Ekomatrix1: I have this girl I have been dating for 4 years and we are planning to get married to this year. But I notice she does not like to sacrifice. I mean, she is kind of selfish.
she is studying and i send her money aside the one the parent gives to her but if i request for a video call, she would ask me to send her data, if she comes to my house and i don't give her TP not minding that i gave her money some weeks/days back she would be angry.
Yesterday i booked a ticket for her to come to lagos from anambra, after booking she asked me to also send her some feeding money for the journey. I refused and asked her to take from the 20k I sent to her last 2 weeks, she then said " WHO PAYS FOR TP AND NOT GIVES FEEDING MONEY?
Long story short, I had to cancel the ticket. I have constantly complained about her selfishness but no improvement .
what should i do?
abeg where una dey see dis money. My advice; dump her ass into d trash bin.
Lifeisnotfair: I hope everyone is having a good day. Here's my story and I'd try to be brief as much as I can.
About four months ago I met this white girl on Instagram and since then we've been talking day in day out. I'm surprised af how quick we both connected in a very short time and to be honest I can tell that she's crazy about me and I'm as well. As a matter of fact she broke up with her ex boyfriend so she could focus on our relationship because according to her she hasn't met someone as sweet as me and I was actually cool with it since no girl has shown me such love in my entire life.
We are both in our early 20s (24 years old) and we 've both promised each other a lot, we plan on seeing for the first time in Nigeria very soon but after last night's conversation, I actually don't feel the same way I felt for her when we started talking.
She confessed to have been with 8 guys after I asked her how many guys she's dated in the past, then she said 9 and later 10 and said she has lost count of how many times she's had sexx. And oh I haven't asked her to be my girlfriend yet though but last night I was about to and after hearing all of her confessions I had to go offline and she's been begging me for forgiveness but I've been ignoring her.
I'm confused and I don't know what to do. I'm deeply in love with her and I see a future with her as well but her past disgusts me so much and I don't feel sexx with her would be something special when we finally decide to get married in the future. Should I continue to lead her on till when I get a green card and just ditch her afterwards or should I just cut ties with her now that I have the opportunity to?
Ps: She's based in America while I'm in Nigeria and for those that would say I'm not a saint, oh well I'm sorry to burst your bubble but I'm still a virgin and haven't had sex in my entire life. I'm not saying she should be a virgin but I feel like 10 guys in the past is a bit on the high side. Please NL members, I need advice on what to do. Thank you in advance.
Update: I've been reading all of the comments and I appreciate everyone of you that took out time to advice me on what to do.
First I'd like to say that my intentions of talking to her was pure and genuine. I wasn't thinking of using her to get a green card. And second I didn't say I was looking for a virgin but it's all good now.
I actually did followed my heart like most persons here suggested and we are both cool now. We hope to see where this leads us in the future. Thank you again.
Op what’s your problem? Don’t u appreciate her honesty? If she loves you den what’s your problem? Ok u wan follow us dey date non virgin 9ja girls wey go tell u it’s my first time and letter it will be dia 58 time. I believe honesty is very well important in relationships, had she lied I know u would be happy. Ok den let her be. Na girl wey don run 6 abortions and have put to bed for 3 different guys ( 9ja girl, I don’t really mean to say that there isn’t any good 9ja girl oooh. Don’t miss understand me). And letter ur children no go be ur biological children. Na dat one u dey find? Guy use ur head. Every one don give u advice here but choose rightly.
daveyjay: Good day NLers, please I need your take on this. I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy. Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook. I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response. I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes... I made her understand that I am her benefactor. Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
have even made up my mind not to ever help someone like this again. People don’t really deserve my help. For me she go dey one week. Ur a good guy , I will definitely do worse.
lawalosky: The Shiroro Power Station began operating in 1990. Capacity : 600MW Located at Shiroro-Zumba LGA, Niger state.
I believe we get plenty rivers like dis for 9ja , y nt build a lot more of dis for electricity in dose rivers ehhh? Na to dey increasingly increase cost of living dem sabi. Last last na 9ja national anthem second stanza fit us.
so for God knows hw long a’ donkey years and light year are we gonna depend on NIGER REPUBLIC for refined cocktails/ crude. Y my use de money to revive d already existing refineries here? Still at dat no single rail line in dis SOUTH EAST OF NIGERIA ��.
