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baby_123: What 8 things do you have for the man, since you have concluded that the woman is the one at fault or lacking.

@baby_123, I’m glad you asked. My brothers can borrow from the same leaf. These are unisex ideas... They too can lose weight, look sexy, increase their one-pack to become 3 or 6-packs, etc. We can all become more attractive by taking little steps to improve either or both the inside and outside.

Sorry my sister to read what you may be going through in your relationship at the moment. I would ask like others would, how bad you really want this love rekindled? Remember "no pain, no gain." In fact, if you were not going through what you are going through right now, then it is not worth it. I believe you are going through what you are going through for you to grow. Yes, to grow. Once you overcome, you would be able to help others who find themselves in a similar position. Perhaps the following can work for you - that is work on yourself first followed by having faith that he will come back into the romantic relationship you once had:

1. Try to look good and sexy – read books on how;
2. If you are overweight lose weight – become more attractive;
3. Dress well;
4. Attempt to do things you didn't do before;
5. Think very carefully back down memory lane when you were first courting remembering what he loved about you;
6. Improve your communication skills;
7. Improve your writing skills;
8. If you are a mom, improve your parenting skills. If you are great now, become even greater;

By the time you accomplish the above eight things, if he doesn't notice, he's friend(s) would notice and would start to ask him about what transformation is taking place in you. I'd work on number one, you, to win his love back again. If he still doesn't see the new you, someone better will. You are no longer the old you anymore.

fuke: No. He is not saying anything new.

I say it anytime the chance comes up. It is only being talked about
now because It is coming from Sanusi.

No qualms.

Civil service should not be charity. I do not have any grouse
about a civil servant going home with 200k a month but for Gods sake, work for it.

Go to the local government, sate secretariats and see what we are saying.

The other time it took us two weeks to trace a memo in one of their offices
and they were all there like bees doing nothing.If that happens in a corporate
setting you will have some explaining to do.

Go to Multinationals, banks and see people earning their money.

I say, let them go home and start being productive.

Until this is done, we aren't going nowhere as the Americans would say.

Good points.

fuke: Sack 70% of them and the work will still go on.

No question, the work would surely go on but the money saved may also go out - out of the country to where Mr. Lamido and his elite cohort stash their loot. That's where this talk about headcount reduction sounds like blowing smoke. However, a real plan is not forthcoming from any of the so-called leaders. That's if we even understand what that word means. Mr. Lamido is talking about cuts, the other so-called leaders in the Civil Service are asking for raises and more benefits. The best thing Mr. Lamido did, however, with his speech is got some of us talking...

Mr. Lamido Sanusi, I hope you come to NL once in a while to read up on some posts including this one. Headcount reduction in the Civil Service is not the problem but part of a solution to a series of problems facing Nigeria. One of the HUGE problems we face is unemployment, which Mr. Sanusi alludes to reducing if the seventy percent of the total available budget were not spent on salaries and allowances. Wrong! The western economies have been fighting unemployment for decades. With all the money and intellectuals they have, they have been unable to achieve full employment. Part of the solution should be the willingness to create jobs - good jobs (unlike graduates applying for truck driver jobs). If you can do that perhaps the Civil Service wouldn't be so enticing to the masses. What makes Mr. Sanusi think the funds recuperated from the layoff of fifty percent of the Civil Service would go into meaningful projects that create employment and wouldn't be siphoned and shipped abroad like the billions of dollars our former leaders and government- created billionaires do daily? What most countries lack, including Nigeria is the creativity it takes in creating employment in general, and meaningful ones that can benefit us as a society. I must say, the man behind graduates applying for truck driver jobs is trying, doing his part, but lacks real creativity in creating meaningful jobs. The Gov. of Lagos State, Tinubu, is also trying…

Nigeria shouldn't have high unemployment like we currently do with the type of revenue we generate and the amount of money coming in yearly from Diasporas. As bad as we are as a society with TRUST (or lack of), at least the masses know if they work for the Civil Service, they’ll get paid most of the times. So Mr. Sanusi, the next time you are going to make such a bold statement about firing of workers, please think a little of the big problem/big picture. Another which is the lack of Trust in the system. It comes from poverty ridden minds. That’s why our former leaders and so-called billionaires need to stash money in foreign accounts. I’m sad to say that most of the monies are unaccounted for when theses thieves die. Most of their families don’t know where all their loot is stashed and even if they knew, would not have the proof to claim their father’s loot.

