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DeGuyNxtDoor:
Good morning everyone, I would just head straight to the point here.

I happen to be a person who does not find smoking even the said harmless shisha fun. I hate it so much that I advice my friends to stop it when they do it in clubs. I also hate drinks as well, be it alcohol, beer or the popular kerewa hard drinks. I can at least settle down with malt as I don't take fanta, Pepsi, coke and the rest of the sugary drinks


Now my problem is my friends, they indirectly insult me over this, even my own brother did too, saying I look too soft cos I'm not doing weed or shisha at least which is harmless, that I'm not man enough physically. Its become persistent that its starting to worry me and I just wanna hear someone say I'm doing what's right and not wrong...

I'm not tryna show/say I'm a Holy person but I just don't like it. Is this normal? Are there guys like me out there?

Drinking or smoking is a choice and it has nothing to do with being a man. Being a man is a call to responsibilities and not the other way round. Afterall, ladies also drink or smoke, does that make them a man?

You are good the way you are and nothing do you.

johnsmitthen:
Most of the time parents started blaming and insulting their child. They started comparison with other children, better if they can help their child to focus on studies, not by forcing them its an interest that they should set in child's mind.

you nailed it

For me,

1. I missed a crucial test when I was in 200l

2. I used to leave her hostel around 12pm at midnight - 1 am in the morning. The day I left her hostel early around 7pm due to illness was the day a ritual sacrifice was made around the route I do take.

3. I resumed school with a ridiculous amount of money because i bought stuffs for her.


Guys don suffer gan ooo. But it was one of those experience sha.

I will also like to here from other people what they do to make their in-laws happy

obamabinladen:
My in-laws don't need my gold or silver but my calls. Just call them on weekly basis and know how they are doing. If I don't call especially my father in-law in two weeks time, he will just call my wife and register his unhappiness.

It means hearing from you goes a long way in their heart. I love that

There is a general notion by most people especially ladies that their mother-in-laws or father-in-laws will be an enemy to them. This notion is unhealthy because in-laws are good people to love, cherish and respect. Although, they should not be in control of how your home should be run. However, you must not become defensive or cold towards them.

What to do:

1. Don’t create unhealthy impression about them


2. Live peaceably with them

3. Be good to them

4. Be accommodating

5. Respect and value them

6. Be open to their advice

http://www.treatrelationships.com.ng/2017/06/6-ways-to-win-heart-of-your-in-laws.html

Men don suffer. Some men cheat because they are genetically program to do so.

Poor academic performance


Parents should be careful of being harsh on their child or criticizing him negatively when they notice he isn’t doing well academically. Some parents will go to the extent of comparing their child with high performing children, while some will abusively talk to him. This attitude can’t produce the desired result your child. Your responsibility as a parent is to:



1. Help the child ignite his interest in his studies.

2. Encourage him because it will help him to have a sense that somebody cares about his success in life.

3. Get a good home teacher who can also be of help during such period.

4. Allow your child to see that you have hope in him.

5. Always tell him or her that you believe in him.

6. Always appreciate him for any little improvement.

7. Give him educative exposure: share some exploit some people have made academically, take him to places that can ignite his interest academically


Extracted from:How to help your child and reasons you should not give up on him - http://www.treatrelationships.com.ng/2017/05/how-to-help-your-child.html

You don't have to play second fiddle. A first team player at Arsenal is better than a player on the reserve at Real madrid. So why settle for less?

Don't fall for that cheap game.

jhudit:
How can good girl have those qualities you listed...arrogance, pride, rude and uncouth mouth?

Some of you don't know the meaning of a good girl, same way you people don't know who is actually a bad boy.

The main reason is deceit and some people like to go for someone who is the opposite of them.

You have an eagle eye. Spot on,

I have never seen a good girl being forsaking nor beg for a man to marry

tonexman18:
yes,done that already

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Op, your idea of naturalism isn't adequate because naturalism is relative. What is natural to you may be starnge to me and that makes it relative.

Your biological concept of sperm production is accurate but it isn't a justification for polygamy. Yes, sex is to procreate but it is still within the juridiction of the carrier which has nothing to do with naturalism. It is natural that everybody produce saliva but that doesn't make everyone spit on the ground like a dog.

I know you believe that God is abundant minded. Let us look at it from this angle. What if God made those 3 million sperm or so just to ensure that if one sperm fails the other won't. It is a way of saying that target must be met, so let us make it produce more for the chances of conception to be more than 100 percent. Don't forget sperm is very tiny but egg is much bigger in size.

I believe your article is more emotionally subjective than objective since your line of discussion is relative.

