I've got no time for games, I don't like hurting people so I use body language from the start if I'm not into you. But if you don't get it, I'll look deep into your eyes and tell you "NO"

It's obvious she's not into you, stop forcing yourself on her.

Seun where are you o, someone's is crushing on you. Don't ban be sha

youngfocus:

waow,seem I need to knw,hw to wreck that place,as a revenge on all my gf DAT cheated on me,lecture on it pls

I grew up around lots of guys so I know how they talk. You're a guy so you should to know better. I should be asking you not the other way round.

youngfocus:

lol,wish one are u talking again, the one he have been chopping wat is it call

I don't know joor... OK he has been "chopping" but if he takes her back he'll probably do the normal thing guys do, wreck that place down below beyond repair.

lefulefu:
or maybe also she stays indoors with her parents all day..if u are indoors 24/7 how man wan take see u? some families sef dem go put one or two huge hefty alsatian dogs for gate and their Dauthers of marriagable age go dey inside compound.wich man go one enter such compound after seeing such dogs.sometimes its better if u a lady of marriagable age to stay alone so u can be able to socialise and meet ur hearthrob in the process.

Lol, you're right...

ndubueze92:
I'm completely thrilled by the way you danced around your points, defending your stance.
Exchanging words with her, helps no one......
meeeee, am a core disciplinarian, some women these days have imbibed the western ways of treating kids as if they're adults...
I would really like to marry someone that would later use me an example "... he never raised his hands on me". I will adopt the walk away approach....
Buh sometimes you may walk away and walk into something that courts your attention

I'm not dancing around my point, I'd always defend what I stand for.
Good choice you made (walking away stuff)
Your children go too chop beat, you've not given birth to them yet and you're already planning how to beat them. Beating doesn't really change a child, spanking is enough. Then as they grow older talk to them. They'll respect better instead of fear.

kay29000:


You have a point. She is very introverted like me...Some times i feel like marrying her...not out of pitty o, but cos we once had something when we were younger. But then i think maybe i need someone more extroverted as i am toooo introverted.

I'm an introvert and I'm talking from experience, the best combination is introvert and introvert. Go for her if you still like her.

I don't think females are more than males tho...
It's not about being "beautiful and having a great character". Maybe she's been attracted to the wrong set of guys all this while or she's very introverted, shy, quiet. Or maybe she's this holier than thou kind of people, that can't do certain things cos they feel it's a sin. Maybe she probably doesn't wanna get married.

Prec1ous:


You and i know that a very normal man will not hit his wife, he will happily walk away.
If nothing, but freedom to drink beer for that day

The crazy ones are those doing the beating especially when unprovoked.

If a man sees this post as a validation for misbehaving, then he has gone mad!

Thank you, i don clean my eyes now

Lol, free beer that's why they have potbelly.
Your moniker should be crybaby sha, cry cry.

They're not so young tho, especially the man...he looks old. Anyway HML to them.

Prec1ous:


This is what i was trying to avoid. Can we not just read things straight up and not trying to be judgemental, you are actually judging me. This is not a MAN VS WOMAN thread, if for anything, it is simply correcting a misconception.

Everyman is a potential wife beater including myself but SELF CONTROL while other positive factors are a constant is what keeps most people in check.

Apart from experience, people write based on observation and that was my motivation for this. You cannot just point fingers at me when you do not even know my first name. That is not fair, i am a social scientist and observation is my way of gathering knowledge.

You keep talking of walking away, as if it is that easy. I stated above that, apart from the wife, this men are facing some other challenges, they are 2 minutes away from snapping. You skipped that and picked the one that tickles you the more.

Stop the emotionally induced response(Did you eeven read the disclaimer?), you are bringing me to tears.

Sorry o, if I judge you wrongly. But I just had to say something cos some abusive/ "prospective abusive" men reading this will take this thread as a justification of their actions.
Walking away is easy, like my parents taught us from childhood how to walk away no matter how provoked we were. Cos if you fight and they find out, it won't be funny at all. It takes practice but it's not impossible.
So no cry again eh

ndubueze92:
By inference, that's inevitable hence, they're advised to attend martial art classes? Nairaland and inferential generalizations eh!.... I wonder. Am not married and still got 3-5 more years to prepare for it.
I don't know what happens in the future, but don't want to be a wife beater........ Here are some reasons that may bring problems;
1, calling my mum a witch or whatsoever.
2, barring my siblings from coming to the house .
3, Stopping me from disciplinary actions on the kids.....

