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Please do not listen to this people hear oh.. abeg you with God. Most of the ladies here after given you bad advice they will locate that your man and submit to him. You think men are scum,? Ladies hates ladies progess. Especially marital progress

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

Devil has started using you to spoil your own wedding. Wait a minute what business do you have with the wedding rings ?
Your village people deh give you ideas abi.. go ahead. Your age is not far from 40 ..

[quote author=LordviccoDaGuru post=123471284][/quote]Asiah don go dubai leave am. I predict bubu go marry sec wife now

Kobojunkie:
That is how it ought to be in marriage. The man's marriage property equally belongs to the woman, and the woman's marriage property equally belongs to her husband. Simple!

I kmew my mumu girl most put mouth in this one. I was just going down i knew you most open your dirty mouth

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to you naira landers,

I know some of you will criticize me here for always bringing my marital issues here.

Well i believe we got lots of married responsible people here that might have gone through what i am facing through and may have one or two advice for me on how to navigate through my issues.

Some of you are unaware of my stories, i will urge you to read through my stories under my profile name and have better understanding about how it unfolded.

Now i am still struggling emotionally base on the problem am having with my wife, the disloyal, cheating and dishonesty from her ever since she got the job and get an accommodation in the barrack.

She has been a complete different person entirely and still surprise how she turned to be who she is now. well i have decided to divorce her and sent her away because she had caused me enough pains emotionally which am yet to heal from, my peace of mind and mental health is at stake and dont want to run mad because of a woman. I dont think i deserve that. .

My advice to single men and women planning to settle down soon should be very careful with the person they want to marry and know the person very well cos people do change alot when circumstances struck.

That man or woman you are so in love with now might turn out to be a beast when you later end up getting married. Marriage is a very difficult journey.

Now i and my wife are separated living apart but my two daughters are still leaving with me and with the help of my aged mom and sister, they are taking care of them and doing well.

Now am kinda confuse whether i should let the kids go stay with their mother or they should stay with me. Though she is not dragging custody with me but I realize the kids staying with me for now gives me that emotional strength and doesn't make me feel lonely, but if i take them to their mom, i might start missing them and loneliness and depression may strike being that i will be living alone.

I just want to get advice from divorced or separated men or women and even married and single here how they handle the custody part of their kids when their marriage ended, is it easy as a man to raise two girls age 5 and 6yrs and what are the issues relating to these.

As i said, i have a mom and aunt that can look after them very well and all i have to do is provide for them all they will be needing physically and financially, but i just what to be sure if am taking the right decision and wont regret taking their full custody.

pls anyone with useful advice should drop here cos am in a dilemma right now and want to get solution to my issues.

Pls sorry for the typo errors, am writing this with emotions scattered.

Wise word from a barrack boy. If your wife join militery she will hardly be loyal. She go Bleep oga. She go Bleep her mate. No or only 10% loyal militery women. So if nah militery omoh carry them now leave that womam. Because does kids go start Bleep early. God come purnish you/bless you with girls. Your wife men go Bleep your daughters too.. i wish you well oh.. but as a once barrack pikin. Carry your kids

Beebah321:
Fear men. Na wa ooo

Which beebah is this? Are you in abuja ?

Emilokan1:
Look at them. Hungry vultures. Throw some carcass their way and see them fight amongst themselves for the piece of the action. Unknown wannabes

You know what i am noticing is that. Some people just type bullshit for no reason.. like you. ..

Jennyclay:
Shame on all broke men

Shame!!! Shame!!!! Shame!!!! Shame!!!!!!!

As i read the first 2 words , i knew they can only be one broke girl that would write does. You shame me

Calibrator:
People like that don't learn except through the hard way.. Last time someone tried this nonsense with me.


Switch on the generator, after a few minutes, switch off all appliances in your apartment, preferably with the changeover switch to be on the safe side, then go to your generator and rapidly use a star screwdriver to raise the output to the maximum, it will fry all electrical appliances in your neighbour's apartment.


