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I'd choose home as a lady and one with the Virtuous-Woman in view. She worked hard for the BEST of her family. So, that sums up everything for me.
And for the man, there's no room to be slothful either ( I hope that means not to be lazy hunh?). He that can't fend for his family is worse than an infidel ( I didn't coin that saying).
There really should be a balance.
I DO NOT SUBSCRIBE to that FULL HOUSE-WIFE thingy too while we are still on this.

lol. . . Can't stop laughing! Ha, my people I thank God Gan!


To all them folks that can't contain themselves and would always stop by each thread to cause trouble; my advice is: ONCE YOU DON'T LIKE THE TITLE OF A THREAD OR TOPIC, PLEASE DON'T CLICK ON IT ( THAT'S WHAT I DO OK). YOU MIGHT NOT TOTALLY AGREE WITH SOME THINGS ON A THREAD, THEN YOUR CHOICE IS TO MAKE US SEE YOUR P O V. STOP THE NAME-CALLING AND MUD-SLINGING JUST BECAUSE YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO CONTRIBUTE TO A PARTICULAR THREAD!

Ha! I didn't plan to make a speech there. . . ooops!

To think that one of the frequently quoted ugly-dudes once asked me out, ha I no go gree for una. . . lol. . . .

Rubbish! Valentines day is an over rated experience and always tends to favour women than men. Its as if all the chicks of this planet collude that valentines day is their birthday and expect all the gifts on this planet to be by their bed side that day. Why should vals day be the chosen day to declare one's undying love to a chick? Why not the other 364 days?

I just think its a day girls turn into scam artists and 419ers to deprive men off their worldly possessions. The whole thing smacks of imbecility to me.

the chocolates, the flowers, the perfumes, the dinner and false hypocriscy of love that day just to intimidate others that are single, meanwhile the relationship is hanging on a cliff, mutual suspicion and trust exists and the cheatings that will soon follow suit.

Why pretend when if you love your partner you can celebrate vals day tonight with your partner and not be a follow follow.

P:S: Love doesnt exist on valentines day and its just a day to make more babies and hopefully make abortion doctors richer in 5 weeks time, yuk!

@baby cool

Stop day dreaming and get a life! The real world doesnt remotely have time for such wishful day dreaming!


hahaha, You r not serious. Y d hard-knocks now, henh? How many babes don yahooze u lik this? Pele o

Rubbish! Valentines day is an over rated experience and always tends to favour women than men. Its as if all the chicks of this planet collude that valentines day is their birthday and expect all the gifts on this planet to be by their bed side that day. Why should vals day be the chosen day to declare one's undying love to a chick? Why not the other 364 days?

I just think its a day girls turn into scam artists and 419ers to deprive men off their worldly possessions. The whole thing smacks of imbecility to me.

the chocolates, the flowers, the perfumes, the dinner and false hypocriscy of love that day just to intimidate others that are single, meanwhile the relationship is hanging on a cliff, mutual suspicion and trust exists and the cheatings that will soon follow suit.

Why pretend when if you love your partner you can celebrate vals day tonight with your partner and not be a follow follow.

P:S: Love doesnt exist on valentines day and its just a day to make more babies and hopefully make abortion doctors richer in 5 weeks time, yuk!

@baby cool

Stop day dreaming and get a life! The real world doesnt remotely have time for such wishful day dreaming!


hahaha, U r not serious. Y d hard-knocks now, henh? How many babes don yahooze u lik dis? Pele o

Lol, I still can't hold down the laughter. I feel for the justice-fighter though, but paddy-mi suppose know TWO WRONGS DON'T MAKE IT RIGHT! Anyway, wish them 'luck' next time.
I've a pilot friend who doesn't switch off his phone when flying as a regular passenger, can you beat that?! And he's fond of making so light the issue,  

Oh the very thing I would have said has been said over and over!
The truth is MARRIAGE becomes authentic when the parents of those involved give their consent (in full I guess). That's why churches always encourage intending couples to receive BLESSINGS from their parents before they (ALL PARTY INVOLVED) can move on with whatever church or court ceremonies they might want to have.
I believe the treditional thingy with the parents involved 'to capacity' becomes a HIGHLY RECOGNIZED INSTITUTION WITH GOD.
And I also believe, the church ceremony gained prominence when children were disowned by their parents for declaring their christian faith, thereby the church became a family!
The WHITE DRESS is a discussion for another day, believe me.
SO, to all who will TRADITIONALLY MARRY IN JUNE AND 'WHITE WED' IN DECEMBER, ONCE YOU ARE DECLARED MARRIED AT ONE POINT YOU REMAIN EVEN BEYOND DECEMBER.
SO DON'T GO DOING 'IT' TILL EITHER OF THE TWO,OK.
GOD BLESS US.

