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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:23pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mofun:
Hello fellow-Nairalanders!
Please is it correct to conclude that most women tend to value their children more than their own husbands (I don't mean 'baby daddies')?
If it's correct then what could be responsible?


Yes, A Woman will snitch on Her Beloved Husband if she has to do it for their Son.
And the same Woman may want her Husband to pick her over his Mother.
Life is hard for Man

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:26pm On Nov 10, 2021
Munzy14:

How will a woman abandone the man who made her mother and shift attention to kids who will grow to 16 and not even 18 to start thinking of their own life..hmmm!!! Na wa oooooo grin

Thats why you people will not allow the kids have their own life, and be disturbing them till you turn patience ozokwor for movie.. cheesy cheesy grin grin MIL palava..Na like this e dey take start.
Shebi you guys always warn yourselves about women pretending to love you and that no one truly loves you except your mother.So go and meet your mother to continue showing you that true love and care while she shows her kids same,don't be selfish abi you don't want your children to enjoy what you enjoyed from your mom?

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by ahnie: 8:26pm On Nov 10, 2021
Yeecar:

But you don't forget to collect money from the poor man.
My civic rights.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by irunoko(m): 8:26pm On Nov 10, 2021
jeff1607:
Who now benefits from marriage more, the only person who can love a man truly are ………….
the same reasons older mothers are obsessed with THEIR adult sons almost to the point of intruding into his marriage
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by SweetDipBenny(m): 8:28pm On Nov 10, 2021
This is when side chick come in
Side chick will give u all d attention
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Remman(m): 8:28pm On Nov 10, 2021
Kobojunkie:
Stop projecting this on nature. This is instead a known psychological problem. undecided
a psychological phenomenon that is part of nature... In fact, that happens within nature! There's nothing to argue with you because you have no point. There's a popular adage that says "you will never understand until it happens to you". Love is nature and it naturally happens. In some cases, it grows beyond control. It can build and destroy as well. It's a powerful weapon for both good and evil. Again, pray that you never fall in love if you wish not to suffer or die for anyone.
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Kobojunkie: 8:31pm On Nov 10, 2021
Remman:
a psychological phenomenon that is part of nature... In fact, that happens within nature! There's nothing to argue with you because you have no point. There's a popular adage that says "you will never understand until it happens to you". Love is nature and it naturally happens. In some cases, it grows beyond control. It can build and destroy as well. It's a powerful weapon for both good and evil. Again, pray that you never fall in love if you wish not to suffer or die for anyone.
A psychological problem is no part of nature. Stop projecting these issues at nature. undecided
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by ahnie: 8:31pm On Nov 10, 2021
ufotty2001:
now!! Now!! You have brought about spiritual issue here.. people like you are filled up in Shiloh living Faith church.. what about bond between husband and wife or husband and children...!!!
Unfortunately I don't go-to church angry
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by ossyla(m): 8:33pm On Nov 10, 2021
[[s]quote author=Mercychen post=107497170]They are little children. So it's natural for her to care for them more than an adult whos already old enough to take care of himself. So it's not a matter of preference.

Shiting attention to the kids most time is not always a deliberate act by the woman because if you view this from a neutral angle, you'll agree with me that, a child can not be crying either because it's feeling irritated or hungry, while the mother is there caressing the fathers head just to show she cares about him .that would be unreasonable of her. In fact, it's you the husband that will shout at her to go and tend to the baby.

The only thing I think the mothers can do to strike a balance, is by making it up to daddy (at night) when everyone has gone to bed as that is when they can have time alone together. And daddy too should learn to exercise patience till that time.



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Nice resolve
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Remman(m): 8:33pm On Nov 10, 2021
Kobojunkie:
A psychological problem is no part of nature. Stop projecting these issues at nature. undecided
mtcheew!
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by LadyExcellency: 8:36pm On Nov 10, 2021
ahnie:

I dunno.
In my own case the bond I share with my kids is far more solid and stronger in quantum than the one I share with my husband.

Sometimes sef,I dey even forget say I get husband.

Pls nobody should quote me oh,I have gone to buy paracetamol.

