You've not done anything, yiu just widened the crack in your home. Out of sight is out of mind for most people...

ednut1:
This marriage is dead,

See evil speaker on the beat.
Are you GOD?

I swear, you just wrote absolute trash!
Your marriage is not working, but you assume you have it working.
Both of you need to see a marriage counselor and sex therapist ASAP.
If you are still having issues regarding sex thereafter, better consider divorce & focus on raising that poor child & being physically present in the child’s life before your stupid attempt at marriage makes you a stranger in your child’s life. If you don’t know, sendings your wife to her mum is taking you away from your child!

advanceDNA:
Wait.. what is this one saying....??
Your wife refuse you sex for 7 months..
She Said you are irritating her....

Then she said he wants to relocate to her state and she left.... for what..?? So her business can flourish.... so, the business cannot flourish where you and her live together?


Well, I would have called you a Secretary of simp association....but since you enjoy your marriage like that... what’s our own...
Carry go..

Na man you be. He wrote gabbage with so much confidence.

edunaragold:
After marriage f refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

This is not the best way to sort the issue

Op, you must call your wife(?) and fix a date for her to come back, tell her you will take some drastic decisions if she doesn't come back by that date, then you will see where you stand.

edunaragold:
I even called my pastor to it,and my pastor said allow her to leave ,after 3 weeks ,she is gonna miss you,honestly that is what is happing now.woman can miss somebody without telling the person I miss you .but her characters must show that she miss you,you don't need to beat your wife,but follow her jeje.[s]even if cheating in her back without her knowing just do it, so both you will have peace at home,when you no longer make sexual advancement to her, no body go tell her say she done dey useless for house .when there are many fishes in water[/s].

Which kind silly talk be this

Mariangeles:
Your issues with your wife are still left unresolved.
You're just in denial that your wife denying sex doesn't affect you, whereas it does.
Find a way to address your issues quickly before things get out of hand.
Open up to your wife about how you feel.
Otherwise your wife might start to think you're OK with her denying sex.
She has a problem which affects you, which you both need to solve instead of avoiding/running away from it.

As in. The OP is just looking for an excuse to cheat. If not, allowing his wife to leave the house is not the solution here.

VickyRotex:


As in. The OP is just looking for an excuse to cheat. If not, allowing his wife to leave the house is not the solution here.

The OP and wife went back to dating after marriage. He is living a bachelor life again.

What a pity! You didn't apply the owners manual from the start, now you're here encouraging people on how to get a result from an institution that was founded by the great wise one when you were in the oblivion. God said except a man be born again he cannot see the kingdom of God, are you born again? God said, do not be unequally yoked together with an unbeliever, is your wife a daughter of zion? Has she accepted Jesus as her Lord and savior, obeying him in principle and word?
God also said, for this reason shall a man leave father and mother and cleave to his wife and they two shall become one flesh, and also it is not for a man to be alone.
From the above scripture it is simply not God's will for husband and wife to separate occasionally in order to increase their self worth, any family encouraging or practicing such to stay in love don't understand the meaning of marriage.
God perfect will is that couples should not just stay together but cleave to each other ill death do them apart. Except in uncontrollable circumstances like working for an organization where you're posted outside your marital environment without an option, or couples held apart because of unpredictable happenings like sudden restrictions placed by government as a result of the pandemic or similar things that could hinder physical presence.
If your wife were a child of God she won't deny you any of your marital right, she won't also resent you because the spirit of resentment is of the devil. Finally she won't seek for baseless separation from you on a flimsy excuse that she want to grow her business by returning back to her mother's house.
What you shoul do at this point in time as the head of the home is to give your life to Jesus genuinely and sincerely. Thereafter ask for the Spirit Leading, the Spirit of the Lord will definitely lead and guide you all through the way till victory is won. Finally, You need to act fast before the devil play a fast one on you guys by messing up your sexual lives like you just mentioned. Beware!

socialmediaman:


Will he force the marriage to work? Will he lock up a woman who doesn’t want to be with him anymore? My brother, take life easy. If it doesn’t work, that’s not the end of the world. That thing people spend their lives trying to protect, they eventually lose their lives and whatever will happen will still happen.