Re: Which State Are You From?
« #54 on: November 17, 2007, 04:39 PM »  

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We got just two states in Nigeria. Lagos and Ogun.
To cut tha story short i'm from the state that produced all the Yoruba President and Vice president.Obj, Diya,Shonekan not forgeting M.K.O, Awolowo, Fela. I can't SHOUT cause you already know where i'm from.


DAPYSCOOL. . . I copy you o jie.
No le le

I'm praying for your sister already. Once had a male-cousin who had a baaaaaaaaadddddddd crush on me too about 10yrs ago. It came to a stop when I decided to stop going to their house! we hadn't seen since then. Maybe you should let your cousin know and then together, you all put a stop to it. Abi now?

Just my Luck, Ohlalala

ADDITIONAL INFO:
CONCLUDED NYSC LAST YEAR AUGUST.
GOT THE MARKETING OFFER IN NOVEMBER (and believe me it was no fun doing that at all. But I held forth till March 12 this year when I decided it was time to go back on my knees and tell God I DIN' HAVE A JOB YET).
THEN GOT MY PRESENT JOB IN JUNE (RESUMED ON THE 7TH). . . AND I AM SOOOOOOOOO THANKING GOD EVERY MOMENT FOR THE GREAT REVISITATION OF MY JOB-CASE.
I TALK MY JOB, DO MY JOB, SUGGEST MY JOB, SELL MY JOB, SLEEP MY JOB, WAKE UP MY JOB. . .
AND THERE IS STILL SO MUCH TO LEARN ON THE JOB (OF COS YOU CAN TRUST I'M RIGHT ON LEARNING MOREEEEEEE).

For nairalanders who have full time jobs. I have a couple of questions for you:

- Do you like your job? are you excited to wake up in the morning and get ready for work?
I SOOOOOOOOO LAV MY JOB (no long thing)

- Is your job related/ similar to the dream job you wanted when you were younger?
WHETHER IT'S RELATED YOU PREFER O OR SIMILAR. . . MY JOB COMES IN NEAR.
IT WAS HUGELY THOUGHT OF IN A BIGGER PICTURE (LIKE WORKING FOR AN AIRLINE LIKE BRITISH AIRWAYS, BUT NOW WORKING IN A SOLID TRAVEL AGENCY). . . YOU SEE?

- Is it related/similar to what you studied (your major) at the University?
I DID A 'GENERAL' COURSE IN THE UNI (WHAT SOME PEOPLE DESCRIBE AS UNPROFESSIONAL FIELD OF STUDY)

- How did you find your job? connections with friends/ family, posted vacancy, etc?
THROUGH A RECRUITING FIRM MY FRIEND SUGGESTED.

- How many jobs have you had since you started working full time.
THIS IS THE SECOND SINCE I CONCLUDED NYSC (THE FIRST WAS A NIGHTMARE IN THE NAME OF marketing executive)

- Do you think you'll change jobs in the near future?
NOT SO SOON DEARIE COS I'M BUILDING UP MY CAREER TOWARDS A BETTER OPPORTUNITY-FILLED SEASON (lol. . . )

HAHAHAHAHA, NA WAH O, I HAVE SO MANY EITHER WAY

Since you have an understanding lady in the person of your fiancee, maybe you should have the introduction before christmas, inform THE MOTHER you would be having the wedding proper some time next year. Cos as pressure is mounting on you, it's mounting on the lady o. NO ALLOW THE SERPENT IN O

@ poster:
It takes a man who fears God to be faithful. Therefore, no amount of confrontations would change the man's ways, except he understands what it means to really be GOD FEARING.
For the sake of peace then, encourage your friend and his siblings to take it to God in prayer that their father should learn to fear Him.
All da best

I believe '4' it's another number but then it's a heavy one at that! We are looking at 48months altogether! (of cos '48' is yet another number!). Anyway, something dropped in my head a moment ago, that is why I'm back and that thing is the marriage oath of for BETTER or WORSE. So I thought to myself, if you are optimistic then you really do not have to wait forever no matter the constraints, cos for you it will always get better. And for the pessimist, don't stop at 4yrs, cos it might get worse. . .

