Jennyclay:
Good afternoon nairalanders and Happy new year to everyone. I promise to be brief.

My fiance and I hv been dating for 2 years. He's doing well for himself, he's humble, he's quick to apologize even when you're at fault. He calls his mom and siblings regularly, but he don't talk to his Dad. If I ask, he would say forget about him

My fiance has been keeping malice with his father for 3 years now. I don't know what transpired between them because he would never tell me. He act like his father doesn't exist.

His mom and I do talk on phone once in a while. Yesterday I called her to wish her happy new year, we spoke well and she prayed for me. Abt 10 mins later she called back, but this time she was crying, She explained how his son has not been talking to his Father, she said this year 2022 would make it 3 years, she said they have called elders and pastors to talk to him but all to no avail. She said It would be her greatest joy if I also help her talk to him since he loves me so much. We were on the phone for over 45min.

Nairalanders, he's coming to seek my hand in marriage by March but I'm scared and here are my reasons. 1) His he pretending to be nice to me 2) what if we have little misunderstanding when we get married will he forgive me or keep malice with me for years

I was so angry at him, I told him that I'm giving him now till month end to reconcile every conflict or dispute he has with his father else I'm calling our relationship a quit, because this character seems to be a redflag to me. He started begging me, he said I don't understand yet he's not telling me anything.

I'm really confused. Please help a sister.

Ammishaddai:
Account that was created less than a day ago ? Mcthww. This is just another attention-seeking moniker who's completely jobless on a Sunday

Ammishaddai:
Account that was created less than a day ago ? Mcthww. This is just another attention-seeking moniker who's completely jobless on a Sunday

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Baby girl relax and continue with your relationship and marriage with your boyfriend


We niggarrrrs got pride....na pride dey worry your boyfriend and he papa

It happens to almost all niggarrrrs at some certain stage of their life....we always have this misunderstanding with her father but it doesn't change the fact that he is still our father

after4:
so you think people will come here to share there problems with their popular monika? make una dey get empathy sometimes abeg

Ammishaddai:
This is someone that's jobless . And I wont put it past the usual jobless ladies of Nairaland. Examples would be Siofra , Illamina and one other banshee that's probably gonna report me for derailing her thread. But that's her fvcking way of expressing stupidity

after4:
guy forget that thing. i still insist that nobody will use their usual monika to seek for advice here knowing how childish NLers are

Jennyclay:
Good afternoon nairalanders and Happy new year to everyone. I promise to be brief.

My fiance and I hv been dating for 2 years. He's doing well for himself, he's humble, he's quick to apologize even when you're at fault. He calls his mom and siblings regularly, but he don't talk to his Dad. If I ask, he would say forget about him

My fiance has been keeping malice with his father for 3 years now. I don't know what transpired between them because he would never tell me. He act like his father doesn't exist.

His mom and I do talk on phone once in a while. Yesterday I called her to wish her happy new year, we spoke well and she prayed for me. Abt 10 mins later she called back, but this time she was crying, She explained how his son has not been talking to his Father, she said this year 2022 would make it 3 years, she said they have called elders and pastors to talk to him but all to no avail. She said It would be her greatest joy if I also help her talk to him since he loves me so much. We were on the phone for over 45min.

Nairalanders, he's coming to seek my hand in marriage by March but I'm scared and here are my reasons. 1) His he pretending to be nice to me 2) what if we have little misunderstanding when we get married will he forgive me or keep malice with me for years

I was so angry at him, I told him that I'm giving him now till month end to reconcile every conflict or dispute he has with his father else I'm calling our relationship a quit, because this character seems to be a redflag to me. He started begging me, he said I don't understand yet he's not telling me anything.

I'm really confused. Please help a sister.

SankaraSo:



Keep malice with your own mother.

Your finance will get jealous and both you will continue your senseless relationship.

Jennyclay:
Good afternoon nairalanders and Happy new year to everyone. I promise to be brief.

My fiance and I hv been dating for 2 years. He's doing well for himself, he's humble, he's quick to apologize even when you're at fault. He calls his mom and siblings regularly, but he don't talk to his Dad. If I ask, he would say forget about him

My fiance has been keeping malice with his father for 3 years now. I don't know what transpired between them because he would never tell me. He act like his father doesn't exist.

His mom and I do talk on phone once in a while. Yesterday I called her to wish her happy new year, we spoke well and she prayed for me. Abt 10 mins later she called back, but this time she was crying, She explained how his son has not been talking to his Father, she said this year 2022 would make it 3 years, she said they have called elders and pastors to talk to him but all to no avail. She said It would be her greatest joy if I also help her talk to him since he loves me so much. We were on the phone for over 45min.

Nairalanders, he's coming to seek my hand in marriage by March but I'm scared and here are my reasons. 1) His he pretending to be nice to me 2) what if we have little misunderstanding when we get married will he forgive me or keep malice with me for years

I was so angry at him, I told him that I'm giving him now till month end to reconcile every conflict or dispute he has with his father else I'm calling our relationship a quit, because this character seems to be a redflag to me. He started begging me, he said I don't understand yet he's not telling me anything.

I'm really confused. Please help a sister.

AroOkigbo:
You call it a quit?
Be ready but why wait till month-end? You think say to get another man dey easy? Better stick with him and be ready to take long period of malice in the future like with his dad.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Baby girl relax and continue with your relationship and marriage with your boyfriend


We niggarrrrs got pride....na pride dey worry your boyfriend and he papa

It happens to almost all niggarrrrs at some certain stage of their life....we always have this misunderstanding with our father but it doesn't change the fact that he is still our father

Dannyyoung26:
KNOW that if he truly want you, he would go back to reconcile, that's one.

No matter what the father has done, he should forgive him and move on because no one is perfect. That's two.

I think he's the only son or the first son, na why him dey act that way... Make your deep research in his family might be difficult but try it.

Lastly, you have the power, utilise It wisely.

2special:
How can that be a red flag, probably you don't know red flag, you better stick to the guy.

superCleanworks:

you think this is how things work?

so what if the boy was a witness when the father was fvcking a year old boys? we have seen such news 100 times over.
what if he found out that his dad killed a little banana seller for rituals?

if you force this guy to end the malice just because you have the power to do so, have you solved the problem when the hatred is still there?
ending malice is not the same thing as reconciliation.

VOsimhen144:
to you it's not a red flag, to some people it's a big red flag.

So you're encouraging people to keep malice with each other.

2special:
show me a fellow that doesn't keep malice.