Don't mind those saying otherwise... The op took the best decision.. Marriage not by force...forget Nigeria unity they say its by force. However, if I was the op I will have a time frame. May be after one year and she doesn't miss me, I get another wife or move on.

wirinet:

The OP and wife went back to dating after marriage. He is living a bachelor life again.

everything just dey reverse for this country. Even marriage.

mecussey:


Don't mind those saying otherwise... The op took the best decision.. Marriage not by force...forget Nigeria unity they say its by force. However, if I was the op I will have a time frame. May be after one year and she doesn't miss me, I get another wife or move on.

One year kwa? Why should the wife be away from her marital home for a while year without any valid reason? If she was away due to work or medical emergency, it is understandable, but to go live with her parents for one year because she needs space from her husband is unacceptable.
What about the daughter? Does it sound reasonable to deny the husband bonding with his daughter. The most important bonding between father and child is within the first 3 years. If they miss that opportunity, the father and daughter may never really bond again.

Me when my wife deny me of that I just open up to her if you see me cheating abeg no talk ooo na you cause ham I can't marry to you and you be deny me of sex just because you don born one and you now think you are the chairman then I will move out and enjoy myself. So bro you should have let her know female when they give birth in marriage they always feel they are in charge next you will see am tired, I don't feel like..lols that gender na God fit save us, but try to sort things out all of them are the same

Women nowadays are scam, take it or leave it.

Kellibae:


Lol I'm telling u if op sweers he doesn't cheat , HE WILL DIE!! he is cheating with reckless abandon.
Else he won't let her go like that or tolerate 6months no sex.

Are u a kid ?

Ok let’s assume he is since in ur mind ur 100% sure bt when it’s comes to the wife u don’t think she’s cheating even with the signs? That’s really funny.

Just looks like bias at play here to me than any sound logic.

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

This man you no well sha.



First, you are a full tribal bigot. What has your wife being Igbo got to do with she despising you? Maybe you are one of Tinubu's online urchins and you always talk down or condemn Igbos before your wife, making her to despise you.


Most foolish guys do this mistake. You hate a tribe or race, yet your stupidity and waywardness won't let you keep your senseless dick in check and not marry from the tribe you hate.


Dear ladies and gents, please don't ever make the mistake of marrying someone from a tribe or race you hate or dislike because if you do, your marriage will forever remain a hellfire for you and your partner.


Marriage goes beyond you and your partner. When you marry someone, it means you cherish their origin, their heritage, and it means you are ready to accept their tribe and community with joy for being the tribe and community that produced the man or woman that won your heart.


How can you marry from a tribe you hate and still expect the marriage to flourish, are you not foolish?


This is common among Yoruba guys. Deep down their hearts they despise Igbos yet their dick will never allow their sense to work when they see an Igbo girl all because of physical beauty. You guys really need to have sense in this 2022 oh lol.



The truth is, your wife doesn't love you forget all the nonsense you typed. You irritate her and I can see part of the reasons you irritate her, one is you seem not to be sound intellectually, two is you hate her tribe and she knows this, and this is making her to despise you and not want to get intimate with you at all.



Your Igbo wife is already regretting marrying you, and her mother is also regretting allowing her daughter to marry you, and they are struggling to find a way to correct the mistake of your ex wife getting married to you. If not that she already had a daughter for you, believe me, she would have divorced you since.


She left your house back to her mother because of the regrets she is having over marrying you.



I support her stand towards you because you had no reason to force yourself on an Igbo lady. You deceived her into marrying you. You even raped her and probably used lies and charms on her.



You better go ahead and accept your tribe's women that have been disturbing you since she left cos that's the women you ought to have married from the beginning.



I just don't know why most of you are so desperate to marry Igbo ladies even when you despise Igbos, is that not madness?



I hope Igbo girls online are reading and learning from this man's nonsense?

wirinet:


One year kwa? Why should the wife be away from her marital home for a while year without any valid reason? If she was away due to work or medical emergency, it is understandable, but to go live with her parents for one year because she needs space from her husband is unacceptable.
What about the daughter? Does it sound reasonable to deny the husband bonding with his daughter. The most important bonding between father and child is within the first 3 years. If they miss that opportunity, the father and daughter may never really bond again.