You are a contractor not in a relationship.
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:37pm On Nov 10, 2021

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by MrNipplesLover(m): 8:39pm On Nov 10, 2021
This is very much applicable to SINGLE MOTHERS wey get luck find husbands.
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Blackdisciple(m): 8:41pm On Nov 10, 2021
Make I dey learn so that when I marry e no go surprise me
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by AfroKnight: 8:42pm On Nov 10, 2021
Magnoliaa:


I'm nut a child of the world, the Blessed Virgin be with you. lipsrsealed I don't take beers- whether cold, hot, lukewarm and melted, by the special Grace of God. May He be with you as you enjoy alone.

Shalom, Brotha.
cheesy cheesy grin

I didn’t know. Sorry for offering you beer.

What of pami? Chilled pami with bush meat? grin
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:45pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mofun:
Hello fellow-Nairalanders!
Please is it correct to conclude that most women tend to value their children more than their own husbands (I don't mean 'baby daddies')?
If it's correct then what could be responsible?

LOVE not VALUE. Women will always Love their children more than their husbands, it's natural. You can't compare the love a mother has for her child to that she has for her husband, right from when a woman becomes pregnant, there's a Special bond/energy that begins to form between the mother and child. The nurturing in her womb from being a foetus to a fully formed human in her womb for Nine months. The LOVE of a Mother for her child is INCOMPARABLE

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:45pm On Nov 10, 2021
irunoko:
actually you're right.pick 10 Women and ask them why they got married to their spouse,8 will say the major reason is because of children and that is the number one reason they get so anxious,worked up and depressed when after years of Marriage, they fail to get pregnant or have kids.its basically because they feel like the reason why they are with this man is not yet happening

Then you will also see a woman complaining bitterly about her husband saying the husband did ABCD.ok why then are you still with him if he's That terrible, they'll say "nitori Omo Ni"-meaning because of my kids


Thirdly have you notice Yoruba mothers when talking to their child or referring to them, they'll say "Oko mi" meaning their husbands (they Even make this statement in the presence of their own husbands) this implies that their REAL priority or reason for the marriage is the children hence replacing their husbands with their kids. the men don't understand this

Fourthly have you noticed every race women run it everything they do is to make money for their kids.when they buy stuffs it's most times for the kids,they don't run that type of race for their husbands,it's always the kids that are thy focus

Apt and all noted.....

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Akalia(m): 8:45pm On Nov 10, 2021
TheOnlyUyai:


It's a lie. They do.
I rest my case. Your opinion though.
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by DeLaRue: 8:46pm On Nov 10, 2021
Personally, I have not found that to be the case.

My wife sometimes says she's the only woman she knows who loves her husband more than her children. She says her love for me increases everyday. I ask, why,...she says she can't explain, that I should just accept it. My in-laws call her 'Ruth.' Everybody around us knows nothing comes before her husband. By the way, my wife absolutely loves our kids. 1000%. She'll go any distance for them.

The children her the same. They absolutely love mummy and daddy.

May be I am just lucky.

Saying that, I live for my wife and children. We do a lot together. I am happiest when I am at home, so you won't find me at a party, joint, or with friends. I am proud of my wife. There is openness in everything we do. My wife is a star. A gem. An independent, progressive, yet supremely homely lady. Her joy, happiness and emotional wellbeing are my priorities. She knows it and it is perhaps unsurprising that she envelops me with such intense love , affection, and friendship.

A woman can love her children and husband equally. But don't expect her to give what she doesn't receive. Many men forget that children in their innocence requite unconditional love, and the person most likely to be the recipient of such love is the one that takes the most care of them...usually the mother. What happens when the mother receives such unconditional love from the kids, and her husband is a frumpy, uncaring, unfriendly partner. Well, it is inevitable that her love will flow towards the children. The good news for all men is that this state of affairs is not inevitable. It doesn't have to happen if you do the right things.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Kobojunkie: 8:50pm On Nov 10, 2021
Blackdisciple:
Make I dey learn so that when I marry e no go surprise me
instead make sure you marry someone who will not take offense to going for professional marriage counseling in the case that such a problem should come up. A child is not meant to get between a man and his wife in a marriage. undecided
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Origin(f): 8:51pm On Nov 10, 2021
Because husbands have fallen short of the glory of God. grin
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Kobojunkie: 8:51pm On Nov 10, 2021
Simran94:

LOVE not VALUE. Women will always Love their children more than their husbands, it's natural. You can't compare the love a mother has for her child to that she has for her husband, right from when a woman becomes pregnant, there's a Special bond/energy that begins to form between the mother and child
Again, it is not natural for a woman to love her children more than her husband. undecided
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Solofresh2: 8:51pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mofun:
Hello fellow-Nairalanders!
Please is it correct to conclude that most women tend to value their children more than their own husbands (I don't mean 'baby daddies')?
If it's correct then what could be responsible?

I have said it before and I will say it again
The only unconditional love women has is for their kids.
Women mistake love for likes when it comes to men because they feel attracted to the man for a reason best known to them.It can be money, character, behavior, security, sex, physical looks or comfort.Remove that thing she loves in that man and see her lose interest in him gradually.
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:53pm On Nov 10, 2021
Kobojunkie:
Again, it is not natural for a woman to love her children more than her husband. undecided
Continue deceiving yourself ooo

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Hawkler: 8:53pm On Nov 10, 2021
The mother's heart is the child's schoolroom."
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Yeecar(m): 8:53pm On Nov 10, 2021
ahnie:

My civic rights.
He doesn't have rights too, because he is a non living thing?Women are naturally selfish...that brings up the question; WHAT IS A MAN'S GAIN AFTER ALL THE YEARS OF LABOUR AND FAMILY RESPONSIBILITIES?
LESSON; Just do your best and leave the rest , no one is worth dying for.
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:54pm On Nov 10, 2021
Solofresh2:
I have said it before and I will say it again
The only unconditional love women has is for their kids.
Women mistake love for likes when it comes to men because they feel attracted to the man for a reason best known to them.It can be money, character, behavior, security, sex, physical looks or comfort.Remove that thing she loves in that man and see her lose interest in him gradually.
APT!!

Cc Kobojunkie, this is the answer
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by frozen70(f): 8:54pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mofun:
Hello fellow-Nairalanders!
Please is it correct to conclude that most women tend to value their children more than their own husbands (I don't mean 'baby daddies')?
If it's correct then what could be responsible?


By nature, women are already bonded with children by birth that nine months bonding is just enough to glue mum with children

Secondly, when some married men starts acting funny, like neglecting their wives, hurting them emotionally and at times putting them through depression

Such women find solace in their children and before you know it, attention has shifted

No matter the situation or circumstances on earth, no child wants to see his or her mum tears or sad mood

Before you know it, she will tell her children what she is passing through and that's how the children will love their mum more and it ends up affecting her husband

Once she gets the heart of her children, that's the end
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Saintmary(f): 8:55pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mofun:


So, how about the bond between husband and wife? What's it classified as?

Purely physical.
As obtainable from the way men treat women.
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Munzy14(m): 8:56pm On Nov 10, 2021
Iyaebe:
Shebi you guys always warn yourselves about women pretending to love you and that no one truly loves you except your mother.So go and meet your mother to continue showing you that true love and care while she shows her kids same,don't be selfish abi you don't want your children to enjoy what you enjoyed from your mom?
Then ladies should go back to their fathers abii lipsrsealed

Nothing like selfish here, it is wife doing her part for her husband..As well as hubby reciprocating...

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Kobojunkie: 8:58pm On Nov 10, 2021
Simran94:

APT!!

Cc Kobojunkie, this is the answer
I disagree with that poster. That same woman will turn against that child should the child openly prefer the father or another to her despite all the attention she pours on him. undecided

There is no such thing as unconditional love between mothers and their children and a mother acting as a leech on her children is not in anyway healthy at all for the kids. undecided
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by petitejolie(f): 8:58pm On Nov 10, 2021
Children won't cheat on you but husbands will, children are guaranteed to be yours forever but u see husbands dey can disgrace you.

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