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Absolute rubbish...

2021, I see shege for relationship..
Let me leave it at that.

Treat her as though it's one of siblings that committed the act.
She is family
Family is family

Ignorance is truly a disease...
The answer to your question is...
The same reason a lawyer will not do the job of a court clerk...
A doctor will not take over the nurses job...
There is heirachy in every profession and there are various specializations...
In engineering we have the following;
Engineer - Technologist - Technician - craftsman/artisan
The difference is brain vs hands usage...
Mechanical Engineering has so many options;
Automobile
Production
Building services
Air-condition and refrigeration
Aeronatic
Energy and Thermofluids
Etc...
OP please learn.
Google Lady Benz, she is my classmate.

Lollittaa:
As far as I could remember, I've always had very painful menstruation. To a point that it affects my ability to work or be productive.
Painkillers hardly work, so it's about 4-7 days of Pre menstrual cramps +5 day period of agony. Almost two weeks every month. Sometimes I fall sick during or after my period.
I talked to my doctor. I was thinking family planning pills might pause my periods for sometime. But he said no they don't. He advised I be taking painkillers prior to my period and I have ulcer.

I'm tired. NL doctors, what can I do?

I will advice you go for Menstrual Advantage therapy....

dre11:
How El-Rufai Created A Territory In Kaduna And Appointed Son’s Friend As Administrator



https://dailytrust.com/how-el-rufai-created-a-territory-in-kaduna-and-appointed-sons-friend-as-administrator

Is it your father's enemy that you want him to appoint

speedfreak:
Good morning all, I recently moved to Lagos for a new job, having been here for a year I am planning on going back to Abuja for Easter, not really a fan of public buses and due to the surge in traveling, Flight rates are astronomical for me and my fiancé, so driving would be my surest, most convenient and cheapest alternative.

I have gone through previous travel threads but they all seem outdated so I’m looking for an update.

I plan on leaving Thursday morning 5am, Im driving 2012 Honda Accord coupe. My questions would be:

1. First time driving such long distance, is it advisable? I’m not such a tough chap but I’m sure I can manage

2. How safe is the trip? With the kidnapping trend going on.

3. How much would it cost me to fuel? Car is a 4 cylinder without a cat (catalytic converter)

4. How rough will it be on the car? Car is less than 5months old, wouldn’t want to rough it up just yet.

5. How accurate is google maps? It estimates 12hrs through Ibadan and 14hrs through illorin.

Aside from the above any other advice or assistance would be welcomed.

I did Ibadan to Kaduna sometime in April using strictly Google map. Left ibadan at exactly 7:30am, I got to Abuja 5pm and arrive Kaduna at exactly 7pm. I only stop for 15mins somewhere in ekiti and another 15mins at lokoja.
90% of the road is good, with Google map/navigator I escaped most of the gridlocks except for the one at gwagwalada.
I'm a fearless and daring person. I didn't meet any kidnapper or hoodlum on the way.
My Kaduna to Ibadan trip is the sweeter story.
75 - 80litres fuel should take you from Lagos to Abuja.
If you are an adventure lover... Hit the road bro... Be safe.

Less I forget, I don't give tips or bribe. Make sure your licence and particulars are intact. Fire extinguisher, hydraulic, razor blade, etc. Road safety and vio may want to delay you unnecessarily if you are like me (no bribe/tip policy). My usual line at any checkpoint is "Morning, how is the work? Weldone" (with a straight or slightly smiley face) and I zoom off.

I was shocked when one of their pastors told me he paid 200k as bribe to be posted to Kaduna and other paid more to be posted to Lagos, Rivers and fct...
It is what it is!!!

Something wey I don do tire. Nothing happen... Maybe Charlie dey fear me... Cos me sef dey fear myself...

The way Christians/bible brandish God is too ridiculous... God - 3 persons in one, God searching for Adam and Eve in the garden not knowing they have disobeyed, God spitting fire and smoke from his nose, Jacob wrestle with God, God threatened by the people of Babylon who were building a tower and most ridiculous is God requiring innocent blood before he can forgive...