You are right, one year is too much. 3 months is OK. Then invite her for peaceful separation and how to carter for the child.

No argument,no fights and your wife tells you you irritate her?
Op even you eh, you are tired of the marriage and want out

Op hold ur head I say I’m a Mumu man..Simp grandlord

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now i



Know this and know peace
She is back to her ex in the east
Daily load of Bleep ..she will get pregnant and push it to you . How as soon as she is pregnant gbam she will come visit you

BlackyOne:


Until someone start to knack her, and that's if someone or people have not started knacking her already

God bless u.. u are just blunt enough to hit the nail on the head

This guy is cheating on his wife.

edunaragold:
I even called my pastor to it,and my pastor said allow her to leave ,after 3 weeks ,she is gonna miss you,honestly that is what is happing now.woman can miss somebody without telling the person I miss you .but her characters must show that she miss you,you don't need to beat your wife,but follow her jeje.even if cheating in her back without her knowing just do it, so both you will have peace at home,when you no longer make sexual advancement to her, no body go tell her say she done dey useless for house .when there are many fishes in water.

I'm experiencing the same thing, my own did not travel but anytime I go and visit someone outside she assumed is woman, she is always after my phone any woman either elderly or little one she seen around me she conclude I'm dating them deny me 3 times I don't even try to call her again to avoid embarrassment

franchasng:
This man you no well sha.



First, you are a full tribal bigot. What has your wife being Igbo got to do with she despising you? Maybe you are one of Tinubu's online urchins and you always talk down or condemn Igbos before your wife, making her to despise you.


Most foolish guys do this mistake. You hate a tribe or race, yet your stupidity and waywardness won't let you keep your senseless dick in check and not marry from the tribe you hate.


Dear ladies and gents, please don't ever make the mistake of marrying someone from a tribe or race you hate or dislike because if you do, your marriage will forever remain a hellfire for you and your partner.


Marriage goes beyond you and your partner. When you marry someone, it means you cherish their origin, their heritage, and it means you are ready to accept their tribe and community with joy for being the tribe and community that produced the man or woman that won your heart.


How can you marry from a tribe you hate and still expect the marriage to flourish, are you not foolish?


This is common among Yoruba guys. Deep down their hearts they despise Igbos yet their dick will never allow their sense to work when they see an Igbo girl all because of physical beauty. You guys really need to have sense in this 2022 oh lol.



The truth is, your wife doesn't love you forget all the nonsense you typed. You irritate her and I can see part of the reasons you irritate her, one is you seem not to be sound intellectually, two is you hate her tribe and she knows this, and this is making her to despise you and not want to get intimate with you at all.



Your Igbo wife is already regretting marrying you, and her mother is also regretting allowing her daughter to marry you, and they are struggling to find a way to correct the mistake of your ex wife getting married to you. If not that she already had a daughter for you, believe me, she would have divorced you since.


She left your house back to her mother because of the regrets she is having over marrying you.



I support her stand towards you because you had no reason to force yourself on an Igbo lady. You deceived her into marrying you. You even raped her and probably used lies and charms on her.



You better go ahead and accept your tribe's women that have been disturbing you since she left cos that's the women you ought to have married from the beginning.



I just don't know why most of you are so desperate to marry Igbo ladies even when you despise Igbos, is that not madness?



I hope Igbo girls online are reading and learning from this man's nonsense?

U are so onpoint the woman has found out he is is pure bigot and no more attracted to him
The guy is a pure igbo hater yet he married igbo..I was shocked .

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

Women are like kids. You don't treat them based on their disposition. When the start acting film ( as I may call it), sit yourself down and it out the best solution to their problem. You wife denied you sex for the first 3 months n u are still approaching her, that's stupidity I'm this present age of social media. Their might be someone distracting her, making her to act they way she did.

As a man stop been scared of divorce because the lady will feel nonchalant always. Apply wisdom by acting you don fùcking care, don't eat her food always, don't ask her sex, spend less time her at home, u can keep late nite atimes, pretend you have a side chick by making fake chats and playing around with you phone at her presence. Talk less and listen more during your conversation with her.
Believe you in me, after 3 to 4 months she will want your attention. And when she does please do give her, tell her your reasons for you action. At this point be open to her by telling her you mind, your dos and donts.