.little wonder why most ladies naturally prefer polygamous men who can conviniently provide their needs over poor dudes who are sexually faithful to them

Op, is there any empirical evidence to back up the above claim aside the one you have watched in Nollywood?

Nigeriadondie:
For FUTO were I go guy no dey reason babe matter cos when u dey battle with ur GP na how prick go come rise na. U go ejaculate dem u come see say result for course na EFCC no body go tell u make u leave babe unless u wan be extra extra yr student.

lol

Fadman4real:
I don't really know aw I would have reacted because love is a really strong emotion. I like bottling things up a lot cause of my temperament and a problem shared is half solved so I think it would av affected my academic performance if d threat took place during exams else if not during exams I would have a lot of time to recover for the exams.

Thanks alot for your response, i really enjoy the conversation.

Fadman4real:
Hmmmmm come to think of it, I don't think it would have. It might even propel me to work harder because I would want to make it fast so I can marry the babe immediately after school.

I would have let the lady understand my drive to succeed academically and we would have helped each other to have good grades.

I agree with you but didn't you think there will be a time your relationship might experience some threat. How will you have handled it knowing fully well that emotional imbalance may put you off track academically?

Fadman4real:
It was easy in school then, just focused on two things my studies and fifa.

My close friends then where also not chasing girls so I had little pressure to get a girlfriend. But once I finished my studies and was no more with my close friends. I had d urge to get a gf and did I mess up, I guess I did.

I have had 3 gfs since den and lack of experience dealing with girls has been a problem for me. My first didn't work out cause she wanted to get married badly and my mum didn't like her plus I wasn't ready yet.

I didn't love the second at all and I made a mistake asking her out but found it difficult to tell her I didn't love her.

The third and present gf is the best and closest to my standard but I acted all goofy loovy when she said yes to my proposal and gave me all the opportunity to take control but I wouldn't and gave her d control now am battling to win the control back.

Based on my experience, I think I should have dated in school I probably won't be in this situation with my gf now.

I love your narrative. But looking back, would having a gf have effect on your academic performance? if not, how would you have manage it?

RadicallyBlunt:
I'm I dreeaaming? This coming from the mouth of a Nigerian girl. Nna Jisos!


A girl planning surprise for her man..Its really encouraging. Really there are good girls indeed.

Lovely lady do your thing, just let his family know you and accept you first even if you've not tied the knot, then flow with him like a refreshing river. God bless your efforts.
I like that.

I love where you said his family should know and accept her.

Aderola15:
I doubt if any guy would want to try that shii with me, iyamm trouble .

lol

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johnbuck81:
staying with one woman is as easy as ABC...it just depends on the individual. I've been with my babe for over 2years now and I don't even think about cheating.

Your action just implies the premium you placed on the relationship. Thumb up and keep it up bro.

Some people believe that if you are not in a relationship on campus the whole heaven will fall and life on campus will be boring. But in your own case it isn't so because you have different view about it. It is a known fact that tertiary education encompasses all aspect of human lives including the social life.

Do you have any reget skipping any love affairs? How are you able to exercise self-control and exercise emotional discipline?

Reference - http://www.treatrelationships.com.ng/2017/06/6-demerit-of-love-affairs-among-nigerian-students.html

Bf or Gf is not a goal or a purpose to fulfil. Enjoy your beautiful life instead of giving yourself unnecessary stress.

Victornezzar:
Bro everyone is entitled 2 his/her opinion
Just informed people wat dey need 2 know
Anyway tanks

You are right and the simple truth is that the message has been passed and you have reached your targeted audience. Every counter opinion isn't necessary for the word has already gone forth and helped those in need of it.

A question from a lady.

I know that my bf isn't yet my husband and before our relationship graduate into a marriage, there are things I need in a marriage that should be learned and imbibed even before I and my bf take our wedding vows. This includes loving him, faithfulness to him, willingness to help him, always giving him a surprise, etc.

Is it proper if I start doing husband stuff for him despite the fact that he is still my bf that I love so much and not yet my husband?

The question was extracted from - http://www.treatrelationships.com.ng/2017/05/3-reasons-you-should-not-do-husband-stuff-for-a-boyfriend.html

One way relationships start to suffer is that when the passion starts to fizzle, the partners become less appreciative and nag a lot. When your partner sees more of your fault than your strength, his acclaimed love is fake. Encouraging words must not be lacking in a healthy relationship.


Source: http://www.treatrelationships.com.ng/2017/05/10-signs-that-your-partner-truly-loves.html

Such man needs to exercise self-control and work on his negative emotion. Moreover, such act isn't normal because home isn't established for a royal rumble.

peace loving and enterprising lady