No sane person will settle for this type of God.

Reason people, reason.....

godkiller:
God have mercy.

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Wilstino:
There is a disconnect in all these. How comes a a Kano/Northern Commissioner would come out to spew such negative things about him.

He is a stakeholder in the system and privy to happenings within.

Perhaps Onyeama judgment might have been beclouded by the good relationship and gestures he obviously enjoyed.

Anyway, you can't please everybody but time shall tell.

The lesson here is that, by and by death will come to us, be careful what you do or how you treat people today, because people will use that to Judge and talk about you when you gone.

We are different things to different people... That's the reality of life...

SweetCunt97:
You very silly to assume that. Bleep off my mention, brain dead zombie

Oops she has vexed oo...
SweetCunt established 1997...

bptc10:
Please use your common sense, we are not making much testing but still our hospitals are not fill with dead bodies, I can tell you that this virus don't survive here in sub Saharan African to compare to Europe, check the number of cases in Sub Saharan African you will understand what am saying

We will verify your understanding soon..

SweetCunt97:
That's d best you can come up with?

You moniker says it all

afemgbosey:
I met a prospective landlord and saw image of JESUS and Muhammed in his living room. I just smiled throughout and pray to escape on time. Layelaye I can never rent a room from him.

Does a picture of Muhammad exist??

ayamsuperstar:
Hmm hop we dont enter a thousand before month end.....that kano go soon dey top d list if care is not taken

Most likely... We had our index case same day as Brazil... Brazil has over 30000 cases already... This is majorly because we are not testing much...
The spread in Kano and other parts of the north is what I fear most....

iKingsley:
Enugu has discharged her 2 cases, why are you still including them on the chart?

All of you asking that the discharge cases be removed, pls do the math yourselves. This is a worldwide table format... More comprehensive tables have number of active cases, new death cases, etc.

This is only one side of the story... Who knows if it's a case of mistaken identity (her in-law to be talking about someone else who bares same name) or past/dissolve marriage... Pls OP confirm the story before making a final decision.

barnny:
So God did that so men can marry more than one abi

Your guess is as good as mine...

murmee:
So why did God make a (ONE) suitable companion for Adams and not TWO or more? (Genesis 2 verse 18)

Can you tell me why God made the population of women grow more than that of men

Hathor5:
In your attempt to romanticize the idea of a polygamous marriage, you have not forgotten to mention that the wives are rivals at the end of the day. I would much rather be single than have my husband sleep around on the same compound. This, my dear, would certainly make me depressed, not being single, which has more advantages than polygamy in my own view. If you can't stand the idea of your wife sleeping with other men, then you have an idea why many ladies react negatively to sharing their husband.

The quest for dominance is the beginning of rivalry, once you grow above that, you wouldn't be so bittered or depressed about sharing your man....
I have friends who dread polygamy but engage in 3some and date married men... How funny...

barnny:
Apart from mindset, polygamous family has its side effects. You forgot to tell us the negative effects on your part except you want to tell me there's none which i will find it hard to concur.
Before you will want to quote me, let me categorically tell u that I'm from a polygamous family too. There are some issues i can't even tell the closest person to me because of the fear of the unknown.

Well, the topic asks for benefits...
If you read my post well, I actually said "not without challenges"...
Let me mention a few...
Sometimes the competition might become unhealthy and trivial things could turn into a full blown war. But this happens in monogamy.
When children fight, mothers take side and take over the fight...
When one party (among the wives) is fond off making messes without cleaning it up...
When any or all of the wives consults alfas, pastors, etc. The common tale they are told is the cause of their problem is their rival which most times is untrue... This also happen in monogamy e.g. a wife could be told the reason for her husband change in character because a side chick has jazzed him...
All this challenges does not exist in every polygamy.
I actually consider my own family to be among the few good ones. This also takes God's grace and the head of the house maturity and discipline.
Yes we fight once in a while which is inevitable but we make up and move on and even go extra mile to show each other love as a sign of leaving the past behind.
Peace doesn't happen by accident, people work for it... That is what I use to tell my step mum when ever she reports my mum to me..