Perhaps it is easy for me to criticize this one public utter of yours. However, I have read some good speeches from you when you talked against the thieves, some of them your friends that put you in office. Nevertheless, it would be unkind of me not to leave you with some change or loan you some advice. I would argue that your team at CBN can also do more with less. That would be a start – looking inward. I’m sure you are asking yourself how can you? Good question. Well, I suggest you create a “Think Tank” within CBN and work with the list of billionaires we have in the country that have more than $1 billion dollars in a foreign account to create projects at home and help drive down unemployment.

Please contact me through this forum if you want more information on what this “Think Tank” should look like and how MY IDEA can be implemented.

NL, this is serious SHIT.

For those in the process or already pursuing a technology venture of some sort:

The Four Steps to the Epiphany by Steven G. Blank

How tall is he? Here's a link to a weight chart:

http://www.rush.edu/rumc/page-1108048103230.html

As long as he has seen a doctor recently and his weight loss or lack of weight gain is not attributed to any type of illness/disease, he shouldn't worry himself. Continuous worry about his weight is also not helping the situation. Perhaps the fact that people have put labels on him because of his weight may have negatively affected his self-esteem. In addition, a 20-years old man weighing less than 120 lbs is considered thin, but call into NL in 20-years time, when you are 40-years old. I’m sure the post would be about how can he lose some weight especially around the waist?

There are a number of factors that contribute to our aggressiveness in servicing customers in Nigeria. One of such factors includes not valuing our customers, and the money they spend patronizing our businesses. Again this is common within certain sectors of the public. If you are a professional business servicing a handful of well-paying clientele, you wouldn't be asked to value your customers/clients. But if you are in a commodities business where the customer is estimated not to return to your business, you may not treat such a customer with care.
Another factor is competition or lack of, based on customer service. The competition within big companies in Nigeria is based on price. When the war in price no longer matters to Nigerians and the competition becomes sophisticated, based on Customer Services, Support, or hospitality, you would then start to see some traction in this aspect of business. I don’t think it has anything to do with our culture per se. Most of us come from families that respect each other and would want others to treat us the same. I think we can all agree on this fact.

Businesses fail in Nigeria for most of the same reasons that businesses fail everywhere else. In Nigeria, to add salt to pepper, businesses fail because of uncertainties (inflation, legal infrastructure, government regulations or lack of, etc) in the systems, the lack of institutions that support businesses, the lack of trust, professionalism, etc. There are so many small businesses (stores, market traders, etc) that do succeed as businesses in Nigeria. However, the environment does not support businesses becoming world-class (private or publically owned).

I would prefer a nagging spouse over a difficult boss. Sounds ironic because you would think a difficult boss would be better, right? However, while we are able to put up with a nagging spouse (have kids, plan for the future, etc) because we love them, there isn't such a connection with a difficult boss. I also do not see people working for difficult bosses planning a long career within that company if the boss is deemed to be in that role long-term.

Label them, but exchange negative ones with positive ones: you are great, you are improving, you are talented, etc.

Laitesmart: Gone are those days when you have to find the value of x or y under the influence and orientation of cane. We have mathematics teacher who are mostly strict in all theories. They believe u must knw mathematics at al cost and as such cause sum students to love the subjects while sum hate it more.
But not all the mathematics teacher then are cane oriented. Different strokes 4 different folks.
What single word would u love so much to use in describing your secondary schl mathematics teacher?

Absent

acidtalk: Couple of years back religious studies; Islamic religious Knowledge (IRK) or Bible Knowledge (BK) were made compulsory the Nigerian School curriculum from primary up to Junior Secondary School (JSS).

Aside Mathematics and English Language, one is expected to pass one of those subjects as well as it was made to appear a compulsory subject.

Then (that generation), Moral values were held up in high esteem. People respected their parents, siblings, neighbors and elderly ones.

Children stood up for elders to sit, they never spoke without taking permission when an elder was speaking and above all they dressed morally right.

After the Government refused to make religious knowledge compulsory, things have totally gone bizarre in the Society. Even missionary schools and church owned university aren't helping matters as most of them are all out to make Profit without caring much about instiling discipline and the fear of God into their students.

