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Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by madridsta007(m): 4:54pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Jennyclay: You said, "he's humble," My sister, a humble man will swallow his pride and go and reconcile with his earthly father. If he loves you, he would. If he can keep malice with his Dad for years, then expect him to keep malice with you at some point. Because it will happen. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Spherical77(m): 4:55pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
leobergy:Don't mind Africans with their backward mentality. Imagine if it was a child who committed all those crime. Would they tell the father same thing that he's his son he has no choice than to forgive him? Africans forget that a foolish toddler/adult will definitely grow and become aged. Does his gray hair change him from who he is? In African, as a parents, you are at liberty to wrong your child/ren as you wish. They would definitely be the one to come begging later again What a world 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by DSoj(m): 4:59pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Only 3 years? Im on 18yrs |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Aaar: 5:04pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Really |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Spherical77(m): 5:05pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Shokoloko:There could be more issues that may warrant keeping malice outside the ones you listed |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by 1Sharon(f): 5:09pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
DSoj: Woww |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Kobojunkie: 5:10pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Jennyclay:Look, if you don't want to marry the guy, then tell him you are not interested and let him move on to finding himself a woman who will accept him abeg. Trying to make his personal relationship with his father about your person is ridiculous thing to do. You don't know the reason behind the breakdown but you decided to make yourself judge over his private affairs before this? Abeg, stop stringing him along if you are not interested. |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Rawtruth1: 5:12pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Nairaland should provide emoj for hate. Your comment is horrible. You are already living under a curse, unknown to you and by Bible and traditions, long life has been forfeited by your actions against your biological father quote author=DSoj post=110119969]Only 3 years? Im on 18yrs [/quote] |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Nobody: 5:13pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Spherical77: Ogbeni calm down. I know you must be one of the SIMP guys on nairaland Feminist doesn't believe in marriage that's because they hardly submit to the authority of a man. They think they are above men and subsequently demand for every right a man has. No be foolishness be that? And they want to marry? what a huge joke! no ooo. let her remain single and be forming hard core feminist up and down until she gets to 30-45. Na then her mind go dey! |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by freesoul12: 5:14pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Girl dont just dump ur man like dat.. U might not know wat happened. I wont lie to u.. I hardly speak with my Dad.. Not becos im heartless.. But i grew up with my dad with nothing like affection. I saw hell with most of his act. Cos while i was still very young.. He got married to another woman and i got the maltreatment of my life. Is it from beating like a thief..smaching my head on d wall like slave or giving me garri nd threatening me she would kill me if i should tell dad that i took garri. Is it when my Dad will maltreat and beat me like a thief to impress his wife. I spent my whole life in isolation nd nothing like feel being loved. He re-married again and exposed me to another devil nd all he did back then was to maltreat his son to impress his wife. I suffered maltreatment from age 6 to 20 wen i could resist it. D whole stuff still dey affect me till now cos im use to staying alone and i miss nothing about him .i always feel pains whenever i see him. Im nt fighting him but still not loving him 4 Likes |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Nobody: 5:16pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
99% of Nairalanders don't talk to their fathers. But they come here to cry when feminists bash them and their stupidity. 2 Likes |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by doverulez(m): 5:22pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Dear OP< you better thread with caution. When a man refuses to talk to a fellow man for longer duration, there is a big situation. If he loves his mom then how is it that she does not know what transpired btw the both grown up niggas. Thread with caution lest you lose that which is so dear to you. Jennyclay: 1 Like |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Spherical77(m): 5:25pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Hedonini:As in eh, some people will be busy doing evil, committing crime and atrocities but alwalways have it at the back of their mind say na forgiveness go end am. They will start preaching to eer is human and forgive is divine. I wonder if these people think others too don't know how to do evil or comit crime and ask for forgiveness. Seriously we Africans still have a long way to go 6 Likes |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Gorgeous1guy(m): 5:26pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
I think u are approaching the issue wrongly. Why on earth will u give him ultimatum just because his mom told you to help reconcile them. The best approach is to go by way of appealing. If u guys are as close as u paint the issue, then u must know of a sure way to get his attention and let him confidential in you. Go by way of appeal and pleading.... Am sure if he do loves you that much, he shd be a able to tell you what went wrong. U can't get result by giving ultimatum and stuffs. Let him see how much you love and ready to stay on his side whatever he decides.... Leave the rest to God. 1 Like |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Paramount01(m): 5:27pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
