just too lazy or relentless to even work, guys advice me on this please

Promzy99:
We dwell in a difficult nd trying times, yet God's love, grace nd outstretched hands has never ceased to do wonders in our various lives and in different ways. So as such, we owe him gratitude. Please lets use today's opportunity to share nd show appreciation to God.

Islie:
Earlier thread https://www.nairaland.com/6801256/kasu-students-beat-nda-cadets#106715668



https://dailynigerian.com/kasu-suspends-students-beat/

Islie:
Earlier thread https://www.nairaland.com/6801256/kasu-students-beat-nda-cadets#106715668



https://dailynigerian.com/kasu-suspends-students-beat/

bukatyne:
It is not sir

Imagine someone said 'they think women are dumb and easily manipulated'

seunaj:
I don't support domestic violence of any form. I don't believe neither that women should be subjugated in marriage. But you see the wokeness of all these Instagram-woke generation African girls, it has taken away their sense of homeliness. You can't imagine the mental disorderliness in the minds of these good for nothing Instagram influencees that they are calling wokeness! Negative civilization. I can't believe that the girls of this generation have stopped dating, they will just be frustrating you like Ogbanje, cheating heavily on you with fraudsters, married men and any baga that can pay. If you catch or suspect them, they will say that you are too domineering. Infact, girls now believe and engage in friends with benefits throughout their prime. When all the virtues and innocence are gone, they will now find a man to retire, with all the mental baggages, spiritual initiations and medical infections. If you are married as of 5 years ago and beyond, my brother, you don't know what God has done for you. Social media have finished these girls. Girls full street but wife scarce than gold.

Cousin9999:
There's many explanations for that. Here's a few:

1. Parents think that despite sexism, males are dūmb and easily manipulated and would rather invest in the girl.

2. Society is so sexist that many girls feel it's education or pure suffering, so they work harder than any man.

3. Parents know a male can fail upwards because of sexism, but women don't have that luxury.

BRATISLAVA:
Conduct an interview and stop making assumptions. Even the way most of you comment here, looking down on opinions of women is a sure sign that you don't want women to speak or be heard or seen. You would prefer yourselves instead.

Anyway, do the interview on hardworking women who achieve their dreams and goals. Ask them how they got there, if there was any marginalization, etc.

FreeIgboho:
What question?

FreeIgboho:
My friend it is tradition and societal conditioning and expectations. Are nurses you know kinder than doctors?? Some nurses are plain wicked. It is a JOB and there is no part of it a man can't do and do very well!

FreeIgboho:
Not at all. Are those not the same thing required of a doctor? In some countries there are equal numbers of male and female nurses and doctors. It is societal conditioning, not the job

dollynnn:
Love,I insist,is not enough

cococandy:
In a country where a woman who loses her husband starts to fret about if he didn’t leave a will while a man who loses his wife wouldn’t have to worry about such things even if the wife earned everything they own, you are asking me how women are being marginalized.

Many of you are being deliberately obtuse.

FreeIgboho:
The word is "systemically" not "systematically". The very system (culture, traditions, expectations. conditioning, etc) excludes them right from birth and even b4 birth. Your example of male nurses is a good example - the same "thing" that excludes men from nursing also excludes women from those other jobs and it is actually stronger than a law, not because nursing is so hard!

dollynnn:
You are correct.

Justbehave:
This one is really touching and still yet,they feel men are marginalizing them. This only prove a point. Women are greedy and difficult to satisfy.
I pity men who are still blind to what is happening.

dollynnn:
You have said it all!
Females have been playing the "Victim cards " since the 90's
Notwithstanding the fact that I am a female,all what the OP wrote up there is the truth, nothing but the truth

dollynnn:
Hmm It is well

dollynnn:
You have said it all!
Females have been playing the "Victim cards " since the 90's
Notwithstanding the fact that I am a female,all what the OP wrote up there is the truth, nothing but the truth

NPTJ:
Good morning house

The only sister i and my other siblings had met a Man around 2008. He's from Imo state, a deportee from Germany who was in his late 40s when they met. My sister was just out of high school then and struggling to secure admission into any of the tertiary institutions. Luckily, she got admission to study law at Unilag after her second attempt. Sadly, there was no money to process the admission, she lost it. She was the first and only daughter of our parents. My parents were incapacitated financially to support her dream

My father never wanted her to work then, for guys not to take advantage of her or something. Having lost the admission, she insisted to work inorder to raise money for her studies. My dad got no option than to obliged

She met this man barely a year she started working. She was in her early 20s and full of dreams. Lest I forget, she was staying with our grand mother due to distance. This man got my sister pregnant and we got to hear about it. My dad got the man arrested and beat the hell out of my sister. He wept bitterly claiming this isn't the life he envisioned for his only daughter

He beseeched her and talk sense into her but she insisted, claiming she loved the man. This man was deported after spending almost half of his productive years outside the shores of Nigeria. He came back home with nothing and the next thing he could do was to got my sister pregnant claiming he loves her beyond words

My sister moved in with him and they started living together. We lost our grand parents (paternal and maternal) Yet, this man and my sister never stepped their foot in our house to commesorate. I lost my eldest brother, same thing happened. They never showed up. I was the 4th child of five children. Though, only four left now. She hardly call our parents nor we her siblings. To cap it all, my sister had stopped using phone ever since she moved to pourtharcourt with this man

This same man always attend his family function and very much into his family but isolated my sister away from her family. My sister never called throughout my days in the university just to know how I'm fairing, despite knowing our family condition. A very close friend of mine noticed this while in school and i did explained everything to him. He felt so bittered. He asserted the man might be diabolic, he's from the same town with the man in imo state

My parents are in their early/late 60s respectively and aging gradually. They couldn't felt the presence of their only daughter. Interestingly, family members got suspicious and they kept asking after her but my parents are bent on covering up, claiming she's fine. Yet, they goes to their closets to cry bitterly for the life of their daughter. I asked my dad why covering up, he claimed to have known his family pretty well, that they would do nothing

I'm just a young graduate, still job haunting. While my elder brother is gainfully employed with 50k as his monthly take home. He's being supportive with day to day running of the house and that of our last born studies. A friend suggested myself and elder brother with any of our uncle should go and treat the man's fvckup for eloping with someone's daughter without paying her bride price nor any other marital rite. I told him that isn't feasible for now due to our poor finances.

