Communication is very important in a relationship. I personally cannot cope with someone I cannot discuss with. One of my best relationships was with a lady with whom I could talk about everything with even over the phone and online. She would flow so easily. The relationship died because I live far from her. I just wish I could reach out to her.

Reasons:

1. She's not into you.
2. She doesn't want a relationship.
3. She likes someone else.
4. She's naturally boring.
5. You are too nice.

She’s either just a naturally quiet/boring person or she is a lively person who’s not interested in you.

My experience is that girls who are naturally lively will be very chatty with guys they like. Sometimes na you go even beg to drop phone.

So find out what kind of person she is from others that know her and how she interacts with other guys apart from you. That should tell you a lot.

Nodeydopass:
Good evening nlders, I need your input on this situation I'm in and I'll appreciate if you can help with your honest opinion.

There's this girl In my street that I like and will want her to be my girlfriend. I met with her about a month ago and I told her I wanted to see her and discuss properly with her and since then, I've been trying to get to know her on WhatsApp (she gave me her contact) but this girl is very boring on WhatsApp. I literally had to bring up ways to make the conversation going but it always end with some awkward silence as she usually reply with short answer or even abbreviation.

So I decided to have a proper date with her and I scheduled a day and time. I picked her up at her place and we went out on a "date". Throughout the date, it was me just bringing things up and she was also making attempt to flow along and the conversation was going smoothly, tho I was the one bringing up topics et al. The date was cool, interesting and even whenever she had to do something outside that we had to go together, she held my arm all through and the physical contact was unhindered.

Then we came back from date and she asked for my picture and I told her I don't have any but I'll take one the following day but she said I shouldn't bother. However, since that day we went out, she hasn't even called me or even message me on Whatsapp even though she's online.

Tho I like this girl but I believe the feeling and the communication should be mutual and shouldn't be always me chatting her up all the time, so I let her be. I'm really thinking about her but I don't want to contact her. I feel she has to make an effort too. or am I being too unreasonable?

U think she’s not thinking of u? Lmao she is a smart gal and is playing a game. Contact her at ur own peril


Ok I’m joking bt don’t contact her she knows what she’s doing just watch. She doing it because she knows she can predict u. U are predictable

That’s why ure here crying to us. Better be a man. She’s preparing ur bills already.

Also it is rude that sm1 takes u on a date, spends on u and u can’t reach out to them afterwards. Even my hard to get and difficult Ex wasn’t that stupid. That’s a - for her attitude bt I know she likes u and is playing minds games with u. It’s trashy tho.

Nodeydopass:
it's been 4 days we went on date and I haven't heard or seen anything from her be it WhatsApp message or even call or text... is it worth it or I should just move on...

it's my first date too and I don't know whether I have to be the one to call her the second day or not

Guy leave her alone... if she isn't your cup of coffee then move on. Don't be that complacent in real life issues.

Very soon you'd complain here again if you force it... perhaps she is not single.

Mokason288:
Be honest with your self

1st how old are you ?

And whose phone are you browsing through?

Hmmm I don't know what to say can't you just pretend he's story is real and give him an answer.... Yhala

Nodeydopass:
Good evening nlders, I need your input on this situation I'm in and I'll appreciate if you can help with your honest opinion.

There's this girl In my street that I like and will want her to be my girlfriend. I met with her about a month ago and I told her I wanted to see her and discuss properly with her and since then, I've been trying to get to know her on WhatsApp (she gave me her contact) but this girl is very boring on WhatsApp. I literally had to bring up ways to make the conversation going but it always end with some awkward silence as she usually reply with short answer or even abbreviation.

So I decided to have a proper date with her and I scheduled a day and time. I picked her up at her place and we went out on a "date". Throughout the date, it was me just bringing things up and she was also making attempt to flow along and the conversation was going smoothly, tho I was the one bringing up topics et al. The date was cool, interesting and even whenever she had to do something outside that we had to go together, she held my arm all through and the physical contact was unhindered.

Then we came back from date and she asked for my picture and I told her I don't have any but I'll take one the following day but she said I shouldn't bother. However, since that day we went out, she hasn't even called me or even message me on Whatsapp even though she's online.

Tho I like this girl but I believe the feeling and the communication should be mutual and shouldn't be always me chatting her up all the time, so I let her be. I'm really thinking about her but I don't want to contact her. I feel she has to make an effort too. or am I being too unreasonable?

My type of guy

But call her bro

Let your manly pride not come in the way.

You should have called her the following day.

It's the right of the girl to be chased not for the girl to chase.

As for the boring part, she might just want to know you.

Viciheaka:
Hmmm I don't know what to say can't you just pretend he's story is real and give him an answer.... Yhala

My bad

I have met many girls like that myself.

Don't call her abeg, remove her from mind and focus on getting another one. She is definitely not into you. It's obvious. Forget those people saying it takes time to relate with someone new. That's bullshit.

You will only become a SIMP and a weakling if you continue.

The reason is that she has other guys chasing and satisfying her with attention. Did you ask her if she is single? Or did you talk about her relationship with other guys?
From her response, you will know how desperate or indifferent about starting a new relationship with you. She may even tell you she is dating another guy if she doesn't care about you really.

The mentality we guys need to have is that most of these girls are not loyal and are total waste of time and resources.

Once you see signs like this one you're seeing, run away and move on to the next. You will surely meet someone better one day.

I don't waste time with girls again, I move on shapaly once they start misbehaving.

