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BlackyOne:
Until someone start to knack her, and that's if someone or people have not started knacking her already

Until weti.


She's collecting already. 7 months no be 7 days abi weeks.

That man is the greatest simp of all time.

jaxxy:
Depends on the issue and the personality. Giving space doesn’t mean not speaking to each other bt not unnecessarily disrupting each other for a short period of time from few hrs to couple of days.

There are also way to address the issues head on as u said bt u must know how to handle her to be able to do that. He tried to address and she told him to his face he irritates her.

After that u was confused on the way forward.

The fact that the wife whom he married to be his life partner told him to his face that he disgust her means there is an urgent problem that needs urgent solving if both parties are still interested in the marriage.
That's why I always advise people to ensure that you are ready to be a husband before you marry.
You can be a good man but still not mentally fit to be a husband.
Marry a woman who is ready to be a wife.
Not all women are ready to be a wife,some after motherhood they start getting tired of being a wife.
Some can't find a way to grasp the reality that life as brought in a new dimension of responsibility for them,they just don't want to come to terms with d fact dat sisi life is over�
The op doesn't have a wife again,he can keep decieving himself all he likes.
I understand every marriage should have their own personal rules and create their own spice that works,but there is something foundational in all marriages,it's called RESPECT.
It's clearly not visible in the OP's marriage.
I have never opened a thread on nairaland but I think I will open my first to share I how handled this situation when it happened to me.

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

Honestly, your wife has probably met a new guy on social media or somewhere else and she obviously wants to cheat on you. It is also possible that she is being deceived by her ex. It appears you cannot help but allow her taste. Once she is done fking she would come back to her senses especially if she is not financially compensated adequately.

NB: Some women lose interest temporarily in a new marriage especially when money is not there as expected. Everything around the husbands will irittate them.

yorubarere:
Can I like this post more than once?

Yes sir

vickydevoka:
Nollywood go fit u o. See story

Hahahaha

advanceDNA:
Wait.. what is this one saying....??
Your wife refuse you sex for 7 months..
She Said you are irritating her....

Then she said he wants to relocate to her state and she left.... for what..?? So her business can flourish.... so, the business cannot flourish where you and her live together?


Well, I would have called you a Secretary of simp association....but since you enjoy your marriage like that... what’s our own...
Carry go..

Thanks for the summary

advanceDNA:
Our atheists in the building seff that likes to sound politically correct all the time understand that this is not marriage...

yet some people are justifying the woman’s action with “women need to be pampered and allowed to blow some steam”

7months and moving out ..that’s witch craft naaa

That was how the other one was crying here the other day,that they should come and help him oo that his wife denied him his conjugal right for 1month and he raped her�
Asin which kind of nonsense is that one,how is it even possible for a husband to rape his wife.
Should there even be a situation that warrants the man begging for it not to talk of passing through stress to take it without due process?
My Wife knew I was a womanizer before we married,she also knew I stopped all those nonsense the day I asked her to be my wife,
Denying me sex for no reasonable explanation is witchcraft as you aptly put it.
The kind of physical and mental stress men go through as husband dis days because of oyinbo man teaching ehn
Oyinbo man don finish us pkatapkata �.☹️

Is this guy okay?

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

I pity you

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OlawaleBammie:
U re the one foolish here, 25year old fool want to be doin like a 57year old legend

[/s] You are just a senseless small boy

[s]

chaloskyx:
which God where was he when all these problems were arising?

[/s] Ask the OP if he allowed God to enter marriage . You will see his answer

Skyview01:
There are some dynamics in a marital relationship that cannot be understood as a single individual.

It seems all these marital dynamics are fears from the guy, especially if he has invested so much in the marriage (bride price, wedding planning, etc) and won't want it to just crash especially since he can't tell if the next woman may be worse, so he's then forced to accept his reality and find a way to survive by making sacrifices. It gets to a point were some reach their limit and flee

u still managed to join tribalism to your already confused entity.well done!

advanceDNA:
Our atheists in the building seff that likes to sound politically correct all the time understand that this is not marriage...

yet some people are justifying the woman’s action with “women need to be pampered and allowed to blow some steam”

7months and moving out ..that’s witch craft naaa

You are funny. You accused me of being insulting before now you say I like to be politically correct. Well which is it, do like I to be politically correct or insulting? LoL.

LordReed:
You are funny. You accused me of being insulting before now you say I like to be politically correct. Well which is it, do like I to be politically correct or insulting? LoL.

In Religious discussion, you are always on beast mode, disrespecting people faith and insulting their God and beliefs...

