Keeping pregnant for who is not ready to take responsibility for it, was sur offa

Midas01:
So it's okay if they cheat, just not unprotected ?

No, it is not ok at all. Some men are just too wicked

Klass99:


Is this story true or generated to see people's reactions? True or false, my take Darhmmy is that you should leave his wife and the rest of his family out of your mess.

If you are old enough to sleep with someone and get pregnant, you should be mature and responsible enough to handle what comes next without pulling others into the cyclone of your drama.

Did you contact his wife or other family members when you were meeting up in hotels or hanging out at your place? Now, you want to contact external parties because you are pregnant. What are exactly are you expecting or hoping for? Guy man don dey ghost you small small, leaving the consequences and decision to you alone.

If I were in your situation I will start preparing for single parenting while exploring options on how to increase my income because child care is not cheap (that's if I want the child) and if I don't want the child I will have the baby and give him up for adoption while I make money in the process as well.

And what makes you think that the baby is a boy.

Do not feel bad it happens nobody holy. Do not text or tell any of his family for now not to make life miserable for yourself. You need to be at peace and do not stress the unborn baby. I wish if you are well to do and can take care of yourself and the baby then it is all good for you. Just inform him that you are keeping the baby and stop bothering him. Show all the love in life to your unborn baby and love yourself. Be careful with him so he does not hurt you or your baby. Even if he later show understanding just becareful and always let him know you can take care of yourself but I promise you a time will come he will be looking for you and the baby.

Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

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You want to text them so the wife can leave the house and you can pack inside right? Lol!
You knew he was married and yet, you continued the knacking spree
Don’t forget you might have to pack out for his secondary school lover someday too.

We no even know maybe na you seduce am sef

All of you insulting this lady are wicked people as if you never commit any sin before. Anyone in this flesh of ours can fall into the pit anytime, the important thing is to learn from the situation, dust up yourself and move on making sure you don't fall into the same pit again. My advise is that never inform his wife and relatives yourself, except you to cause katakata for the man. Let him inform his wife and relatives himself. Or else, he can neglect you if you cause trouble for him by not applying wisdom.

But what of if the man want her as second wife and his a Muslim... beside our culture allow polygamous marriage... so why all the abuse ...

I completely see nothing wrong if the man is a Muslim and his well to do man that can take care of his wife and her ..


But they are good numbers of people with 2 wives and the heaven did not fall...

Kobojunkie:
She didn't break the home.... the man did. Let's put blame where it really belongs. .

He went as far as to wreck it when he decided to have unprotected sex with this woman. This woman became an automatic member of his family the moment he got her pregnant so , yes, she can and should contact his family since he is refusing to acknowledge her.

She became an automatic member of his family due to pregnancy? Says who? It's on Nairaland that I'll always read stupid shiit. What a way to condone women sleeping with married man.

chaaiiiii keep him a married man and baby Niaja woman be like NIGERIA,WE HAIL UNA OHHHHHH

Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.

What a shame ....u better do d need ful

Removing at two months old is deadly. Don't have an abortion.

Nairalanders ..... I hail una ...

Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.

Pls get help from your parents...

Kilotat:

Tonto dey smoke, and she dey Bleep around, Any man will leave that kind woman.
No dey talk Weytin you no know

You dey among the people wey she fvck around abi?

takimsipho:
Na you no get head to understand am.

I no dey understand nonsense.

SIMEONMPEE:
But what of if the man want her as second wife and his a Muslim... beside our culture allow polygamous marriage... so why all the abuse ...

I completely see nothing wrong if the man is a Muslim and his well to do man that can take care of his wife and her ..


But they are good numbers of people with 2 wives and the heaven did not fall...

According to her
The man has changed the parole

So therefore the script has changed

bobluck:



Pls get help from your parents...

To have that Ice broken is huge but it is necessary for her mental health

GOFRONT:
Everybody be blaming the lady......But they never blamed the shameless he goat of a man who neither regard his wife as anybody nor respect his marriage to start with by calling his raging penis to order.......

If it his wife that got pregnant by another man from outside marriage, then the man would start crying DNA upandan.....

Lol! You forgot the fact that it was the lady that said they still have some stupid feelings? Who knows if na she seduce him sef??

Miller232:
Las las u go carry ur cross for head better go find work 9months no go tey oooh before u drop load

lol..you no get empathy at all

GOFRONT:
Everybody be blaming the lady......But they never blamed the shameless he goat of a man who neither regard his wife as anybody nor respect his marriage to start with by calling his raging penis to order.......

If it his wife that got pregnant by another man from outside marriage, then the man would start crying DNA upandan.....

I'm sure you know this is Africa and not Europe. BTW you don't know if the man is a Muslim and he's permitted to marry up to 4 wives.

IamGreen1:


I'm o and that's because I know her type and they sucks like shit and toxic.
Have my respect too.

are you a feminist

InTheCloudySky:
She became an automatic member of his family due to pregnancy? Says who? It's on Nairaland that I'll always read stupid shiit. What a way to condone women sleeping with married man.

She never said she slept with him knowing he was married. Instead, the married man chose to have a relationship with her.

She is having his child- meaning she is in the family way. Whether you tag her ashawo or concubine, so long as that child is his, she has become an albeit unofficial member of his family.

2loadedguy:

I'm sure you know this is Africa and not Europe. BTW you don't know if the man is a Muslim and he's permitted to marry up to 4 wives.

Stop using Africa to excuse stupidity!

playfrank:
Them go knack in private come dy ask for help in public

dem no talk when dem dey chop food wey sweet

Darhmmy:
We used to be lovers back in uni , We broke up at some point and lost contact. Earlier this year we reconnected at a party and it was obvious we still had feelings for each other.

We started dating and everything seemed nice at first. He never told me he was married. After months of dating , i started to get suspicious as he wouldn't let me visit his home , instead he was always coming to mine and meeting up at hotels. We had a big fight about it and he finally told me the truth. He kept on pleading and asking that we continue dating. I couldn't even leave if I wanted to, I was in love with him.

I am 2 months pregnant and he has been avoiding me. He calls just once in two days and has told me to do whatever I want with the pregnancy , that he is fine with my decisions. I want to keep him and the baby and I'm scared he may ghost up on me. Last night I found his wife and some of his relatives on Facebook and I want to send them texts about it. I really need advise on this.

Just tell us you want the man

Ikea81:


Let's welcome the newest baby mama on the block. Please queue behind Pero , we will attend to you in 8years. Thank you.

i hear say babymama toto dey sweet

udemzyudex:


I no dey understand nonsense.

Of course even in class no bi every student dey understand.

BeeBeeOoh:
Auntie, please can you help us with the kind of help you want us to help you with.


Nonsense and Nigeria @61

Chai I taught Nairaland members go get joy for this 1st but still yet no body gets joy oo see bashing

You already got the best advise from your sin partner - do whatever you want with the pregnancy.

It's gonna be a very long, rough road for you. You will be fine at the end.

amakabel:
I pity who dey come seek advice here!

see them, homewreckers. Destroying peaceful homes in the name of dating married men