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Nigeria lost a lot of chances. Hence, Spain wants to make sure they lead the group on goal difference.

@True NaijaBwoy / Chief,

Please tread with caution. We can only empathize with your situation but you are the one sleeping and waking up in your relationship. However, when you claim you love your wife, it doesn't come across as sincere because if you really do, divorce would not even come to your mind or hers. You can't love someone today and tomorrow your fall out of love with them. Think about the love your parents have for you or the love you have for your children - that's love. Also reflect and think about when you said your marriage vows – in sickness and in health, till death do us part. Think back. Did you mean it or you are just beginning to process it? Unless you didn't marry her for the love you claim you have for her. Many folks marry for reasons other than love...infatuation, arranged, residency, business, financial, pity, pressure, etc.

That said, I have a book from a spiritual teacher that could talk some love or wisdom into the situation you and your wife are going through. The name of the book is "48 Ways to Wisdom" by Rabbi Noah Weinberg.

From my mortal and imperfect self, while not meaning to be critical, I see two things:
1. your ego appears to be in play
2. maturity/wisdom - this applies to both your wife and you

Borrowed from, “Oga at the top”: That’s all.

Good luck.

OP @roli21: It's a normal phenomenon - it starts happening once boys reach puberty. It also happens regardless of being a virgin or not. Men with regular intercourse partners have it too... So, just in case you are wondering, there is nothing wrong with you. Having intercourse now will not stop it from happening once in a while...

Slickest: Hello my dignified nairalanders,I have been in a confused state lately based on this phenomenon of masters or professional exam after your bsc program.

I would really appreciate your views on this issue.

With the advent of technology, you'll need both in today's competitive marketplace. I would suggest obtaining an M.Sc first and shortly after go after relevant certification(s). Most professional certification bodies now require that members re-certify every so often. So get the masters out of the way and certification or re-certification can go on for as long. In addition, depending on the profession you are in, you may also find yourself having to obtain a couple of masters degrees especially if you are just starting out today.

If you currently have a technical degree/masters degree, a business degree (an MBA) can support your climb into upper management. It's not needed, but there's a chance you'll be taken more seriously if you have it.

Bleble-swag:
one thing is sure, nigeria cannot get better as far i knw until d destruction of d world, so d more u wait 4 her 2 get beta d worse she(nigeria) goes. so my dear come back home, home is home no matter wat.

But I hear she is getting better. She went to IMF for treatment recently, and we've invited specialists/investors to the country for her well-being, so she can save on her trips with her entourage to the IMF and World Bank. She shall be well soon. However, only if some of the doctors lawmakers can stop the transfusion of blood wealth abroad. Perhaps her situation will stabilize. We'll keep praying for her.

redsun: Nigeria is lawless country at the moment,if you want to live there,you have to make your own rules that keeps you alive.

It is lawless,literally.

But I hear she is getting better. She went to IMF for treatment recently, and we've invited specialists/investors to the country for her well-being, so she can save on her trips with her entourage to the IMF and World Bank. She shall be well soon. However, only if some of the doctors lawmakers can stop the transfusion of blood wealth abroad. Perhaps her situation will stabilize. We'll keep praying for her.

@OP/Chief: home is where you make it. Some of our fathers studied abroad in the 1950 to early 1970s with the option of staying abroad or coming back to Nigeria. I have to tell you that a lot of those who returned didn't do too well over time in Nigeria. While this is not an argument for staying abroad, home is where you make it. Since you have a family, it is not about your feelings alone. You have to think about your family's happiness and safety. You also have to factor in your kids' education. Can you afford a private school? Moreover, if your wife is reluctant to moving to Nigeria now, I would advice caution... my 2 kobo.