dannex4adx: You see,u made a valid point I have also be in a position of the op before in fact, I just ignore him though mine was not up to a month self before we reconcile,even till now I am just talking to him on the basis is my father nothing more |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by wirinet(m): 5:31pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
OfficialAwol:So how do you expect them to have a traditional or church wedding without the involvement of the father? 1 Like |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Kobojunkie: 5:32pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Simran94:She can have that discussion with him and if he insists on not telling her, she is free to walk away away the relationship if she chooses. But condemning the man's personality simply because of possible bad blood between his father and his person is uncalled for. |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by ogawisdom(m): 5:35pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Hedonini: U are just childish n very stupid and dt is putting it politely. Forgiveness is a divine injunction for healthy living. No matter what the father did he must be forgiven. I am not here to argue with a toddler like u. If God can forgive u who are you not to forgive ur own father? 2 Likes |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by TheRealOwner(m): 5:36pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Jennyclay: You are going to risk the continuity of your 2 year old relationship with a man you are satisfied with because of another man that you don't know, have never met or interacted with?? This level of wisdom needs to studied by social scientists |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Spherical77(m): 5:36pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
GoodHardDick:no one is above anyone Mr alpha. Feminist are getting married every Saturday if you care to know. Like i said earlier, they marry men of likes mind who believe in mutual love and respect. Iron sharpen iron you know. You'd always meet and attract girls of your type and calibre. Same applies to feminist. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Kobojunkie: 5:37pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
dannex4adx:Where do you get these bullsheet ideas from abeg? 100s of thousands, world over, wed each year without even a family member present at the occasion and they go on to enjoy marital bliss after it all. Why is it that it is when you Nigerians are involved that disorder becomes the order of the day? 2 Likes |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by iamL(f): 5:37pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Dannyyoung26: Or perhaps the father has abused one of his sisters in the past which the family might have kept only to themselves. Something like this happened in my neighborhood. Some of the children refused to have anything to do with the father. Family secrets no be here o, and digging out some are almost impossible. 2 Likes |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by wirinet(m): 5:38pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
ogawisdom:It depends on what the father actually did. Some sins are simply unforgivable. My grouse with the guy is not trusting his intended wife enough to tell her why he is so angry at his father. It could be an issue that will affect their marriage. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by statesman6: 5:40pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Well... something must have gone wrong. A guy who's keeping malice with his father cannot have a good heart. Btw... Somebody mom called u to settle fight between ur fiance and his father you're making it all about yourself. That's selfish 1 Like |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Kobojunkie: 5:40pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
ogawisdom:He actually made more sense than you in this. For all you and I know, the man may have in fact forgiven his dad but chosen to ignore him completely for his sanities sake. Why you all are quick to condemn him without hearing the particulars of what in fact transpired is what doesn't make sense here. Op ought instead to find out exactly what the issue is between her partner and keep it at that, not make a bloody issue of it. 3 Likes |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by wirinet(m): 5:43pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: You said the world over and not Nigeria. In traditional setting. Except your father is late or infirmed, it's a taboo in many cultures for your father not to give his blessings during his children's weddings. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by OvaSabi1(f): 5:45pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
Africans like clinging on to family bond needlessly. Jeff Bezos did not talk with his biological father for most of his life till the man died. Nothing like placing of curse, the man is still doing well. Nigerian women especially are fond of this nonsense with our messiah complex. Your husband will tell you to stay away from certain family members and you will go and be doing peacemaker that they did not send you. 1 Like |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by wirinet(m): 5:45pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
iamL:I doubt it has to do with sexual abuse of his children, else his mother would not be begging for a reconciliation. It's probably something personal between the both of them. 1 Like |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Kobojunkie: 5:46pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
wirinet:What particular cultures since I happen to know of many Nigerian couples, my parents included, who didn't have parents present at their wedding? My folks had theirs over 40 years ago, and the marriage went pretty much OK... we aren't cursed and all the other assumed bullsheet. |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by wirinet(m): 5:48pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
OvaSabi1:Different cultures. African families are more closely knit that western societies. American see their adult children probably only on special occasions. We on the other hand are never too far away from our parents. |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Kobojunkie: 5:49pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
OvaSabi1:Na wa ooo! Way too many of dem walk around believing parents occupy a sort of godlike status in their lives, explaining why the rot of the past never seems to disappear from the present. 1 Like |
Re: I Really Don't Know What To Do. Please Help A Sister. by Kobojunkie: 5:50pm On Feb 10, 2022 |
wirinet:Stop lying! 1 Like |
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