It is not everything you leave to God or the government to judge, heaven helps those who help themselves!

. You be bad boy.. i deh fear you

Bros if you pass am help him. But tell him a lesson he won't forget.. talk to him. That if he needs he should ask.. thats the lesson .

fadilaMaikiriki:
I'm contemplating removing my waist beads because it seems most people don't like it. I'll be posting pictures of me with the waist beads on and without the waist beads on.

The opinions I get here especially from the men, will determine if I'll continue putting them on or stop. So, if you're in support or not, put that in the comment section. Thanks.

This girl again

webdevprof:
None of the above is good enough for Nigerian roads.

Consider 04-07 Honda Pilot. Still within your budget.

This one doesn't know shit about cars

Cooolme:
Please I want to know if I'm over spending or it's just the way things are in Nigeria as a whole.
I'm a student and very cautious of my finances, even with that I spend like 35-40k weekly excluding car fueling.
Omo things are bad oh, I remember my 100 level days (2018/2019) when 5k could carry you for a week even without foodstuffs.
Over to you, how much do you spend a week?

Like 20 30k is enough

Goodlady:
not true..
Men are just unbelievable

1 naira otondo

chigoziri2403:
I don't know what you want from a wife
Some men will overlook the act

While some cannot
If you know you don't tolerate it now or in the future
Call the marriage off
Run DNA test on the child
Lying at that stage of marriage is a red flag
Trust is very important in a marriage

Remember marriage is for a life time

Confront her with your day findings
Tell her only half of your discovery.her response should guide you

Dude. You said my mind. Make sure you run that DNA test. Even if you guys settle your differences.. many women arw not done with the street but they want to catch any mumu man that's ready to marry them.
To me , this your woman nah red flag. That marriage if nah me , e no go hold again. Make everybody stay on his own

DerFuhrer:
Hello auto gurus. I’m about to get my first car and I’m torn between the Crv 08-10 and Sonata 12-14.

I like the higher ground clearance the crv offers but I also like sleek body of the sonata. However, I’m not an expert on engines, parts, fuel economy or the other factors people usually put into consideration when buying cars.

I’ve done some research and I think the general opinion is that both are pretty decent cars but I’ll like your opinions on which one edges the other and why. Both are also within my budget by the way so price isn’t a factor. Thanks.

Buy your honda and grow with it. If you are married madam can use it to learn too . If you ain't, it's a good start up car.

Bigcoconut:
Hello, guys
I don't want to bore you guys with long epistle. Yes, as the title suggests.

I travelled to Canada through the study route this January but I can tell you for a fact that I'm already bored with this place.

I'm redoing a 2 year program that I have already concluded in Naija but just because I want japa, I redid it. But that's not the issue.

The issue is that I'm working in a company but the department I was posted to was a physical demanding one..

To the extent that if I work for a day, I feel pain all over my body for a week. And this is seriously affecting my education because anytime i go to work, i wouldn't have the energy to do anything again as i would be so weak. but i have to work because i have bills to pay.

Nobody send you for here except you want sleep for cold outside.

Even half of my salary goes in the form of settling bills.

The work makes me depressed. This is not what I bargained for. .

For me to raise money for my tuition fees and travel expenses, at least I wasn't doing bad in Nigeria before i left. In addition, I hardly have time for myself.

My situation is even better, most of people who we came same time haven't found jobs yet.

My thinking is if I should ask for refund of my remaining tuition fee and relocate back Naija, or go back Naija and take some courses online, as there seems to be an option for that.

See talk oh. So cos you can't bare it. You want others to listen to you and not follow their dreams. My fried close your mouth. Like you didn't know your job discription before you started

Mrsoft3:
Bros there are many Honda that would go for 800-900k it’s just a matter of time.

I mine 950k

Wodu89:
You're uneducated. Allow me educate you, just like serving a spouse divorce doesn't automatically mean it will be granted as it would be subjected to court hearing and a divorce can be turned down. Same way is such a statement detrimental to any advantages this woman may want to lay claim for or on.