Source: http://www.punchng.com/business/capital-market/nse-stops-operators-from-distributing-market-information/[/quote]This is good news for the clients and potential investors. It would go a long way in increasing the amount of confidence local and foreign investors have in our capital markets. Good job NSE! However, let's give the NSE the benefit of the doubt here. Perhaps the NSE cares too much about a public that is armed with the internet and is too smart/learned to handle additional information from their stockbrokers. Too late mate...

The country as a whole scores an “A” in going backwards. A party should now come into formation called the Peoples Retrogression Party (PRP). There is at least honesty in the party name and there is no need for additional slogans.

Chinaimporter: [size=18pt]Una dey complain abt that guy. Abeg check this website wey seun dey advertise for nairaland.you go pity nigeria.see grammatical wahala. http://www.gate-consults.org/newsdetail/11 [/size]



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acidtalk: When a certain Nigeria Civil Defence Corp bigwig appeared on Channels Television some days back, a tsunami of various kind of jokes swept the entire airwaves and social media on how the guess kept on referring to his boss several times as "my oga at the top" and how the man basically doesn't know his organizations website address.

People of all ages and class had various Display Pictures on their Blackberry Phones, Twitter, Facebook and other social networking websites.

The mistake we all are making is we aren't concerned if the man was able to give substantial answers to vital questions thrown to him, example is clearing the air of the allegations made by the public that the agency is deep into job racketing.

If after posting dehumanizing jokes, graphical and video image on the man from National Civil Defence Corp it doesn't still bring abount accountability and transparency in the agency, then who is now the big fool? Is it the Man who kept praising "his oga at the top" while still getting kick backs from job racketing and other corruption based practices or the masses who were once making jest of the officer and are still jobless and with no hope of getting a job.

Nigerians should also realize they are doing the Officer more good than harm. Nigeria is a nation operated and governed on the basis of sentiments. Once you superior sees you as someone who is loyal and cool headed, they overlook your very great flaws which may include ignorance, corruption and even sluggishness.

A man who came on National Television to keep showring praises at "his oga at the top" even while being made to look silly is no where a fool. He understand the "Laws Of Power" as well as the Nigerian Hirachy rules and regulations and his acting according to the script perfectly. No one should be surprised if within a few months, this man that is being made jest of today for his ignorance is promoted severally even before his promotion is due.

The current president of Nigeria, Goodluck Jonathan is a typical example of someone who understands the Nigeria Policy. When his former boss and Governor of Bayelsa was facing allegations of money laundry and embezzlement by the EFCC and Bayelsa State. House Of Assembly, all indications were obvious of his boss impeachment and Jonathan rising to the number one seat of his state as Governor, he (Jonathan) was never in a hurry to take over power. He praised his former boss even after he became governor. Same scenario took place a few years later only this time he assumed the president of Nigeria. Yet with all the many flaws of Jonathan and his government today, never has once Jonathan come out to run down the late President Umar Yaradua or his policies while in power.

There are rules in leadership and followership and the number one binding rule is Loyalty.

For those mocking this man about not knowing his organization's website address, even though it won't stand as an excuse not to know it, do this people also realize that more than 95% of our present Bank CEO's do not also know their bank's website or slogan. Most Nigerian Senators, Honorable members, Ministers and Governors can't recite Nigeria's National Pledge not to talk of the Anthem.

Let's start tackling more inportant issues and look for solutions rather than being engrossed in irrelevant and nonbeneficial discussions.

Utter and/or shear nonsense.

I beg, we need OGA AT THE TOP to step aside for this man. This officer has a major achievement to declare: putting NSCDC on the map/internet. Perhaps most of us didn't even know NSCDC existed prior to this interview. Depending on how the pundits look at this matter, this officer has brought NSCDC (sh)FAME.

naptu2: "Did you threaten to overrule him?"


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uwlsd8RAoqI

Nice video. I’m adding this video to my library of moves on how not to be cornered. Mr. Guguru Defense was obviously not cornered. He was with his pants down in a public place. He is, indeed, a daft and shameless man.