In terms of being politically correct, It’s normal for atheists...because your morals or good deeds don’t come from God like you say... u Usually want to strike a balance with all your submissions by trying to support people’s views or actions as long they are not hurting anyone or the views not religious..

Handsum64:
Is this guy okay?

He’s even trying to sound like a marriage counselor....like a pro when it comes to pampering and dealing with women.... he was expecting people to praise him

You have lost her
Believe me...I see through things
Prepare to take the custody of your child

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

Bro... I am not here to advice you but to broaden your mind.

When a woman is not doing anything and sits at home all day and then u return from work and all you can come up with is just to get in between her legs and pound your desires away... Oga, na sorry be your name!

Pls set your wife up and support her business to flourish. Don't wait for her to ask you this. It is eating her up. She may not ask you cos she see's the effort you are putting to make ends meet and take care of the family and she's not part of it. She went to her mum for advice and likely to get it off her chest. Yes, it is good to allow your wife some holiday but not when she has screws loosing from her head.

Call your wife up and ask about her business and what she may require to set it functionally. Tell her to put it on paper so that you will work by it with a timeline. Quickly occupy her Mind with this and let her see the physical steps of reality that you are taking to make her business working again.

Bro, na she go give you knacking by herself and ask you if you want more!!

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

You are doing well especially that refresh part



Every one need it
I leant the technic from a white man
Take a break and see how things unfold


No be do or die

Hashabiah:
Brother, you are just taking a risk with this decision. Now I am not here to give you advice (since it is obvious that you have taken matters into your hands ) but you should know that having a successful marriage requires one thing: the presence God. Human wisdom will only lead to confusion and the way I see it, your marriage might just be heading in that direction if you do not put things right.

Story..so Chinese, Japanese and Scandanavians that dont involve God in anything dont succeed? This Naija fallacy of God fixing everything but Nigeria has to stop. As you make ur marriage, it works for u that way

Hope you understand the word Irritate, your wife, I mean the woman you dance tukeletukele go marry says you Irritate her, and she prefers to travel to her mum's villa to make her business flourish.

I can guarantee you that her business is already flourishing.

Infact, what kind of a mother would accept her daughter to comeback home, when she is suppose to be praying, nurturing and put her new home in order.

The truth is no woman is ever tired of sex, she is only tired of seeing you, where prostitutes sleep with as many as 10 men a day, and a wife can not accommodate her only husband.

These are the people that makes marriages look like hell. Sex has so many benefits in marriage.

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

Denied sex for 7months? wife wants to move from matrimonial home? Pastor agreed for your wife to leave? relationship better on the phone? Never heard so much boloney!

Mariangeles:
Your issues with your wife are still left unresolved.
You're just in denial that your wife denying sex doesn't affect you, whereas it does.
Find a way to address your issues quickly before things get out of hand.
Open up to your wife about how you feel.
Otherwise your wife might start to think you're OK with her denying sex.
She has a problem which affects you, which you both need to solve instead of avoiding/running away from it.

In as much as you're trying to mask it,it still shows that you're on the side of the wife.

Wife that I paid her bride price, prostrated with my friends and families in front of her families,housed under my roof will now deny me sex?
Except cases like being stressed,just delivered a baby e.t.c

Well your decision is your decision.I’m not married yet but next time keep your home affairs to yourself. What do I know sef? But what you did might work for you and not work for another soul. Women needs iron hand sometimes. Best of luck

Foodqueen:
This system doesn't work for everyone.

What if she wanted to leave to continue with her ex.

Well, whatever rocks your ⛵

Assuming she went to her ex,op too brought in a side chick, equation has balanced.... Open marriage don start be that.

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BigIyanga:
Story..so Chinese, Japanese and Scandanavians that dont involve God in anything dont succeed? This Naija fallacy of God fixing everything but Nigeria has to stop. As you make ur marriage, it works for u that way

[/s] Those countries have serious marital issues too.

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

Women that are over suspicious are always the one that cheats easily, or have cheated a lot before. You know what I am saying

edunaragold
You did the wise thing.

Don't mind these people quitting and insulting you, a lot of them are 14 year olds.

Those who are wise have taken your advise.
The only point I disagree with you is openly advising men to cheat.
You shared a very powerful solution and watered it down, even countered it with the cheating advise.
Because you wanted to please the crowd rather than GOD or what?

silibaba:
Must you call your pastor?

You made the right decision though. Let her go and when her head correct, she will return.

On the other hand is better to get a second wife (not a side chic) and see how you will enjoy the rest of your life.

Lies!!

After refreshment she will return with pregnancy and deliver twin for you

1F30M4:
Exactly, you couldn't have said it better.

The woman needed rest and refreshment and they both agreed to it. It is a solution that works