Should the court in future see this statement, it will be decided against her interest that any divorce she may seel was with sick intent and she won't get access to a pin.


Go and google how American courts did the same in the case of a woman who felt she and her husband were old and past prime. Hurriedly pushed for divorce served the husband papers declaring the part of his $1 Billion dollar weath she wanted, properties and monthly settlement.


Try gave her nothing, the same way Psquare brothers stvpid wife in us was giving nothing.


Nothing is always the heritage of greedy woman with such intent


I end my comment with this, why should any female including my daughter want to boldly lay claim to half the husband's property just by marriage. It should be by mutual contribution to the development of that wealth, not by association.



Thank you. Alot of people think divorce in a marriage is as simple as walking out the door. That's a Nollywood fallacy


You have access to wealth by contribution not by association

Love what you wrote. But on that girl , it's not worth it. I realised she could kill a man for money.. so die it

IyaebeTheGreat:
As it should be

I'll love to see how you look like..

yarimo:
And if you check very well the haters must be from his tribe. The bitter and developers tribe.

Whsts you guys problem with tribe nah .abeg grow up

Wifey123:
Thank you for responding. I really just don’t want a failed marriage. Is there any way to fix this so it wouldn’t happen again? He gets angry and says terrible things but usually he calms down later. I mostly say nothing when that happens but I was tired of the argument just was happening over nothing. He’s never hit me before.

Out of all the people here. If you listen to that kobo girl. Am sorry for you.. if she has her way she'll distroy your home and take yoir husband..
My only worries is, don't you have your own money ?

rowlizglobal:
I know your kind, you should have brought a gun to my car lot and steal the car

Lol. Come to abuja and buy it 7m

rowlizglobal:
So sorry, a mistake made on the price. It's been corrected.

Even 9m. You still be tiff

tensazangetsu20:
2013 honda for 14 million. What's going on in Nigeria

This is a common problem with lagos car sellers. Very greddy people.
If you want to buy car. Find a hausa man to deal with. Does guys 300k profit they get is enough for them. And God blesses them more than you can imagine

Badassniggga:
don't refer to Alaska as an important US territory pls. Until Russia goes near or invades New York or Miami coastlines back in North America, then we can talk. Not some Ice-laden tiny state that has no importance to Russia whatsoever.

So if Russia wants to nuke US now, you think they'll leave New York or Washington and bother about some Alaska beside them??

Hear yourself talk.😕
You are not smart are you ?
I thought you were coming up with something meaningful since you know alaska in the bourder state..
You think us doesn't have defence office in alaska, you think us doesn't have a missile defence in alaska ? Guy wake up. Every territory is important. You watch too much Hollywood movies.

topcatking:
Reckless? Reckless is you leaving your country a thousand miles away to come and form kingpin in another country's backyard.

Reckless indeed.

You'll be surprised to know that us and russia are bourder countries. Maybe only 50km or less separating them

God1000:
Lies, what's your fountainhead?

Russia will never engage in such reckless behaviour.

Both US and Russian commanders communicate regularly to avoid such incidents.


But if this truly happened, then Putin is biting more than he can chew


US no longer sees Russia as a threat or competitor, the focus is on China now

How old are you? Before i talk on this i need to know your age

Odewaleadesoye:
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I was in command kaduna.. i bought like 1 every team. Cos i know I'll dash someone or they will collect it from me as a junior student.. it was like 200 naira then. 200 was big money.. then i upgraded to dickman. I was in jss3. No one. I mean no one had a disk man till like ss2.. i was the only one.. snr and girls borrowed it from me in exchange i get protection..lol. see watin small disk man give me

IyaebeTheGreat:
You may end the marriage but never hit back, it’s deeper than you think. God will forgive a woman that hits her husband if she repents but a husband will suffer the consequence severely till the wife wholeheartedly forgives him. Authority: on no condition whatsoever should you ever hit your wife

You some sick and stupid lady. I bet my life

Triangles1:
LoL, bros is like you have her at mind before, you really hit it.

Stupid ladies nah him full area this days