So I met this lady in 2019 through a mutual friend, after few weeks of getting to meet her we started dating. She is 29 and I’m 31. She’s based in Benin where she works and I am in Lagos.

The agreement was that after our wedding she will join me in Lagos which she agreed. Our relationship has been going on smoothly which made me do the introduction January this year and I’ve told her the wedding will be by January next year, which she knows I am making adequate preparation to that effect. I even had to get involved in a monthly contribution of 30k which is done in her workplace, I told her she should collect 2 slots so we can save enough for the wedding. She has never made any financial request that i did not grant.

Just two months ago she started acting all weird, I have asked her what the problem was and she would say nothing. She stopped picking my calls and told her parents I offended her, I called her to know what my offense was and she said I should forget. God knows I have never deliberately done anything to upset her. Just yesterday morning she called to tell me she is done with the relationship which left me so confused and devastated. I have already paid for cow and all the wines we will use for the wedding and now she has called it off.

Please nairalanders what could possibly be my offense? I have thoroughly searched my heart and I can’t seem to remember when I offended her.

Her ex guy whom she loved but left probably coz he was broke have resurface. He's probably banging her already via lamba.
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

You said you've paid for a cow already bah? Oya bring the cow come mk Nairalanders flex mbok

Na wa

She might be seeing some else.

Well is for you to research what happen yeah, it is left for you now to take action..

. I have thoroughly searched my heart and I can’t seem to remember when I offended her.

OP, you did not offend her. There's another Bobo in her life deceiving her.

Don't force yourself on her... It will make you lose your self worth.

Dust yourself, and move on. Don't trade your happiness over a loosed kpekus. She's 29, an evening newspaper, a damaged soul, do you intend spending the rest of your life with such being?

Were you cheating and you thought its hidden and she'll never find out? I dumped someone like that without ever telling him what he did,he can never imagine how I found out he was cheating with someone in his location.

Iyaebe:
Were you cheating and you thought its hidden and she'll never find out? I dumped someone like that without ever telling him what he did,he can never imagine how I found out he was cheating with someone in his location.

Foolish post!

Na wa oh....

But bros op, what if this whole thing should turn out to be a blessing in disguise.... Sometimes God works in mysterious ways that may seem too difficult for us to comprehend.....

Like my dad always tell me--"that a woman who has set her heart to depart a man, there's nothing the man'll do that'll make her change her mind".........

Well,it's very obvious she has found another nigha cha...Very obvious.... The same thing happened to my friend one time ago.....The other nigha disappointed her las las and she came back to my friend....The part that really got me angry was that he accepted her back.......Love is blind cha..

LOGICALKEN:
So I met this lady in 2019 through a mutual friend, after few weeks of getting to meet her we started dating. She is 29 and I’m 31. She’s based in Benin where she works and I am in Lagos, the agreement was that after our wedding she will join me in Lagos which she agreed. Our relationship has been going on smoothly which made me do the introduction January this year and I’ve told her the wedding will be by January next year, which she knows I am making adequate preparation to that effect. I even had to get involved in a monthly contribution of 30k which is done in her workplace, I told her she should collect 2 slots so we can save enough for the wedding . She has never made any financial request that i did not grant, just two months ago she started acting all weird, I have asked her what the problem was and she would say nothing. She stopped picking my calls and told her parents I offended her, I called her to know what my offense was and she said I should forget. God knows I have never deliberately done anything to upset her. Just yesterday morning she called to tell me she is done with the relationship which left me so confused and devastated. I have already paid for cow and all the wines we will use for the wedding and now she has called it off. Please nairalanders what could possibly be my offense? I have thoroughly searched my heart and I can’t seem to remember when I offended her.

She's doubtful about your ability to financially cater for her in the marriage

Work on your finances for some years to prove to the next candidate that you're worth it !

Davash222:
Foolish post!

How?be civil and behave yourself

Hmmm

LOGICALKEN:
So I met this lady in 2019 through a mutual friend, after few weeks of getting to meet her we started dating. She is 29 and I’m 31. She’s based in Benin where she works and I am in Lagos, the agreement was that after our wedding she will join me in Lagos which she agreed. Our relationship has been going on smoothly which made me do the introduction January this year and I’ve told her the wedding will be by January next year, which she knows I am making adequate preparation to that effect. I even had to get involved in a monthly contribution of 30k which is done in her workplace, I told her she should collect 2 slots so we can save enough for the wedding . She has never made any financial request that i did not grant, just two months ago she started acting all weird, I have asked her what the problem was and she would say nothing. She stopped picking my calls and told her parents I offended her, I called her to know what my offense was and she said I should forget. God knows I have never deliberately done anything to upset her. Just yesterday morning she called to tell me she is done with the relationship which left me so confused and devastated. I have already paid for cow and all the wines we will use for the wedding and now she has called it off. Please nairalanders what could possibly be my offense? I have thoroughly searched my heart and I can’t seem to remember when I offended her.

a higher bidder for her pussy has arrived the scene .collect your contribution (abi na scammer) sell the cow u might be lucky price don high now .over 30 single ladies to choose from .