YoungLionken: This is the kind of woman we should meet. The one who knows the value of her man and maintain it.
Not the ones who are busy with unnecessary comparison, thereby disrespecting you and all male in general.
Dear men,when you see a cool headed (submissive, sacrificial, respectful) woman, don't joke with her. When she's not near,go extra mile for her because,all we have these days are whores, confused feminists,who blame everyone but themselves...
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Nbote: Hehehehehe.. Oh SpaceX flying over Nigeria means future aviation coming closer? Coming from an aviation Minister Whixh kind of shameless statement b dis for heaven's sake... How can a spaceX flying into the international space station go thru Nigeria before getting into orbit?? Who we offend abeg.. The future he is talking about is clearly the past for d Americans..
mustyguy: Bayero university is a federal university in Kano state, having 17 faculties and 108 courses, BUK is one of the eight universities with distinction in NUC grading in Nigeria, it is the only university with faculty of computer science offering (software engineering, cyber security, information technology, and computer science), it is one of the four universities offering mechatronics engineering, it has the most accredited courses since 2007, and by 2019 it is occupying the third position of the universities with the most accredited courses.
It is the first university to award doctor of pharmacy in Nigeria, and now in the process of awarding doctor of physiotherapy, BUK is occupying the fourth position in Law accreditation, behind ABU,UNILAG,and OAU respectively, though OAU is having problem with law accreditation in this recent years, BUK faculty of law is the biggest faculty of law in Nigeria, and second in west Africa.
It also have the biggest moot court in Nigeria, BUK is arguably occupying the third position in MBBS accreditation with Uni Ibadan and UNN occupying the first and second position, the Aminu Kano teaching hospital which belongs to BUK is the hospital to record first kidney transplant in Nigeria, it is also the hospital with the most successful kidney transplant, making it the most successful teaching hospital in Nigeria.
humm.they arent d only sch.dat has faculty of computer....futo has its own too
[quote author= post=90125183]When I told ignorant minds that doesn't know road to Niger bridge that Anambra state is generally urbanized, the will think development end in Onitsha, Awka and Nnewi,
Kpokakpoka: I do... Dont mistake me for a romantic though... , the song has a way of lighting up my mood, there is this euphoria it gives. The beat always makes me want to bust a sugar daddy agbada move!
emmaodet: Bro don't stress yourself much. It is not your fault if a partner decides to cheat, don't sweat over it. No matter what you do, a cheat will always have a reason to cheat, don't forget that. Ti a ba gun iyan ninu ewe, ta se obe ninu epo epa, eni ti o ma yo ma yo - meaning even if you pound a yam in a groundnut pod and cook soup in a leaf, those who will be satisfied will be satisfied as ridiculous as it is while those who won't, won't. In other words, whether you are damn broke or rich, a fvck master or novice, handsome or ugly etc those who will stay and be faithful will be and those who won't, won't.
Wtf!!! Did i just??!! Sh!t ftc to me fvck i made it i fvcking made it. Dedicating this ftc to my long time celebrity crush Regina Daniels You'll one day be mine
deji68: Dont mind him...Fuel shortage, infrastructure decay, Education moribund, Universities closures, record high unemployment ,insecurity, rampant armed robbery rate ....... short memory dey worry them ...
Ndonu101: The man was not popular with the EU, UK or US due to his brutality
Nigeria was also facing sanctions from these countries
So it would not have been possible to host such a dictator
Don’t spin this reality into some pan African foreign policy. Abacha did not have a foreign policy and only cared about remaining in office forever
which military junta hav u heard dat didnt assasinate its rival?keep letin d Americans n Britons 2 tel u ur leaders dat are dictators(as long as it isnt dia countryt, they will!!!) or is it dat ur presidos dont wish to remain in office thru any means? Or they dont loot funds abi? Hw many States do u knw dats not facing any 4m of sacntion 4rm d US even Russia China etc.d capital projects dat d Abacha worked on are we nt enjoyin till date?
Romance › Re: Should I Go On With The Marriage Preparation? by Owen247: 10:34pm On Jul 10, 2021
, the song has a way of lighting up my mood, there is this euphoria it gives. The beat always makes me want to bust a sugar daddy agbada move! 
