LOL, good that you people settled your fight , but seriously poster the header is quite misleading . The article only makes a slight reference to MUTTALLAB . Well all i have to say is the largess on UK student visas is slowly coming to an end . All the stuff being talked about here is not possible on a US student visa . The upside is that people who have genuine interests remain unaffected

Do ppl actually ask about genetic problems while dating?

If you in a serious relationship , genotype , HIV status , and Hep B status are a must know.

it is obvious someone has dissappointed our sister. she talk like nurses are the highest paid workers in the US. yeye fowl

ROFLMAO !!!! yeye fowl is an understatement. I wonder who vets articles like this. you take one persons bitterness and use it to paint a whole group of people. You would think Marriage in Naija is a bed of roses with house girls and husbands that pay 90% of bills and women who just relax in the sun. Please life is challenging everywhere . If you selected an idiot for a husband either suck it up and live with him or leave him . Chikena!!!

Thanks Poster for clarifying the situation.

I will just say cut off communication. she is not going to see reason . It is quite unfortunate. But trust me a sick child that may eventaully die is not one of those things you can rely on love to see you through.

I hope everybody that is commenting actually read the article. They failed to keep immigration requirements so he was turned back . could they have viewed past record and the magnitude of the event to be attended by him " maybe" but I guess they deceided to take the no exceptions approach . Quite unfortunate !!!

Very sensitive issue. But the fact of the matter is you dont want to marry her , and you should communicate that to her. The sooner, the better you cut ties and move on. Do it in a polite and firm way . tell her since she is not making it possible for you to  part terms amicably and remain friends that you will have to cut lines all of communication.

Now taking you on for creating this situation. Since you know you are  "AS" genotype , before entering into any slightly serious relationship you must determine the genotype of your intended partner. 18 months is too long for you not too have asked this very important question.

You can not use this excuse to get out of all relationships that you no longer want to continue with , then we will be forced to label you as spineless

Your broda is living in the stone age . Next time he says this to you . reply by saying its the same way they once said that a woman driving or going to school was indecent. FB is just an online photo album, the Physical Photo album can be indecent if it  contains nude photos but does that make a photo album indecent ?

George D,

Since you are so keen on helping him out , you can take him in, I am sure your wife/GF will not mind some support in that area

Realest dude

Oga fun e !!! what about with all that is going on in the Nigeria are All Nigerians suffering,

@ Poster

You should ask yourself do you want to look back on your life when you are at sixty and

1. You have several baby mamas banging at your door
2. You have no children , and the friends that are giving you advise now are telling you what their kids have accomplished
3. You are still on the dating scene (i know naija guys dont mind this one )


If so then follow your friends advise and NEVER get married

Hah no more space in my bedroom, LOL

congrats. was actually talking about mr koolchic. but if course we can let that slide

Intial message fully understood, just emphasizing the fact that my only partner in crime is my husband . i hold no other affiliations to any group of people (God's people being the exception). But I am always willing to lend a helping hand .

I would recommend a system similar to that used by amazon. whereby each agents ID can be given a customer satisfaction rating that is controlled by the moderator . that way you urge other users to go in and list there experiences under the agents profile .This way you do not bare the sole burden of weeding out the bad eggs. Not sure if this is an existing facility on the software running this site.

   lmfao, nawa o, is it a crime 2 say once mind again, hmmm, is sum1 is filn guilty here

Trust me I am only speaking my mind . in 2009 i tried  to reform peoples thinking . Now i just go fire for fire. As for feeling guilty after the poster can state before all that he is without sin , I will let you know the things I feel guilty about

Poster

Why don't you go ask your sisters 

Yes o !!!! All this NL men that act like they have no female family members . Poster - your family is the last reservoir of decency. please marry your sister and repopulate naija with decent people.    

its ironic that the friends think that the relationship should be stopped because he is Nigerian . NOT BECAUSE HE IS ALREADY MARRIED

poster you have listed one example , yet you labeled your post Nigerian Women? Please help me to outline the thought process that brought one unique case to a generalization on some nigerian women.

yes I do have a mate I am married ,   However its my pleasure to answer any questions on employment based immigraton  .

I concur on the mary Kay comment , Add Proactiv to my list to harsh for sensitive skin and Maybelline Foundation, forget the acne i got after a few weeks of use, still trying to clear up the spots one year later . Neutrogena for life

yeah sure thats what the forum is for

thanks George , PS i am not a visa lottery winner so i never made that choice . I am a F1 to H1b to GC for those who understand the Immi lingo

be yourself , is all i can say. Unfortunately the the bad apples ( both men and women ) complicate an already difficult dating environment for foriegn nationals

know people who have won but rejected it for a variety of reasons that would stun you.
remember not everyone sees america as the ultimate place to be on earth.

There is no ultimate place , there are different paths to success " judge not those who seek a different path from yours , and be not dogged in the pursuance of an unfruitful path" is how i choose to end this conversation

Peace

  It's pretty straight forward. you're not entitled to anything not until you stay there for five years

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yes the right to vote ( until you become a citizen) , all other rights are available so how is that in the cooler > when you win visa lottery please tell them that the reason you reject it is that you can not vote    ,

what i mean, you will need to wait in the cooler for another five years, sister
regardless what your qualification is.
and what will you be doing inside those five years if not menial jobs?

what do you mean by wait in the cooler ( while getting an education?).

pittbaby, mstom, your right-on paper though. i know what i'm talking about and this is practical.

again not sure where you are coming from but the only financial disavantage you MIGHT face as a DV winner is if you refuse to get an american education , an just try an work on your home based degree.

they had latinos before they kept requesting for us. don't you know that there are some menial jobs that
even the guys from latin america wouldn't touch? they need our brothers from naija for those because
they know say we dey do every!

haba where did you get that stat from . Not in the US O!!! The DV system does not account for illegal immgration. legal migrants earn the same as the average american ( bear in mind that only 20-30% of americans have a college education, most only have high school which the average DV person either has or more than) they are as such not cheap labour.

Illegal immigrants on the other hand get paid below the minimum wage. America doesnt want them but they can't do with out them one of the reasons America is one of the least expensive DEVELOPED nations to live in

let them ban us naaaa! na them go lose! they will no longer have a steady stream of
cheap labour lured from nigeria coming to usa in the disguise of green lottery!

Umm dont think thats the advantage that nigeria provides , they have enough people from Latin america for that

, i laugh tire there are several paths in life jare. who says which one is the right one or the best

and seriously who determines what goes on the front page ??

stupid question requires stupid answers. who I pity is the person that is calling you a DV visa consultant. Shio!!!

cast jewels to swine and then complain about the treatment