TheUndercover:
"Perhaps you have already stained your reputation, so that you are prevented from establishing a new one. In such cases it is wise to associate with someone whose image counteracts your own, using their good name to whitewash and elevate yours."

TheUndercover:
Generally, when a woman is in love with a man, she will try everything possible to have him all by herself. She will want to get familiar with his friends and family. She will also flaunt him all over her social media profile. If you've been with a woman for a while and she doesn't flaunt you on her profile (expect maybe your birthdays), there's a high chance you're dating yourself or she's weighing her options. You're either flaunted or edited out.

Reex12:
I have a question sir, in a situation where you have to always prove your worth or efforts to someone but there's another in the picture whose little/tiny efforts are seen as a gigantic thing, what's the best approach or solution?

Katridge2021:


You're truly on point. There is this my friend, he was dating this girl and this girl wouldn't post him on her status, despite him posting her. Just recently she broke up with him, and she was telling him that she had been dating another guy alongside him. if she is not flaunting you, you are dating yourself.

This is my first time commenting here. And I must say, you are making impacts in my life. I'm so blessed to have you on nairaland. Kudos boss, keep it coming.

TheUndercover:

Who's this someone? Is it your boss at work? I need details of this.

I talked about likeability on the first page on this thread. If he's someone people like, that's definitely gonna happen.

Or it might be that the mode of delivery he's using is totally different from yours. He might be delivering small tasks in an exceptional manner.

Reex12:
its a work thing, contracts are given to an outsider to do,but when hes unavailable I do it but the former is paid better commissions whereas he does halfdone jobs, now thing is I know the contractjobs better and have to elaborate on keypoints onwhat made it perfect but this guy created an atmosphere of hardwork when he was around that even bosses percieved him to be whereas hes a lazy ass mofo ...so now basically all jobs he does are seen as perfect despite it been rubbish and halfdone..

TheUndercover:
Once in the limelight you must constantly renew it by adapting and varying your method of courting attention. If you don’t, the public will grow tired, will take you for granted, and will move on to a newer star. The game requires constant vigilance and creativity.

Once people's eyes are on you, you have a special legitimacy.

TheUndercover:
"The more they fear you, the more they will respect you. The more they respect you, the more they will envy you. The more they envy you, the more they will hate you."

softguy1:


So at this situation, what are we expected to do in other to balance the equation?

TheUndercover:
If you find yourself in a lowly position that offers little opportunity for you to draw attention, an effective trick is to attack the most visible, most famous, most powerful person you can find. This move requires perfect timing.

President of South Africa, Cyril Ramaphosa just arrested his predecessor Jacob Zuma who was famous and more powerful than him. Another typical example is David and Goliath.

TheUndercover:
Ask yourself these questions:

- What if I disappear, will they look for me?

- If I decide to go offline, will people notice?

- If people don't get reminded of my birthday, will they celebrate me?

- If I become bedridden due to illness for number of days or months, who will stay by my side?

- When I'm gone, what will people remember me for?

- If I'm in the darkest part of my life, who will show me the light?

- If death comes knocking, what will be my deepest regret?

Sooner or later, you'll realise what/who really matters, who never did and who always will.

Orpazpjr:


I have come to realize that getting a woman to cheat with you and having her cheat on are emotional battles a man cannot afford to wage or sponsor by his continuous presence with such woman.

On the first part, to cheat with you, she has to be somehow EMOTIONALLY attached, attracted, and be emotionally available to do so. The guy will have to know what works with her and all, so Once you run am, you fit am again depending.

Now to be cheated on. Na wa for who dem cheat on wey go still de with the madam. Basic reason, I don't know about any other person but personally I feel Men's ego are tied to their women. So another guy cheating on your woman and knowing that men are territorial in nature basically means, that your privacy has been raped, your respect as a man because she IS YOUR WOMAN and not to talk of legitimizing it under law, hence your respect as Man has been hugely tainted by some other. That she could submit her body to some other person while under your control means she has also emotionally attached her self with such person, she SUBMITTED to that person.

So if I constantly see her, she go de pepper me, because I won't be able to live with that thought that she could disrespect me by letting some other person come through on her like that. It also means that guy can press her buttons and she can hurt me, it's like having an enemy in the crib. Women don't just give off like that, they have to feel who they are letting in. (Before I overtype and stuff)

She will be sent packing else I may do something I wouldn't like. She gatz go, whether we have kids or not and this is the tricky part, not doing so means I have to suppress that guile emotion which only make me negative and vindictive each time I see her and my house which was my once safe space from the will be a hostile ground, I don't know who wants to live like that, not me though.

Just my thoughts though. She will go no two ways.

prodige001:
no equation needs balancing... Remain feared.... Remain respected... Remain envied.... Their hate will be a means of you being announced and those who don't know you will seek to do so... There you can apply a different tactics and get them to be your allies

No loose guard at all cost

NobleSeed:
what if reverse was the case? What should be the best approach?

TheUndercover:

Then you go with a different type of approach the people around are not used to.

TheUndercover:
Never Make It Easy For A Girl:

Sometimes a girl will drop a stinky bait. Don’t bite! She wants to chase you around the lake forever.

***
Never tell a girl you are looking for a relationship. Many girls will ask, sometimes as early as the first date, what you are looking for from women. For the love of all that is holy and sacred do NOT say you are in the market for a relationship. Similarly, never say you wouldn’t mind “settling down”, or that you are discouraged by the dating scene, or you really wish you could stop dating around and find the right girl. It doesn’t matter if you truly feel this way; saying any of these out loud, especially to a girl you have just started dating, is poison to the seduction.

Best to either ignore her probing question or answer vaguely along the lines of “I dunno, just dating until I find a girl I click with.” Also, saying “Whoa, not so fast tiger!” can be funny and stimulating to her vagina.

flexydote:
I wish I had seen this earlier. My GF that have been asking me what is the plan I have for her, when I finally told her I will like to settle down with her she started ignoring my calls and care less.

TheUndercover:
Anyone looking for a beautiful woman, good and intelligent, do not try one but three.

TheUndercover:
In the beginning of your rise to the top, you must attract attention at all cost, but as you rise higher you must constantly adapt. Never wear the public out with the same tactic.

Also, never appear overly greedy for attention, then, for it signals insecurity, and insecurity drives power away.

Remember: You are not the only one good at what you do, this is why you have to make some noise, advertise yourself or cause a scene if necessary. It is better to be hated than ignored.

Junnior:

"It is better to be hated than ignored"

Are you sure about this?

Maybe throw more light, with references.

TheUndercover:
Law 1 Addendum:

Make your master feel good until you have learned everything from him, then focus on acquiring more power, and move past him.

There are some situations where you'll be able to outshine your superior. Position all your outshining moments as “for the good of company”. Here you keep a professional relationship with your boss counting on the fact that he can’t sack you because you bring great results that other leaders are noticing

Make sure you have enough power when you attempt overtakes