Mokason288:

My bad

Well my Chief your response was unexpected

Who’s chasing who please? OP I think you feel she’s not up to your level cos I see no reason why she should start chasing you because you both hung out together one time

Viciheaka:

Well my Chief your response was unexpected

What were you expecting

Nodeydopass:


if you had the ability and patience to read, you'll have inferred from the post that I was the one who paid for the date and everything that was spent that day.. I'm gainfully employed and I'm old enough to know that I need someone to share my feelings with. if you're here to troll, you should just avoid this post

Boy, came down...no dey fast-forward. Why would you said you were the one that paid for the things you guys took, how could you said such shit here! Girls don't like guys that talks too much rather they prefer the ones that they will be forcing words in their mouth. Slowdown until she chats you and if eventually she comes back let her be doing the talking while you reply. Feel less concern about her and watch her chasing you around. Be a real Gee. Good luch

that's how a girl voice her frustrations of lack of having boyfriend or being in a relationship.... I sent her mail and she responded and I got her number, we chatted on WhatsApp and I do call her for about a week.....but at times she do told me to call her back immediately she picks up- this could go for about twice a day......she don't talk, she don't asks questions, she don't call not even a flash..... I even sent her message on WhatsApp and ask her if she's not feeling my vibes or not having any interest in me , she should let me know so that I can stop disturbing her, but she reads my message and kept mute, so I stop calling her and had to deleted her number from my phone asap.....it's been a week now.... and she has not even call or sent me a message.... I've also move on....

Op just leave her alone and move on.she's not interested in you..set your eyes on the future... there are so many good and big fishes in the river....go out there or if possible change your environment and move to a more bigger or civilize place....

Nodeydopass:


thanks boss. but I find it shocking that you're single. do you have a celibacy streak or you have not seen the "one"

No celibacy ooo my brother, hoping to make serious moves as regards that.

Stupid and weak men everywhere nowadays you took a girl out and spent your hard money on her, after 4days she can’t even reach you at least appreciation of your Goodwill, you are here asking us if you should still call her and take her out again? See how men nowadays because of smelly public pussy sell their respect to women, no wonder they treat una like used tissue paper, I tire for the kind of men we have nowadays..

Nodeydopass:
Good evening nlders, I need your input on this situation I'm in and I'll appreciate if you can help with your honest opinion.

There's this girl In my street that I like and will want her to be my girlfriend. I met with her about a month ago and I told her I wanted to see her and discuss properly with her and since then, I've been trying to get to know her on WhatsApp (she gave me her contact) but this girl is very boring on WhatsApp. I literally had to bring up ways to make the conversation going but it always end with some awkward silence as she usually reply with short answer or even abbreviation.

So I decided to have a proper date with her and I scheduled a day and time. I picked her up at her place and we went out on a "date". Throughout the date, it was me just bringing things up and she was also making attempt to flow along and the conversation was going smoothly, tho I was the one bringing up topics et al. The date was cool, interesting and even whenever she had to do something outside that we had to go together, she held my arm all through and the physical contact was unhindered.

Then we came back from date and she asked for my picture and I told her I don't have any but I'll take one the following day but she said I shouldn't bother. However, since that day we went out, she hasn't even called me or even message me on Whatsapp even though she's online.

Tho I like this girl but I believe the feeling and the communication should be mutual and shouldn't be always me chatting her up all the time, so I let her be. I'm really thinking about her but I don't want to contact her. I feel she has to make an effort too. or am I being too unreasonable?

Mokason288:

What were you expecting

An insult

Watch her... Let her decide

Nodeydopass:


I don't get how this would help, can you elaborate more

Don't call her she will not pick your calls, let her be the one to call or chat

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HopeVictor:

Girls like the hard guys.. call her and tell her you were expecting a call or chat from her.. if she isn't interested in the relationship she should tell you..so you can stop wasting your time and move on.

Too proud boy. The only way to humble ladies never let them know your next move, leave them silent �

She's not interested in the date. She's only interested in the real stuff. Be smart and do the needful.

femi4:
Give her time to miss you, you messed up when you couldn't give her your picture at that spot. It would have helped your case in her heart.

If she's really into you, she ll call you

maybe the guy is ugly or his phone camera is of low quality.

femi4:
Give her time to miss you, you messed up when you couldn't give her your picture at that spot. It would have helped your case in her heart.

If she's really into you, she ll call you

Pictures? No. What Nigerian girls need is money. If he gives her money, that would automatically suicide her.

Nodeydopass:
Good evening nlders, I need your input on this situation I'm in and I'll appreciate if you can help with your honest opinion.

There's this girl In my street that I like and will want her to be my girlfriend. I met with her about a month ago and I told her I wanted to see her and discuss properly with her and since then, I've been trying to get to know her on WhatsApp (she gave me her contact) but this girl is very boring on WhatsApp. I literally had to bring up ways to make the conversation going but it always end with some awkward silence as she usually reply with short answer or even abbreviation.

So I decided to have a proper date with her and I scheduled a day and time. I picked her up at her place and we went out on a "date". Throughout the date, it was me just bringing things up and she was also making attempt to flow along and the conversation was going smoothly, tho I was the one bringing up topics et al. The date was cool, interesting and even whenever she had to do something outside that we had to go together, she held my arm all through and the physical contact was unhindered.

Then we came back from date and she asked for my picture and I told her I don't have any but I'll take one the following day but she said I shouldn't bother. However, since that day we went out, she hasn't even called me or even message me on Whatsapp even though she's online.

Tho I like this girl but I believe the feeling and the communication should be mutual and shouldn't be always me chatting her up all the time, so I let her be. I'm really thinking about her but I don't want to contact her. I feel she has to make an effort too. or am I being too unreasonable?

Move on

Should we tell the Op?

falcon01:
Bro she is way Below your standards let her go and stop thinking of her!.

No. She is too matured she's still sizing him up with silent

Second question, do you have money??

Childish play, not ur fault OP its the strike that cause all this, ur feelings should be how to have better future, not wasting the feeling on one childish girl.

Almost all 9ja girls are like that