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Nice one..

You still dont get it bro

All the more pathetic

I raised the issue cos I saw your headless chicken rants on the ijebu thread
You give a good game ...talking the talk on the dialects and history but dude...its not in you


Your disdain for your father's people and nation seeps through your posts..

You don't have the heart and I wonder really why you do it every time every hour

Militancy is all well n good but u have no right to say that..all cushed up where u are

My sexuality is not an issue

I'm not the dude salivating lewdly on peoples batty calling it e fun

Just chill dude...actually visit here and integrate with the people then u can talk what u know nor what u read from authors.

Boohoo

Shymmexx....


Your penchant for aggression across the forum really is nauseating

For someone who speaks of things from the comfort of your keyboard while spouting theories of Afrocentrism yet you despise the mother nation

Your hypocrisy is astounding

You added no value to the discussion

For a dude supposedly based in the west, a simple question of how a woman could get an allocation of such an oil bloc is causing you to hyperventilate.
So upon all your Africa unite crap...u r still a apostle of undue process.

koyyes:
There was no issue at all untill someone made a comment about women who climb the success ladder by bedding men and used mrs alakija and linda ikeji as examples without giving concrete evidence. Even guys here had to call him out and bitterly disagree with him. When someone mentioned chimamanda who is successful in her own field,he poked holes at the person's comment.it was very disrespectful and uncalled for. If you agree with what he said, then that's where we strongly disagree. I won't even argue with you on that.

So the issue is the generalisation

In that case that is not only limited to women

koyyes:
I only used the mums influence as an example. I kind of feel we are not talking about the same person here- whose post do you think i disagree with?

Thats why my first post was.. what is the issue

Is the issue the generalisatiion against women who are succesful or about mrs alakija in particular

adorable29:
I know you weren't addressing me directly ooooo..... and sorry in advance for quoting you.

Now as a confidant to such a top shot, don't you think that's where the favour comes in?

Do you know in business sometimes, asides your intellectual know how or astute managerial skills, having the right network (connection) can spur you up to great heights you may not even had fathomed?


Okay, she is a stylist! How many stylist has that skill to be able to render services to a first lady. That means she worked hard to reach that status!

My stylist is an awesome woman who has 4 boys and with those kids and her always busy salon decided to start a Bsc part time program and now she is a graduate... I admire her a great deal for her zeal and even tell her some personal stuff I don't tell some of my friends.

The point am making is that cos she was a stylist doesn't mean God can't smile on her. I can't say for sure how she got her oil bloc but if I was in a position to give my stylist a job in chevron, I will do it cos she is a hard worker.

No problem... u see we all seem to be skirting the issue
A job and an oil bloc are two different things

Moreover giving ur stylist a job without any reference to her qualifications or capabilities.. hmmmm

^^^And now onila anti yoruba rant surfaces
So u just hate the girl for no reason n u think abducting a child from the mother is thebest

Are u not a woman

onila:
the girl is a typical of-emanu B1tch
fcck the whor.e with her bitchiness!
of-emanu and their trouble, tufia!

koyyes:
I didn't disagree with the op's post. I only praised a guy- a guy oo, who expressed that the post is one sided.At a point, women need the influence of men to succeed just as men will need a woman's influence to succeed. Or do you want to discredit your mum's(for example) influence on where you are today? haba!

Haba.. i did not see any issue with the post
What he said is not all 'successful' women got to the top through hardwork and integrity
This of course applies to the men also

Even another poster sandijey spoke of the sexism which pervades the upper echelons of certain sectors and she was shouted down
She actually raised the best post in my opinion
She identified the sexism as the issue. Some women are actually qualified for higher responsibility but will be stuck because they dont want to compromise their standard.. Some eventually go through but the reality is that most will compromise

It is not only unique to naija but it can be worse here as discrimination lawsuits can be filed abroad


There are men who made it to the top the right way... there are those who did not
There are women who made it to the top the right way... there are those who did not

A mums influence on a child may not be the best barometer of success to determine how successful a woman is

Im sure Ma Baker was a good mum to her kids.

