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Doradorwa:
Op as a student too I will advise you to let her starve for some days probably 4 to 5 days. That way she will learn and be strong, 5 days is not enough for her to go wayward. She is seeking validation from people that will hurt her and the sooner you help her realize this the better.

My year 1 was also like that, my mom bought everything for me then with great pain, EKSU fees were mad and still mad till now though. There is this 400lv guys then that were roommate, ogbeni those guys leeched us ooo. Every evening all the 100lv girls wey dey the hostel go donate dinner to those guys and they in turn will lock their room after charity time and feast like king David. My roommate was also a leech too, babe sucked me dry while using her money to buy clothes. She ate all of my foodstuffs, everything, when everything got finished babe started giving me body heat, she used all of my soap cause my mom work in a soap company so the soaps were surplus. To cut the story short I got broke in 3 weeks of getting to school with nothing on me, decided to rely on my roommate and babe told be that she can't share, true story hommies, she said" Dupe ma binu, but ororo yin ni mo fe lo fun 2 months". I had no one then and till now I keep no one around me

I got heartbroken and that night my mom called me to tell me she has to resume factory by 5am as they are doing first come, first serve. I realized that it was even a privilege for me to be able to attend school and I decided I must be good, at least for my momma. One of my uncle sent me fund after 2 days, I got the essential and kept stock of them. My roommate saw that I was online back, omo ope she sa re hook up with me but me wey don learn dismissed her. I para for those 400lv guys too and they all turned me to their enemy. No one talked too me but my mom was there , she called me every night and she still do. Hommy had to start stealing my stuffs and that was the last straw. We never got to finish the whole section together before she ran from me. The body heat was too hot for her.

That's the part of stuff school teach us. Learn to look after yourself and identifying and separating yourself from leeches

SeriouslySense:
You are such a good-hearted person, personal boundaries are important, you need to care for yourself first, and when you are okay, you can help others, continue to work for yourself.

True, thanks a lot.

I have a similar experience but in another dimension. I have a car which I used when going to and fro work. I also used to pick 'customers' on the road whose offices are towards my direction. This helps me make small change to fuel my car. However there are 2 people I do pick for free. When the car got faulty and was at the mechanic for almost 2months they never call me again; they literarily made new alternatives ASAP.

When I got my car back they started greeting me again and one of them even had the effontry to ask me why I am not picking her again. I kuku ignore then 100% and decide not to make my car free for public use again.

People will come around when/if things are rossy but will leave you to your own fate when things are not going the right way.

The OP should stop sending money to his sister for one month, and let her understand why you took that decision. Women' are funny because if you cut the financial aid completely BIG DADDIES will assist her conditionally.

They come to charge phone abi........it's very simple.....collect her generator.....it's an unnecessary luxury.......

CR777:
My sister is a kind hearted girl, she's been this way since way back.

She gained admission into the university and the place she stays in lacks electricity as it is a village in anambra state, I had to get a solar for her to help her cope with charging her stuffs and also having an illuminated room.

Well, she made friends who are in the same department living in her lodge, at first, they only came to her to charge their phones and reading light and gist but it has now graduated to them eating up all her food whenever they come to her room to charge.
She called today asking me to help her with cash for food stuff, this is someone that went back to school barely two weeks ago with enough cash and food stuffs.

In this life, please try and keep good heart aside and stand up to people who see you as a mugu.

Please nairalanders, how can I advice her?
She needs a brain reset to understand that in life, one has to look out for oneself before others.

Joysticks:
If you starve her of food and money she will start to do runs girl.

And she wont ever go back.home with her complete money most of time. She would probably have regular customers fighting over her for being a cheerful giver. Her own runs girl fit dey do monthly promo. So don't try to starve her pleae

Disconnect the solar for one or two weeks, don't send her money immediately then those her friends will run away and they will be avoiding her from there her brain will be reset

phemmyfour:
That's the part of stuff school teach us. Learn to look after yourself and identifying and separating yourself from leeches

That's just it. Experience and mistakes are teachers for those willing to learn. The girl in question must not continue to be shielded from life at all time. Especially now. Higher Institutions are freedom land. She should enjoy her new founded freedom and have a story to tell.