I can't say more

Acmepreneur:
Ode, keep on deceiving yourself, there's everything wrong with polygamy and its Because of stupid fools like you that think its mindset making some polygamy not peaceful.
The problem is jealousy, envy and natural human/African wickedness. I know people that are not marrying the same husband, yet out of jealousy one would destroy one. They are mere friends o, because her friend pass more than her, she turned her to enemy and destroyed her. 90% of human beings is like this, and that's why polygamy is a battle field, because its natural with the children of Adam. Go to federal government offices, and see how people do bad things to one another out of hate, spite, and jealousy. Especially in Federal universities and polytechnics, is it mindset that made these people to harm each other? Some professors do not even want PhD students to earn their PhD degree, likewise many supervisors without any prior offences.
Keep on deceiving yourself ehn, and enter into polygamy, you will hate your existence.
Its better to remain single and unmarried than to be in a polygamy, because its synonymous to heart attack. In this age that everyone is trying to grow, you will be arguing in stupid thing with a stupid fool abi. .
I'm in support of polygamy for some special cases though but personally I won't advise anyone because it's a death sentence

you just proved my point that the problem is not polygamy but some people's nature...
You can insult all you want, I guess that's your nature too...
My opinion is mine and yours is yours...
Peace out

phemmyflexxy:
It baffles me how some educated folks behave as though they are not logical in their reasoning.
Our knowledge and perception of polygamy has been shaped by what we are being fed from childhood. :a polygamous home is a battle field. the problem of Christianity and Islam was as a result of polygamy. it makes women inferior, women in polygamous homes are 2nd citizens...etc.
I was born and brought up in a polygamous home. I am still living with my step mum and my half brothers and sisters since my father died.
I can categorically tell u that polygamy is not the problem, but our mindset and misinformation about it.
Mine is/was a peaceful and loving polygamous home not without challenges though.
Let me give a list of the reasons why my home is a successful polygamous home;
1. Our mothers never planted hatred for our siblings in our minds, and if anyone of them was doing that, then her children are definitely not listening.
2. Each one of us was paired with a half brother/sister to eat together and where possible be in the same class at school. e.g. Me and my half twin brother attended same school most times same class up till NYSC and PGD, our friends are always marveled at our bond.
3. Our mothers are all business women, so they can take care of their personal uncommon needs, at some time even have a fatter wallet than my father.
4. My father was a disciplinarian and takes no nonsense, he was feared, loved and respected by everyone. Even when there is a quarrel, ones he honks his car at the gate, its game over.
To mention a few.
For this reasons there was more bond amongst we the children.... and that is a the core pillar of a successful polygamous home. we are a family of 20... I.e. 16 children to 3 mothers ratio 6:6:4.
I am the 7th child and the 3rd son of the family. I believe I wouldn't be who I am today if I didn't pass through this family. I have benefitted more from my half siblings than my mother's fruits. I can't say no to my half siblings request like I do to mine. This is because I don't want them to think I'm bias towards them.
personally I still believe polygamy is the future.
presently on my street are a minimum of 4 unmarried women who are in their 40s, more than 12 single mothers, 1 divorcee, 8 widows including my elder sister and excluding my mothers and over 20 ripe single ladies. The gender ratio is 3:1 ladies to men.
My widowed sister has 3 kids already, her husband died when she was 34. The question I ask is would she remain single for rest of her life, or get married again. what are the chances for her to get a single man as against a married man ready to get take her as second or 3rd wife. or she will just have to suit her emotional and sexual needs wt different men who won't marry her (which makes her a public property) as the case of many of them on my street.
This applies to all the aforementioned categories. I can tell u that its just as difficult to get a married man to marry as it is to get a single man.
Many of the arguments above capitalized on the economy. For God's sake, we are in the 21st century, where women work and even earn more than men. And even if she is an housewife, who says she can't make millions from her bedroom... thanks to the internet. and yes, men don't want liabilities.
So I believe rather than all these categories of women competing and causing unrest in the world over the scanty limited men, the world will learn to be more peaceful if we all make a peaceful polygamous home possible by unlearning what we have been brainwashed wt . Ladies, i will advice u to accept the offer if any responsible married man wants to marry you. Go into the polygamous home not wt a battle prepared mind but with peace is possible mindset to contribute our own quota.
Married ladies should help their sisters by allowing them to come into their homes as wives and not as mistresses.
The Bible says love ur neighbour as thyself. Prophet Muhammed (saw) also said u are not yet a true believer until u love for ur neighbour what u love for yourself.