..

koyyes:
ohoooooo,loooooool. You see say even you no sabi as the matter take happen. If we just leave people to inculcate the habbit of accusing women any how,every woman including our mothers,sisters,auntys and daughters will be given demeaning names because they have 5 kobo in their purse. We've passed that stage abeg, let's behave civilized.

So you see that the matter is not as simple as u made when u came in
You were not happy about the tone of the post... address that.. the content may not be wrong...


This favour that just happened to land on alakija and gave her oil bloc

This favour that just happened to land on etteh and gave her speaker of the house

This favour .....

ok

So what happened...

onila:
Pls, as a nairaland member of nairaland stars hall of fame

I will do whatever it takes to defend this family here

koyyes:
ok, please enlighten me.

the lawd knows...

As u said favour...



favour ......

koyyes:
I don't think anything because it's not my job to start questioning the success of everyone especially women. And even if i find my self doing so,i can't just wake up,come to nairaland and start making demeaning statements about them- atleast,not to that level when i don't have evidence.

Fair enough

You still have not answered the q

How did a woman who was a stylist and confidant of Maryam Babangida has an oil bloc allocation which is now worth billions

Interesting eh

koyyes:
So what's your point? That she was and associate of the former first lady does not mean someone bedded her before she became successful. What do i mean by luck/favor? please define luck/favor, let me know if i have poor choice of words.

Leave the bedding aside madam.. calm down

I ask you agauin

What type of luck or favor will make someone get an oil bloc allocation
Do you think it is normal

Why that person
Does the person have the money to pay the signature bonus..etc

What do you think

koyyes:
A fraction- but that's all i know about that because i was not there to witness what happened before the dotted lines were signed. Some people can be that lucky/favored. It does not always have to come to sex and even if that were the case, valid proof should be presented. Otherwise, the person and intension of the accuser will be questioned.

ok.. so you do not know how her oil bloc was gotten

What do you mean by some people are lucky or favoured

What sort of favor will enable someone who was an associate of the former First Lady get access to own an oil bloc

Yet you are defending the person vehemently..

koyyes:
A fraction- but that's all i know about that because i was not there to witness what happened before the dotted lines were signed.Some people can be that lucky/favored. It does not always have to come to sex and even if that were the case, valid proof should be presented. Otherwise, the person and intension of the accuser will be questioned.

ok.. so you do not know how her oil bloc was gotten

What do you mean by some people are lucky or favoured

What sort of favor will enable someone who was an associate of the former First Lady get access to own an oil bloc

Yet you are defending the person vehemently..

koyyess:
I'll allow creatures here who are intimidated by successful women answer that because really, I see no reason why that name has to come up.

Do you know how alakija got her oil bloc allocation

Screw you guys im going home

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Early series -

Stan and Kyle - always making sense and "Oh my God, they killed Kenny - you bastard" - epic line

Epic-Sodes season 1 - 8 My best 5

- Goobacks - They took our jurrs
- Scott Tenorman Must Die - Eric was pure evil here
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Later series - 9 - date

Kenny is now more visible in the show

- Make Love; Not Warcraft
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- Go God Go 1, 2
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i dont even understand the issue

Are people saying alakija made her money legit

or is that the topic is a generalisation about ALL women

whats the issue

bukatyne:
The author of the article is saying that she/he does not understand the reason why Nigerian men married to foreign wives treat them way better than they would treat their Nigerian wives

I laff in spanish.. that is also evident... the wives are foreign

So now nigerian guys are the toast of foreign wives..the same zboyd that opens threads on how nigerian men abandon their children and use wives for greencard

interesting times....

Marriage is so overrated
We need more of this

Although the wedding holds no legal ground, Grace is glad she is no longer a 'single' lady.
She added: "It felt like a really big deal saying my vows, which were mostly about me promising to take more risks in matters of the heart. I really don’t see it as any kind of feminist statement, but creating a wedding of this kind on my own terms felt incredibly empowering."