Can I marry Her Please?

Try to tell her that you think she's naive and not tough enough and people are taking advantage of her, and this can't continue, you are going to have to change her school for her. And put her to where she'll be going from home or where she will have to be staying with a guardian. Cos it seems she can't handle herself where she is. If this fear or nice threat doesn't change her then either go ahead and change her school or leave her to hunger when broke. She can't continue to be a woman-child in this present harsh world, full of economic hardship and manipulative exploitative people. You may be saving her life by doing this, before she falls victim to something worse in future.

Makanaki127:
Your sister own good na,back then when I was in ND1 second second semester,if I call my dad he will be asking me who is this,I will say your son,that guy done delete my number,even to pick call self na wahala,talkless of to send cash when I go come day spend on top Friends

LMYO!!!

Just let the hunger hit her for two weeks or so then after then u can help her and talk sense into her brain. Am sure her brain will reset. But trust if u keep sending her stuff wenever she lacks, she wont understand and learn. Who kind hearted help again in this country

Greediness dey worry some people no be who like you go chop your food?

Who be your enemy no go come your house come chop.

You can also visit your friends too and eat food with them is a simple world

CR777:


See finishing, why are u this wicked bro?

I have tried to make my sis become a bit hard heartened than she currently is but it's in her nature to always want to help others even at her own detriment.

Send her money weekly upkeep till she's able to sort herself out.
If it finishes before the week runs out, then too bad

CR777:
My sister is a kind hearted girl, she's been this way since way back.

She gained admission into the university and the place she stays in lacks electricity as it is a village in anambra state, I had to get a solar for her to help her cope with charging her stuffs and also having an illuminated room.

Well, she made friends who are in the same department living in her lodge, at first, they only came to her to charge their phones and reading light and gist but it has now graduated to them eating up all her food whenever they come to her room to charge.
She called today asking me to help her with cash for food stuff, this is someone that went back to school barely two weeks ago with enough cash and food stuffs.

In this life, please try and keep good heart aside and stand up to people who see you as a mugu.

Please nairalanders, how can I advice her?
She needs a brain reset to understand that in life, one has to look out for oneself before others.

Tell her to not buy foodstuff for a while and that when the one she has is about to finish, she should tell the friends that she will be coming to eat at their place for a while. Their response will let her know how to handle them thereafter

You don't have to be hard on her..beside she is a female child..you know female can go extreme to survive..if you allow hunger beat her, she fit turn low-key prostitute..and nah your fault be that ..it only a male child you can treat hard..the best thing to do is to change her environment..she has become too familiar with people around there that's why..make she go far away from those people..new accommodation, new people, and new face.. before she go start to relate you go don warn her of her new environment..if not..female child ..hmmm

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CR777:
My sister is a kind hearted girl, she's been this way since way back.

She gained admission into the university and the place she stays in lacks electricity as it is a village in anambra state, I had to get a solar for her to help her cope with charging her stuffs and also having an illuminated room.

Well, she made friends who are in the same department living in her lodge, at first, they only came to her to charge their phones and reading light and gist but it has now graduated to them eating up all her food whenever they come to her room to charge.
She called today asking me to help her with cash for food stuff, this is someone that went back to school barely two weeks ago with enough cash and food stuffs.

In this life, please try and keep good heart aside and stand up to people who see you as a mugu.

Please nairalanders, how can I advice her?
She needs a brain reset to understand that in life, one has to look out for oneself before others.

Your worries have not started. Wait till one bad ass of a boyfriend enter her life....

stabilizer:
What if your sister is a bisexual?

Ibo latun jasi bai

yomi007k:
My advice is that you leave her and let hungry beat her. Hunger dey reset brain connection you know.