The question now is; Should religious studies be made compulsory in Nigerian Educational System?[right][/right]

@acidtalk, and your point is?? That perhaps a civil society cannot exist without religion? Wrong. There are no bases for your premise. Perhaps you should say as Nigerians, we are not accountable to anyone.
The government is not accountable to the people, and neither are the people to the government and themselves.
Children are not accountable to their parents; parents are not accountable to their children;
Teachers are not accountable to the principal, students, parents or community and vice versa;
Doctor/nurses are not accountable to their patients or community;
Universities are not accountable to their students and the students are not accountable to their professors/lecturers and chancellors;
Businesses are not accountable to their clients; stores are not accountable to their customers;
The law is neither accountable to the defendant nor the plaintiff;
Police and law enforcement are not accountable to the public;
Do you really believe teaching religion in educational institutions to the masses would fix these obvious failures in our society? I doubt it. Teaching religion masks the problem and is not to even be considered as a partial solution. Beware of what you ask for. Perhaps what you may get with religion being taught in our schools is brainwash and sharia law introduced in some schools in the south. As a matter of fact, we tend to hide behind religion to commit all these lawlessness, and find it convenient to blame the invisible DEVIL. Everyone seems to be crying foul without anyone taking personal responsibility. What we need is an education that teaches us how to THINK for ourselves - not waiting for elders, pastor, uncle, government, whatever to come and solve a problem for us. If you ask me basic and critically thinking is missing from our primary education through our higher institutions. Otherwise, it would be clear to most that the accountability problem and the population not taking individual responsibility has finally come to a head in the 21 century. A country with no vision or plan because we can’t think. You have a GOD given mind use it. Use it!!!!

sunky-show:
Hello wonderful people, There's something i stil have not understand especially when it comes to "financial responsibilities" of a relationship or the family altogether.
my wife argues: A wife SHOULD NOT have any financial commitment in the relationship/family ONLY IF SHE VOLUNTARILY WILL., then she can contribute. BUT NOT MANDATORY!

my own agruement: I believe d husband should take about 70% of d financial responsibilities while his wife should assist 30% of it due to d economic situation of country. since d husband and d wife are working.

I hope everyone understands my point here? howeva i believe nobody knws it all.
Am willing to hear ur take on it.
Thanks n cheers

@sunky-show, it seems money is important to you and especially in your relationship. However, I think it should be looked at differently. In an ideal marriage, all material possessions including money should be committed by both parties 100 percent. Sunky-show, what if you fall ill, become unemployed or incapacitated, would your rule (70:30) still apply? Would your wife now have to cough up more? Remember, as you lay your bed, so shall you lie on it. Commit everything and you'll be happier for it. Some of us have been brought up to be male chauvinist, but we can change if we have the desire to do so. I would assume your rule (70:30) not only applies to money, in your household, it probably also applies to cooking, cleaning, driving, etc.

hurricaneChris: Most times many workers on site only undrstand d ''feet'' and ''inches'' units of measurements. When an Architect designs a houz and uses d ''milimetres(mm)'' as d unit of measuremnts, without an enlightened supervisor the bricklayers and carpenters always use the xperience of work the did 10yrs ago to interpret the present drawing......i have seen this lot of time. And its very pathetic

You raised the question of the level of education of our tradesmen/women or lack of, which is a topic for another thread. The west seems to do better than Nigeria in this category.

I would also like to add that most of the construction experiences and building quality/controls raised in this thread should typically be condensed into a building code, mechanical code, electrical code or standards, etc. That's how the west develops their codes based on lessons learnt in a particular country or locale over the years. I know Lagos borrows the old version of the UK building code... In some places the new BS standards are being used, but these codes/standards do not take into account building and construction experiences and lessons in Nigeria. We need to develop our own codes while learning from western codes and employing best practices. We also lack the proper oversight during building and construction. There should be inspections from LSDPC or a similar agency; inspections by a fire marshal or agency if one exist depending on the use of the building or site. These are institutions that should be created and will also create jobs while saving lives.

I also hear the pain of those whom are trying to build for residential purposes or commercial purposes. Like any venture, you have to understand that there is a lot of inflation within our system. You may have created your initial budget based on cement costing a certain amount or not considering some Omo Onile saying you have to pay up an amount before you excavate, pour concrete, fence, or roof. But it may be prudent to go into the building venture estimating that by the end of the project you may have spent between two to three times of your initial estimated budget. Now if you can’t afford this, you may have to limit your scope or quality of construction. My 2 cents.

I thought some on NL may find this article interesting. Until such an article, I didn't know there were as many blacks in South America talk less of Brazil.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-latin-america-19904946

Fancier: Whaoo, I really don't understand, if it was in the western part, i would understand at least a little, because i know they all go around calling people aunty and uncle irrespective of their age, as a sign of respect. I for one hate that title "Aunty" in fact that is the issue am having with our cleaner is the office presently. I can't stand an older person calling me aunty because he or she feels am in a better place position than him/her.