Martial arts is good cause you can use for self defense, maybe you're being attacked or kidnapped, you can defend yourself.
Most of the points you mentioned are painful but shouldn't make you beat her. Play her game, don't allow her siblings to come to the house too, call her mum a witch too. I love pay backs cos I can't wait for karma to do her job.
I don't support women that call their MILs witches, same way I don't support women that brings dispute (like barring her husband's siblings from the house) in their husband's family. Because before he even knew her, they've always been in life during the good and the rough time. But a lady has a say in the way her child should be disciplined, a spank in the ass of a young child his OK. As they grow up, advice works better.

What happened to walking away? That's the best thing you can do. The truth is that most people needs anger management classes. From the way you talk (type) it's obvious you're abusive and you're trying to generalize the issue just to make you feel good that all males are like you. I've seen males faced with worse situation than the one you mentioned but they never raise their hand on anyone, they just walked away.
Females are not puppets or toys you own and can mishandle it. That's why I'd always advice female to attend martial arts classes for the purpose of self defense. Remember there's a this line between life and death, you'll know walking away is the best option when you beat someone daughter to death.

Mine is in DP

No guy that loves you will cheat on you when they know you're aware. He doesn't like you, it's so obvious you're forcing yourself on him.
Be wise and let him be.

HelenBee:
Why using condom in the first place?? Let God protect you jhor.

Lol, this is so funny.

Lemme not talk.

Aww, it's so nice and rare seeing a male that's not bashing females on nairaland. But it's not 100% true tho, cos in every group there must be a Judas.

Ehya, doh, Pele, sorry o. Lol
On serious note, you did wrong sha, I won't lie. But what is pissing me off is that he once cheated on your and you forgave you, but when you did something similar he's breaking up with you.
You can beg him if you want. Men have very big ego, they don't handle cheating cases the way we do. If he comes back to you, he probably wants to make you pay (chop and clean mouth) for cheating. So be careful.

Lukmanraji:

how sure are you?

Is it mine? I dunno, go and ask it na.

Don't ever trust any servant (male or female). Can't she do the work herself? This doesn't sound like a smart idea to me tho. She's probably looking for a local boy she can manipulate, I may be wrong tho.

Sentiments apart, it's Omotola.

His Lil man is probably not attracted to his girlfriend

Martin0:


What made you think so.
You were not there,and she may either be lying or even saying d truth.
Nobody can actually tell so am sure we assuming

Even though she wanted it, this is wrong in all level. What happened to walking away when you're pissed?

Martin0:


Ehm somehow she looks like one..

But I don't think she (this one) wanted it tho.

Martin0:


My dear it not about sarcasm.
Year's ago I was dating this SA girl sometimes she tell's me to beat her and that if I don't do it she's not and never gonna respect me.

Till date am still wondering what kind of words and how could a normal human say that?

I had to call her out on a date to ask her some questions nd probably talk sence into her head.
Imagine me asking her if she's having some mental problem in her family that may have float into her head?

But I never beat her ooo unlike weitin op talk.

There are ladies who will just tell their partner's to beat them,they will even tempt you to beat them.

Lefulefu ve u not seen

Hmm, that's odd. She's probably a sadomasochist I guess, lots of mental people roaming around like normal people.

Martin0:


I think she asked his boyfriend to beat her.
Most ladies are like that and I ve seen

If you're trying to be sarcastic, well that's a failed attempt tho. Cos no normal female that's thinking right will let anyone beat her black and blue and even remove her front teeth.

He's probably with some other girl when you're not around. Do you want to spoil show with him and his new girl.
Or maybe he's really busy.

It's her marriage and not yours tho. She probably likes his character cos I'm sure she wasn't forced into the relationship. She's not blind.

I really feel bad for you tho, I don't even know if you can do anything about it. He did introduction without even telling you, he slept and impregnated your mom's friend. That's so mean, if I say something now some chauvinistic assholes will start giving endless mentions.
Focus on your mum and your real siblings, that's what I do. When he gets married and give birth to other kids, he shouldn't even try asking you for anything (like upkeep). Some men are just insatiable.

Wow, that's just too much na. I guess he wanted to kill her. He even removed her front teeth, how's she going attract another man?
I'm very sure the signs have always been there. She should just forgive him to remove the burden from her heart but she shouldn't go back to that beast tho.