Iyaebe:
Were you cheating and you thought its hidden and she'll never find out? I dumped someone like that without ever telling him what he did,he can never imagine how I found out he was cheating with someone in his location.

Did you explain or Reveal what he did to him?

TechQe:




She's doubtful about your ability to financially cater for her in the marriage

Work on your finances for some years to prove to the next candidate that you're worth it !

She has never ask of anything financially from me that I didn’t do. I may not be too rich but I am comfortable

SmellySperm:
Her ex guy whom she loved but left probably coz he was broke have resurface. He's probably banging her already via lamba.
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

You said you've paid for a cow already bah? Oya bring the cow come mk Nairalanders flex mbok

My younger brother said this exact words in your first paragraph. For the first time in my life, I’m heartbroken

Goldbw122:

Did you explain or Reveal what he did to him?

I never did and he still ask me till date what he ever did to me.I hate it when someone think he's smart and can play on people's intelligence so I turned the table on him and left without taking a second look.

LOGICALKEN:

My younger brother said this exact words in your first paragraph. For the first time in my life, I’m heartbroken

That's what's up my guy.
Her ex lover don show. As OG you gat's tu'ama oh my nigga. So many fishes in the water

TechQe:




She's doubtful about your ability to financially cater for her in the marriage

Work on your finances for some years to prove to the :[b][/b] next candidate [b][/b]that you're worth it !

.No be small candidate.

From your story up there, you said that you had already paid for the Cow and Wine.

Since she has called off the Wedding, i strongly suggest you go back there and demand for your hard earned money you used to pay for the Cow and Wine...Collect your money back with a Full Chest and don't look back.


When that girl of yours is serious and ready and her eyes must have cleared then you guys can talk, on no account should you ask what you've done since according to you, you have searched your heart and you can't seem to find anything you have done for her to be acting this way.


From here, I can Smell that you and that your girlfriend haven't established Clear Boundaries between the two of you, Establishing Very Clear Boundaries in Relationships is one of the Most Important things ever.

If that girl of yours finally decides to come back, better set and establish clear Boundaries between the two of you.... I'm telling you this for your own good.


The Current Nigeria Economy is very harsh and it Spares no one, for marriage to work nowadays, it takes two Willing partners to make it work, if that girlfriend of yours doesn't contribute anything significant to your Life and you have sincerely searched your heart and you can't seem to find anything you have done wrong to her, give her a Time frame to tell you what and how you have offended her and if she doesn't respond during that timeframe you have given her to tell you how you offended her, MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.

the real owner of the property has come to collect it back, take heart and move on. She wasn't meant for you niyen.
On the other note, should I send my address so you can deliver my portion of the cow meat?

You're asking us what the offense is?
When we don't know
You have her contact
If she's not ready to tell you, ask her mom
Modified

My advice is don't press further
Let her go
Don't force her back

Because if you do
Your home will be hell on earth

Pick up your broken heart and move on

Iyaebe:
I never did and he still ask me till date what he ever did to me.I hate it when someone think he's smart and can play on people's intelligence so I turned the table on him and left without taking a second look.

You're as stupid as your action.

Polyol:



You're as stupid as your action.

And his action? lol you men hate when the table turns round.I played a fast one on him and grabbed him by his balls kikiki

Men,

In any sexual relationship,

You are either the source or the target.

Be the source.

Have the power to call it off.

If she calls it off before you do it, then you were the target.

Learn & be better in your next.

Don't repeat the same mistakes.

Hallelujah somebori
My brother in the Lord...God just saved u from karashika....
Smile for Jesus loves u
Bring the cow here for thanksgiving

Iyaebe:
And his action? lol you men hate when the table turns round.I played a fast one on him and grabbed him by his balls kikiki

It was game all through huh? Where's the love if you're trying so hard to outsmart a partner and you still fail at it? I don't blame you people though, bunch of opportunists parading themselves as lovers. Keep playing your game, God will grant you a better opponent in future.

Move on jor. Instead of you to do Thanksgiving, u dey think.
I know it is not easy, after all the preparations and all. But it is what it is. That girl na real ticking time bomb. She was to make ur life a living hell.
Move on.

Polyol:


It was game all through huh? Where's the love if you're trying so hard to outsmart a partner and you still fail at it? I don't blame you people though, bunch of opportunists parading themselves as lovers. Keep playing your game, God will grant you a better opponent in future.

He brought game into it because he somehow knew I was naive and innocent, of course he knew I like him and was true to him. I guess he wanted to taste the waters while stringing me along and since I wasn't ready for any game I simply walked out without unnecessary drama and didn't want any form of apologies from him.I knew earlier in life never to put my brains behind me when dealing with men and my emotions, if I smell insincerity from a man I simply take my leave and I don't give second chances because men don't truly change they only grow smarter.

Sometimes distance relationship is risky.
Both parties might just be fooling around

End time girlfriend