But before i comment, what were you calling them before you got married to their brother? and what was their reaction then? secondly if the relationship you have with them is a good one, call the babes to order and talk to them as an elder sister to a younger one. For crying out loud, are they staying with you and still single, tell them calling them aunty will chase suitors away from them, making them feel old abi dem no go school how somebody older than you will be addressing you as aunty and you are comfortable with it just thinking out loud .. Mind you don't make this aunty seeking people cause problem between you and your hubby ooo But i hope they are not in anyway contributing to you or your family for demanding for this title Abeg Trend carefully.

Each station in life brings with it its own honor (or lack of) and respect. I’m assuming you are educated, enlightened, etc, hence you are being revered for your position. There is nothing wrong with your cleaner calling you Aunty (or Anti). Thank him/her for it and show you appreciate her/his work than being upset by it. Some people were very upset in the US because some people didn't call Obama, Mr. President. In the UK, some people in a position may prefer being called Mr. So&So rather than just Paul or Peter. On top of that, you have the Yoruba culture if you happen to be located in Lagos. To be cynical, you can demote yourself to her/his station and see how long you would last calling folks by their names just because you happen to be older than them. Again, I'm just trying to make my point of the cultural setting you and your cleaner happen to be in.

gnchetts: Please house I need an advice for this.

I'll clock 29yrs old on Jan 4th and my Husband is only 2 months older than me.I didn't really bother about the age barrier because I was already deeply in love with him before I found out.

My problem now is that am being forced to call his younger ones Aunty's and brothers and greet them in the morning. This is really very difficult for me because I gave his immediate younger sister 3years and my husband is even supporting them that is their tradition in Okija,Anambra state but I've never had about such tradition in any part of Igbo land.

Please what do I do. Am really dumbfounded.I've not been talking to my husband for 3days now and am not ready to visit his family until u advise me on the right thing to do. Because am not ready to humiliate myself to that extend.

thanks

My sister, Nne, love is blind but marriage would open your eyes or heal your blindness. Hear me for this one: it depends on how much importance you give this thing called age. We are all different, personally I don't care for age. I call all those younger or less fortunate than me broad, oga, oga sir or chief. It doesn't take anything away from me. But if I were you, I'll learn to get use to it because it may be the one thing that would be a thorn in your marriage. Please don't let it be. Some Christians would call it the devil but it appears to be using how your perceive age. Please, don't give it the time of day. Good luck with your husband and your in-laws; they are a blessing to your new family. Please cherish them as part of your family. Again, a house divided against itself cannot stand - a quote from the bible.

If I may add, culture is not part of a lot of our schooling but it should be. It should be given some respect especially since your husband cited it, unless of course you research it and find it to be false. Otherwise, my sister, you have no leg(s) to stand on.

All the above. We all know the reasons. Next page: solutions...

linda_1: Should Couples Have Individual Or Joint Bank Accounts? why??

Are we to assume that both spouses are bringing in an income or one of the spouses is bringing in or has established some type of cash wealth? Nevertheless, these issues should have been ironed out before tying the knot called marriage. As individuals, we all have philosophies about money depending on how we were brought up and how we see the world in general. Some are spenders, some are savers, some are frugal, and some are misers. And some are just greedy…joint account or not. I also have to add, some are control freaks, they want to control everything including any money you have earned, inherit, etc.

The connotation “joint” assumes income in a relationship is owned by the individual bringing in the money, which I beg to differ. However, as a good budgeting measure, a tool, a common account dedicated to home expenses, vacation, school fees, bills, money to extended families, etc, can be accounted for in a separate dedicated account. After all, at one time or the other one of the spouses may not be in a position to bring in an income due to child rearing, illness, schooling, or unemployment, unless either one or both started out with an established source of wealth, passive or active income of some sort.

If you are in a loving and forward-looking relationship, please drop the word “joint” account. His account is yours and your account is his. Even though I know some of you Nairalander men and women still want your own account due to the lack of trust of either’s spending habits or as some sort of insurance. What if he or she leaves me? Sorry, your marriage is still in its infancy and you are not totally committed to each other, at least financially.