GoodFaith:
Foreign Wives will not have any problem standing with the men
Foreign Wives would more likely to 100% support their family "financial compatibility"

That much is self evident

So will Some Nigerian wives not have any issue standing with their man or supporting their family

so whats the point of the discussion

Is zboyd recommending we marry foreign wives

SAMBARRY:
Is ya stomach not big?

As u tok am... na u know every

moderatorr:
After taking his free drink.
Ladies sef.
Why did u follow him to a bar and waste his money when you knew you were a 27 year old mother of 3 and would never give him your number?

This guy's reaction is exaggerated but that's generally how guy's feel after you have biatched.

No guy feels that way
Irritated probably yes not murderous

Akuviv:
See his face OMO MUMMY, Mummy's boy trying to eat his cake and have it. I guess his mum cleans his back side till date. Very irresponsible family. Where is the paternal grandfather of the baby? Abi is there no MAN in that family to speak sense into that naughty grandma? Seems she runs the family.

If I may ask
What is wrong with a family being run by a strong woman.


Topic
Well this is a weird story n she was too trusting
A child abandoned by her bf family n u welcomed the grandma.

How did she pass through the airport

I thought kids needed a letter or something to travel out of the uk .

Sad but she has to involve the police both here n in the UK.
A travel ban n interpol may work out

zboyd:
Nigerian Men And Their Foreign Wives
By Sabella Ogbobode Abidde
Increasingly, and in greater numbers, Nigerian men

Interesting article Though I don't see the relationship to the topic on financial compatibility

zboyd:
Permit me to direct the viewing audience to an article that speaks of the transformation of some Nigerian men who are married to non-Nigerian women. What some Nigerian-based wives complain of Nigerian-based husbands NOT doing in the household is far different from what some Nigerian husbands who are married to foreign women ARE doing in the Diaspora. Why is this so?

Note: For those who are familiar with the article, just bypass this post.

Article: "Nigerian Men and their Foreign Wives"...http://www.nigeriansinamerica.com/articles/616/1/Nigerian-Men-and-their-Foreign-Wives/Page1.html

Maybe u can post it here

alutacontinua:
prove it

Trouble maker...

Tallesty1:
This proposing thingy is mainly for those that are dating/courting and I don't date.
Hard to believe.

So if u don't date...how will u know d babe

Tallesty1:
*sighs*.

I will not wear any girl an engagement ring.

Neither will I kneel down to propose to her.
.

So how will u propose to a lady

The ring is a white man ting but our girls love it

Welcome to the boyz room

PS I'm a dude

The major issue is that ladies want to show off with something...hence the engagement ring which is not our tradition

And as anything ladies accessory wise, they want to show off with their friends

its a waste of money and time and can be even a determinant of a ladies maturity level and her ability to withstand peer pressure


The proposal is good.. the issue is that it goes with a ring....if only one could propose without a ring

Let me call a dude.. Tallesty1

netotse:
Chairmen dem...maximum hailings!

you guys should come and help me o...what is the purpose of a proposal? is it not to tell a girl you want to marry her ni? do I necessarily have to buy a ring and go down on one knee? what if I have arthritis nko?

If you ask me, once you determine that you're willing to spend the rest of your life with someone and communicate same to the person, you're as good as engaged, or am I missing something?

One of my lunatic friends said you should spend 3 months salary on engagement ring (the joker is obviously not close to getting married...lol). If you see as my mind just dey do the maths as im dey misyarn ehn...smh.

Tallesty1:
BroYou have brotherzoned me already

Bro.. forget the bible
In most cultures, patriarchial cultures dwarf matriarchial or matrilineal ones

Most in Africa, the Jews, the Arabs, etc

Tallesty1:
I
Like I said, if you really want to liberate women then make men the head and save women some troubles.