I am talking from personal experience.

Lol....

CR777:


See finishing, why are u this wicked bro?

I have tried to make my sis become a bit hard heartened than she currently is but it's in her nature to always want to help others even at her own detriment.

Bro your sis is already creating a path for herself and her unborn kids cos this her kind gesture will never go unrewarded. ..it may seems hard but I swear she be more favoured then people will start thinking is juju....I am a living witNess of my mom benevolent act...even my Bro in UK can't seems to get over mom ...cos when he had issues people from no where came to his rescue, then a man saw and told him in Manchester that he should be grateful to God for blessing him with a mom you has paid the dues for him...meekness is not weekness

Op forget people taking about prostitution. It's so crazy what people think about females nowadays. As if some males are any different. The poor girl is just tasting freedom and yes, the feeling can be intoxicating. 2 weeks hunger is not enough for anyone to go into any form of prostitution or else such feelings has been nursed before. Who even dey patronize ashewo for school, is it your male colleagues wey their papa still dey feed or what. Sex is on mutual consent there. Abi the same guys wey go use their money play betnaija, con dey beg garri from you.

Cr777, u know what advice to give her. Say the truth.

CR777:


Good advice but it's kind of hard leaving my sister out there in the cold.
I wish she could toughen her heart a bit though.

You have to leave her to go hungry at least one week. That is the only way she will learn. Trust me that's how parents handle this kind of situation

FuturelsFemale:

There is really nothing anyone can do.
She got a soft mind, so people like her always learn the hard way to harden their mind, that is the only way she can change. I don't know why we blacks like taking advantage of good people, reason everyone is bad in this country. When u are good, they see u as a f00l. Quite sad.

reason almost everyone is a tiger/tigress in Lagos because if you form nice people see you as a very big village fool

If u are her sole guardian or even if not, u should place her on monthly stipends and let her be aware of it..so the way and manner she manages her resource for one month is entirely her business.

you can't change people from their nature expect they decide to change by themselves just keep doing it no p I have a aunty like that and she us still living till day

CR777:
My sister is a kind hearted girl, she's been this way since way back.

She gained admission into the university and the place she stays in lacks electricity as it is a village in anambra state, I had to get a solar for her to help her cope with charging her stuffs and also having an illuminated room.

Well, she made friends who are in the same department living in her lodge, at first, they only came to her to charge their phones and reading light and gist but it has now graduated to them eating up all her food whenever they come to her room to charge.
She called today asking me to help her with cash for food stuff, this is someone that went back to school barely two weeks ago with enough cash and food stuffs.

In this life, please try and keep good heart aside and stand up to people who see you as a mugu.

Please nairalanders, how can I advice her?
She needs a brain reset to understand that in life, one has to look out for oneself before others.

Stop sending her money.

When her friends see she is broke they will abandon her and she will learn who are her true friends.

When her brain don reformat then you can send her money.

Don't worry, she won't die

yomi007k:
My advice is that you leave her and let hungry beat her. Hunger dey reset brain connection you know.


I am talking from personal experience.

Lead to prostitution

Just advise her that life no balance. Stingy be life

DropsMic:
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Back when i was in school there was this 14 year old boy in my lodge.... Really nice and naive guy wey guys turn to their personal atm. Abi is it the 15 year old petite girl guys bin dey use then dey practice their weight lifting and cruel styles during sex. Till today anytime i remember how guys use take advantage of these amateurs for school eh it makes me feel some kind of way..

I learnt one thing from the whole experience sha. If your kid ain't mature don't send him/her off to school.

Which kind weight lifting and cruel style during sex/ ? You sure say no be u dey do the girl so? I need details ooo...Thats why I nor dey pity all em girls back them..big boy go just dey use em anyhow

Dheco:


Lead to prostitution

Just advise her that life no balance. Stingy be life

My brother woman wey go do prostitution go still do am oo even if she get everything on earth.