Four years used to be my ideal for courtship, But trust me, that has changed! If I can have my way, I'd date for 2weeks, do a bit of come-my-house-I-go-your-house for 1month and then we'll marry! haba! person de tire o. Seriously 4yrs are enough to produce 3 children and if we could have stayed that long; ceteris paribus, na werin person still de wait for? Confirmation?! . And like someone noted 4yrs of courtship na MOCK-MARRIAGE. So when will you do the proper thing? Afterall, after MOCK na real EXAM, And to FLEE FORNICATION, please Keep It Short & Simple with no shady 'blockings'. It's not easy with marriage but then with everything in place, you need not wait that long, Don't give the serpent a hedge to crawl in, I'm tired jo,

I'm encouraged by your replies to know you would do what is right. It takes more guts to be selfless anyway. . . So this is wishing you a fantastic outcome and all the best in future challenges. Stay strong

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Re: Prenuptial Agreements
« #17 on: May 24, 2006, 01:25 PM »

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Ain't we missing something here.We are using celebrity and nouve riche marriages as a standard for the proper marriage but history has proved beyond any doubt that this category of peope have the most failed marriages and they can't be used as standard.They are too high and mighty to be humble enough to learn the nitty-gritty of marriage.

The standards for marriages should be those ordinary folks,mostly in the villages,who are well past seventy and have celebrated over thiry years of marriage to just the same first wife or husband.That category includes most of our parents and grandparents.Ordinary simple folks,not celebrities who are damm so materialist and egotistic.(I have a strong dislike for celebrities )

In the past there were no prenups and marriages survived longer.My parents have been married for 33 years now and are still very much together in love,no prenups.

Lets face it,we have turned relationships into business ventures because the modern society tells us there is an easy way out.
If we stick to the traditional methods,were the couple weather storms together,then there will be no need for the very useless,baseless,stupid prenonsense called prenuptial agreements.

If you don't trust a person enough to spend your life with them,then don't bother to marry them.Better to be single than marry with the knowledge that it ain't going to last.


You couldn't have said it better. The essence of marriage is long dead and myopic fellas think they just got round to a solution that is as stupid as they are! My parents with a record of 35years and still so romantically inclined will make you go green with envy, you would never want to stay single. Funnily, it's not like that they have always had it soooooo good but they chose to make it work without any pre- - - WHAT?! Please, let's go back to the roots and learn what is useable and discard all notions that are not right nor worthy of praise!

I honestly wish I could give an insight into this thread but nothing is clicking (oops, )! Everyone seems to be making sense and yet everyone seems to be losing it! I wish the last man standing. . . . (dunno what to wish the person). I could never make it as a scientist anyway. . . So all the best people

Its so funny that the mofo locked the two of you in his house and left lol lol lol

how did you both stop fighting??

who decided who was going to sit where and how can you go to sleep in the same room as someone who just finish beating yo ass
I sooo gbadun this post especially the mofo!!!!!!!! lol
Sweetheart I was 14 when I knew it doesn't MAKE SENSE TO FIGHT OVER A MAN! HABA, U FALL MY HAND O AT 25!

No mercy for those silly arsenal guys/fans. MAN-U FOR LIFE. FOR TROPHY. FOR VICTORY. UNITED WE STAND AGAINST RUBBISH (aka the gutless-gunners)

Since I'm tall I do not wear stillz,pointz or high heels, But with wedges,I'm game. The noise, I find that annoying but then wat can one do to a situation one cannot help?, If you called my attention with your noise and you turn out PRETTY, I no go vex, But if it's the other DESCRIPTION for u, My FACE go tel you wetin I think! Good day!

When I first read your piece seriously what crossed my mind was YAHOO WEDDING. But after going through the replies I began to feel for you. All the same the likes of Seun and the second poster have said it all, So Americana-husband you are now in America, try and educate yourself with all the materials you find helpful,  I'm still not sure if I pity you sha cos the WIFEY mention DEPRESSION na you come decide (as per sey U be in-house-Doctor) sey no be serious ailment (my mind still de insist se na America interest U pass the woman),

Ndo nna, E go better, U be good and the good girls will come around you. And for calling to inform you,  You are blessed she didn't play you for a fool, cos dude that was sincerity on her part FOR REAL.

Ur quiz has been answered. So please answer Carlosein's question, cos I'm puzzled at that 'tree' thingy myself!

Children is not the sole purpose for marriage neigther is it the true purpose.

Having said that, i think it's totally out of place to give the condition of pregnancy before walking to the isle to a woman. Has it occured to you that she could get pregnant and loose the child after the wedding due to all the stress she goes through during the ceremony.

What if that happens, do you 'un-marry' her, get her pregnant again and 're-marry' her or what do you do in that case?

What about the ladies that would rather remain virgins until their wedding nights? Do you not marry her because she wants to keep her marriage bed holy?

Please let's not subject ourselves or our loved ones with unnessesary conditions before getting married, it just sucks out the beauty and love out of it.

Tanx YOMITON for voicing my argument really.

Simple question that requires an answer in WORD FORM and some pips are already teaching theology! Ha nairalanders make una de try abeg!!!!

I kinda find it all hard to believe, seriously. You most probably wanted to start a topic, cos boy, no girl would waste half a second to listen to you, if you actually started off that way,  but if na true u yarn, boy, u've got a long way to gooooooooooo