Nonetheless, we can't continue folding our hands and watch this man get away with this. She is the only daughter of our parents. Her presence is highly needed in their life, especially my mother

Please what can we do to make things work for my family back? I can't imagine having a sister who's more like a living dead

Any help, input or suggestions from anyone!

Gratefulheart1:
If ESN had operated like well disciplined and organised security outfit, it would have been hard for evil people to hijack the situation and commit crime with the name of ESN.
But ESN was rather, busy acting like terror group, touts, killing people, burning things, beating people. And now any killing that happens is being pinned on them.

fourboys:
Cheiiii una sure say I go marry like this

MaXiK:
Good day Nairalanders!!

Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she's a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won't feel attracted to her at all. To clarify things, this changes has nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.

To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she's not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also we're both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.

I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possess but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.

The crux of it is that I'm in my early thirties I need serious relationship; someone to build future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.

I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days....

My questions:

How important is look in marriage?
Is it me that is making issue out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she's turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?
Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she's still in school?

Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.

I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I'm currently going through.

Longsleeve:
They are always begging..
if it's not relationship then its money for themselves..
Or their grandmother that swallowed shovel..

Vabama:
1. RENO OMOKRI Will Become Useless !!!

2. Tunde Ednut Will Discover That Without Instagram , He is Useless , Bro better Go and Learn Handwork , You No Get Talent at all.

3. Broda Shaggi Will Start Performing at Birthday Parties and Naming Ceremonies !!!

4. Angela Nwosu will start standing at motor packs and be selling BLUE EYE BEAD , She may be shouting "AM ANGELA NWOSU , THAT UNA SOCIAL MEDIA OGBANJE , MY BEAD STILL DEY WORK"

5. Nollywood Actors and Producers will start looking for boys who will narrate their movies at Hold-Ups and Motor Parks .... "THE BOYS WILL BE LIKE" ..... "BRO NA YUL EDOCHIE ACT THIS MOVIE OOOOO , HE EVEN KILL ZUBBY MICHAEL FOR THE MOVIE" .... I Swear You Go like am !!!

6. NTA , CHANNELS TV , And Other TV Channels will start collecting sponsored post and be doing shakara

7. MARK ANGEL and Others WILL START BUYING TIME ON TV STATIONS JUST TO SHOW HIS COMEDY SKITS

8. Nairaland Will Become the regular source of News For Nigerians , EVEN DAVIDO AND WIZKID WILL OPEN ACCOUNTS , And That time .....


9. Now The FG Will Starting Doing all they want , where is internet again !!! .... that Time Una Go Know say Buhari better pass
10. Yahoo Boys and Runs Girls will Know say them no get work !!!

11. Cubana Chief Priest and Other Online Billionaires will Join NAIRALAND !!!

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Snitch24:
Lmao
Even Truecaller dey put mouth

CatANDratTHEORY:
https://dailypost.ng/2021/08/13/buharis-visit-to-tinubu-no-president-makes-social-visit-when-country-is-facing-unrest-reno/

COdeGenesis:
Seee Nigeria small ship..... This country has gone to the dogs

ValCon888:
The rate at which these little girls dey collect preek dey make me weak.

Sixsigmahub:
Another Final Year Student in a Federal University in Nigeria has been spotted by the school authorities with an Examination Malpractice Shirt.

It’s been a very trendy month this July as the internet as been raging hot since the news of Uniben’s Peace Ufuoma being investigated by the School authorities for wearing a shirt that said, “Aggressive malpractice brought me this far”.

According to be report by , Department of Microbiology, University of Benin has constituted a committee to probe the results of a female student, who marked her graduation in a controversial shirt.

Some weeks ago, a video had gone viral on social media which featured the young lady, Peace Ufuoma, wearing a shirt that reads ‘aggressive malpractice brought me this far’.

In a meeting on Tuesday, July 13, the management of the institution begun investigating all the results of the lady and a report is to be given within a week.

The memo sighted online by Siggy correspondent was signed by the department’s head, S.E Omonigho, and directed to one Prof I. O Enabulele to head the committee.

There had been reports on Wednesday that the student was asked to rewrite all her papers from her level two till the end of level four.

The report also alleged that the school management is of the opinion that Peace Ufuoma be used as a scapegoat to tell every student of the University of Benin that examination malpractices are not allowed within her walls.

In yet another unconfirmed report released on the evening of the same wednesday, the spokesperson for the University of Benin, Benedicta Adeola Ehanire, has said there is no report yet from the panel set up to investigate a 400-level student, Peace Ufuoma, who is under probe for alleged exam malpractice.

Everyone has had one of two things to say about the incident but the fact remains that the University of Benin has made her point clear in publicly declaring that she has no room for malpractices of all sort and offenders will be prosecuted squarely.

Amidst all these drama, another photo surfaces online of a young male graduate of a yet to be identified University boldly showing this sign-out shirt which read, “Cheated in every Exam”.

A source has reported that the school authorities have started to take the “Uniben move”. They might have to start investigating into his record to find loopholes.

What is going to be the end of this? Are they going to take any drastic decision against the young man?

https:///another-final-year-student-spotted-with-an-examination-malpractice-shirt/