Perhaps our Pentecostal leaders can borrow a page or two from the new pope, Francis, on humility. I doubt it. I already hear some of the leaders thinking, hmmm, unless it doesn't mean me giving up my private jet.

berryjay: Those presenters should be seriously queried,if the know deir duty and proffesional ethics well,they should have known that its a national Tv for crying out loud, we all agree dat d man messed up and really portrayed the decaying state of the economy, the presenters too, sensing disaster , should hve covered up immediately by supplying the .org, .gov or .com as d case might be.. So that some illitrate members of the public can learn... Dats d purpose of d whole presentation in d first place, to enlighten d public..

Are you suggesting "cover-up" journalism? The interviewers were performing investigative journalism, and when they smelt a rat they went for the kill. I think that should be the minimum standard. In my opinion, they did well by letting the question hang and not even calling him on it on the show, by saying, "Mr. Guguru Defense, such a website does not exist sir." They could have chosen to school the guy by telling him "all websites end with a domain name, ".com", ".org", ".gov", ".biz", ".net", etc.


We need more journalists like the ones on Channels TV to help shine some light in all dark places and corners of our public institutions.

CrazyMan: Nigerians are professionals when it comes to ridiculing people....but seriously, that man ought to resign...if I were in his shoes, shame won't even allow me go to work the following day.

How is he going to resign? Jobs like that are not easy to come by. I doubt oga at the top would have done a better job. He was probably their best spokes person. The guy depicts the states, the federal government, our education systems, all the institutions. We have just found the right image to all ride on.

That's it! Ladies and gentlemen of NL: NSCDS will no longer give interviews to the press. I feel we have been misrepresented and categorically misinterpreted.

Consequently, I am taking this opportunity to let you know that if MY OGA AT THE TOP, I, and/or any of my compatriots see any pressmen or women either dressed as Channel TV, NTV, CNN, ITV, BBC, we would RUN. I'm just warning you. Hmmmm

A disclaimer from the press office of the NSCDC, website: http://NSCDC.whaterver.myogathetopcomdom.sudall

Pain: I Love this Guy. He should run for President in 2015

I concur. The party that backs him doesn't have to spend a dime on Marketing. I would actually vote for him. To hell with competence; let's have some comedy called FUN. At the moment, we have neither. This would bring some change to the scene: some fun, and later we can CATEGORICALLY decide to get serious and fix some real problems that face us as a nation - WHEN THIS GUY BECOMES OUR OGA AT THE TOP.

val_dubem: If you purchase a share and its value is always on the decline, is it worthy to dispose (sell) off the share/s and make small money or just have hope that it will someday pick-up in value?

Pls market gurus, let's hear your opinions

@OP, if I interpret your post literary, it would suggest that you already have a strategy. Otherwise, why would you buy a stock that is always on the decline unless you expect it to bottom out at some point before beginning to rise again? In general, you should have a strategy towards investing depending on whether you are risk adverse or not. The fact that you are investing in stocks would suggest that you do have some tolerance for risk meaning that while you may make money, you should also be ready to lose all your money. That said, if you are doing this with a broker, let the broker do the worrying for you. Otherwise, only invest in what you know; that way, you are well aware of when to exit from a particular stock. In addition, you can better differentiate from the noise, market forces, etc...

Caracta: He beats you black and blue, yet you stick with him like your life depends on it.

Is it love or another definition of endurance/tolerance? Or being beaten turns you on? Or is it the practise of "for better for worse" thingy?

Please make me understand. Why do you put up with a violent boyfriend? Or why do girls put up with boyfriends who practise Bruce Lee on them...Kung Fu things?

The act or attempt of hitting/beating shouldn't be tolerated from a boyfriend, husband, brother, uncle, etc. It is accepted by some girls/women partly because of low self-esteem and some may have been brought up in an abusive home to think it is okay to hit or beat up a woman. The same goes for men. Some of our brothers/men have witness their dads using their mothers as punching bag and think they have to do the same to any woman they are with. Although, not all men that witness their dads doing this follow in their footsteps. Our society and laws also need beefing up to protect women...currently a work in progress.

free2ryhme: If your ex sends u an sms saying"u will never find someone like me again" wat would be yo response in 5 seconds

brb, I'm with someone better than you at the moment.