Nevertheless, not everyone can lead or be part of a polygamous setting. This has to do with your maturity, financial status, temperament and leadership skills.

Talking about advantages or disadvantages depends on which position you stand in the family... Husband/father, wife/mother or child...

As a father/husband...
Does your faith/belief allow you to? If yes, you have a better option than committing adultery. If no, stick to your belief system.
Can your financial status cope? If yes, you would be investing on children who may take care of your old age and help each instead of wasting it on oloshos and side chicks. If no, pls marry a working/business woman or stick to one.
Do you have the emotional intelligence to deal with women palava? If yes like my dad... You will build a big loving family like mine. If no pls don't marry at all

As a wife/mother
Does your faith/belief allow you to? If yes, you have a better option than committing fornication or being a side chick/public property.
Do you have a source of sustainance and can cater for your kids? If yes, go ahead and save yourself from depression and societal pressure, if no marry a wealthy man.
Do you have the emotional intelligence to deal with your fellow women as mates/rivals? If yes, you have an helper and save yourself a lot of burden, plus your children have spare mother's like me. If no, pls leave those who can to live in peace.

As a child.
It is not your choice to make but if you find your self in one....
You have spare mother's to care for you and possibly a bigger number of siblings to cater for or care for you. If you are lucky they are well to do... You have a better chance at it too.

Haven said all these, there is nothing wrong with polygamy except our attitude and mindset towards it. Same applies to monogamy. What baffles me is how we detest polygamy and endorse cheating husband's and baby mamas and mistresses.

Peace out...

I forgot to mention physical strength and sexual capacity.... Pls as a man if you can't handle having great sex at least twice a week, pls don't bother thinking about marrying more or marry those with low libido and hate sex.