That's y u see some men you are better of financially, are enjoying their marriage.

VickyRotex:


As in. The OP is just looking for an excuse to cheat. If not, allowing his wife to leave the house is not the solution here.

Obviously from the post a smart person will know he is cheating recklessly even before the wife left...is even cheating that's why the woman no longer finds him attract.
He has hiding a lot of things he should have told us what he did to make her wife find him irritating

franchasng:
This man you no well sha.



First, you are a full tribal bigot. What has your wife being Igbo got to do with she despising you? Maybe you are one of Tinubu's online urchins and you always talk down or condemn Igbos before your wife, making her to despise you.


Most foolish guys do this mistake. You hate a tribe or race, yet your stupidity and waywardness won't let you keep your senseless dick in check and not marry from the tribe you hate.


Dear ladies and gents, please don't ever make the mistake of marrying someone from a tribe or race you hate or dislike because if you do, your marriage will forever remain a hellfire for you and your partner.


Marriage goes beyond you and your partner. When you marry someone, it means you cherish their origin, their heritage, and it means you are ready to accept their tribe and community with joy for being the tribe and community that produced the man or woman that won your heart.


How can you marry from a tribe you hate and still expect the marriage to flourish, are you not foolish?


This is common among Yoruba guys. Deep down their hearts they despise Igbos yet their dick will never allow their sense to work when they see an Igbo girl all because of physical beauty. You guys really need to have sense in this 2022 oh lol.



The truth is, your wife doesn't love you forget all the nonsense you typed. You irritate her and I can see part of the reasons you irritate her, one is you seem not to be sound intellectually, two is you hate her tribe and she knows this, and this is making her to despise you and not want to get intimate with you at all.



Your Igbo wife is already regretting marrying you, and her mother is also regretting allowing her daughter to marry you, and they are struggling to find a way to correct the mistake of your ex wife getting married to you. If not that she already had a daughter for you, believe me, she would have divorced you since.


She left your house back to her mother because of the regrets she is having over marrying you.



I support her stand towards you because you had no reason to force yourself on an Igbo lady. You deceived her into marrying you. You even raped her and probably used lies and charms on her.



You better go ahead and accept your tribe's women that have been disturbing you since she left cos that's the women you ought to have married from the beginning.



I just don't know why most of you are so desperate to marry Igbo ladies even when you despise Igbos, is that not madness?



I hope Igbo girls online are reading and learning from this man's nonsense?

Are they going to return all de money that he spends

nairaman66:
Marriage is like a relationship.

Do more of the crazy things that attracted your wife to you while you guys were still friends. Take out time to travel, even if it is for 2 days.

Surprise her, this is the most important of all. See that hair she always talk to you about? What about the dress? Or even food?

For how long?
Only a married man with 5 years experience will understand.
You think marriage and happiness is all about the wife. There are better things you need to put in place and think about after marriage. Raising a family require a lot of money.
Surprise her, this is the most important of all. See that hair she always talk to you about? What about the dress? Or even food?
They're important but irrelevant for mature couple.

Hashabiah:
[s][/s] Those countries have serious marital issues too.

And ur country is better? Since marriage is better in Naija.. why do we have 15m homeless kids roaming the streets??

Hashabiah:
Stop believing in that fatalist view oga. If you do not know , then hear it now : marriage is like a human being , and it grows when fed with love, understanding and commitment. What the OP is doing is not the proper way of handling things, in fact, he wants to start doing runs to justify his incompetence

aaahhh u no dey think at all, the OS ur brain is using has bcom obselete tipetipe

So before a man could endure a sexless marriage for a whopping seven months, do u know or imagine all sort of what he would have done??

What are u nurturing in the mind of ur woman dat says u irritates her??

U get brain at all?

Marriage na do or die??

If the wife like make she go cheat na, who e epp??

To be frank, if my wife deny sex consistently and still frowns when I greet another women, she must be witch. In that case, she want the marriage to crash.

I was shocked to hear when Op said that his wife said he Op irritate her. Nawaoo, that is height of it.

Some ladies are not matured psychologically and emotionally to go into marriage. They re going marriage because others are going into. I think your wife is one of such ladies.