OP, you left out the fact that the act of marrying a family member's widow is part of the tradition within some places in the Yoruba land, which is still in practice today. This however, conflicts with the Christianity faith you currently embrace. Either way, one looks at your case there are ramifications involved if the suggestion is implemented. Some of which have already be detailed on NL. My broda, you are the best judge. I happen to come from a place where this is practiced, but I don’t subscribe to it. You can say, I’m going against my tradition. So, come and arrest me. I don't think anyone on NL can really help you on this one. You have all the facts surrounding your case/situation. You are also the best judge of should you go with your heart, your faith, tradition, what folks are saying or what folks would think, or who even cares? After all, I'm only going to live my life once, or twice? Who knows?

PeeDaVinci: funny that d dumbass is not intelligient enough to know that 'i cant remember it exactly' is good answer

But if he said, "I can't remember," that would be lying. He should have been honest by saying, "I don't know." "I'll know next time you invite me on to your TV Station." Simple. Or there should be a protocol in place for those who are selected to talk to the press from the Civil Defense org.

2good: Civil Defence Commandant Can't Tell His Organisation's Web Address

This is exactly one of the reasons why Nigeria is still more than 100 years behind developed countries. So many incompetent people in government.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F9ZV8pfJS34

This na Yahoo-Yahoo. Appalling to say the very least. His oga has to pick the one, my little pinky. Does his oga happen to be GEJ? I bet none of civil servants nor the elected reps, both state and Fed know their left from right. But as it turns out the citizens expect more...

Thou shall not judge: this SICK BOY.

If una no like the poster's English. I beg, make una move to d next post...

Da Mayor: To all attacking the young ladys English skilz, na inferiority complex dey wory una. When u suceed in geting an english man to pronounce a nigerian name properly, then you can fault a nigerian for murdering english. Or dem tel una say english na her first language? The point is that the mesg is pased and you understand what the op is trying to say. If u dont, look the other way.

I concur.

The last time I checked, wasn't the Federal government the main culprit?

f18spitfire: You wear engagement ring for five years, wetin self you be lord of the rings....

Engagement ring is a short-term deal. In finance, this is typically 12 months or less. A marriage, however, is more than a financial deal but its precursor, engagement phase, should last no longer than 12 months or thereabout. The 12 months is used really to plan a wedding, know the future in-laws, etc. A small wedding may mean marriage in less than 6 months after engagement ring is worn.

@OP, are you expecting to be engaged soon? Congrats in advance!

mariannlove: jst want to knw if its compulsory for one to wear suit to an interview/aptitude test. Pls ur contributions will be highly appreciated as am preparing for an interview.

@OP, on the second thoughts, it really depends. If you are applying for a white-collar job and it outside the Silicon Valley area - meaning Nigeria, UK and elsewhere, you need a suit. If you don't have one and can't afford one, go and borrow one from a friend.

mariannlove: jst want to knw if its compulsory for one to wear suit to an interview/apptiude test. Pls ur contributions wil be highly appreciated as am preparin for an interview.

It's a nice thought provoking question. Must one be clean, wear shoes, wear clothes, know how to read and write, be well mannered and polite, say “please,” use the word “Sir” or “Ma”? You sound like a very creative mind. Start your own company/business. And those who come and interview, don’t have to bother with the nonsense suit and tie. I’m tired of it myself. Billionaire Richard Branson bucked the suit and tie trend, look at where it got him. He is a billionaire. But don’t blame anyone if you can’t be gainfully employed. If you want to be a rebel, you have to truly believe in the cause, regardless of what the majority say and/or do.

Nice one bro.