It baffles me how some educated folks behave as though they are not logical in their reasoning.
Our knowledge and perception of polygamy has been shaped by what we are being fed from childhood. :a polygamous home is a battle field. the problem of Christianity and Islam was as a result of polygamy. it makes women inferior, women in polygamous homes are 2nd citizens...etc.
I was born and brought up in a polygamous home. I am still living with my step mum and my half brothers and sisters since my father died.
I can categorically tell u that polygamy is not the problem, but our mindset and misinformation about it.
Mine is/was a peaceful and loving polygamous home not without challenges though.
Let me give a list of the reasons why my home is a successful polygamous home;
1. Our mothers never planted hatred for our siblings in our minds, and if anyone of them was doing that, then her children are definitely not listening.
2. Each one of us was paired with a half brother/sister to eat together and where possible be in the same class at school. e.g. Me and my half twin brother attended same school most times same class up till NYSC and PGD, our friends are always marveled at our bond.
3. Our mothers are all business women, so they can take care of their personal uncommon needs, at some time even have a fatter wallet than my father.
4. My father was a disciplinarian and takes no nonsense, he was feared, loved and respected by everyone. Even when there is a quarrel, ones he honks his car at the gate, its game over.
To mention a few.
For this reasons there was more bond amongst we the children.... and that is a the core pillar of a successful polygamous home. we are a family of 20... I.e. 16 children to 3 mothers ratio 6:6:4.
I am the 7th child and the 3rd son of the family. I believe I wouldn't be who I am today if I didn't pass through this family. I have benefitted more from my half siblings than my mother's fruits. I can't say no to my half siblings request like I do to mine. This is because I don't want them to think I'm bias towards them.
personally I still believe polygamy is the future.
presently on my street are a minimum of 4 unmarried women who are in their 40s, more than 12 single mothers, 1 divorcee, 8 widows including my elder sister and excluding my mothers and over 20 ripe single ladies. The gender ratio is 3:1 ladies to men.
My widowed sister has 3 kids already, her husband died when she was 34. The question I ask is would she remain single for rest of her life, or get married again. what are the chances for her to get a single man as against a married man ready to get take her as second or 3rd wife. or she will just have to suit her emotional and sexual needs wt different men who won't marry her (which makes her a public property) as the case of many of them on my street.
This applies to all the aforementioned categories. I can tell u that its just as difficult to get a married man to marry as it is to get a single man.
Many of the arguments above capitalized on the economy. For God's sake, we are in the 21st century, where women work and even earn more than men. And even if she is an housewife, who says she can't make millions from her bedroom... thanks to the internet. and yes, men don't want liabilities.
So I believe rather than all these categories of women competing and causing unrest in the world over the scanty limited men, the world will learn to be more peaceful if we all make a peaceful polygamous home possible by unlearning what we have been brainwashed wt . Ladies, i will advice u to accept the offer if any responsible married man wants to marry you. Go into the polygamous home not wt a battle prepared mind but with peace is possible mindset to contribute our own quota.
Married ladies should help their sisters by allowing them to come into their homes as wives and not as mistresses.
The Bible says love ur neighbour as thyself. Prophet Muhammed (saw) also said u are not yet a true believer until u love for ur neighbour what u love for yourself.

Nevertheless, not everyone can lead or be part of a polygamous setting. This has to do with your maturity, financial status, temperament and leadership skills.

Talking about advantages or disadvantages depends on which position you stand in the family... Husband/father, wife/mother or child...

As a father/husband...
Does your faith/belief allow you to? If yes, you have a better option than committing adultery. If no, stick to your belief system.
Can your financial status cope? If yes, you would be investing on children who may take care of your old age and help each instead of wasting it on oloshos and side chicks. If no, pls marry a working/business woman or stick to one.
Do you have the emotional intelligence to deal with women palava? If yes like my dad... You will build a big loving family like mine. If no pls don't marry at all

As a wife/mother
Does your faith/belief allow you to? If yes, you have a better option than committing fornication or being a side chick/public property.
Do you have a source of sustainance and can cater for your kids? If yes, go ahead and save yourself from depression and societal pressure, if no marry a wealthy man.
Do you have the emotional intelligence to deal with your fellow women as mates/rivals? If yes, you have an helper and save yourself a lot of burden, plus your children have spare mother's like me. If no, pls leave those who can to live in peace.

As a child.
It is not your choice to make but if you find your self in one....
You have spare mother's to care for you and possibly a bigger number of siblings to cater for or care for you. If you are lucky they are well to do... You have a better chance at it too.

Haven said all these, there is nothing wrong with polygamy except our attitude and mindset towards it. Same applies to monogamy. What baffles me is how we detest polygamy and endorse cheating husband's and baby mamas and mistresses.

Peace out...

I use to think women had only one hole down there, and that's were everything comes out from...

Kaduna Npower volunteers blocked the entrance of the Budget and Planning office this morning to protest the non payment of 4 months stipends.
The volunteers decry the excuses and call for patient by Npower officials.
"We are not responsible for the irresponsibility of focal persons" says one of the volunteers as hundreds chanted solidarity song and "Npower pay our money".
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