Philolos: You may have perfected your web development skills over a four-year period, but now is the time to acquire business acumen. You can start by reading entrepreneurship and business books. Going into business is not for everyone. That's why some people take up employment with an employer. But if you want to be your own boss, it would have to come with some shrewdness on your part. I echo some of the recent posts that you should request a certain percentage of your money up front. Break your work up into no more than five tasks:

Give the client/so-called agents something in writing (contract/agreement) and have them sign (whether this is enforceable in Nigeria is a different question, but better than a verbal agreement. And your client would also respect you for it.]:

1. Research [revising other website the client likes, features, etc] [30 percent]
2. Domain registration/hosting
3. Content [if you have to develop their content, search for images, etc., ask for more...]
4. Upload/viewing [first draft of website] [30 percent]
5. Upload/viewing [final draft or website] - you should get your final payment/check before this task. [40 percent]

If you decide to become a businessman/web developer, you can cut out the middleman or so-called agents. They haven’t been able to bring you the bacon anyway.

I fixed the math(s)

Mobilization fee [30 percent]
Work done up to being able to show substantial completions [another 30 percent, or you should have collected two-thirds of your contractual fee at this point]
Prior to final delivery, show the client the work done and have them agree or negotiate new changes as additional scope; but don't deliver until you have received 100 percent of your pay. The only way you can convince a client that what they now want encroaches on additional scope is only if you've written what they want down in the first place. This is how a lot of freelance/sole proprietors loose in this game.

winexviv: Good day everyone.
I'm a professional webmaster with over 4 years in active experience coding several websites and also a programming assistance to several people and firms.
The sad thing is that i work as a freelancer to several BIg companies but i'm still very broke. Most times people think i'm a millionaire in dollars because of the type of work i do but within myself i know i am not close to that.
My agents keep promising to pay while i handle big jobs but i cant see the pay coming. I'm thinking whether to pic up an entirely different career so i can afford to live a comfortable life. Pls kindly advice

You may have perfected your web development skills over a four-year period, but now is the time to acquire business acumen. You can start by reading entrepreneurship and business books. Going into business is not for everyone. That's why some people take up employment with an employer. But if you want to be your own boss, it would have to come with some shrewdness on your part. I echo some of the recent posts that you should request a certain percentage of your money up front. Break your work up into no more than five tasks:

Give the client/so-called agents something in writing (contract/agreement) and have them sign (whether this is enforceable in Nigeria is a different question, but better than a verbal agreement. And your client would also respect you for it.]:

1. Research [revising other website the client likes, features, etc] [30 percent]
2. Domain registration/hosting
3. Content [if you have to develop their content, search for images, etc., ask for more...]
4. Upload/viewing [first draft of website] [30 percent]
5. Upload/viewing [final draft or website] - you should get your final payment/check before this task. [60 percent]

If you decide to become a businessman/web developer, you can cut out the middleman or so-called agents. They haven’t been able to bring you the bacon anyway.

lakesidey: pls i need d videos 2 my email is lakeside2050@yahoo.com. tanx in anticipation

Here, my broda/sister, you can watch online at the comfort of your home or office:

http://freevideolectures.com/blog/2011/06/youtube-playlists-programmers/#

kenostika: It will never happen,Nigerians should stop dreaming.A country where mediocrity is celebrated,touts(politicians)appoints and govern technocrats,genuine people are seen as MUGU,virtually everything is tribalised ie quota.Nothing is done on merit(awarding of contract,appointment,employment,admission and justice).People hate to see others succeed.

I concur with some of your points. I've lived in Nigeria, Britain, and the US. In the US, in general other people want to see others succeed. In general that's not to be said for today's Britain or today's Nigeria. If you are doing well, especially in Nigeria, please keep it to yourself because once we know, we are out for your downfall or some camps/folks want to hurt you. Corruption and nepotism is also common in the US, however, I think what Nigeria currently lacks are institutions that provide the right checks and balances in key places. And if we argue that in a democracy the people are the government and the government are the people, we have to re-check the mindset of the citizens. As documented as the embezzlement of some folks in the Nigerian government are, in the recent and the current administrations, they still have supporters from their tribesmen and citizens in general. Again, we lack standards - another factor that contributes to nations becoming great. Call it morals or whatever…

studM: hello nlers,am new in the programming world,and just wrote a short code using html, but don't know how to run it on my laptop cuz i don't know where 2 locate the browser on my acer laptop,can someone help me out here with a step-by-step approach on this? Thanks in anticipation

To launch your browser on a Windows machine, click on the "Start" button on the lower left corner, followed by clicking on "Run". Type <iexplore> (without the angle brackets) to launch Internet Explorer, or type <firefox> (without the quotes to launch Mozilla Firefox.

I don’t know how easy it is to access computer classes from a local school. If that is not available to you, and you have some change and have access to the internet from where you are, there are schools online and youtube videos you can subscribe to from the best schools around the world – this should get you started.

oluface: Is it possible?

It is possible for Nigeria (our Naija) to become great, even in our lifetime. And we have examples of countries in Asia and South America to go by. In any case, I think a number of factors contribute to nations becoming great: education certainly helps. Other factors include the mindset of its citizens, philanthropy, leadership (or good examples). The list goes on... We also have to consider factors that may prevent a nation from realizing greatness, religion, culture, a lack of a unified positive mindset, illiteracy, tribalism, polygamy, etc. Again, the list goes on.

Mark 3:25, "And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand."

okundia ernest: I have a very strong passion for

computer programming, I
would like to get into programming as soon as possible. What are the advice u hav for me? what
languages should I learn first? what initial
paths should I take? what do I need
to watch out for? How can I become
a better programmer? Starting
point? What is the secret i need to know about programming?


Thanks in advance!

In today's environment, make sure you've also mastered a basic understanding of technology in general terms. What do I mean by technology in general terms? As it relates to programming, you have to have a basic understanding of how a PC/Mac (hardware) works, you have to have a good understanding of how a couple of well-known operating systems work, i.e., Windows, Unix/Linux, and obviously the Internet (or web) and Networking (not at the configuring of router/switch level, but the understanding of IP Addressing, DNS, etc). It would also be nice to know how a database-driven software works. With this type of information in mind, you’ll end up a better programmer than without such mastered basics.

Now to answer your specific question, it would appear you don’t currently have a Computer Science degree, which is by no means a barrier. In fact, the best programmers I’ve come across don’t have a degree or come from another background (or have another type of degree). Typically, the colleges/universities pick a language to help demonstrate what is common across languages, structure, syntax, etc. In the early days, institutions used PASCAL and COBOL, nowadays JAVA is very common and so is C# as a first language in schools for students to learning programming. Hope this helps.

nairathemes: I want to start learning C/C++ and from some research I made online, I discovered that C is a subclass of C++.

I intend learning both, I already bought a book for C.

Which is preferable to start with C or C++?

In today's environment, make sure you've also mastered a basic understanding of technology in general terms. What do I mean by technology in general terms? As it relates to programming, you have to have a basic understanding of how a PC/Mac (hardware), you have to have a good understanding of how a couple of well-known operating systems work, i.e., Windows, Unix/Linux, and obviously the Internet (or web) and Networking (not at the configuring of router/switch level, but understanding IP Addressing, DNS, etc). It would also be nice to know how a database-driven software works. With this type of information in mind, you’ll end up a better programmer than without such mastered basics.

Now to answer your specific question, it would appear you don’t currently have a Computer Science degree, which is by no means a barrier. In fact, the best programmers I’ve come across either don’t have a degree or come from another background (or have another type of degree). The colleges/universities pick a language to help demonstrate what is common across languages. In the early days, institutions used PASCAL and COBOL, nowadays JAVA is very common and so is C# as a first language in schools for students to learning programming. Hope this helps.

It's unfortunate that only business schools or business programs that teach culture and norms as part of an organisational culture class. Otherwise, we wouldn’t even have this post. A lot of things we see in companies/organisations after leaving our sheltered homes, universities, etc, astound some of us because we haven’t been forewarned or told that it may come up. I had to learn the hard way too. Most professional jobs (not blue colar), white colar jobs, you are contracted to perform for 8-9 hours, 5 days a week. But don’t be reminded that it depends on the culture of the organization you find yourself in. If majority are putting in 12-hour days and you are trying to argue that your contract says 8 hours, you know you wouldn’t last long, period. Now which is worse, to slave for 2-3 or more hours a day for the life of that employment or to help my boss out with his/her bag every once in a while, I know what my choice would be. Simple. The choice that allows me more time with my family, of course.

kokoye: Really..you have to carry oga's bag to pass exam ...professional exam for that matter

Na wah o.

Abi na your username dey control you?

what will I not see on this Nairaland sef??

My man/woman, you have to do what you have to do to survive and graduating as a doc. Obviously within reasonable means. This type of gesture is a cultural norm within the society it seems. The Japanese have their own and so do the brits and Americans. In Britain, you sure would move up or get what you want if you are part of the lads and you join them on going to the pub every now and then. If you don't, well you'll see where you end up. You'll only have yourself to blame.